Any good books, both novels and academic studies, on hookup culture?

>go on tinder
>swipe until it won't let you
>wait for refill
>swipe until it won't let you
>repeat until depressed
>delete tinder

But I am not chad

this but you left out
>come across girl you went to high school with, panic
>delete tinder and facebook

>me
>be attractive
>get 350 matches
>can never EVER do the "yo, nice face, I'd like it to sit on me" type opener that goes straight to fucking

Wtf is this bullshit.

> me
> be attractive

Choose one

Tfw my college is literally something entirely different from that:

>my friends either have a gf/bf from high school or aren't interested in currently having a relationship/sex
>only the chadest chads or the stupidest sluts even try to have around casual sex
>most people is just worrying about passing classes and taking the driver's license

College in my country looks a lot like American High Schools

I wouldn't get matches if I wasn't attractive.

Stop trying to find the 3D version of your anime waifu.
Neither am I. As long as you aren't terminally autistic and horribly disfigured there's no problem finding a piece of pussy.

>As long as you aren't terminally autistic

Welp

>As long as you aren't terminally autistic and horribly disfigured there's no problem finding a piece of pussy.
There's a form of ugly that isn't quite on the level of horribly disfigured that makes pussy really hard to get

What do you expect from uncivilised degenerates

>As long as you aren't terminally autistic
>and horribly disfigured
well...

>As long as you aren't terminally autistic and horribly disfigured there's no problem finding a piece of pussy.
true irl but doesn't apply to services like tinder, in which there's such a supersaturation of men you have to stand out if you want results.

>Stop trying to find the 3D version of your anime waifu.
;_;

>you have to stand out if you want results.
So improve yourself until you do stand out. Get Veeky Forums, get Veeky Forums, and get a better job you bum

>form of ugly that isn't quite on the level of horribly disfigured
Yeah. You'd have to stop being fat.
Use a different app maybe? I never had particular problems with Tinder. Then again I'm not in the US so could be it's just less popular here.

Chin up, I'm about to reach 3.
Some married couples hit (y)our level after the first birth, men starting to have grand tales about Blowjobs, females talking about afternoon wines.
The focus on sex, though it's great, is the core of a lot of fucked up shit (wanking into a plant when a woman is watching etc.).
No porn might help (just assuming here).

At least that 8 percent will be happy

>Yeah. You'd have to stop being fat.
I'm talking about being really short. Also too skinny can sometimes be as bad as too fat.

Neil Strauss - The Game

working on it but the point is the cards are stacked against you in most of these apps or dating services. they appeal to spergs like us because we spend all of our time online and feel most comfortable there anyway, but the reality is the hyperchads have colonized that particular digital landscape and there's no real hope of a sperg insurrection.

they're all the same from my experience.

>they're all the same from my experience.
Well maybe try and stand out a little then like the other user said?

>hyperchads
>spergs
One can see why you'd have problems. :^)

try reading the rest of my post and see that i am trying that. i also think you guys are missing my larger point here: these apps don't work for spergs, therefore you have to make the effort irl, painful and humiliating as that may be.

Yeah, I said you have to not be terminally autistic in the beginning.

don't get me wrong such language is definitely reductive, but i also think it helps drive towards a legitimate point. sometimes it helps to be stark over nuanced.

right, and i'm adding that a lack of terminal autism goes farther irl than on tinder.

The chad/sperg dichotomy is bullshit. I'm sure the average Veeky Forumsizen would quickly point out such faulty reasoning in other fields.
A Chad is someone you don't like who gets more pussy than you. It's not an ontological fact. You can become Chad and be perceived as Chad. In fact there's probably guys even more autistic than you who think you *are* Chad because they once saw you talk to a cashier.
Saying the 'odds are stacked against me' is a bullshit evasion to avoid confronting your problems head on and examining your own weaknesses.

>You're a chad now for putting my thoughts into better words

It doesn't though. Personal contact immediately exposes the other person to a thousand little truths about you. On Tinder you choose precisely what image you present. So the only problem arises if you are unironically autistic and can't play the social interaction game.

see
you choose what image you present but a woman is inundated with hundreds of other images on the daily. personal contact exposes little truths, but if those little truths aren't terminal autism it's easier to accept them. if you are terminally autistic you'll fuck it up regardless though.

>>tfw have not had sex in two (2) years
I'll be there soon myself. my record is five years without. you do get used to it, like everything else

it would be nice to sleep with HER though, but except from that I don't really care

22% of women said right away

you forgot the part where you match with a girl and go on a date and fucking hate her for being from tinder so much that you can't even make a move

>you choose what image you present but a woman is inundated with hundreds of other images on the daily.
The same thing can be said about real life. With tinder you're reduced to a few characteristics. It's quite a bit easier to optimize those than the whole package. Not to mention that pretty much everyone is clear that you're definitely looking for a shag and not a life partner, which doesn't hurt either.

