Who /NoSocialLife/ here ?

I suppose it's a nice life but I cannot talk to women. When I do, it lasts about 2 months and then I ghost them, i have no clue why but it happens to every single one. I just stop answering them eventually and never start talking again

are u me

my friends only tolerate me lmoa

Remember that house is a feeling. Evoke emotions

maybe, post pinky toe and I'll be able to tell for sure

>tfw too fucked up health to properly socialize

how?

tfw only thing i done is watched the whole fargo season 1 and now im beginning on season 2

My emotions suck though, because my mixes are shit. Only yesterday I got something okay sounding (probably only because it's extremely reliant on a sample), although it's moving more towards future funk than house.

I find that as you get older you start having less friends than you had in high school and college, because most of those people were actually acquaintances, except nobody really uses that word but that's what they are. Usually at any given time, the only people you can truly call a friend are maybe a handful at most. Same thing with most relationships as well, when most are dating flings at best.

this is so true but im still not old yet but it is already happening

CFS. Have it for about 5 years. Spent one year completely bedridden. Meds made it worse. Through lifestyle changes (exercise, quit smoking and drinking, diet) bounced back, feeling almost normal/healthy. The only thing that doesn't go away is the chronic pharyngitis. If i talk, breath cold or dry air, drink carbonated or cold, swallow hard food it irritates my throat and it hurts like shit and doesn't stop. so yeah i mostly just stay at home and don't talk too much to avoid the pain.
ps: visited three ENT doctors they all said the same thing: gargle sage and salt water, nothing we can do.

Damn man, I'm sorry that

being a NEET will never be awesome user

I'm the user he quoted. It's got its benefits sometimes.

Don't fall into that pleb trap where you get pressured into thinking "YOU NEED TO HAVE FRIENDS OR YOU CAN'T BE HAPPY."
Your happiness shouldn't depend on other people. It comes from within. You should strive to be like a rural farmer who finds himself in awe the first time he arrives in the city. Find beauty in all the simple things around you. It's the sum of all the small things around you that you take for granted that make it all worth it. Don't tie your happiness to superficial shit. Find beauty in the simple things, learn to stop and enjoy the scenery, and take some time off this website if you can.

damn. Your post was spot on and i think you a lot for the advice. But what really makes me happy that is you took our some time to write this post... truly a kind person. Thanks user

love the pic along with the post. Sorry hear bro life is a gamble

You sound like me. That is, finished the semester now with nothing to do. Writing/producing music, but the mixes always fall flat (my biggest problem too).

Godspeed friend

but also don't fall into the pleb trap where you mold your life philosophy to whatever some anonymous Veeky Forums poster tells you

I'm not sure if you're being somewhat condescending towards what I replied to him. By no means am I telling him to live his life a certain way. I'm only reminding him not to let his happiness get dictated by the masses.

no i agree with what you said for the most part
just giving some more advice

this is only true if youre like 30+
if youre an art fag or a city rat then youre good for making lots of friends well into your mid 30s

I talk to a group of faggots on skype

we share furry porn and do various substances

is this effay?

>this is only true if youre like 30+
It's true at any age. And yeah I agree you can make many "friends" if you live in a city, but usually not many of them are actually true friends that would go out of their way for you in times of crisis. Some might even use you to climb up the ladder. Either way, you don't need friends to be happy, although I should mention you might need a certain level of day-to-day social interaction.

>implying posting on Veeky Forums isnt social interaction

>furry porn

Kill Yourself My Man.

hey now

I would say it isn't, but to each their own.

I just want a small group of friends to hang out with, were can an 18 year old whose main intertests are shitposting, music and film find something like that?

I feel that every artsy hip event in my city is filled with people that already know each other.

