I am 35, my GF is 40

SniperWish
SniperWish

I am 35, my GF is 40.

She wants me to buy a $450k house , with a 10% deposit and possibly adopt.

Should I break up with her and move into a $200k studio (30% deposit) and risk growing old alone?

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en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greeks_(finance)#Theta

LuckyDusty
LuckyDusty

Yes

RumChicken
RumChicken

Get your own castle. Women only rent it from you for sex.

StonedTime
StonedTime

I uploaded the wrong picture

ZeroReborn
ZeroReborn

christ those replies came fast

TechHater
TechHater

life advice goes on /adv/

eGremlin
eGremlin

If you don't want a kid and she is expecting you to make major financial sacrifices without equal contribution on her end then definitely.

If you are 35, prime of a man's life, there is no reason to be dating long term an older woman. Late 20s is where you need to be shopping.

The equality meme is coming back to mid 30s early 40s professional women who want to start a family and have found that all the men are going after their younger, fresher counterparts.

AwesomeTucker
AwesomeTucker

Ask how much she's willing to pitch in.

Spazyfool
Spazyfool

$50k

Lunatick
Lunatick

youre 35
your 'gf' is 40
wants you to adopt a kid

so you want to be a cuck to a 40 year old who cannot have any kids anymore because of autism risks?

you however will not run any risks of getting an autistic child until you're in your 60s.

go dump her and get some women that 28 years old or something.

absolute retard

Crazy_Nice
Crazy_Nice

And how much on an ongoing basis?

King_Martha
King_Martha

Where the fuck do you live that a house is 450 and a studio is 200k? Move out here to KY and get a nice house for 150k

Spamalot
Spamalot

50k / 450k > 10%
???

girlDog
girlDog

having an older gf at 35 years old
not being a cuck

pick one

iluvmen
iluvmen

without yer bird you will be fapping like a good 'un til your peepie is sore

likme
likme

What is abundance mentality

You're desperate mate. There's literally billions of women on this earth, and you've internalized that if this particular cunt doesn't work out for you, then you're going to die alone. Either kys and get it over with, or man the fuck up.

Btw, if I can smell that shit over the internet, she's internalized just how fucking needy and weak you are, and has probably learned how to wear your skin like a fucking tarp.

kizzmybutt
kizzmybutt

Explain the situation, tell her you will be swimming in money in a few years if you're able to invest these extra 250k, move into a studio.

TreeEater
TreeEater

i literally broke my weener through over wanking

Evilember
Evilember

450k house
factory defect kid
menopause coming fast
why

Stark_Naked
Stark_Naked

Im leaving alot out, basically she is a very good partner. Im just facing so much pressure to get a house I cant afford Im having second thoughts about it

girlDog
girlDog

Until you realize 98% of them are garbage human beings, significantly lowering your odds of finding someone who's worthwhile to spend your life with, let alone finding more than one person who fits.

But hey, if all you want is pussy, then it's good news for you. But I'd be willing to bet that's just your internal justification and defense mechanism as the only real people who don't want companionship are mentally ill.

cum2soon
cum2soon

What's your income cuck?

Gigastrength
Gigastrength

around 85k

Methshot
Methshot

Look, you already know the answer. In own your crystal ball you see the future - a house you dont need, can't afford and an early death from stressing out about all those payments. Also, possibly a kid with downs.

Grab your fucking balls man, and tell her you're not getting the house. Tell her like a man, not a whiny bitch. Imagine youre the biggest n igger you saw on tv or Ivan Drago the stereotypical Russian. You're not getting that house because YOU dont need it.

Why does she need it? So she can tell people at work she got a house? BULLSHIT. For kids? People renting apartments have kids, don't worry and they grow up to be decent human beings too.

Basically, when you talk to her, dont forget your balls. Once the ball is in her court, let her decide.

And oh, no matter how ugly or dumb you are, there will be other pussy.

Burnblaze
Burnblaze

35 yrs old
on Veeky Forums
wagecucking for 85k fiat sheckles a year
lmao.

SniperWish
SniperWish

how much is a respectable amount to earn at 35?

DeathDog
DeathDog

Ugh. My dad is just like this. Put women above everything else even himself. It's not even worth reasoning with people like you. Go ahead and have your autist child with an old bitch (sorry, ADOPT) and house payment you can't afford. In another 10 years she'll be fucking Uncle Tom in her house she will get from the divorce and you will be under a bridge somewhere.

TechHater
TechHater

at least 150 BTC

JunkTop
JunkTop

unless your cost of living is super high, 85k is a respectable amount imo. dont let these memers get to u friendo

Methshot
Methshot

You're getting about 4.5k / mo after tax?

Skullbone
Skullbone

27 years old married a 30 year old woman
She's nice and all but don't be a retard like me.

