Do you have self esteem user? why?

I'm an understanding and emotionally mature person with good judgement

People generally seem to like me and I make friends easily, people laugh at my jokes and enjoy my company

Sometimes I worry about how intelligent I actually am but usually I'm pretty confident in that regard

I think and have been told by several people that my physical attractiveness is above average, I'm 6' 1" with a decent beard and an extremely deep voice (plus I'm Irish which has been voted sexiest accent in the world)

The things I'm most insecure about are my short limbs/lack of physical coordination/lack of fitness/laziness

Overall I like myself pretty well desu

nu-nu-male

I have pretty low self-esteem. I'm short, have a slightly crooked nose, sharp teeth, and scrawny. I can control the scrawniness, but the rest are unsolvable without surgery. At least I feel good about my career.

I'm very ugly
>Caveman forehead
>Giant nose
>Squinty eyes
>Small mouth but fat, ugly lips
>Weak chin
>No jaw
>Small ears, which I thought was a good thing until I was made fun of for it
>Giant Adam's apple
>Awful posture
>Disgusting body shape
>Underweight
>Gross, hairy body
>Hands are too large for my arms

Emotional inferior
>Non-existent self esteem (not that that needs pointing out)
>depressed
>horrible anxiety around strangers and family/friends alike
>bad anger issues, leads to self-harm

Also other stuff
>Stupid
>Very lazy, no motivation
>No real passions or interests
>Talentless
>Drain on society
>Burden to everyone around me
>Unfunny
>Annoying
>Somehow arrogant despite all this
>Selfish
>Childish
>Overly emotional

if doubles I'll kill myself tonight

>do you have self esteem?

yes and no

yes; most people don't care about anyone but themselves; that negative feeling of judgement comes from within. Ultimately, you could walk around with your waifu pillow, fedora, or even rick owens shit, but people will by and large forget that event. Whether they laugh or applaud, all people go home, masturbate, and sleep, thereby returning to whatever dream they live in, in hopes that it will never be shattered. The cliche of the Matrix is quite apropos.

no, because i'm at a low point in my life, but i know i'm coming out of it by becoming the best me i can be.

It's all a matter of perspective. For example; you may think you're poor, ugly and stupid as shit. But let's not forget up to now, we're living in the golden age of humanity. Even the poorest of poor in the West have it better than kings in medieval europe. Imagine kissing a woman in the 1400's when she has never bathed, brushed her teeth, or even eat proper food. Like, for fuck's sake, it wasn't until like at least 40 years ago dentists stopped pulling out teeth just because they had cavities. Now we can fucking fill those holes with metal or some neo-plastic shit.

As a man, I have found that experience is key to achieving any new meaning or perspective in life. You must take massive action in order to grow and evolve. Your identity of your "self" must constantly die and be reborn through action and reflection.

Ponder as much as you want, but you know what you must do.

>Imagine kissing a woman in the 1400's when she has never bathed, brushed her teeth, or even eat proper food.
Better than never kissing a woman at all.

i used to have the highest self esteem, i dont know what the fuck happened.
this place zapped it from me probably
kinda helpful tips i guess:
>socialise; distract urself from insecurities till you forget about them
>good sleep pattern
>good diet
>regular exercise/lifting weight/whatever (cant stress that enough)
>dress in a way so as to make urself feel more confident, dont hop trends because then youll be constantly comparing ur fits or whatever to the people that youre copying
>meditaiton i always hear loads about, idk try it, theres that thing mindfulness, i should use it for my anxiety i guess
these r the 'physical' things you can do, the rest would be see a therapist and just try to find inner happiness or whatever

My nose and lips are too big
I have resting bitch face
My posture makes me look fat and I don't know how to correct it
I'm a manlet (about 5'8)
I have a short, round babbyface
I think my hair looks kind of childish but I don't know what to do with it. I'm too insecure to get an interesting haircut and all the barbers around here are probably shit anyway and would fuck it up.
Acne
I'm terrible at expressing myself verbally
I have no social skills.
I have a terrible diet
My interests are "weird" music, video games and anime. I don't really have anything in common with any of my friends.
I've been beta orbiting a girl for over 3 years now. She probably loved me back at some point but I think it's too late now. I'm bored of her not knowing how I feel but she has a boyfriend.
I masturbate too much. However I once masturbated about 6-8 times in a row for 6-8 hours and I'm kind of proud of that
I'm lazy and unmotivated
I'm a weeaboo
I might be depressed

tfw if i had cleaner skin id be way more confident
fuck it im sorting my diet out from today

I typically say negative things about myself e.g.
>im ugly
>im a loner
>im a loser
>im not talented
>not sociable
>not likeable
>bad at making friends
>unloveable
>never will have gf
>body sucks

but acquaintances always tell me the opposite.
I have to learn to love myself, but it's hard af.

