Is anyone here celibate?

Is anyone here celibate?

It seems like such an interesting lifestyle to lead, the ultimate rejection of earthly desire. Just would like to hear about it

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plenty of celibates here.
just not purposefully so

I'm abstinent
by personal choice (or so I like to think)

Obviously, I meant more in the way of purposeful celibates. It would be interesting if it were people who had had sex before, even regularly, and than chose to adopt the practice.

I would also like to hear about any particular philosophical or religious reasons for doing it.

Why, any observations you would like to share about how you spend your time? How is your motivation different than other people?

I suppose that my explanation will seem like a bit of blogging, but it is something of great interest to me, since I do not understand it myself.

I really don't know why or when I became abstinent. There was no one moment when I decided I would be; it was more like that I realized one day that I was, and would continue so. What's more strange, in my mind, is that the usual influences that cause people to become abstinent were absent from my life.

1. Though a lifelong Christian, my church is quite liberal, and hardly ever did it address questions of sexual morality at all, and certainly not in my pre-confirmation education
2. The sexual education I received in school, while it emphasized abstinence, only did so from a health, as opposed to moral, perspective, and taught as about contraception besides
3. My parents never impressed upon me an expectation of sexual morality, only telling me that I should "make the right choices"

And yet despite all this, by the time I was fifteen or so and in high school, and felt as if I was quite committed to abstinence. It seems strange that I should care about it when most boys like me did not. I had masturbated and experienced online pornography too. I have never had a real relationship with a girl, which comes from having a fairly introverted personality, but I find that even this does not explain it.

So you don't masturbate? Interesting, you seem like very much of an outlier. If you mind me asking, did you have a lot of early interest in sex?

I was so enraptured by sexuality and masturbation by nine that after that it completely dominated my thinking throughout my teenage years. But recently, while being in a committed relationship, I have begun considering it. The relegation of sex to a smaller part of ones life, and with celibacy, completely eliminating it.

I do masturbate sometimes, and feel guilty about it afterwards.

I don't think I had any particular early interest in sex, certainly not as early as nine. But I would say that my current condition comes less from a stoic idea of self-control, but more from a deep and intense revulsion that I feel sometimes towards sexuality itself. Again, I can hardly explain why this is. I imagine a cynical outside observer would write this off as repression, yet I do not feel that is that case.

I've read about things like that, the explorer Roald Amundsen may have had something similar, deep aversion to sexuality, and as a result a paranoia of venereal diseases

I never knew that, but I have read about T.E. Lawrence, who seemingly combined asexuality and sadomasochism

read about manichaeism
mani believed the only way to get to heaven was lifelong celibacy, dying a virgin
and condemned reproduction as bringing more evil into the world.

Reminder that the Bible says nothing about masturbation. Staring at women like a pig IRL and watching porn is wrong of course though but then again there's nothing wrong with looking at paintings or photos of clothed or unclothed women to appreciate their beauty without masturbating as long as you don't think stuff like ''I would fuck her hard in every hole'', you should just feel love, like when you look at images of the Blessed Virgin Mary though in this case it's a different kind of love of course.

If you can't focus/sleep and/or are losing your mind because of ''no fap'' there's literally nothing wrong with masturbating to let it out, it's uncomparable to adultery, as long as you don't do so by looking at women.

You'd literally never get married if God actually forbid you to appreciate female beauty. Read: jasonstaples.com/bible/most-misinterpreted-bible-passages-1-matthew-527-28/

I have yet to put my penis in a vagina but I jerk off at least once a day, am I celibate?

I've read Guy Corneau, the french-canadian psychoanalyst, focused on men's issues. That's how I learnt about men's groups (in €), and joined one.
There, I met a celibate young man. A "frère". I won't write the exact phrasing, because google returns very few results for that, so if I did spell it, this post may end up in the top results, which that friend wouldn't like.

He's had a first love, had sex with her. But later on decided to vow celibacy.
He lives with 3 "brothers" who share the same lifestyle. He's not a monk or priest or even pastor. (he's catholic)
He has a fairly normal job.

He was born in a catholic community

He participates to many prayers groups, where he assumes a "leading" position. He also guides young students (normal catholic students, studying things like science or engineering)

Has issues with masturbation...
Has many beautiful female friends, some who seem like they're sad he made that choice.
He keeps a very busy life, with lots of work and volunteering, as he seems afraid of loneliness.

One thing that's striking is the way he looks : makes no effort to dress in fashion.
He graduated in history from the most prestigious national school.
His engagement to celibacy was a bit like a wedding, he invited me, I went, lots of high class people, I even met a girl there. hehe.

Many people don't understand his choice. I think it's worthy of admiration.

But does he have a micropenis? I'd become a monk if I did to be honest.

sigh

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I'm anally celibate. It annoys both my wives, but I'm not the sort to abandon my convictions.

Celibacy doesn't make much sense unless you go full prude.

What's the point of giving up the 'earthly desires' of sex if you smoke, drink and eat junk food?

Perhaps because the celibate person believes that sexual pleasure is categorically different from those others

>you can masturbate, but you can't think of a women when you do it

does God want us all to live on hard mode or something

>you can masturbate, but you can't look at a women when you do it
ftfy*

>It seems like such an interesting lifestyle to lead, the ultimate rejection of earthly desire.

Your mind is haunted. Many people live in defacto celebacy married or single. Without making any ultimate rejection.

Historically the purpose of it was to ensure that clergy could devote all their efforts to the faith which they couldnt if they had a family (and family was linked to sex).

Does a pixels of a computer screen count as looking?

This is the greatest risk when it comes to celibacy, it being based not on need but on anxiety and fear.

>IRL

Only had sex once and it was with a prositute
I regret it but it did have the useful benifit of me not worrying about getting laid anymore
Yes I still have sexual urges but I'm not obsessed with
>how am I going to get laid
I don't want to talk to random hoes in the hopes i might get laid
I would much rather wait untill I found someone who I enjoyed being around

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You may suppose so, but I doubt very many of us can be perfect stoics in all of our actions

>He lives with 3 "brothers" who share the same lifestyle
They are probably sodomizing the hell out of each other, though.

*tips

what exactly makes the two different?

He seems like a farily troubled and vain man if he obssess so much over sex he needed a ceremony to announce that he no longer wants to do it .

By simply appreciating the female beauty (nude or non-nude images), there is nothing sexual about it.

By masturbating to those images (nude or non-nude) you are making them sexual by inserting yourself in them as ''the man fucking her'' which makes those images pornographic.

I didnt say you had to, only that that was the biggest risk in this area.

By placing so much focus and effort into trying to banish it, one actually looses more control over themselves as they obsess over it. Hence why stoics didnt go around preaching celebacy.

Part of being a stoic is understanding some of your natural desires and faults and learning to live with them. In the same way a person with a highly deformed torso would optimally accept their poor gait rather than stress over trying to walk like a normal person