The fear of humiliation and rejection has been a very prominent part of my psyche since elementary school

>tfw no skinny qt bf into furry and fashion

It's a kind of interaction but I wouldn't be friends with 98% of Veeky Forumsggots

>The fear of humiliation and rejection
You need to get over that. Walk around and simply say 'hello' to people. This works well when you're shopping for example. Don't restrict yourself to beautiful women. Say 'hello' to older people, men, it doesn't really matter. You'll see that people either greet back, or they are too shy (like you used to be). You cannot be rejected for saying 'hello', thus this is a great way to start out. This exercise is probably one of the best because it's so simple to achieve success. Here the actual success is *saying* hello. Being greeted back is nice of course, but beyond your control. This is extremely important to remember. ONLY your actions can be a success. Never consider the lack of a response as a failure, because there can be a million reasons why someone doesn't respond the way you want/expect. It builds trust in yourself and you'll start to see patterns in how people respond. At some point it may become default for you to greet people that are near you. It's like martial arts: even though you may grasp the idea after a few tries, continuing to do this exercise will keep producing benefits. When this goes well, you can add a short remark about an actuality. 'Hi, nice weather isn't it?' It can be about anything. There will be times where you say something weird. I've gotten many faces of disgust for trying to get a comedic reaction with a quirky line or a joke that fell flat. But here's the big life hack for you faggot: most of these bitches won't even realize you did something awkward until you start apologizing and cringing and shit, you can get away with a surprising amount of shit, it still amazes me sometimes when I think of it.

>where to meet
You said you like film and music? Start working/volunteering at events that host film and music gigs instead of visiting there. You're still young, so don't push yourself too hard. When you're young you've got nothing, so you have noting to lose.

I have a normcore friend group with basic ass popular kids and I hate it. Why can't the Veeky Forums hippie kids accept me?

I did this last month, there was a concert of my favorite band in the city and there was no way they would come back, so I bought myself a ticket and went alone. It was awesome, now i'm thinking of making a trip all by myself.

It's your job to make them less basic. Show them music, films, art and books that aren't well known to them. If they're really your friends, they'd take up interest in what you're trying to show them. If they don't care and just brush you off, "oh, eh yeah that's cool user.....", get new friends.

>teehee say hello to random strangers!

The faggots who recommend this have never done it in their lives.

people have to start somewhere, if they have absolutely no ex[perience then saying hello to random strangers is the best place to start

I went to a party for the first time in a long time on Friday and my friends really wanted me to get with a girl who's into me but idk if I'm into her!! I got really drunk though, had some laughs.

Saying hello to strangers is good, but complementing them is even better. It allows a better chance of conversation and you come off as a nicer person.

Ha.. ha.. I didn't have any friends in highschool in the first place : (

Thanks for recommending random bullshit you've never done, normalfag.

That too. I don't have an idea of where he stands when it comes to interacting with people, so saying hello is good practice for anyone.

I've never heard of knowing someone without introducing yourself somehow. And saying hello is just one way of starting somewhere you tremendous faggot. Which is why I mentioned you add something later on, like a compliment or a comment about an actuality after getting the hand of saying hello. I can't believe some fucks on here need this explained to them in even simpler terms.

>It's your job to make them less basic.
Nothing is worse than a try-hard pseudo intellectual who pushes his fringe shit taste onto you. Get new friends if having the same tastes really matters that much to you. I agree with showing your friends what stuff you like, but it's different if you're doing it with the goal of changing them.

just because you introduce yourself to someone when you meet them doesn't make it less autistic to go up to random people and say hi, friend ;^)

I used to be desperate to make friends and I made a couple during that period but now I don't care much. I don't mind going out and doing things on my own. I'm starting to care less about what people think of me, as cliché as that sounds.

>n-normalfag!
Introverts, just because you don't get too often and don't like socializing all that much, you do not have Schizoid Personality Disorder. In fact, the classification is being removed from the new DSM in 2013. People who truly have anything resembling the disorder truly spend 98% of their time alone, and most likely in the prodromal stages of schizophrenia.
Just because you're an asshole and don't have that much empathy, you do not have Antisocial Personality Disorder. You're most likely a teenager who thinks that, because he acts like a douche to people and "feels no regret", you're a sociopath and therefore a "badass". You're not a real sociopath. A real sociopath would not be lurking around on the Internet. He/she would most likely be manipulating someone in an extremely social-savvy manner, stealing something, or going out and getting what he/she wants in life, with no anxiety whatsoever, at this very moment instead of chatting about pointless shit with insecure people.
Also, stop labeling yourself as peculiar, just because you have poor social skills. You're just a coward who's too afraid to face a little rejection and failure here and there until you become better socially adjusted.
The vast majority of us are normal. Just because your interests are little obscure and you live like a dweller, that doesn't make you "special". You are all fools of the highest caliber.