Also I'm shit at taking good pictures which lowers my esteem

and this

>'m a manlet (about 5'8)

lol what? inch below average must be really rough

i have a super asymmetrical face and i fucking hate it. i also have severe acne on my shoulders and back. big nose as well. it seems like everything that can go wrong does. on the bright side i'm 6'2 with blue eyes and thats about it. ive never kissed a girl before and at this point i doubt i ever will. i have 3000$ to my name and no job. going to buy a gun next week and shoot myself i think, but i'm scared i'll fuck that up too. why is life so hard boys :(

I've got good self esteem. I know my flaws, and how to mitigate them. I think I'm very good looking, I've got a good body shape, and I've already made long term plans for myself. The tricky part is the beginning/middle.
I used to have bad self esteem. My parents wouldn't let me grow my hair out long or have a cellphone for awhile. My dad's job made him take long periods of time away from home so I get my hair out super long and went into emo phase (bc that's cool *facepalm*) and finally felt good about myself. If my hair looks bad, I lose a lot of self esteem. It's what makes or breaks me desu

>or have a cellphone for awhile
How does having a cellphone affect your self esteem?

>do you have self esteem user?
I have some self esteem issues
>why?
Not much social interaction, no gf until 22, a dad who's physically superior to me every way but facial aesthetics, drug abuse, etc
>what do you like and dislike about you?
Like:
Facial aesthetics
Facial hair
Benis size (it's big but sometimes this is a negative since it makes me insecure still like wtf)
General health besides drug abuse and tinnitus
Eyes
My historic high level of opiate tolerance that saved my life once
6'1

Dislike:
6'1 (Im glad yet hate not being 6'3)
Uneven jawlines
Bulbous nose
Very slowly balding hair (overall I have great hair looks wise tho)
Ankle, knee, and lower back pain
Hungarian heritage
Drug abuse inclination, but fortunately have never had addiction problems to a single drug
Mild spine bend
Lots of acne and hair on upper back

Honestly if I wasn't a piece of shit i wouldn't be insecure, but Veeky Forums doesn't bring the best out in people and I've been here for like half of my life. I'm 8/10 according to most, not short, big dick, decently strong, but everything else to me seems like it nullifies them.

How to stop being insecure?

you look fine, please stop worrying about that. you will kiss a girl, idc how old you are, it will happen. might be the only one here to say it, but please don't kill yourself. someone loves you irl, try to love them back.

If you're going to kill yourself, you might as well blow that 3 grand on something beforehand. Die in a sick fit.

I didn't have any insecurities until I started browsing Veeky Forums

>boring eye color
>teeth gap and yellow teeth
>acne, but at least I'm on isotretinoin
>bad posture
>hungry skeltal, I'm mean thinspo loves me but in the real world I always hear shit like "gee user eat something"

It's an example of not having what other kids had, and feeling left out and lonely when quite literally every other kid was on their phone I was staring at a blank wall.

>manlet
>balding
I'm not ugly but I don't know if I can pull the bald meme and that's making me feel pretty anxious.

>i have a super asymmetrical face
So does Rick Owens.

I hate very single thing about my face. Sometimes I look in the mirror and it seems alright, then I take a picture of myself and my face looks like it's melting.

fuck it

the same! i also have a nice gf and people usually tell me good things but i still hate myself ugh

where are you from?

wtf? you are cute senpai

Physically
>Pretty good looking
>Just have a chronic case of RBF
>Stocky, short and kinda fat but not too fat to the point that I look straight up shitty
>Hair maintenance is a chore bec if left on its own it will blow the fuck up and there goes any chances of being rated above 3/10

Emotionally
>Slightly constipated, steadily outgrowing emotional constipation
>Try my best to be nice, works like 70% of the time
>At times socially stunted, steadily outgrowing this as well
>Currently able to slowly face hang-ups in life little by little
>Insecurities crop up at times but am now able to recognize when this happens and promptly deal with it

Mentally
>Not a prodigy, but smart enough

I guess I have an OK self esteem. I'm able to be somewhat honest with myself

yeah, im good looking, got good hair, charismatic, funny, lots of attention from girls

but, im short at ~5'7 and asexual, which is shitty

your face doesn't look asymmetrical to me, i think you're way too critical of yourself user
you're a qt pie, please don't kill yourself

dude ngl you are very handsome

W-why do you ask, user?
I'm in Europe

Reminds me of when Veeky Forums invaded Veeky Forums and posted the faces of all the guys shitting on their sick effay fits.

