Whats the one thing that stops you from being attractive and fashionable anons?

I have literally become weird. I just do weird stuff all the time. On one hand I can hold myself back and just calmly control my behaviour, but on the other hand I give so little fuck about anything but what goes on in my mind, that I just act like a crazy person. Most sluts are like wow user is such a weirdo, it's so cute and then they say I'm crazy after I try to hold back from plowing them and finally stop the chain of rejections from the few girls I actually fell in love with, but I always plow the sluts and feel bad afterwards and the innocence of the time when I was still a virgin and could have a normal relationship is getting further and further away. At least I can brag tho. No hope in finding a qt virgin gf ever tho, will probably have to settle for some thot (if I want to ever have kids) who is even a worse person than me.

fashionable? canadian import tax.. but if the question is attractive probably my front teeth gap and my below average face

also this lol

I don't care about what they aprove anymore but it gets hard to distinguish induvidual taste from collective taste after many years thinking your taste was the collective taste.
My interest in clothing is very new so i have a long road ahead.

I dont want to look like a shill but ive been mewing and chewing more gum and also last time went to my dentist he said my teeth are looking better and more straight. Buy some mouthwash and make sure to clean your teeth every night, its incredibly important. Maybe get braces?

Your platelets close at 21, you still have 3 years to growth. start drinking a lot of milk or take calcium. also regular vitamins, getting good regular excersize as long as its not to intense can encourage growth. but as i said to another user, heights important but not as life ruining as Veeky Forums makes it out to be.

Personality is a bitch, because if you ever get to the point where you start to like yourself your physical insecurities will arise. I was thought of as an asshole way back in highschool even though i tried to be nice, you just gotta keep working at it.

sounds like you have realized most people in life are very shallow, getting a virgin gf is impossible for most people anyway user. atleast your getting action , you shouldn't feel bad at all.

moneys a bitch as well. But Canada is a very comfy place, i wish i was born there. teeth gaps really aren't too bad a problem, i had a friend with very jagged sharp teeth which he thought made him look like a vampire but everyone else literally didnt care at all and thought he looked fine.

You just gotta to keep going i guess, everyone has taste but it takes years to fully understand what you like i think.

The fact I live in a lower end area means that I am limited as to what I can feasibly wear in public
That and my face

Literally me, except hair

That sucks user, i think everywhere is kinda like that though. theres always a point at which others will judge, no matter what. insecurity about your face is tough, just remember all those supermodels you see whilst they are very good looking are photoshopped to shit and have had extensive surgery, you just gotta make the best of what you have in the end, life sucks.

my height, im 165cm

my face is asymmetrical, one side is chad the other side is ugly

>have a 8/10 face
>girls think I'm attractive
>hate myself, never get close to anyone
>turns out I'm a tranny

hahahahaha I'm going to die alone as a freak.

I used to think that about stylezeitgeist, are people wearing that wacky avante garde shit in like, Ohio? I guess they all live in hermeticcally sealed cool city enclaves

cannot escape the feeling that even though I love life and living in general that everything is pointless and that one day I'll just cease to exist

also I'd rather spend all my money on music equipment

yo fuck the mirror, love emanates from your brain. figure it out stupid. there are no surgeries in the jungle, or dresses.

>My insecurity and lack of love for and confidence in myself and qualities

That probably isn't just one nor is it the only but it's probably the biggest.

Are you assuming that I consider myself ugly and badly dressed? Because I don't. Is all of Veeky Forums seriously this insecure?

dude this is Veeky Forums ya kno?

Can't find the right kind of glasses that suit my face. My eyebrows are blonde as fuck because too aryan so I thought thick black frames would be good for that but nope. Plus weak chin

Money, knowledge and the provincial place Im living at. Cant wait to graduate and fucking leave this place for ever.

my hair is kind of shit but i'm too scared to get it cut since i'm studying abroad and don't know the language shit

> Manlet

Only way out is to become a powerlifter

Biting your nails.

>Big Nose
>Asymmetrical eyes
>Asymmetrical Jaw
>Fucking Neanderthal tier browline (and no, asshole. It doesn't make me into some super badass alpha as fuck man. it makes me look like a knuckle dragging idiot)
>Large eyes
>Long Neck

Such is life I guess :/

>turns out I'm a tranny
No you're not, you're just desperate to find happiness. Believe me when I say you definitely don't want to chop your dick off.