VisualMaster
VisualMaster

use the strength of your bell-end, the 'Force' if you will, and wank like you've never wanked before

JunkTop
JunkTop

you could find a 25 yo and have your own kids, instead of being married to a dried old hag that wants you to raise other people's children

your gf pussy is probably haunted by now with aborted kids

Spazyfool
Spazyfool

If the only houses in a decent neighborhood are $450k, then you're going to be paying at least $30,000 per year for the mortgage. If you're already 35, then that assumes you'll be paying it until you're near retirement age.

MPmaster
MPmaster

dating a woman older than you
Why do people do this

SniperGod
SniperGod

who doesn't love getting cucked by milfs?

New_Cliche
New_Cliche

fat
ugly

Playboyize
Playboyize

yes, why do you ask ? what are your thoughts about this? is it way too low?

Techpill
Techpill

very pretty lady
perfect companion

StrangeWizard
StrangeWizard

I am 35, my GF is 40.

why

Sir_Gallonhead
Sir_Gallonhead

Tell her to contribute 50%. If she comes up with the "man should be the provider and breadwinner" bullshit talk then she's not a good companion.

StonedTime
StonedTime

Mortgage payment is gonna be like 2k - 3k a month. That's a hella portion of your earnings. Move into a house you can afford. Go get pre-approved for a mortgage, they'll tell you how big of a loan you can get. Pro tip, you probably don't want to take the full amount they offer. I am a big proponent of property ownership though. Just buy a house you can afford.

Harmless_Venom
Harmless_Venom

maybe you should explain to this chick the phenomenon of people remaining broke regardless of income: people who make $40k/year live paycheck to paycheck, and when they're making $120k/year, they're still living paycheck to paycheck.

this is exactly why. Their lifestyle adjusts to their income, and the more they make, the more they spend. you'll always be in debt and on the verge of not being able to make ends meet, will always be stressed about money, will always feel broke regardless of how much money you bring home every week.

Soft_member
Soft_member

How it works
20s - date older
30s and onwards - date younger

SniperWish
SniperWish

Why would you just trust what she says? She'll just say, yeah ill contribute 50%, and then she just wont. OP, bail. There are much better women, even foreigners. just dont stick with this woman, who wants you to show your subservence in a trophy like manner by adopting a child. You dont want to be a cuck virtue signalling tool for somebody else. Get the apartment, and deck it out with stuff you like, have fun and get a human girlfirend. Not some old ass post-humanity bitch who celebrates the death of manhood.

Crazy_Nice
Crazy_Nice

$300,000

ZeroReborn
ZeroReborn

facing so much pressure to get a house I cant afford

That's your problem right there

My experience is when I'm making the right decision, it feels natural. Almost every mistake I've ever made I felt pressure in one form or another and regretted giving in to it down the road.

Lord_Tryzalot
Lord_Tryzalot

What is her income? No more than 3x your combined income should go to housing in many people's opinion.

I have nothing to offer on the girl.

AwesomeTucker
AwesomeTucker

Not with a 30 year loan on a 400k house. Most of your money is going to the mortgage for the next 30 years. Unless his wife is also working and chipping in. I would pay at max 250k for a house for 15 years instead.

Stupidasole
Stupidasole

I thought the whole "beta provider settles down with roasty cunt after she decides to get off the clock carousel" was a meme. How embarrassing.

King_Martha
King_Martha

adopt

does the adoption contract come with a free year subscription to BLACKED.com ?

Evil_kitten
Evil_kitten

You're 35? Your GF should be 22 or 23, not 40, ya dumb fuck

cum2soon
cum2soon

so you take massive financial risk (divorce) and pay for a child that is not yours?

are you stupid?

why not just take the deposit and throw it in a fire or something..

StonedTime
StonedTime

What happens if you die before you pay the house off?

Stupidasole
Stupidasole

A RESOUNDING YES!

Forget the Females. Acquire capitol

whereismyname
whereismyname

Get a younger gf

Spazyfool
Spazyfool

Heard that. Seriously, waste of F-ING $$$

Nude_Bikergirl
Nude_Bikergirl

Really? 30's not old.

takes2long
takes2long

adopt
40 year old
buy house

OP I knwo your probably in a shit place, and your head is rationalizing why she is good for you. But you're a fucking cuck man.

Even if you love this girl you need to realise that her life is GOING DOWN HILL and you can roll down with her or bail now. Like it fucking sucks, but seriously if she s 40 and wants to adopt you know already is not happy with her life even though she KNEW THAT SHE COULDNT WAIT AGES TO HAVE KIDS.

You still have lots of life in you man, if you meet a girl your age you can have like 2 babies that are your flesh and blood. Meet a girl younger and you good.

Its time to say good bye to this post wall women OP.