Didn't know Veeky Forums so largely consisted on robots from r9k. Christ.

>people tell me I should model regularly
>king of manlets
>got a 8x6
>smart enough to work hard

Still not happy though, and I reckon I never will be.
such
is
life

Was going to list what i hate and like about myself but then people might know who i am

I have good self esteem in the sense that I dont really care about what other people think about me negatively, so i wear what i want and have my own style outside of mainstream trends. I really really care about what other people think about me positively though, everything I do is to appear to have a good lifestyle for others so that they look up to me. hint i dont have a good lifestyle

I catch a lot of girls looking at me all the time, like 8/10 girls, this is almost the only thing that keeps my confidence up. Don't know how to actually approach a girl. Kissed many, never had sex

sometimes I feel I'm 9/10 but other times 4.5/10, my opinion of myself is very inconsistent. Honest self rate maybe 7/10, I'm never sure though

Mentally I'm pretty fucked, a lot of people in my family died 2016, no one I know who isn't family knows because I don't wanna whore attention. When I'm with people I'm confident and im somewhat popular but it's all kind of a calculated act that i've learned through the years, I used to be completely autistic. Hopeless physically, fashionably and mentally. My personality now doesnt come completely naturally to me and sometimes the old autism slips through. New people I meet think im alpha and all that but people who know me closely for a year will see how weak i actually am.

I also always think about what I'm supposed to be doing but keep wasting all time in my life while thinking about the potential im throwing away. Actually doing work is pure agony lol im fucking lazy, start hitting myself in the head when i have to focus for more than 10 minutes

>TFW all your clothes are baggy on you and you don't want to buy new ones until you've reached your target weight.

Also I've sort of come to the conclusion that every major relationship I developed after the age of 13 was with somebody who now browses Veeky Forums, which I find incredibly discouraging.

makes me sad to read this. run and never look back.

I wish I could quit Veeky Forums forever but at this point it's like a mainline of memes that I need to survive.

I also owe my life to Veeky Forums, some boards helped me find hobbies to get through some depressing times. I should realize I'm grown up but I cannot leave, I must post shit.

cmon you cant be that bad! you must be exaggerating :)

well, where do i start

>i'm a manlet
>jawlet
>i can't connect with people
>i'm a beta faggot
>i have a small ugly dick that makes me feel less of a man
>i have oily face
>my hair is always oily and smelly
>it's hard for me to lose weight and my body right now is unflattering as fuck
>i have no friends. something that makes me feel anxious everytime i talk with someone cus i don't want anyone to know about this
>i'm just awkward as fuck because i'm always scared of being seen with unflattering pose. i'm really scared of being judged

i'm a 23 yr old guy

Your face is fine, man. You should grow your hair out.

be good at something that isnt being attractive
fuck being Veeky Forums go full Veeky Forums
ur a dumbass fix that shit
decent
wear stilts
get off ur ass
get less scrawny get career then get surgery
sell your soul to the government
grow up psuedonietzsche
stop wanking w ur snot
ok
try again in three years
some pple enjoy staring at the moon
add delusional to the list u shthead
u have enough money for multiple prostitutes u stupid shit
buzz off the angstlocks and roleplay as an old man for three weeks
YOU'RE AN 8/10 FUCK JUST GO OUTSIDE AND STARE AT PEOPLE FUCK
stop browsing this board
settle down quickly
cover all reflective materials with duct tape. always carry a spare roll at all times
10/10 at dealing w life
move to iceland
drink more
get a therapist before u break urself
in the meantime supplement it with shitty fast fashion then relation w some normies
shower thrice a day and everytime you think ur ugly sprint a kilometer

I'm really trying to work on my self esteem actually
Last year was a bit traumatic
Battled with drugs, lost friends, had an ex overdose etc.
Really fucks with your self worth when youre alone all the time
For now as long as I'm not on heroin, im doin better
Generally I like myself, looks n style are good
Im in that 20 something year old state of figuring out wtf to do with my life
And its not all that bad
However I dislike the way I've thought and felt for a long time
10 years of hereditary anxiety and depression
It has ups and downs though
Suppose I'm waiting to go back up

You look good man

good post

why do we criticize ourselves to the point where we get delusional about our own appearence?

