/SIG/ - SELF-IMPROVEMENT GENERAL

Been trying to get into meditation for a while.

Any recommend books or other resources? Preferably with a more practical focus that doesn't veer too far into the spiritual aspect.

I just want to get this anxiety under control ;_;

You want a tip for self-improvement?

Stop reading self-improvement tips

Seriously, just go outside and do shit

It is true that improving yourself the best way is to actually do stuff outside, but some people want to have some kind of guideline.

Good luck man!

Are you going to reach for a job?

>go outside
And do what
Sit on a bench in a park?

You kinda need some guidance family

Do what the fuck you want

Do you not have instincts or something?
Imagine if you weren't scared of anything, what would you go outside and do?

I read the Odyssey and Things Fall Apart in high school as well, but mostly my school was interested in drilling in Shakespeare and writing skills more than anything. It's a shame because I missed out on so many quality books most everyone else read

Sit on a bench in the park maybe

>You want a tip for self-improvement?
>Stop reading self-improvement tips
This
That's why you have your real family famalamb

Then maybe you're an evolutionary dead end? Accept your fate user. Or don't. It's up to you, but know that "self improvement" tips will not get you there.

I'm not really active in these threads and I already have a girlfriend
I was just reacting to "go outside" without any plan

I always have some sort of cause when I leave the door, and I'm almost never home

>gf is an achievement
Wow

Dude don't worry about social media. The only thing worth having is Snapchat honestly.

You can absolutely network, make friends, and get FBs / GFs without it...you just actually have to go out there and meet people. And if I have to explain how you go about meeting people you don't have what it takes to be a chad...

Just to calm your nerves, If ever someone asks: "user why don't you any social media?"
>It distracts me too much and I would rather focus on school and my hobbies
It's thats simple

Bump. answer me.

>lifting isn't life
>posts on a FITNESS board
Lifting is life

Do some basic yoga positions then sit down in a comfortable and quiet place and focus on NOTHING but your breathing

>And if I have to explain how you go about meeting people you don't have what it takes to be a chad...
How do you meet people outside of uni? I'm not trying to meme (I was a full blown no friends autist before but I'm getting there user) but the only hobbies I have are lifting. I fucked up my first semester so I probably won't join any time consuming clubs.

>Just to calm your nerves
I was just asking if you could. I think the most trouble I'll face for not having it is not being able to network properly as people'll probably forget me without regular contact i.e social media

This shit belongs on /adv/
sage and I hope nobody reports this ;3x

/adv/ is too slow and full of retards. Excuse me if I want advice today and not next week.

bump

>a well-balanced human being is productive, has hobbies, pushes him/herself to succeed, is charismatic, and strives to live the best life they can
no shit, but this board is about FITNESS. off-topic shit belongs elsewhere no matter how important (you think) it is.

This is a self improvement board.

You can say to a person that he has to go to the gym to improve himself.
But how does he know what to do in the gym ?
Nobody is going to tell him to start with SS and how to get proper forms for the exercises.

How to meet new people:
>job
>bars
>intermural sports
>Take fun electives (PE, Art, Music) they are more laid back
>join your major's professionals organization

These are your best resources if you are only 18...

>Go workout with intermural bros
>Bang chicks from bars
>Get invites to parties from people at work, class, intermurals, and professionals meetings.
>Go to parties and meet more people
>See if people want to grab lunch on campus
>Always go to a sorority event, function, or formal if you are invited by a female in one... ALWAYS
>Make actual female friends

Protip about those intramurals:
V O L L Y B A L L

Most schools have co-ed teams. Go with a bro/wingman.

Any good 'casual non-fiction'? I like to read before bed and learn without trying too hard. Just finished The Undercover Economist

All right thanks user. I'll look into it.

Don't just look into it bro, go fucking do it.

I want to lad. It just seems like everyone always has plans and shit to do on the weekends/weekdays (and they probably do) that I feel kinda cut. I want to know a lot of people but I also want a good group to regularly hangout with. But nobody wants to be a guys first friend for that. It's just human nature to say no the more people say yes if you catch my drift.

I second Starship Troopers

Last year was completely NEET mode

Now, great job, one more year of uni, go out everynow and then with friends, gains going up

Found out my girl is pregnant. How do I transition from wanting to be an alpha sex god to being content with a good girl and a family? How do I continue to improve my life and support my girlfriend and child?