I'm keeping my dick desu :^)

i'm 5'6''
i'm really anxious and i have low self-esteem, so i'm always afraid of walking into stores, especially if i don't feel like i'm dressed fashionably enough
(this is stupid as fuck i know - especially when i see stupid fat fucks decked in poseurcore walking in and out of those same stores)
so i order shit online from time to time
sometimes i pass groups of impeccably dressed models in the street and it makes me feel so bad
my faces look alright i guess at least in Veeky Forums standards - i'm usually rated between 7 and 8 - but i have occasional bad acne breakouts, especially when i get real stressed out which happens frequently
i'm always tired, and i never concretize my creative endeavours
i have obscure hobbies
it's hard to relate with anyone

god damn this hits way too close to home

>watches I am Cait once

user, trust me, you think of your height 1000x more than anyone in your life does. Everyone is short in some way. Girls care about their boobs or skin. Dumb people care about whether they are "smart" enough. Short dicks etc

>tfw when bad skin, stupid, short, and small dick
Kill me.

it's harder to find clothes that fit when you're short

I am attractive and at least somewhat effay. I guess the only thing keeping me back right now is money.

If you can get a relationship, then you can keep it.
Losers like me who cant even atract girls should feel but not you

Ok If this is feels and support thread then here I go
I'm 23; balding, noticed it kinda late, now taking Minoxidil, trying to fight back.
I still have acne if I eat junk food and drink soda, trying to control myself, but I just dislike normal food.
Have weird body propotions, trying to get fit doing exercise.

And most of all, social anxiety which leads to losing friends, low self-esteem, self-loathing.

I'm trying to fight back, but I'm constantly getting feel that It's worthless. Suicide no longer feels like something "weird".
I've been struggling through this for 2 months, since I learned that my GF cheated on me.

I'm going to visit a psychotherapist next week, if it doesn't help, I don't know what to do.

Unfortunately, this is the only place that will listen (I'm sorry Veeky Forums, this belongs on /b/ I guess)

Thanks for reading this, I appreciate it.

>but I just dislike normal food
Fix that. I used to be the same way. I started to learn how to cook and forced myself to try things that I thought I wouldn't like/didn't like before. Now I'll try most things (still struggling with strong flavors like kale).

I don't know if this is the right kind of thread but I need to get it off my chest

I actually made a list of several things I hate about myself and what I can do to change (pic related). I'm very short, I have dirty brown skin, messy frizzy hair, brown eyes, bulbous nose, baby face, gaps in my beard, a caveman brow and several other physical issues like a shit zygomatic angle and negative canthal tilt. On top of that, I have joint issues which make it hard for me to lift weights and a few scars on my head which fuck up my confidence.

Apart from my physical insecurities, I also have a lot of mental issues and insecurities to work through. The vast majority of my friends (especially due to me being an imigrant) are far taller than me and mock me for my height and race in a jesting tone, but it really hits hard. My father is also a ladie's man that frequently recieves love letters and has great success with women due to his strong personality and amazing looks. I also got severely bullied ever since I was young. all this has left me with crippling self hatred and confidence issues as well as making me extremely docile and submissive. I'd often let people humiliate and beat me up and they do. I'm a constantly shifting, neurotic, nervous mess, constantly worrying about my posture, where I'm standing, looking at my face in the mirror for several minutes at a time, frantically brushing my hair, etc.

In short, I'm a mentally unstable, nervous, insecure mess, with body and mind issues. Plus I know my parents were incarcerated for being drug smugglers/heroine addicts, but they don't know that I know and it's a lot of weight to carry. This is just the short version of it all, I'm reaching the text limit.