WebTool
WebTool

Housing bubble is pretty much global in scope right now. If you care to divulge whereabouts you are someone can be more specific but generally speaking this is not a good time to invest in real estate unless you are filthy rich and can afford a significant depreciation in the near future. Just rent for now, and I am assuming you are already living with her. If not that's 2 red flags. You could turn your life into living hell, check common law relationships in your land as well, you might as well be getting married. You won't have to support the kid but still...

DeathDog
DeathDog

Listen to this man OP, dont be stupid

Raving_Cute
Raving_Cute

Lmao thats entry level for a math degree.

Harmless_Venom
Harmless_Venom

staying with a 40 yo childless hag

Let her decrepit and die alone OP

MPmaster
MPmaster

What are you talking about?
Math has one of the highest unemployment rates and maybe a starting salary of 50k at best. Mid career of 80

Illusionz
Illusionz

adoption

Literally paying for someone else's spawn

LMAO

Stark_Naked
Stark_Naked

PhD, math
$300,000 starting

Harmless_Venom
Harmless_Venom

88k
indeed.com/salaries/PhD Math-Salaries,-New York, NY

King_Martha
King_Martha

Buying a house just before the 2018 real estate crash

takes2long
takes2long

unless its Salma fucking Hayek then find someone younger, you will thank yourself later unless she was really worth it which is something you have to honestly ask yourself and keep out your emotional biases.
Hot young women have more energy more sex appeal and will make you feel younger. dont you want that??
im an 18 year old but still dude your old as fuck dont date 40 unless your 60 nigga you got one life fuck the best girls

askme
askme

paying for someone else's spawn
implying the child chose to be the product of someone else
hurr I didn't nutt to produce it therefore it isn't a human being

Deadlyinx
Deadlyinx

also this my bro you want your own child a LITTLE YOU.
i have dreamed of a little me my whole fucking LIFE someone like me that i understand, with my own weaknesses and strengths, so i can train them to be even better.
you dont want a black child my nigga
adopted children are also lower iq you want the best man the best

Snarelure
Snarelure

Guess what faggot
You're never going to have a mini me to fulfill your narcissistic fantasies
You are going to have a child who hates you and tries as hard to rebel against you
BTW the 'nigga' is you [and all the other anons here] - can't support a child without losing his shit

Emberburn
Emberburn

the best decisions are always going to be the easiest i ask that you take out your emotions man you want a family thats YOURS

Firespawn
Firespawn

you seem triggered dude, are you an orphan or something?

TurtleCat
TurtleCat

n o t a r g u m e n t
a
n

LuckyDusty
LuckyDusty

Why would you ever date someone older than you when you're 35?

Break up with the bimbo, spend your $50k on a nice flat that you are happy with (take your time, make sure what you buy checks all your boxes; if it doesn't, don't buy it), and do whatever the fuck you want with your life.

Seirously, your stock is through the roof right now as long as you held yourself together and make decent money. You could easily find an attractive woman in her mid to late 20s who is wanting what your current GF wants and you won't have to settle for adoption and buy a gigantic house (at least, not right away).

CouchChiller
CouchChiller

35 year old man asking a bunch of teenagers and NEETS for financial advice

BinaryMan
BinaryMan

implying
You know what ruins women? Time on the market and shitty mates who aren't mature enough to shut down their shitty games.

Don't ever date a woman who chooses her friends over you.

Don't ever date a woman who has had more partners than you, or is over the age of 30 without having had a marriage/serious relationship.

Damaged goods are easy to spot; he's 35, not 60. He's still in the prime of his life, so long as he has kids before 45 he'll be in good shape.

StrangeWizard
StrangeWizard

If you are 35, prime of a man's life, there is no reason to be dating long term an older woman.
Also beyond 40 Theta decay gets progressively worse.

whereismyname
whereismyname

It's a meme, you dip.

knowyourmeme.com/memes/mathematics-phd

Illusionz
Illusionz

Unfortunately it is also a living meme that many people actually believe.

Emberburn
Emberburn

Your mom is a living meme

BunnyJinx
BunnyJinx

You're a bitch

likme
likme

Fuck you nigga I nutted in your mom's mouth last night and she swallowed your would be brother. Now kill yourself.

SniperGod
SniperGod

dubs confirms fellatio fratricide

Flameblow
Flameblow

having a gf that's older than you

StonedTime
StonedTime

Nigga I will pump etherium into your peehole

TechHater
TechHater

Can you explain this graph further please? What does SMV stand for? And wtf is a theta?

