Okay so Veeky Forums im a virgin, and ive been dating this girl for awhile now...

she knows

would probably mess up and embarrass myself

r u female?

Thanks breh. I'm taking this quote

if you never mess up you'll never learn how to do it

>next her, she's been with a bunch of guys = decent advice
>you messed up for dating a girl who has been with a bunch of guys = terrible advice

wut?

No. I'm a dude. Honestly man a girl who just doesn't move much is my preferred. It means she expects me to take control of the situation. It's essentially an invitation to do whatever you want to her. Move her around, put her in whatever position, switch between fucking and sucking, maybe get rough... That's why is the best advice here. She wants to be TAKEN, she doesn't want to have to help someone take her.

Lmao she wont even get on top or try and get you hard? Listen op. You are a virgin. Shes been with "tons of guys" that means shes a slut. If she wont even do as much as get on top shes a lazy slut. The kind who just gets taken home from bars and fucked by a willing male to do most of the work just for some pussy. Dont let your virginity go to someone like that. I know its pretty gay but your first time should be special. Shes gonna or already is getting dicked if shes literally that lazy about getting your cock. You are a novelty to her, only useful as an emotional safety net when shes not getting guys to fall over themselves to fuck her and an achievement of taking your virginity. You will look back on this and be upset you fucked her or tried to fuck her. By the sound of it, its already a shit time being around her and we dont want another thread by you a week later with the feelsbadman.jpg pic about how you tried it and she wasnt into it at all and you know you fucked up and couldnt preform and got nervous and you found out shes getting dicked by chads and nig nogs on the side. Dont stick your dick in that. You deserve better.

Those two statements are different. Nothing wrong with a chick whose been with a bunch of dudes, if she is a good fit for you so this blanket statement

>you messed up for dating a girl who has been with a bunch of guys

Is off. But in OP's specific case (A virgin who has no idea wtf he is doing), this

>next her, she's been with a bunch of guys

is possibly a good course of action.

Regardless, this

>Think about how this makes you hate her then objectify her like a dumb porn slut and hate fuck her silly. Works every time.

is definitely the best solution. Chick gets what she wants and OP learns how to fuck a woman.

Completely agreed, except for the fact that technically guys can't be a virgin. Only girls can.

t. virgin (but not technically)

trust me i want to do that, but the problem is i cant get hard just with her naked infront of me, i feel too much pressure. and trying to just jerk myself off to get hard doesn't work either

She wont even jerk you off or dry hump you?

You're thinking to much dude. I can't really help with that either. You need to stop thinking and let your base instincts take over, but I have no idea how to convey that to you since it has always come naturally to me.

op is going to learn about as much from this as he would from fucking a sex doll. This is probably the best option

Have you never been with a girl who just wants you to decide on everything and make it happen.

The problem here is OP has a girl who wants him to manhandle her and make shit happen, but OP wants a girl who is gonna be sweet and romantic and help him out. So they are just stuck.

by virgn we mean no experience with penetrative sex

A good 50% of women want to be fucked like sex dolls.

Also, its a good fucking time don't hate.

Did you try asking for a blowjob? If she's being submissive, then that means she wants you to take charge. Tell her to blow you, and then just slowly lay into her. Start slowly, and play with her clit A LOT.

okay yeah, I do agree that it's a lot of fun, but I don't think it's the best situation for OP seeing as he has too much anxiety to just do shit himself at this point

She sounds like a dry boring slut.
No matter how much you man handle those they just collapse. It's literally like fucking a warm corpse.

>Play with her clit ALOT

Nooo. Submissive women don't want you to think about their pleasure. They want you to do whatever YOU want to do. If what you want happens to include playing with her clit then great, but if you approach these kind of women with anything other than a selfish attitude, they will be turned off.

Also when I fingered her and played with her pussy her pussy was disgusting loose.. like it felt like i could stick my fist in it

Mind you its the only time ive fingered a girl but it shouldnt be like that should it?

This, 100x this.

I made that mistake once. Never again.

Points both taken.

OTOH, if any of my friends we're trying to lose their virginity and couldn't get it up, my advice would center around how to get it up rather than "You should just drop her and wait for the next chick to come along."

The best way OP could lose his anxiety is by actually getting laid once.

