I know this is not /relationships/ but you guys are more likely to hit a butt once in a while than any of the other boards.
My gf hasn't been wanting to fuck for a month and a half now. When we finally do it I have to try so hard to get to the fucking that I don't event care to keep the situation like this anymore.
She is 30, I'm 23. I'm getting tire and everyday I'm closer the telling her to fuck off.
Sex is very important to me.
What to do.
>but you guys are more likely to hit a butt once in a while than any of the other boards.
Move on? She's clearly past her prime if she's not interested in sex, or she's cheating on you.
Find someone else
usually when girls do this they are fuckign someone else
>30
too old dude
you are a man, you should be the 30 year old fucking young girls
Ask /g/.
Time to go, user.
How about you talk to her about your sexual needs? I mean she is 30, it's not like this stuff is new to her.
>I know this is not /relationships/ but you guys are more likely to hit a butt once in a while than any of the other boards.
Problem is that most here hit butts exclusively.
Talk to her and tell her how you feel like an adult. However it sounds like you are putting conditions on the relationship which is a HUGE sign that you have giving up. Do yourself a favor, for her too, and break up.
1. Get out of a dead end relationship with a woman 7 years your senior. Thank me later.
2. In the mean time, give her no attention. Don't even try to have sex. trust me, her tone and approach will change really quick. Withholding dick seems childish, but it's guaranteed to coax her out of whatever funk she's in.
Leave, she either doesn't find you attractive anymore or is fucking someone else
She's probably cheating you dude, maybe another young guy, it happens a lot to young guys that try a relationship with an +5 older girl
Break it up bro. Wasting your time. If a bitch don't give it up by the 3rd date I'm out. Let alone being in a relationship and not fucking.
This. Women who date (not just fuck) guys that much younger than them are inherently problematic.
Why doesn't she want to fug?
How about you discuss this with her and say how you feel? Move on from there, let us know how it goes lad. Good luck
You cannot negotiate attraction OP. Either you're slipping physically or mentally or she thinks she can get by without giving you what you need.
Analyze yourself. If it's you that's slipping, correct it. If it's her, leave. Trying to negotiate for sex is a huge beta move and will not work.
OP here.
I'm totally sure she is not fucking someone else.
I like older women, I prefer them to younger girls and I'm interested in a serious relationship-
I've talked to her about this and she says that she doesn't feel like having sex that often anymore.
To me sex it's something beyond just penetration, it's something deeper that it's shared with a unique loved one.
I love her and I'm sure she loves me too but at this point it's like I'm in a constant need for something that only she can provide.
You fucked up, sex is all about supply and demand. Up the demand by making the supply lower, make it seem exclusive like you're doing her a favor by having sex. Did the same to my girlfriend unintentionally because I have a reptile disfunction, now she's begging me for sex.
Also 30 get your shit together mate that's sad, when she was 18 you were 11, she cpuld be your granny
>serious relationship
>2016
>unique loved one
Jesus christ OP you poor fool. No wonder she doesn't want to fuck you, you're a dependent little leech. If you were a chad she'd be fucking you every night. Women only say that shit to betas, I promise you.
>I like older women, I prefer them to younger girls and I'm interested in a serious relationship
Why in hell?
Okay, real advice time:
How long have you two been together? If less than a year, then you break it off. If more than a year, then you need to be straight with her about it and find out what's going on. If sex is important to you, then it's important to the relationship. She needs to try to make you happy just as much as you need to make her happy. Don't be passive-aggressive and don't let her be passive-aggressive about it either, if there's an issue, she needs to make it clear what she wants and so do you.
This
Lmao all hope is lost. You're 23 nigga why the fuck would you want a serious relationship? Fuck hoes until you're like 26 then settle down.
>Being this sad and shallow
If you've ever met a girl that's anything beyond a fucking hole you'll understand OP
>she's 30, I'm 23
Abandon ship
Break up. It will suck in the beginning, but be great once youre over her and can enjoy sex again.
How do I know? Because I just broke up with my gf who had similar problems.
You are probably just ugly lol
>2016
>loving these hoes
When will you betas learn? No wonder 80% of this board are virgins.
It's not shallow, it's just reality. Let OP keep begging this 30 year old women for sex and let's see where it goes. I guarantee you it will not end well. If she doesn't want to fuck him he's severely fucking up somewhere, and it's not something that can be "discussed".
Attraction. Cannot. Be. Negotiated.
Fuck off
This as fuck.
Listen to some NWA for a few days, I guarantee you won't have love for hoes for a while after that.
Of course, back then you could slap a bitch and they couldn't post your Facebook on tumblr
>Begging a 30 year old for sex
she is probably cheating on you OP
>Never had a meaningful relationship
>will never experience waking up next to your loved one waking you up with kisses
>hoes
She was a virgin when I met her
>virgin
I probably get more sex than you faggot, actual meaningful intimate sex, not benis in vagina sex
OP here again.
She is not cheating on me, 100% sure.
Last week I told her that I was ready to let her go but I don't think she understood it the way I meant it.
Today I'm gonna get her sit down and talk seriously about this and if it doesn't go the way I want, I'll be taking distance till she either shows interest in my needs or she goes away.
Thanks guys.