You could have been normal sized if it wasn't for your father's stupid petite girl fetish. You must now have kids with a girl who's at least 6'3 so that your future sons will be able to compete.

my dad is as tall as my mom and i'm taller than my dad

To continue from that, my insecurities permeate my life with a constant sense of self doubt, worthlesness and unease. I'm constantly scared that people are laughing at me or considering me an idiot and oftentimes they are, especially due to how lazy I am. I feel like everyone looks at me like an overgrown child. I struggle inmensely to talk to others without contrived, fake personas I put on artificially to be able to fake being normal or having normal interests and I've realized I don't even know what my real personality actually is. I went on my first ever date the other day and I was so awfully anxious I nearly ran out. I couldn't think of what to say to this girl. She messaged me saying she had fun and wanted to hang out again and I was so happy, but then she expressed disinterest in me and kept mentioning ex boyfriends and how she just got out of a relationship and left without so much a as a hug and has said nothing since and that's rocked me even harder. To make matters worse, my only friends here have all gone back to their home countries and besides my one other dutch friend (who, to be honest, like his girlfriend, probably only tolerates me) everyone is gone and I'm completely alone. I feel so inadequate. Sometimes I really wish I simply was never born.

Good on you. You should still take my advice. It won't look stupid if you pull it off right. Think Joe Pesci in Casino.

try nofap

would that even help with the myriad of problems I have?

I'm painfully average and don't know how to make myself look better.

Also have a kike nose

i want to be a cute aesthetic boy but im 5'5 and not as white as id like to be

Shilling hard for this but only because I believe in it.

For the issues you discussed (lethargy, focus, discipline, motivation, confidence, anxiety, etc) doing nofap helped me considerably. It's fucked up the degree to which watching porn can fuck with some peoples brains.

Besides, why not give it a shot? It completely rid me of my social anxiety and gave me a fucktonne of motivation to better myself, and it may well do the same for you.

In 45 days you'll feel like a different person.

same here
>want to be androgynous male
>5'6 and mixed

I have literally nothing interesting in my life so no one stays with me for more than a few months.

jewish nose

Issue is I am a virgin and extremely lonely. I've reached the point where I masturbate not to feel pleasure, but because I like to fantasize that I'm having sex with my loving girlfriend. It cripples me inside not having an emotional or physical release, so nofap is the hardest thing for me. But thank you, I will try. Got nthing to lose.

jesus fucking christ literally me except appearance

talking about list btw

my story is completely different
i have no reason to feel bad
i never really had to do anything
i never had to work hard to achieve anything
i have(or maybe had)few friends
i just stopped meeting with them because i felt like it was tiresome and id rather stay at home in my comfort zone
everyone in my family is outgoing and shit
and im just here
on Veeky Forums
being a fucking loser

Read these:
yourbrainonporn.com/
nofap.com/rebooting/

Watch this and try and apply the same logic to porn as a drug addiction: youtube.com/watch?v=nmNf37oJEvc

Good luck user.

Yeah, I feel you. My sister is a gymnastics champion, my grandfather is a retired profesional footballer and coach, my dad owns several companies, my cousin is a mcguil graduate in medicine... I'm just a dumb fuckin loser with severe personality issues and genuinely crippling insecurities and mental problems. Issue is, I can't get this off of my chest with anyone. It's too personal and I'm scared I'll scare people off.

I really want a sweet girlfriend who is into similar things as me. I just want someone to love who loves me back sincerely so we can improve each other, but I'm so dull, meek and ugly I know it won't happen. Worst of all, my friends make fun of my style and say I look like a tryhard.

It seems realistic, but at the same time, I don't know, it strikes me as pseudoscience. I remember reading a text a neuroscientist wrote about how this is all bullshit. still, doesn't hurt to try.

weather is always too hot

i've seriously considered moving to a different state just so i can wear layers and be comfy

>i'm usually rated between 7 and 8,
where? on fucking Veeky Forums?

yeah can't you read?
i'm a hafu and androgynous looking, so right up fa's alley

I'm generally very happy with how I look, what makes me hate myself is that I'm an idiot. Like, actually, really really dumb.
I can't argue with anyone about anything because my brain moves too slow to form coherent responses.

People tend to like me initially, and then distance themselves once they realize I have nothing to say, no original thoughts, no nothing.
I feel like if souls exist, I don't have one.

Shit sucks, being dumb was only really effay for like 2 years during middle school.

>tfw if i had clear skin id be an 8/10
so close yet so far
how do i get beautiful skin like delon
i get it the worst around my skin and jawline

people seem to like me when they know more about me but i always sperg the fuck out when meeting new people and am too awkward to get past exchanging names on my own so they need to do all the initiation, which never happens because i'm probably inexplicably feeling and being uncomfortable

>i'm always tired, and i never concretize my creative endeavours
>i have obscure hobbies
>it's hard to relate with anyone
relatable as fuck

Acne and my almost curly hair is aways an ugly, unrecoverable mess.