Except "hello" is not the same as "hi, friend ;^)"

I have all these clothes and a nice car and everything, but I'm too pussy to even talk to girls on Tinder that I match with; let alone asking one out in person due to my fear of rejection. I'm practically a decent home life away from being a second Elliot Rodgers.

I will never have the beautiful and happy life i see on vlogs. I will never move to a first world country. I spend most of my time watching people's lives, fantasizing living in one of them, and now when i'm in an unconsensual social situation, i always can't wait to get home, to my room, and drown myself in escapism. I enjoy escapism too much. I get too comfortable with loneliness and weightlessness. Women scare the shit out of me, i can't form emotional bond with men. I'm sick of myself.

this

I can never have this. I hate my bedroom i hate my city my country. I hate how i didn't get to choose where i want to be born.

Do you find yourself thinking all that shit you buy is trying to fill the void inside you where your personality is supposed to be? Do you attach your self-worth and identity to what you buy? Sell it all and start from square one. Learn to cultivate your self-worth from who you are, what you do, and what you believe in, instead of things you buy. Contrary to what people say here, you're not the car you drive and you're not the sneakers you wear.

How about instead of all that time you spend fantasizing and role-playing, why don't you work towards it? Eliminate the things you dislike about yourself, about your life. Is as simple as, do you enjoy your job? No? Take steps to change the feeling.
How are you gonna make that? You either make your job more enjoyable, or you change jobs. Simple.
You want a girl? how do you plan to achieve that? Are you too socially inept? Work on that.
Are you piss poor and can’t afford a decent living? Work on that too. And sometimes you have to make the work if you can't find it.

Confidence, self esteem, and personality... if you really had to do something to change it, it will never change. It's just something you get.

If you really have to fake it, you'll never make it

this is not fashion related

>it will never change. It's just something you get.
Sorry pal, just because you're being a negative mope doesn't mean everyone else holds themselves back in the same way. Is this the thinking that is fostered in some socialist Eastern European bloc? I came from a country like yours where opportunity is low. I worked off like a mule, saved money, and moved out to study abroad and kept at it until I found success. But I went out and made it happen instead of wallowing in self-pity on here. You have this idea of "born with it" or you won't make it. Fuck your negative bullshit. The point being here is that you can at least have an influence on things. Some things you can't change, but if you work at it, you can make a difference in something. If you're into lifting, taking the tips to better yourself should be simple; as you already have built some self-discipline.

Make peace with yourself and the way things are right now.
Stop thinking the world owes you, how destiny ‘fucked you over’, how those guys have it easier.
Accept things as they are, realize that life is cruel and your circumstances are the ones you were given. You can’t do shit about the starting point, but you can move forward.

Don’t focus in what was given to you, focus in what you’ll achieve.

No matter who you are, where you are in your life, or how fucked up you think you are.
You can improve your life. Take control. Move forward.
Dreams keeps us alive, fighting for them makes us feel alive.
About 5-7 years ago, I was a fucking train-wreck.
Right now, I'm doing fairly well.

Get some discipline, set some goals and a way to achieve them.
Cultivate yourself, learn stuff, get your shit together.

And realize, understand. None is coming to save you.
You got to make your way through.
You NEED to take CONTROL.

except hello is just as autistic as hi
friend, ;^)))

So by your logic, greeting someone is autistic? Slap yourself twice and breathe in some fresh air you daft cunt.

I actually do have friends but I don't know if they consider me as one. Painful af but I learned to not care 50% of the time. I always think that they go out together without me and only do invite me if it's convinient for them.

What a life

are you actually autistic? or retarded maybe?
here's the post you replied to
>just because you introduce yourself to someone when you meet them doesn't make it less autistic to go up to random people and say hi
enjoy the (You)

reposting from my feels thread that died:
>be me
>at party
>mires
> try to talk to girls/ get with
>constant voice in the back of my head saying: they're not into you/ they don't want to talk to you/ you're ugly etc
>end up not getting further than mild flirting
> go home depressed and alone
How do I do it Veeky Forums? I thought dressing well was supposed to bring confidence, I feel the worse I ever have
it sounds weird but i have a similar thing with new friends where i'm just like 'nah these guys just dont like me', 'im too boring' etc. this has only come about in the past 2years when i started skipping class and neeted up.
will getting Veeky Forums help, a lot of it has to do with my dislike for myself. i'm by no means ugly, so i dont get it

People can sense when something is inherently wrong with someone internally. I have the same illness too. We're doomed.