> Calling that asymmetrical face

because we are insecure faggots that's what we are

I'm ~tall~ (5'11/6') but i would be taller (6'2) if i correct my scoliosis caused by my pectus carinatum but I'm also not sure if that'll fix it because i'm 19

I was born with a genetic disease and my body pretty much stopped growing around 15 so I look way younger than I am.
Some people tell me I'm lucky butvi don't want to look like a child.
I have a shitty beard because it makes me look a little older, but I don't really want it.
My self esteem is pretty low as a result.

pros
>witty/funny
>creative
>good singing voice
>tall + good looking

negs
>drink too much
>wasted 3 years mucking about with what to do with my life
>work and school full time so no time to actually spend time with girl, just sex and it's unfulfilling

Get a foam roller to stretch with and start lifting weights to correct your core muscles. See a chiropractor.

I would worry more about being fat. Your face is fine

Go to the fucking gym my dude

sometimes

i can be pretty good-looking when i have confidence but i've been lacking it as of late and it sucks. i just want to be back on campus, smoke weed n my cigs, and have girls stare at me

i wonder the same, i cant help myself but feeling bad all the time

user, go talk to a psychologist. You might have something belying your pervasive negativism

i am unironically a Veeky Forumsggot and i am atttracted to older men exclusively. only thing good about me is my fashion, even though i have a shit appearance due to no exercise and bad skin.

I've never understood this. Why nu (=new)? Do you think weak chins and male pattern balding entered the gene pool like 10 years ago?

Anyways,
I like:
-intelligence
-passion for literature, art, music
-chin
-body proportions

Dislike:
-neuroticism
-lazy at times
-lack of discipline
-constant seeking of distraction from actually important stuff
-somewhat thin hair
-beak nose (In general I like roman noses, it's just a touch too big)
-slightly asymmetric chest

holy fuck this is me down to the goddamn t

...a-user...are you me?

I don't know, honestly. I'm content with my personality. People often call me smart and charismatic, and I never really had problems making friends. I'm a bit impatient. I think my taste in clothing is decent.
Appearance is a whole another story, though. I have a round face, a big roman nose and thin lips. My hair is not as thick as I would like it to be. Also, even though my upper body is quite thin, my legs make me look fatter than I actually am.
The thing is, being ugly and charismatic is fine if you're a guy, but as a girl it kinda sucks.
>tfw I'm the hot girl's bro-tier best friend

lost ya at
>weeaboo

>having chick friends

But I'm also a girl, user.

i was about to say if you're a guy they probably think you're gay. but if you're a girl ye you're fucked looks are the only thing that matters for you.

boy this is a depressing thread... better contribute too!

negatives:
>brother is 10 times better than me in a lot of ways
>social retard, can't speak properly and lack emotion, most of my reactions are fake
>no self control, been trying to lose weight and it's been working ok until now because can't help stuffing myself with shit
>because no self control, I've always been kinda chubby and having skinny friends dosen't help
>alcoholic daddeh is bad daddeh

positive:
>not genius but pretty smart
>pretty good looking, would be way better if I lost weight tho
>(sometimes) proud of being hapa

Bad eye gonna cut it out someday and wear an eye patch yarr.

I despise gym workout culture. It just doesn't feel right for me.

you can just go and workout? i mean just because you play video games doesn't make you an EPIC GAMER420 noSCOPE doritios gAymER. you dont have to be a dude bro just because you work out. just go late at night if you want when there's no one there if it bothers you that much.

I know how you feel. Just go late at night when nobody's there, and get some headphones and play music so you can ignore everyone. It helps a lot.

>alcoholic daddeh is bad daddeh
what?

>have acne scars all over face

Matched with a girl on tinder a few weeks ago and she's so fucking perfect, she asked me to go to a concert with her a couple days ago but there's no point. In my tinder pics the scars don't show because they're a bit blurry. Oh man... that girl is a legit cutie and she effay as fuck too.