Booteefool
Booteefool

Wow, I just might. I'm self-employed so I can work from anywhere, but it's getting too expensive in Seattle. My partner and I are into cuckolding and scat play, what's the KY scene like in regards to those? If it's somewhat strong I'll look into it

w8t4u
w8t4u

What does SMV stand for?
Sexual market value

And wtf is a theta?
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greeks_(finance)#Theta
Theta measures the sensitivity of the optical appearance of a female to the passage of time (see Option time value): the "time decay". Thus if you have a steady girlfriend you are short theta: your girlfriend will lose optical value with the passage of time (all other factors held constant).

Deadlyinx
Deadlyinx

christ you guise came down hard on me

RavySnake
RavySnake

I think you can get a gf in her 20s without too much problems.

w8t4u
w8t4u

risk growing old alone
Lmao. She's already grown old though so you'll still be doing it alone. If you don't have kids with her then move on dude; are you retarded?

Sir_Gallonhead
Sir_Gallonhead

Wow, I just might. I'm self-employed so I can work from anywhere, but it's getting too expensive in Seattle. My partner and I are into cuckolding and scat play, what's the KY scene like in regards to those? If it's somewhat strong I'll look into it

kizzmybutt
kizzmybutt

whose wallet does it come out from? then you have your answer

Dreamworx
Dreamworx

Chances are you guys have talked about marriage and the conversation didn't go the way she wanted.

She is pressureing you to buy a house, that you can't even afford, because it is another way for her to lock you down. Your "great partner" gf sounds very manipulative, and you seem like such a textbook chuck that I'm having a hard time believing you are a real person.

tl;dr the NEETs on this board were way nicer to you than you deserve and you should NEVER EVER FUCKING EVER buy a house with your GIRLFRIEND

TechHater
TechHater

Is this even a question OP? Or just bait? Don't throw your life away. You still have so much that you can do than destroy your capital and start paying for marriage and the adopted child. Plus. If both of you ever get a divorce, that's more money out of your pocket. Play it safe. Enjoy life. Enjoy your money. Raise the capital more. And listen first to your guys' needs (if you plan on keeping her) and not so much on the "wants"

PackManBrainlure
PackManBrainlure

Absolutely.

JunkTop
JunkTop

self employed
can work anywhere
lives in a city

Ignoramus
Ignoramus

older gf
Guys are so much more attractive the older they get. Chances are you can get another younger gf. She also needs to understand she may end up alone forever if she annoys you too much.

Skullbone
Skullbone

Okay Janny.
How much do you get paid again?

askme
askme

The banks force you to have life insurance.

Skullbone
Skullbone

and possibly adopt
some strangers son
Dropped.

Carnalpleasure
Carnalpleasure

more like down with the downies

TurtleCat
TurtleCat

this you bloody cuck

Snarelure
Snarelure

and risk growing old alone?

You're not going to grow old alone. You're a man in his prime. Get yourself a 25 year old GF instead.

Firespawn
Firespawn

t. triggered adopted nigger

Lunatick
Lunatick

Normally I'd say that Veeky Forums gives bad advice, but in this rare case I sort of agree with the other posters in this thread.

Unless you have a good and specific reason not to, then I would suggest moving on from that relationship. It sounds exploitative.

w8t4u
w8t4u

Damn first time in this board and I already can see cuckposting... im /out/

Bidwell
Bidwell

"Worthwhile" is a meme
Find a pretty younger girl or an Asian girl to be your housewife

massdebater
massdebater

Just tell her that you don't want kids, you fucking coward.
You're contributing to feminism when you mistreat women like this.
Goddamn.

LuckyDusty
LuckyDusty

Just buy a slighly shit place bigger than a studio for 200k. Then sell or rent it and biy that 450k after its paid for.

Bonus for investing and using asset income for free half million dollar house.

200k studio.

The fuck i can buy 8 right now for 150k

BunnyJinx
BunnyJinx

Yiy bullshit tech job is gonna be outsourrced and you will be a basement dweling neet again.

Wagecucking for 50k. Overtime weekly.
31.

Idgaf. I am ducking off all day, good benefits, bosses love me, and i get to shitpost my bored ass off.

Income is relative. I bought 2 houses for 31k and drive 5 cars. All paid for.

Laugh all u want but i dont have a landlord and if i want a hot tub in my bedroom i just gotta grab a buddy and some chainsaws.

Ignoramus
Ignoramus

Yeah. Its unlilely anyone here can match that. Keeping cost of living down is hard. Dont bw frugal but if u can live off 50 and flip another 20 or 30k at a house it adds up fast

Supergrass
Supergrass

We are dpuble the age of most of these autists...

Need_TLC
Need_TLC

assuming i didnt cheat in math class all my life and dont just fall for the hardworking wagecuck meme.

Harmless_Venom
Harmless_Venom

Can biy 55 gallon drum off amazon or find a diy formula and call tanker trucks for cheep. Cement mixer and buckets. Have fun u fucking degenerate