>social anxiety which leads to losing friends, low self-esteem, self-loathing.
iktf
glad you're gonna see a therapist, hopefully it'll be helpful
do you have any close friends/family? I'm assuming you're single now, but being in a relationship can help too ofc
jeez man, I'm sorry
at least you have friends? idk, also it sounds like you're focusing way too much on your flaws and exaggerating or obsessing over them. that probably isn't very helpful, but try to keep it in mind. good luck with nofap, I've been trying but I'm pathetically lonely and undisciplined lol
you certainly don't sound dumb from how you type. and I'm' certain there are plenty of people dumber than you, maybe see how they function?

I'm a mouth breather and my mouth always hangs open; even if my teeth are together, my lips are like half an inch apart when relaxed. If I try to close them you can see my face visibly straining.

Are you me?

>baby face
>jew nose

the 2 things you should never mention in 1 sentence.

just end my suffering already.

You can literally train yourself not to do that, and have it feel and look natural.

yeah I've actually been working on that, just found out about it a week ago

its not that bad actually

large, masculine nose needs to be matched with a masculine face. otherwise you just look like an oblivion character.

I'm not really that interesting on the outside.
I generally just carry conversations or start conversations by asking others about what's happening.
I've been getting more involved in my college's theater as a tech dude, and I'm in the process of finding more interesting things to do/go to, but I'm still bland as fuck.
Plus it doesn't help that my friends have a lot more interesting shit to talk about, compared to me.

i think my main issue is just my self-esteem?

i dress okay but not great either, body is nothing special; i am a bit taller than average, slim, but body type is rather boyish with small boobs, small waiste and no ass. face is my worst feature in my opinion, some like it though. it is not hard for me to get a bf, but i think that is just because for a lot of them their only requirement is a female human being that is alive. so most compliments i get i just tend to brush off immediately. and even if they would honestly think i am cute or anything, i just think; wait until you discover the autistic socially reclused human being inside of it.

Money
I'm paying for my woman's college tuition fees, while having a 2 year old kid.
We're not married, I'm just doing it out of guilt because she had to stop schooling because I got her preggers and her parents are kind of eh.
So that means in 2 more years she'll (hopefully) graduate and find a job, then we can do 50/50 supporting the kid.
My hobbies also don't help
>computers (slowly growing out of it now)
>electric guitars
>motorcycles
Fuck I want more money.

My giant nose

Acne

hey this me

long on and off bouts of major depressive means i don't always take care of myself. my skin is pretty fucked up. the outer parts of my upper lip are fucked up from bad shaving. those areas are darker than the skin around it, someone tell me how to fix that. can't even grow out a decent mustache/beard to hide it. otherwise i'd be pretty handsome. a manlet but with nice cheekbones jawline eyebrows and some piercing eyes albeit with some pretty significant bags under them.
i've got my style down though being a skellington manlet means i can't find shit that fits me.
i'm so stuck in my own head and wracked with anxiety. i've got some pretty strange body language which would in a different case would look like confidence but given my current position and my poor physical appearance just looks out of place and makes me look autistic. i have trouble sitting still in public, i'm always bouncing my leg or shifting in my seat. given being dressed atypically but well, my poor physical health, and my odd behaviours and anxiety-induced physicality, i draw too much attention to myself.
i feel my friends kind of looked up to me in the past but while i've been deteriorating and they've been making progress in their lives, i'm just kinda pathetic now. though not completely of my own accord, i willingly isolate myself.
i'm trying to dig myself out of this hole

>I'm paying for my woman's college tuition fees, while having a 2 year old kid.
>We're not married, I'm just doing it out of guilt because she had to stop schooling because I got her preggers and her parents are kind of eh.

I'll count my blessings the next time I think tfw no gf.

>Whats the one thing that stops you from being attractive and fashionable anons?

Being a manlet with short legs is my only drawback. Also I lift which in some senses is another drawback. But still, I am attractive and fashionable. I'm cognizant enough of my lack of height and body type and accordingly, also accordingly to just what I like, other peoples' opinions be damned and my own personality.