That's like giving up running 100 meters after 40, no shit you lose if you don't even try to go all the way

I mostly have friends because it is expected of me, honestly. And even then we're not that close.

...

>Few close friends
>Room mates come home 10-1am
>Go out once in a blue moon if they're back
>Horrible practice schedule for band
>6am-9pm spend time alone

I like being alone, but fuck man, I wish I could just hang out with some people every once in a while

>just want to sleep all day
>trouble having any motivation at all
>I tried to be confident, but everyone seems to not hear what I have to say, or completely ignores me outright
>every time I try to make plans with someone they cancel them
>supposed to hang out with "best friend" for the past two weekends. He cancelled both times
>when I asked why doesn't he want to do anything, it took three days for him to answer
>"my gf just doesn't want me to hang out with you anymore"
>ask why
>"iunno she just doesn't like you"
>ask why he didn't stand up for me
>"iunno are you really worth my time?"

I can't do it anymore. I honestly just want to die.

damn you got cucked hard, my man

>Your happiness shouldn't depend on other people. It comes from within.

As someone who suffers from severe depressive episodes, this resonates. You could be in a room full of all your best friends and feel isolated and terrible. Being happy is hard, you have to work at it every day and discover the things which make you feel good.

I try to find the beauty in the small things. I really do. When I'm in nature, go out into the woods I feel at peace.

But when I try to be involved in society and social aspects, I fail because I see the mean-spirited, ugly perverse nature of people and am turned away. I don't know I feel like "when life gives you lemons, make lemonade" but I think I've been handed grapefruits and told to make lemonade

:( that's fucked man, I'm sorry about that

Spent almost 5 years in my room.

yeah but at the same time man is a social animal

you need friends but not the dumb Veeky Forums mindset regarding people around you and the concept of friends

proper lad, comfyanon

thanks, have a (you)

You DO realize you can move, right?

>not beating the shit out of him after a response like that

how many people are in the group? im in one of those right now with like over 100 people

I'm in a similiar situation, although it's not as bad as yours. Since I was 9 years old I'm sick literally half of the year so I have no strong connections to anyone and some people even find it disgusting/weird that I'm sick so often, expalining doesn't help much.
Atleast the 2D girls will never betray me desu.

Most of my friends moved away or are really busy with life to bother with me

I hang out with one buddy pretty regularly, at least once a week. I just wish he were more FA. Oh well, he pretty much gets all his clothes at Target and still gets more grills than me

I traveled by myself a few years ago, it was a great choice. I didn't even go anywhere special, just went to Chicago and mostly bar hopped, checked out museums, and ate dope ass food for two weeks.

It's nice because since no one knows me and I'll likely never see any of those people again I was really open and talkative with everyone I met. Smashed a qt asian girl in my hotel too, shit was pretty ok, but we were pretty drunk. I would never try that here in the bay area, as I'm always afraid someone knows someone etc.

>tfw ran into my crush at the gym today, hit it off and got her number
Feels good man

get tumblr or twitter and slide in some dm's bruv

i want to eat this girl's ass.

>been depressed as shit for a while now
>if i don't get into a phd program for next fall i'm either joining the us military or going off to die with ypg in syria
>i'm more inclined for ypg since i lean socialist

Same, it gets boring being alone sometimes

fuck that guy, he's blinded by pussy right now, when he comes crawling back for your friendship, tell him to fuck off

>23
>accepted into Master's Program at top engineering school
>3.69 GPA as a senior
>great credit score
>semipro level cyclist
>never had a girlfriend
>never been kissed
>dead inside
>completely passed over by women

Honestly it feels good to have come to terms with being a loner now. My isolation in solo AT excursions and the peace of mind from solo cycling trips are the only things that make me feel anything good.

I'm similar except 21, finance, have kissed, and am a runner/triathlete. My advice is to just enjoy and relish doing the things you love and that make you happy. Don't let your perceived shortcomings hang over your head. It sounds like you've accomplished a lot.

>same thing happens to me
>talk for a few weeks
>we really hit it off
>we go on a nice date, i buy her expensive food
>she never talks to me again
>see her on the street and she completely ignores me
good luck user, i hope it goes better for you