Just stickit in me too user

lol if this turns out to be a troll thread

How many fingers did you stick up there OP?

Don't date sluts. There are real people out there who are decent.

t. virgin

Dear lord dude. Submissive girls want you to take control, what you're thinking of is a pathetic, self-hating girl. There might not be anything better than fucking a girl, and playing with her clit so well that she literally can't move. Submissive girls want what you want, and if what you want is to make her eyes roll into the back of her head, then they're going to love it. Also, not letting your partner cum is selfish and makes for terrible sex. Make a girl cum and she'll work that much harder to make you cum.

well either you have small hands or she's just loose. If she's loose the bright side is you'll last longer at least
yeah I agree with this, find a way to fuck her and do this .

also op just take viagra if you need to, after that your anxiety will probably decrease enough

Well I'm not gonna act like the ultimate authority, but every experience I've ever had contradicts that. What makes them cum is whatever you want. Get a girl in the right mindstate and she'll cum almost instantly, regardless of how much you diddle her clit.

IDK maybe I just attract a certain kind of girl. You do you.

THIS

Fuck, everyone on Veeky Forums has such a faux Alpha Male personality, no wonder we never get laid. OP needs to lose his virginity before he can start being picky and choosy. As for you girl OP, don't listen to all these cucks, fuck who you want.

I'm thinking she might not actually be attracted to you senpai. Like, she might think she is... but if she's not putting any effort in to giving you pleasure then she is NOT attracted to you.

She's defo at fault but imo find yourself a new girl to date who will actually make your first time special.

You could just watch some porn on your phone, get hard and stick it in her.
No way in hell my dick is working if a girl just lies and stared at the ceiling, at least rub against her ass or something.

not trolling i stuck 2 fingers in and i was expecting it to be extremely tight and id barley be able to move around in there but it was like a swimming pool in there

huh, is she particularly big or tall Next time see how many fingers you can fit

i took viagra and cialis , neither worked

This, best advice so far, OP just skip on this slut and move on man.

Her pussy was literally SOAKING and i mean soaking wet just from us being in bed together.. Like her panties already had cum on them when i took them off. shes def attracted to me

really? Both of those are supposed to be pretty effective, you do get hard when masturbating, right?

Well, just because I can preempt where this is going, all scientific evidence available is in agreement that loose vaginas are a symptom of low musculature, not a symptom of having fucked too many dudes. I'e fucked near-virgins who were loose as hell and super-sluts that were so tight I lost it almost immediately.

I have that same sports bra in blue

What else did you except from a girl who's been "with a lot of duds"

Probably even a bunch of niggers dp that shit. She won't even feel your shit.

What kind of porn do you watch when you masturbate?

She doesnt love you but take some pill and fuck her so you stop being a virgin

This.
Some of the biggest sluts I've been with had the tightest pussies.
Just mens penis sizes

...

Just like*

kek

Not necessarily true. I fucked a sorority slut with a tighter pussy than a really fit collegiate volleyball player who had only had 1 boyfriend since highschool. I think it has to do way more with body type. The sorority girl was 5'10" and the volleyball player was 6'2".

>I thought sex was supposed to be romantic not just a stick it in me im horny

Clearly no one on this thread has had this experience. Pretty classic performance anxiety. Do anything to take your mind off the pressure.

>initiate yourself in a different kind of situation

The spontaneity will help you forgot past fails and will take her expectations out of the equation

>drink some alcohol

Not to the point of whiskey dick failure. But enough to loosen up a bit

You're gonna make it OP. Time for mental fortitude

>but if she's not putting any effort in to giving you pleasure then she is NOT attracted to you.
not necessarily true, thats happened to me twice, once because the girl was nervous as fuck and once because she was a girl who liked to get fucked and not do the fucking and i am hella into that.

low musculature = kegel muscles and pelvic floor muscles.

No idea if being super athletic translates to those or not.

She probably wants you to take over and tell her what to do.

Do you guys think going to the doctor and getting anxiety meds would help?

>and i am hella into that

Thank you. All these people in this thread acting like a living breathing sex doll isn't a godsend.

nah i aint talking dead fish style, i mean i prefer a girl who i can have sex with, not one i can 'use'. it just happens that i prefer being the one doing the movement cause i feel like an alpha mongol raping a chinese peasant

do you also have general social anxiety?