This is only true if you're dating a feminist faggot, I wich case you couldn't have a meaningful relationship in the first place because she hates all men. My gf isn't a faggot Tumblr feminist and will never be, she's loyal beyond compare and very sweet. I agree that most women are cunts in some areas and social networks, but it's just about finding a girl you are willing to love
lmao
>She is 30, I'm 23
Maybe stop being cougar bait and find someone your own age. Or preferably, several years younger.
>I've talked to her about this and she says that she doesn't feel like having sex that often anymore.
She's 30 years old, her biological clock is screaming at her to have sex and make a baby every single day.
Don't forget OP.
Men end up with women who love them the most, not those they love most. You love her more than she loves you. And she's playing coy. She's 30. She knows how important sex is for the male. Even if she wasn't "feeling it" she should be sucking you off because you want it. This just won't end well.
>She was a virgin when I met her
Congrats, you turned her into a lesbian.
>actual meaningful intimate sex
Lmao what does that even mean? I fucked a freaky bitch for 3 hours last night. In the bed, in the bathtub, in the shower every fucking where. Shit felt amazing. Fuck would I want "intimate sex" for.
I was with a woman from when she was 29-31 OP and we fucked every day, I mean it, EVERY day or time I saw her or went to her place we fucked. She even cried once that we couldn't because I was on meds and I got ED. Do you guys live together? If so she has to try much less to keep your attention or whatever. Also that 7 year age gap becomes more stark as time goes by. I'm of the opinion that desire can't be negotiated, you can't negotiate or "plan out" sex frequency. I'm sorry to say but whatever the reason is, if you aren't getting your needs met then you have to move on. No one is ever going to put you first except you. Good luck.
>she is 30, I'm 23
why are you with her?
don't answer, just get rid of her
she'll look like shit in 10 years and you'll be hitting your prime. It's retarded to tie yourself down like this.
you say sex is important to you but then you get in a relationship w/o it, you're a pushover,
no wonder she doesn't fuck you
leave her
kek OP I'm in the opposite boat. Just returned to Catholicism after having sex with my girlfriend multiple times a week for 2 years and told her I'm now going to remain chaste until marriage... only 20 and looking at no orgasm for like 6 years
shes cheating on u. dump her
well OP, if I were you I'd leave her. That simply isn't a good relationship.
if you think this is a problem that will just go away, you are in for a shock. she's 30 dude, as she ages she's only going to become more sexually distant.
> 30 is too old lol
You guys know Hugh Jackman has been married to a woman 13 years older than him for the past 20 years right?
Age means nothing if you love and feel a deep connection with the person.
Also Aaron-Taylor Johnson, the actor who played Quicksilver in the Avengers is married to a woman 23 years older than him and they have kids. Although she's kinda ugly IMHO.
> shit in 10 years
Depends. Actress who plays Melisandre on Game Of Thrones is 39 and I'd hit it.
bro your 23 and shes 30 wtf is wrong with you? find some girl around your age. she probably gonna think about having kids and shit now
30 year old guy here, i've had no trouble hitting up girls, but these past five years, my sex drive has slowly dwindled, and right now, I can easily go a few weeks without sex. It's, just not as important anymore, if you can say that, its kinda hard to explain.
I am sure it has something to do with my age, no doubt about that, but the fact still remains that my sex drive has gone down as I have grown older. Even porn isnt as interesting anymore.
I think its just the same as with OP. OP is still an immature fuck who just wants the pussy, the GF obviously focuses on other things in the relationship than sex.
OP, grow up, or just come clean with you GF. If older girls is the path you have chosen then you better live with the cons as well.
months of no sex is pretty much a clear sign that its not a loving relationship with a deep connection. sex isn't just scoring pussy and smoking a cig, its an expression of attraction and love, and if its lacking, then something else is probably lacking too.
if you are with her for her money, cheat
if you are with her for her looks/personality, trade up for a newer version
I really want to give you genuine advice but I'm too put off by all the people in here balking at the idea of a 23 y/o guy with a woman around 30.
I don't think most of these people can talk relationships yet because they:
A) Are pretty young on the whole and still in the "have a gf my age or sleep around while I'm young" phase and/or
B) Are having a hard time grasping that people have different wants/needs out of a relationship and that you wanting a serious long term thing at 23 isn't a bad thing.
I guess you should just talk to her straight up about it and ask if there's any reason your sex drive has dropped off. Everyone here's like "dump her" right off the bat, but the truth is everyone here only has what little you've given us to work on. Plus, it's not like couples working through periods of low libido is a rare thing. Sometimes I just don't feel like having sex for a while.
Having said that, at around 30 she should be much more active. My good friend got with (and later married) with a woman of 30 when he was 20 and said that she was basically insatiable 24/7 up until they had their first kid 6~7 years later.
>You turned her into a lesbian
Yeah no, she literally begs me for sex, just because the sex is meaningful doesn't mean it's not good or "freaky" or five hours long
I would never want to have sex with someone I don't love, but we're just different people it seems
> Fuck would I want "intimate sex" for.
Wew, edgy
I've been there.
You can keep trying and she'll keep saying she'll change or whatever else excuse, but it's like trying to repair a smashed mirror.
Either you accept less sex or move on to someone new, because she holds all the power in these situations.
intimate sex is just plain better
not slow lovey dovey shit sex, i mean good sex with intimacy as well instead of using a human fleshlight