Negatives
>Manlet
>Thin, not very fit
>kinda weak jawline and chin
>babyface
>Dramatic, sometimes too dense, sarcastic or pessimist

Positives
>i'm still a little good looking, i guess
>i have a good career, i know what i want for my life
>i can talk too people, and i enjoy a lot
>i can be pretty funny sometimes
>i'm trying to improve myself and learn stuff :3

I think a lot of people in this thread are too picky, we all have some good and bad stuff, but some of it doesn't matter. In my case i can recognize some bad stuff in myself, but i'm still happy with myself.

just do it m8, you don't lose nothing. Even if she doesn't like you, you tried, and that's pretty great.

positives:

6ft2
decent weight
little to no acne
big brown eyes
decent hair

negatives:
massive baby face
nonexistent jawline
big thighs
bad smile

dude just do it

if you dont go you will regret it for the rest of your life. do it

Go for it. If she laughs at your scars, you can just commit a murder suicide.

Concert was yesterday, and I rejected her. We're still talking though but I'm not trying to get too close to her because it has already happened before, a girl ghosted me once when she found out how I looked like. We talked for like 5 months everyday and when she found out how I looked like she stopped talking to me even though I didn't even liked her that way, I thought we had a real friendship going on lol

ugly face with acne scars everywhere
short (seriously, 5'3" adult male)
no charisma
takes me a while to be myself and comfortable with new people, making it hard to form friendships and relationships

friends know me for always being the guy with the jokes but humor is simply my go-to defense mechanism for my crippling depression

i give off really awkward vibes, it's something i couldn't change and i learned to embrace, some people like it, but most (normies) don't

was bullied throughout middle and high school and have never talked to a female in a non-platonic way

im 19 btw

people say im pretty knowledgeable, so you already kno a nigga got tha spit facts on deck

yeah my self esteem is pretty fuckin low

is it that bad man? you make it sound like you're disfigured.

Positifs:
>unconventionally attractive
>above average height
>blue eyes
>"laid back"

Negatifs:
>depression/anxiety
>can't talk to people
>posture
>out of shape but skinny

I just wish i was cuter and my nose wasnt so bad :-(

Pic related :-(

i feel you man, the part about being yourself around other people specially. Maybe you should try new social situations, getting out of your confort zone, is working for me a little bit.

You obviously have to do something about your depression, if you're not willing to get medical help, you should at least think about what is your problem, and how you can be able to solve it.

>Maybe you should try new social situations, getting out of your confort zone, is working for me a little bit.
i've tried coming out of my comfort zone a few times, and thankfully im a little bit better at handling small talk compared to before. practice is the only way to get better!
>You obviously have to do something about your depression
i know, but i don't know how to get rid of this mindset. i don't feel like it's a chemical imbalance.

i've explored many different philosophies, theories, and ventured a little bit into theology and im left with the conclusion that there is no meaning to life at all, and it is all up to me to give it a meaning, and i don't know how to find that meaning

my life needs something to look forward to, something that'll give me motivation to get up in the morning other than just to work to survive and buy materialistic things

maybe im just trying to fight the universe too much

Idk different user here, im my self around people and I cant make any close friends and it really sucks.. im so lonely

>and im left with the conclusion that there is no meaning to life at all
There is no problem with this, life doesn't need a higher goal or something. Just focus on being happy, or developing yourself in some knowledge or art that you like. The only meaning that exists is that you are here and you should do something good about it,

Maybe it's just harder for you, of course you won't be able yo make valuable relations with any kind of people. In my case, i fell kinda similar for some months in college, and i found a group of people whom i can be myself and have fun, you just have to look forward and keep socializing.

too mexican for the white kids

too white for the mexican kids

what do

My self-esteem is ok. I am a french who grew up in the US, my accent is one of the few things I like about myself. I am 6'4, have a good jawline, and Ive been told that I'm attractive. For my responsabilités, I hate my lack of motivation. I started playing the cello when I was younger, but never practiced. Now that Im older, I wish I had put in the work and practiced(I now am on intermediate material and its humiliating)
Girls have never been à problem, but I recently found out that my gf left me because Im american(but my family and life is all french wtf)
My life is not that bad, and I accept it. I also just found out I need to improve my english after typing this, so fuck

I'd give myself a 7/10 grade on self-esteem

>mfw

>6'2-3
>lack motivation and discipline to move forward with life
>face hardest but most necessary decision of my life to move to a uni in a different town to get away from my friends none of whom go to uni
>pretty intelligent just wasted a lot of time with alcohol and not concentrating on life

I'm pretty happy about how i look.
I just really dislike myself

>Uninteresting personality
>Socially awkward sometimes
>Mood swings
>Forgetful
>Indecisive
>Meme autism
>Mumble when i talk
>Anxiety
>Care about what people think

Overall i just have a really unappealing personality.