How old are you even?

a woman in a public space is not propositioned by literally hundreds of people. a woman on tinder effectively is. unless you're cream of the crop (which is difficult to attain even with tremendous effort) your positive attributes will be diluted.

>yfw I've only been on one tinder date, with a qt pie I have now been living together with for a year, and I'm not even good looking
It really helps hiding your power levels guys

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>hookup culture doesn't exist
I can fucking assure you that it most definitely does
T. Goes to a university with 75% fraternity/sorority enrollment

Why did you go 5 years without sex? I hope this does not happen to me

>t. pleb who did not go to college

>a woman in a public space is not propositioned by literally hundreds of people
Of course she is. That's what all the social gatherings are basically for. Doesn't need to be an explicit proposition to be present.
>unless you're cream of the crop
You start to sound frogman-y. Clearly you're going to get more replies the more attractive you are and clearly you'll have to work harder the less gifts of nature you have received. The salt of my initial post was that the point at which you actually get matches at all is not "2m high model by day investment banker by night with 20cm dick" like so many robots think.

>all the colleges around the world are as degenerate as mine
Fraternities and sororities are nearly non-existent outside US.

>a woman in a public space is not propositioned by literally hundreds of people
They kind of are though. Women are constantly have to deal with this bullshit.

I very much doubt you are 'terminally autistic', and that is not even a real medical thing. It's a comforting lie you are telling yourself to avoid confronting your own problems and failures. It's easier to hide under the comfort blanket of 'autism' than it is to step out of your comfort zone and take a risk.

As this is Veeky Forums a reading recommendation

>little engine that could
>rails already laid down for him
>actually on the slope so it takes no effort to go
More like a fat privileged engine exploiting the labor of oppressed working class.

had sex once and realized it was nothing special, it was virgin on virgin sex though and I guess that severely restricts how good it can be.

still, the sex I had five years later didn't really lead to a change in me, and then I had sex many times over three months and it was quite enjoyable desu

>Of course she is. That's what all the social gatherings are basically for. Doesn't need to be an explicit proposition to be present.
to argue that it's to the same extent as it would be on tinder is outright ridiculous.

>The salt of my initial post was that the point at which you actually get matches at all
this point was not reached by me whatsoever, and no, i wasn't exclusively trying to match with 10/10 girls. so maybe i am just significantly uglier or more autistic than i thought i was, but i've been approached by girls who apparently found me endearing irl before, and have had no such luck on these apps.

>They kind of are though. Women are constantly have to deal with this bullshit.
see above

>I very much doubt you are 'terminally autistic',
never claimed to be, reread my post.

>taking the driver's license
What?

>to argue that it's to the same extent as it would be on tinder is outright ridiculous.
I'd say one night of barhopping or clubbing overall totals more candidates than a swiping session as long as any sane person would care to do in one sitting.

The driver's license.

i wouldn't but maybe you know better than i do? all i can say is i've seen or heard of people swiping so maniacally that even a physical queue of suitors would fail to meet the number of options within a comparable timeframe.

This desu I'm a faggot who likes to love girls and the idea of them floating around on tinder like succulent bait for any man smooth enough does not sit well with me

>I'm a faggot who likes to love girls

Nothing is more problematic than locomotive centered children's entertainment
theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/jul/22/thomas-the-tank-engine-children-parents

china

>James is mortified that he has to travel while pink and proceeds to hide from all the other trains along the way. When he's caught, the other trains – including Thomas – viciously laugh and mock him.

>"What are you doing James? You're a big pink steamie," says Diesel, the bad-boy engine. (For the record, all the "villains" on Thomas and Friends are the dirty diesel engines. I'd like to think there was a good environmental message in there, but when the good engines pump out white smoke and the bad engines pump out black smoke – and they are all pumping out smoke – it's not hard to make the leap into the race territory.)

>But once James gets back on the rails and picks up Granddaughter Hatt and her friends, all seemingly ends well because the girls love pink.

>Well guess what? It's not OK. You think a little boy watching Thomas is going to file away the lesson that pink is OK for boys? No, what kids remember is that James was laughed at, cruelly, over and over again, because he looked different and was clad in a "girly" pink color.
I can't tell if this is satire or not.

>Fraternities and sororities are nearly non-existent outside US.
completely irrelevant as to whether or not hook-up culture exists on American college campuses where it does exist

are you talking about college? Who doesn't have their driver's license by college, even in europe?

>tfw 25 and never had a driver's license

okay i might be too much of a normie for this board

>"yo, nice face, I'd like it to sit on me"
This is just too confusing for women.

Most people? With excellent public transport which is also usually very cheap or free for students there isn't really any pressing or vital need to have a personal car in Europe (Western at least) like there is in US.

Yeah but is do people wait until college to get a license?

