How do you deal with the sex pressure from society? I panic when I think of all the sex everyone's having while I'm not getting laid.
I'm 20 and lost my virginity earlier this year, but hadn't had sex since. Everyone I know and know of seem to bang eachother left and right.
I'm currently on antidepressants that fucks with my erections too, so I don't have the confidence to pick up random club sluts.
Anyone else with this feel?
either try to have sex or stop complaining fag
Only 20% of the men are having all the sex. Don't feel bad.
Isnt that just a meme
I feel ya. I'm the same. But isn't this why we go to the gym and get fit?
>tfw gay
>tfw dont know this feel
>panic when I think
can you see it is you who is causing you to react. In reality nobody really gives a fuck about how many times you're not giving sex. It's the truth I promise. Nobody can care if they tried.
Don't let this illusion in your mind make you too nervous to fuck again
Men are polygynous. Women are serially monogamous. Women are hypergamous.
It follows that the mean number of sexual partners a man has will always be enormously larger than the median number of sexual partners a man has.
The mean number of sexual partners a woman has is necessarily equal to the mean number of sexual partners a man has.
It follows that the median number of sexual partners a woman has will always be larger than the median number of sexual partners a man has.
Hence the necessity in patriarchal societies of using extraordinary and disturbingly drastic means to enforce female chastity, aka double standard. Or, equivalently, eggs are precious, sperm is cheap.
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your problem is not that you are not getting laid (while others are). your problem is that you feel pressured from society to achieve anything (in this case, getting laid).
you have to learn how to not give a shit about what society thinks of you. this is also fundamental to getting laid. people who don't care about getting laid (or people that doesn't think it's that big of a deal) are the people who gets laid.
i would also suggest you quit antidepressants. i was told long ago by psychiatrists to get on pills to deal with my problems but i refused because i dont want to be dependant on substances to feel good about myself.
ironically i did drugs instead. i quit drugs now and working on myself. working out, getting a job, getting better grades. i worked on my confidence, went alone to nightclubs to get women. i got rejected like fuck, some really harsh. but i became better each time.
i've had a crazy summer mate, i've gotten laid like never before by women i would consider myself lucky to just have them looking in my direction.
it's very complex to learn how to not give a fuck, im still working on it. it wont happen over night. you need to hit rock bottom a million times before you realise that nothing can harm you anymore because you've been through worse and survived. good luck
what
Life isn't all about sex user. It'd be pretty boring if all we did was hang out and bang. I might be autistic though because I dont really get why people are so thirsty, constantly commenting on
>damn I'd slay that
>she has huge tits
>constantly wanting sex
I've had gfs since I was 16 that I could bang, had a pretty high sex drive so I had sex like 2-3 times a week. 24 now and just looking for other shit to do with my time. Empty sex is meaningless to me and I just want somebody to connect with now. Don't think I want to put effort into getting laid anymore.
Can anyone explain the thirst in everyone? Is it society? Or am I just the odd man out?
Has anyone ever gone as far as to be more like?
it's society
Veeky Forums doesn't understand what median number is
Do you guys really not understand that guy's post?
Did you drop out of high school?
>The mean number of sexual partners a woman has is necessarily equal to the mean number of sexual partners a man has.
>It follows that the median number of sexual partners a woman has will always be larger than the median number of sexual partners a man has.
dat shiet dont make no sense yo
>samefag intentionally obfuscating his post with pointlessly irregular grammatical structure and word choice so that he can call the confused/irritated people high school drop outs
kill urself
People our age (assuming most of us are millennials) are having less sex than previous generations by a long shot. There are various theories about why that might be the case, but the statistics suggest it is true across the board for our generation, particularly for those of us born between 1988-1994.
I was born in 1991 and have had approximately 31 sexual partners, so I think I may be an outlier, or at the very least at the highest standard deviation. However, more of us are virgins than ever before, and more of us are sexual active with only one to three partners so far in our lives. This includes men and women, and is evenly distributed between both.
Maybe he is not a native speaker and he's just translating.
mfw you're not part of the 20%
>tumblr
Leave
>Thinking I didn't just grab it from google images
How to quit drugs without hitting rock bottom?
Marry a socially awkward homeschooled Christian virgin and she won't care
where can i find one pls
People really don't have that much sex, it's just that the few very active ones won't stop talking about it. And the rest basically lie about it. Isn't it common knowledge that guys are extra horrible when it comes to this shit?
ok so lets explain this shit, cause the op of that comment assumed every remembers stats101 which is silly to assume
You have 10 women who have all have a sexual partner count of 4.Then you have 10 guys, of which 4 have fucked 10 women and 6 have fucked 0.
To recap,for the girls that's
>4,4,4,4,4,4,4,4,4,4
and for guys that's
>10,10,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0
The mean (or average) for women is 4. and the mean for men is also 4. But the median, the number in the middle (or between the middle two since there is no middle number) is 4 for women,but 0 for men.
>38171567
need an equivalent shock to the system
>polygynous
What did he mean by this?
I'm with you OP. I don't enjoy sex so much as the chase - during the act itself I'm too busy thinking what am I doing wrong wheres what everyone hypes up
why do you care OP? Who cares what other people are doing. Also sex isn't that good. I used to care a lot, until I did LSD. And guess what? when i stopped caring what other people thought of me, I started getting girls, and really just enjoying everything life has to offer.
you don't. or rather, i don't know how without hitting it.
i woke up having spent 2500 dollars on coke, molly and alcohol in a single month. i woke up with the worst hangover imaginable, wanting to kill myself. the night before kept coming back, the things i said and did. i literally felt like commiting suicide.
but, i survived. sure, i might have commited social suicide, and i had hit rock bottom. i said never again.
or maybe not EVER again. but not until i fixed my shit (job, getting jacked, studying harder). now i go out and party sober. its a lot more fun and easier to hit on women when you are not fucked out of your mind on substances.
im not perfect but this is my advice to you. quit antidepressants and find a way to become happier. its hard and you will need help along the way.
Not on antis but drinking killing my gains and sleep.
Can't seem to just have one
>polygynous
i think it means several cases of gyno at once
I cant cum from my gf. We have had sex like 5 times and the only time I came was when I jerked myself off for 10 minutes afterwards. Busted the hugest load of my life btw.
I only came once from fucking my gf. Every other time I've had to jerk it. Luckily I can jerk it and cum in under a minute, even though I can be fucking her for almost an hour and not cum.
Did you spend many years jerking off/ watching porn?
Many many years. It's more due to my phimosis though. Besides, I stopped jerking it ever since we started having sex.
I was like that the first few times having sex and then I was finally able to cum. It was just performance anxiety for me
Yeah im in the same boat, first gf at 22. No phimosis, sorry to hear that :/
Yeah I couldn't even get hard the first few times b/c i was nervous. Things are getting better. thanks for the input man
You literally have more sex, that's it. Sex at first is awkward for most people, and I believe the more you don't do it the more awkward it gets.
Fuck escorts for a while, eventually you start to relax.