**and dress accordingly

>giant nose

iktf senpai mine looks literally like a cartoon button nose

MUST WATCH VISUAL OF 2017 VERY POSITIVE!!!
youtube.com/watch?v=OEAvFGOnjZs

I have winged shoulder blades and it FUCKING SUCKS.

pic not me btw

fyi i don't take any of my own advice but i'd like to say i give good advice
don't worry about taking risks. put your honest self (plus a few selling moves) out there and see who bites. attraction happens for a reason. a rejection shouldn't have a significant outcome on your life. i know loneliness and if you're pulling, you're way better off than me.
if you maintain the proper interactions with those of your culture, any deviations will be accepted. just be a good fucking person. those that still reject you are those that are probably best kept at arms length.
be constantly mindful of your posture. i'm the same, i have a kind of slouch that i think looks cool but it conveys something that might be a negative trait to others. i keep this in mind and at random intervals throughout the day i'll remember and straighten up. look up some exercises. the important thing when trying to change your physical composition is consistency, changing your body happens very slowly.
i've got the opposite, i've got carinatum. it's a bit worse than having a hole cuz it sticks out. chest exercises are the answer. i'm not used to smiling and i've got slightly yellow and misaligned teeth but i kind of like my smile. closed mouth, bunched up cheeks and dimples. make sure to squint the outside of your eyes, it shows subconscious honesty. other people aren't as concerned about your smile as you are, they register the show of emotion.
again, the path to change is a consistency. the thing about personality is that it is shaped by outside causes. to change your social interactions you have to practice social interaction by consciously steering yourself away from the undesirable behaviour during the event. finding social interactions for practice is of course difficult but you have to do that on your own.

nigga i'm 5'5. if you're in a european country there ain't shit i can help you with. compensate for it with other traits and don't worry if other people recognize you're compensating. your positive traits will supersede the judgement.
don't settle. the issue here is that your own personal traits aren't in correlation with the girls you're pursuing. if those girls are actually your dream girls you would change yourself. right now you are in a place of complacency where your base needs are met so your ambitions are sidelined.
i know this feel. i live on the outer limits of a major city. the thing about lower income places is that you have to follow the social code so you don't get fucked with. just follow the code so people know you're cool when you interact with them.
don't be a tranny, if you're already insecure it won't actually help. people will pander towards you but it won't actually solve the real issues. if you're actually 8/10 fix the underlying issues.
it's a tug of war between what you actually care about and what is necessary to sustain it. i'm the same. even if it's all meaningless, you're still living it. meaning of life is life itself. even if we're not in control, believe you're in control.
put those insecurities out of your mind. the thing i've learned from my various own self-loathing is that others don't actually know what i think. it's me stuck in my own mind that ends up acting out and projecting those insecurities.
pick some glasses. eventually you'll get used to them and you and others will identify with them. any frame will fit eventually.
nobody cares as much as you do. also, why you livin in a place where you don't know the speak.
again, conscious intervention. recognize when you do it and force yourself to stop. sit on your hands or something.

ima go smoke and drink some more and i might be back to respond to others.

same here, who cares. start lifting you bitch

sike ima go to sleep.
i know how goddamn miserable i am, i have with all desire that you all live better lives than me. im a fucking alcoholic that drinks alone too often, cheers you sappy cunts.

honestly height doesn't matter that much
my cousin is 5'6'', fairly good looking, very sociable and hes's been dating since he was 14
his current gf is even slightly taller than him
being short is not the end of the world but there's nothing you can do about it. so just work on your other traits and you'll be fa

You can get out of this bro. Most of these problems can be fixed if you get a decent routine. I know it feels impossible, but once you start getting nice habits your life will get turned around. Start by setting easy goals for the next day before you go to bed, complete them, and gradually increase the "difficulty" of the goals.
The best tip I have however, is to get a friend in a similar position and who wants to change and get them to motivate you, and you to motivate him/her.

>do you have any close friends/family?
I do live with my parents, we're OK, told them about my problems, they're trying to help me.

As for friends - I am no longer sure if I can call my best friend as a "best friend", most of my buddies live on the other side of the city, so it's hard to see them frequently.
And yeah,
>tfwnogf

see a therapist or someone
even if they dont teach you cbt or some shit
just getting it off your chest feels great
i hear loads of great things about mindfulness too
you remind me of me user
good luck