Why not just fuck a sex doll instead if you're such a boring fart?

>getting medicated for an entirely psychosomatic problem

No dude just relax and have fun with it. Honestly, while I was initially against what said about some shots to loosen you up, I actually lost my virginity when I was piss ass drunk at my friends house. Have a few drinks with your girl, that might even rile her up enough to get a little crazy.

dude everyone is nervous as hell the first time, you don't need a doctor for that. get her to blow you until you get a rod. then as soon as you're up, stick it in and start fucking.

Yeah we are talking about the same thing.
Girls like this have responsive libidos. They do the whole "dead fish" until you grab them and start doing what you want and issuing commands. Then they fucking come alive. And its awesome.

You can take some Risset to knock you out lad, you won't give a shit after taking it and the anxiety goes, but from it you'll be half asleep during the whole thing so I don't recommend it.

And if they don't come alive? Some girls are just boring dead slabs of meat in the bed.

can take a while breh but once you're comfortable with the whole scenario of having sex then before you know it you'll be slamming her so often you'll barely remember it was a problem, whether you lose your virginity at 16 or 30.

idk that's honestly never happened to me. I guess I'd probably lose interest in that case.

she'll come alive if you fuck her properly. find out where the g spot is and hammer it to oblivion is the best advice i can offer, havent found a girl yet who didn't change demeanour pretty quick after that

>not slipping mdma in girls drinks and turning them into crazy sex machines
Plebs

like 80% of sex is mental. if you're a porn watcher, just start thinking about the porn you've batched to 100 times, and pump up your self image like "i'm fuckin king kong about to put it in this tiny bitch, hell yea"

I had one who just started crying when I slapped her and gave her a nipple twister

Its suprising but a lot of girls dont have a fucking clue what to do with a guy. A lot of them just lay there like a starfish.

There is a big difference between good and bad sex. Just keep looking until you find it. Everyone should experience it once in their life

Yeah I was gonna suggest that since she just seems to want him to make a move, he choose some porn he likes and try to re-enact it.

But that of course excludes a lot of the porn that some people around here watch...

kek

I've had EXACTLY the same problem as you.

The first two times I tried to had sex with a chick I really liked I couldn't get hard because of my anxiety.

So the thrid time we went for sex I took a half viagra 1 hour before, and that shit worked like magic. I got HARD AS STEEL just by touching my dick. Also viagra helped me to not cum, and I fucked her for like 1 and half hours straight.

After that, and knowing I totally banged that grill my anxiety was gone, and I could get hard without any probmens.

Hope it helped you

ah, it's easy to pretend they have a dick though

Where'd you get the Viagra senpai?

He said he took viagra and didnt help

I think he is trolling

preach

How? I always find it odd to give the ol' lickaroo when I end up searching for a huge feminine cock to suck down there

Just saw that. I think he is trolling too. I mean, viagra works for grandpas 70 and 80 years old, who have legit errection problems. Seems impossible it wouldnt work for a guy in his 20s

this

also, good sex between two people can easily be bad sex between the same peope with different partners. the best gf you will ever have will be the ones who are totally sexually compatible with you

i'd had it 3 times and neither time it worked, though to be fair i was so drunk i couldn't even remember half the night

>tfw when I had one who was 100% sexually compatible but incompatible in all the other ways.

life is pain.

oh, well I guess you can just pretend you're eating ass I suppose. But I don't actually need to pretend there's a dick, so I don't really know

This dude. Either next her or phase her out while you work on yourself (Veeky Forums & $$). Meanwhile, try and meet a girl that shares your values and sense of humor i.e. that you have actual chemistry with.

>three times and neither time

>girl that shares your values and sense of humor

he fell for the meme, bros

At drug store

>can't get it without prescription in my country
JUST

In my country there are some "special" supplement pills which cost 7 euro each, and its supposed to be caffeine / arginine and some other crap, but in reallity its Sildenafil (the viagra substance). It's a common secret. It's like the legal roids you can find through the internet.

That way you can get it without prescription.

I live in a shithole tho.

I'm from Europe too, what are they called?