I have never fucked a virgin. I want to fuck a virgin. I want to fall in love again. I constantly get my dick stuck in some hot thot, because sooner or later the beast in me beats the logic. I have voluntairy breaks (3-4 months) of abstinence but it gets too hard sooner or later.
>find a nice girl
>get rejected
>hit the hot sluts who i put on hold
>realisation and catharsis
>repeat
am i a manwhore

What do you mean? Why would you dump money in something you don't need especially as a student?

yes, repent and save yourself for marriage

>has ever had sex
Normie detected

I'm 33 and don't have a license. I don't need to drive in London, and owning a car would be an extra expense for nothing. I'd be paying insurance and parking for something I use once every two months to visit my mother.

I Am Charlotte Simmons

Ohh you ugly incels have it easy. I'm quite charming and attractive so I have no problems getting girls interested in me but I always have to reject their advances. For you se upon me a much worse curse than a deformed face or an obese body has been cast, the curse of cuming whithin 5 second of sex. If I can even make it out of the foreplay.

>I'm talking about being really short. Also too skinny can sometimes be as bad as too fat.
youtube.com/watch?v=RON5lQBBtbo

God fucking this. My orgasms are just a recurring nightmare at this point desufam

Daily reminder sex is unethical no matter the case, as a partner is used as an instrumental good qua pleasure, and not as an end in themselves.

What if I take joy in pleasuring them aka doing good things for them?
If that's unethical then feeding homeless should also be unethical.

>boring
>no friends
>don't like myself
>always get too drunk too fast if invited anywhere
>always lie, tell half-truths or make shit up in conversation
>everyone can probably tell and come off as an insecure dumbass every time
Why do I do this

THE PASSSING OF THE GREAT RACE LOL

There is only one race of human: Muslim. Everyone else is an aquatic monkey. Prove me wrong. You can, and that’s why you will never understand.

US universities are fucking hell (with, of course, the infrequent exception). I've gotta make the move to the Netherlands or something.

I would contend your argument on two points.

First, I would argue that, as basic activities, sex and nourishment are fundamentally different.
My reasoning is that (i) a person cannot go without food without perishing due to its privation, and (ii) while certain people may feel sex (or other gratification similar in nature) is very important,
it is not the necessary condition for individual survival - i.e. virgins do not drop dead in virtue of their virginity (unless by their own hand - but the casual relation is purely ideational and not concrete), as a starving person may drop dead of starvation.
So, I think we would find it agreeable to say that there is a distinction which can be made between the type of such acts - one necessarily causing a natural body to break down, and the other not.

Second, in sex acts consisting of a couple, or more persons, at least one individual will experience another person as instrumental pleasure, even if the person opposite in such a scenario did such
with a higher purpose, or greater good, in mind - such as joy in virtue of pleasuring and etc. In comparison to the case of feeding the homeless, one does not take pleasure in the fulfillment of a moral
act, such as charity, but rather due to the usage of another's body. Further, by engaging in the sex-act itself, regardless of intent (or in a vulgar sense, "position" within the sex-act),
one condones the maxim of utilizing another's body as an instrumental pleasure. To reiterate, in the homeless case, I take pleasure in me giving the food to the homeless person, and I take pleasure in the
act itself in a moral sense (outside of charity, I believe we would consider gratification simply from the act itself odd - perhaps it would border on the "feeder" fetish, which would be unethical), and not their body.
Sex, alternatively, by necessity involves the usage of one or more bodies, and cannot in itself be said to aim at a higher goal, regardless of participant's intent.

Malnourishment that doesn't culminate in death does indeed cause severe bodily and mental trauma and prevent normal functioning of organism. Same with sex (case in point: your mental deficiency as a direct consequence of celibacy).

Your second argument isn't even an argument since you didn't actually substantiate your claim that one of the participant would necessarily only experience instrumental pleasure.

2/10 even for a meme shitpost.

no you dumb fucking nerd

That's because most of them are already cheating at that point

It's fascinating how this thread went from hookup culture to a critique of anthropomorphic trains viewed through the lens of gender.

I did not say malnourishment, I said starvation - privation of sex does not lead to organs being damaged, and eventual shut-down of vital functions.
Perhaps the lack of sex causes irritability, or depression - but these are external social factors not located within the act itself.

Further, I did not claim there was only one experience, but rather, that other aims towards goods are made irrelevant as the problematic premise of one using another for pleasure is still entirely intact.

>I did not claim there was only one experience
>in sex acts consisting of a couple, or more persons, at least one individual will experience another person as instrumental pleasure
Substantiate or fuck off, kant.

you fucking cunt kys KYS IRJWEIFRIJWREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
TWO YEARHS HE SAYS FUCKING REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

>he's ugly and dumb to the point of not being able to talk a basic walking vagina into accepting his measly appendage inside

Why don't you just join a frat then

>see girl I went to high school with on tinder
>swipe right because fuck it
>ITS A MATCH
>oh shit.
>message her
>joke around for a bit
>things going well
>ask if she wants to meet up for drinks to catch up or anything
>no response
>next day she unmatched me

frigg off Emily

You're one of the 99% complete normalfags. Go get a prostitute like you're supposed to.