So far
>Focus on work and building businesses
>Continue to work out and improve my physical body
>Continue to read and improve my mental capacity

I can't go out to bars, can't go meet sloots, I know a lot of people but I can't be arsed to hang out with them as friends anymore. What the fuck do I do?

Hit a wall and started seeing a therapist, on some meds right now, feeling better. Currently in summer school, goal is to get an A in both of my courses before fall semester. Trying to prove to my parents that I can do it and that I'm willing, and that im not an apathetic pile of crap anymore. Going back to the gym. I have some lifting buddies so I'm feeling good about it.

Trying to eat enough each day so I can get bigger, but there's no dining hall in the summer so I cant just hop in there whenever I want. I'll figure something out tho. It seems like more people are talking to me/its easier to talk to others.

/end blogpost

It's bit something you can so right now but moreso after your kid is born.

How old are you if I may ask?

Dont sign anything until you swab the babys mouth. Friend is currently paying 35,000 a month in child support for a kid thats not his. I know I know you love her and shes the love of your life....thats exactly what he said...

Time to be a provider for your family and hopefully shes tolerable to be around

Curious, do you make yourself read?
or does it come naturally?

I treat reading like a task and don't read for the fun

Man I just finished the first Lord of the Rings and I felt very conflicted. It just has moments where my mind is screaming HURRY UP but at the same time I get that it's more about the journey than the destination. Still looking forward to reading Two Towers

Not that guy, but I had the same problem during school.
Only read 1 book that I actually enjoyed, which was The Shadow of the Wind

You probably cant become a CHAD without it, but you will be terrible at it if you haven't had it for years. Lots on nuanced social expectations have developed around it and you'll probably clumsily embarrass yourself through it.

You can do great without it, but a true CHAD probably utilizes social media

I really enjoy it. Could be that you're conditioned from school to see it as a task, or you're just not reading books that actually interest you.

Try to look up something that just seems entertaining. It doesn't have to be really deep or important like a lot the stuff people like post about online.

Thanks! I'm going back to my home uni. I'm still enrolled, just took a break this term.

Bring your book everywhere, I do 80% of my reading in between classes and at work. However, if I do read at home I end up reading for hours and hours. I never really knew I enjoyed reading until 2 years ago and I don't view it as a chore at all.

Tolkien has a very slow writing style and you are right that it is about the journey. One of my uni teachers told me that because of the films it's almost impossible to truly appreciate Tolkien now. The books should be read as if to emerse yourself in a magical and fantastical world, not to just read dialogue and wait for battle scenes.

Veeky Forums browser here

find books you enjoy, then as you read more often and gain knowledge of more books, it will become a cornerstone of your life.

Try not to get into the habit of reading in order to impress others, but to try to read good works.

Have a chart.

come home, set a goal and get to work without pointless roaming around

cheers guys

Good list senpai.

I highly recommend everyone on this board read Moby Dick. Also Under The Volcano. Also Portrait Of The Artist As A Young Man. All top tier literature that deals with themes pertinent to this thread.

>Eckhart Tolle
lolno, just read the German mystics instead starting with Meister Eckhart. But I also really suggest everyone check out and read the Norwegian philosopher Peter Wessel Zapffe, he is and will always be a very important cornerstone to my concepts of life and existence.

What?

I'm 24 years old.

The baby is 100% mine, we spend about 95% of our time together and I cum inside of her every time we have sex. She stopped taking her birth control and I didn't care because cumming inside a girl is insanely satisfying.

just read The Questionnaire and Mein Kampf both pretty good senpai
Mishima is basically the proto Veeky Forumsizen

>Yukio Mishima And Bodybuilding
youtube.com/watch?v=DaqVv5j0m48
>The Strange Case of Yukio Mishima - 1985 - BBC - Arena
youtube.com/watch?v=Ctufj50w9a0

Well enjoy paying for it bro and congratulations on the little crumb snatcher :)

Nice, try getting social with people, make some friends.

I used to not be autistic, but going to a different country with new people really threw me off. I'm kinda lazy to socialize now. I guess I'll just have to get in the habit again.

The key to meeting new people is by regularly being in the same spot as them. Like if you go to the gym and always see the same guy there, you'll probably ask for a spot, chat a little bit, and then eventually start shooting the shit more and more until you hangout outside the gym. Apply this case to anywhere. There's a coffee shop I regularly go to and now I chat with the baristas every time. I could actually go on a date with 1 or 2 of them if I didn't have a gf. And it's all because I regularly go there and interact with them and keep it positive

What do you even talk about with them?

Anything. A lot of times they'll spark the conversation, like if I have a gym bag with me or a grocery bag or if its raining outside. Then we'll have a short flirty back and forth. We joke about my order because I get the same thing and their selection is huge.

Wasn't always like this, it build up because we regularly saw each other. At first it was just hello's and how's your day, simple small talk

For some, it is. Acknowledge that not everyone has the same baseline situation as you

Everyone starts somewhere. Its about getting better everyday!

I am currently self improving my creativity by making a pipe to smoke weed out of. I had a block of wood, a drill, a handsaw, a knife, sandpaper and some patience, and my little pipe is coming along very nicely. I have to work on it in secret because I don't want my parents to ask questions, since I am currently staying at their place for summer vacation. So at night, instead of browsing Veeky Forums and other websites, I put on some music and work on my pipe. I want it to look similar to gandalfs pipe. I plan to use the top of an acorn as the bowl, and might add another acorn top that will be hinged and used as a lid on the bowl. Its gonne be dope.

Word of advice. Before you go crazy and start a long ass list of shit your gonna do. Pick 3 things and stick with them for 7 days

its all about making ur own glass pieces user, look into it if u actually wanna build something worthwhile to smoke out of

I went on a date and she wants to have another one

How do I stop being anxious about food and lifting, and just enjoy it? I like lifting and eating, but I always feel angst all the time about it.
'Is my routine good' 'does this food have enough protein' 'how do I look, have I made gains' 'why are my friends progressing faster than me'

I'm naturally a very anxious person, diagnosed with clincal depression and GAD. Anyone got advice on how to get a relaxed approach towards lifting and eating? I want to just have it as a hobby, without being super anxious.

are you going to tell them what GAD is or be a massive tool. If you think you have depression now wait till the tribulations really begin

I love self teaching/improvement.

My self fulfillment goals:
>Lift 5 days a week
>Learn Japanese
>Learn programming
>Read 50 pages/day
>Watch 3 movies/week

That's it. Takes a lot of time, tho. Just started grad school and it fucking sucks, brehs.

what are you studying in grad school that you have time to learn proper programming and another language?

I'd hardly call my goals "proper programming". My main priority is learning data analysis using Pandas for right now, and toying around a bit with SQL. I don't care to programming anything absurdly complex, my needs are very focused in the domain of research applications. Things is that I'm competing against nurses and psychology people who have no fucking experience with tech at all, so even a rudimentary ability to work with languages puts me way ahead of the pack.

I just study Japanese a little every day, usually around 30 minutes. I used spaced repetition software so it's easy. I'm still early on, just got through Genki 1 and know about 700 words, so I've got a ways to go before I have to put more time into conversations and writing. My goal rn is to put 1000 hours into Japanese total. That's roughly how long I estimate it will take me to get to some decent level of fluency. I'm at 160 hours right now, and working 30 minutes a day I figure it will take me abut 5 years to hit that goal. I'm young (24) so I've got plenty of time. I'd rather go slow and methodically than rush through and do a shitty job.

I'm studying to be a psychiatric nurse practitioner. My program is blended so half my classes are online. Helps a lot with my other priorities. Not too paper focused either so there's not a ton of take home work.

oh sorry, it's general anxiety disorder.
>wait till the tribulations really begin
what's that supposed to mean

Jesus looked chinese champ. Nice try though but your drugs are in the trash. I've never been more happy to be jewish than I am right now.

Awesome man. Plenty of crazy bastards out there so why not make money on their pain. The money will be nothing compared to the pain you inflict on others though so I hope its worth it

Blessings to you both and best of luck in the future battles we will have

I already have a glass bong. I just really like the idea of having the top of an acorn as the smoking bowl for a pipe.

I am trying to draw some inspiration from this guy:

dmpipes.com/archive.html

These look dope as fuck man
How much does a pipe cost? I'd imagine around $150?

Am now home gym master race. Job improved cardio and legs. Now I have a bar and 300lbs of steel.

I'm working my way up slowly adjusting for the little gains I have seen over the course of the last week and a half. I'm starting to fill out nicely. Back and shoulders are getting bigger, legs are more defined, arms are almost double their size and my chest is getting much more solid.

Still babby light lifts. But I'm trying to not injure myself. I think in another 3 days I can increase the weight by 25 again and get more noob growth.

Thanks fit. I'm on my way.