Sexual Health thread

Maybe she's depressed. Is there something she's dealing with on a personal level?

Hormones change as relationships develop. You need to keep talking to her. You both understand that your libidos are out of sync but you are letting her stick her head in the sand over the repercussions. Tell her 'I find our sex life unsatisfying and I am worried it may end our relationship'. Push the issue, don't bitch out

-Talk to her, maybe something is wrong with her stress/depression, maybe she simply does not know what she is doing
-Get her hormones checked by a doctor

check a video, maybe watch it with her its by esther perel called the "secret to desire in a long term relationship" he also has a book.

just go in and do it. dont ask questions. do it next time fresh and exciting

Actually if your partner is good at fake orgasm, you cant. But if she dont have any mental problems and dont fake orgasm she must open for another sex unless you have enormous big cock or vise versa.
Btw if you are rushing to fuck her and she is the emotional type that means you are fucked :D
Always remember sex is like lifting you have to warmup first which is foreplay for sex.
And if you really satisfy your partner and give her real pleasure of sex then she will want it more.

Yeah, her life oscillates between breakdown in the holidays and performing during her studies. I already told her she'll burn herself out and that she is risking her health.
She has issues expressing herself and orientating in life. Grades and studies give her orientation and self esteem so she invests her energy in "the system".
She doesnt really dare to cultivate "dreams" and follow them, she wants to earn money and buy shit, which is totally legit but not a guarantee for happiness.
Her family is a little dysfunctional, nobody listens, the stepdad is an overweight bitter manchild and a mess, the mom is always doing the martyr thing, the brother is a fullblown neet autist.
I do my best to help her with all this but you cant really change people.

foreplay is really important, try touching, hugging, kissing without any sex a few times a week, make it so she is not stressed or thinking aboutt anything else, see how it goes from there.

That women creeps me out

you mean like rape?

Which country are you from?

lmfao you think if you were good looking and a Chad she wouldn't have sex with you? Face it, she's not attracted to you and only using you for emotional support whilst she fucks Chad when you're at the gym like a fagg

>Which country are you from?
Turkey

Yeah, probably. So hookers it is.

I fucking HATE when girls do this to me. You try to talk about a problem and they make it about themselves. Jesus Christ just thinking about it makes me mad.

Just end it, OP. a relationship without sex is not worth it at all. It's such a huge part of the relationship imo. that I couldn't live to go a week without it.

Find another girl that has somewhat the same sex drive as yourself.

Makes fun of hookers
Ur girlfriend/wife posts pictures of Chad's she's fucked in bathrooms because they bought her a pint of alcohol

How's it feel to be a white Knight

Happens all the time. She's just lost attraction to you. Just be happy you're not married and tied with kids.

>hurr durr talk to her
This is bullshit advice. You can't negotiate attraction. Best case scenario you will get a couple of pity fucks and then it will return to usual.

>We already adressed that but she just start beeing "so sad, that she can give me what i need" until i comfort her. She just twists that shit around and makes herself the victim.
This fucking bullshit mayne. I'm seriously considering going gay.

My gf and I have sex maybe once or twice a day.

Befriend a gay guy with attractive lesbian friends. Have girl you're having sex problems with see you with hot lesbian friends. Her fear of loss seeing you with attractive women activates urges to get sex from you because she sees you with attractive women.

You're welcome

19 year old fuckboy at Uni (UK)

51 sexual partners

3 STDs

Ask me anything

whats having an std like?

Herpes pops up about 3 times a year, irritating but just take acclyvior for it

Clap is like you keep having lil bits of piss but can be gotten rid of by taking 4 tablets and not having sex for a year

crabs was the worst, insane iching and had to rely on cream

ignore year - meant a week.

are they worth it?

I got Clap and Herpes through unprotected oral

crabs can be given even with a condom

Herpes is horrible and not worth it, the other two are treatable and dont affect you at all.

Story of how I got herpes incoming cause you guys will probably appreciate it although its the most regrettable thing in my life

PROTIP: wear a fucking condom, a LOT of girls have STDs

Story time with UNI-MAN-WHORE
>be me, 19
>work at a club in UK called "Lola Lo's"
>(Imagine a tropical themed club)
>be bartender
>not a lot of guys work there but got the job because I workout with one of the team leaders
>staff night out
>staff get really cheap drinks, £1 pints, £1 jagerboms, etc
>get very fucked
>work with two fatties, lets call them H and G
>get very drunk through the night and pull a girl who is friends of the staff, even though attempting to pull another 8/10 collegue
>good night nothing major happens
>girl I was attempting to pull invites me, two fatties and gay-bro back for an afterparty
>girl who I was attempting to pull ends up throwing up and going to bed
>very drunk

(cont)

She's probably fucking another guy

>H and G are pretty fucked so decide they're gonna share a bed
>these two hams are just peaking 200lb at 5ft6
>sofa was covered in sick from 8/10 so I decide to share the bed with two fatties

>black out

>come to in bed with two fatties who are naked
>im just in boxers
> hard as fuck and very drunk
>H decided to go get some water and as soon as she leaves G gets ontop of me
>sufficate.jpg but any hole is a goal
>H comes back in with me ontop
>G gets next to me and stars kissing neck
>for some reason I thought it would be a good idea to challenge them to see who could give the best blowjob
>H starts first, pretty poor
>G's go after. for a fattie it was bretty good
>these two fatties are now sharing my cock

(cont)

(food captcha to post this lmao)

(cont)

>both H and G get into doggy
>ok lets do this
>go in raw like a fucking retard
>fuck both of them while trying to imagine something better than the situation im in
>end up finishing on one of their stomach

>two weeks later
>both H and G have told entire workplace of what happened
>SYMPTOMS.png

>H somehow gave me herpes, I'm assuming it was through oral

>G and Me both start to display all symptoms of HSV2 - confront H
>H denies the accusations despite having the start of a coldsore on her 5th fucking chin
>quit working there and never come back

>fuck my life

>one month later ended up fucking the 8/10 even after she knew about H and G and the Herpes alligations

Protips:

Work in a nightclub and everyone knows everything

Dont fuck fatties

Wear a fucking condom lads

rip

>can be gotten rid of by taking 4 tablets and not having sex for a year
haha how can a man not have sex for a whole year haha right

How do you feel about transmitting your disease to other people

Are you aware herpes can spread despite condom usage if pelvic areas touch

Have you considered masturbation-only for life or suicide

>51 sexual partners
>Ask me anything
Were those all with subpar bitches or did you actually fuck some attractive women?

what were the STDs?

To the OP, it happens, i think a lot of girls legit have a low natural libido and after the brief honeymoon stage of the relationship settle into their "natural" state of sexual desire. I wouldn't be too hard on yourself though, and i 100% get the woman twisting things so that they are at fault. I'm in a similar situation with my gf and the amount of times she says "don't you wish you were with someone who was horny all the time", naturally this is Woman Traps 101 so am good at saying the right thing,

I would look at the 12 levels of DREAD, i hate all that redpill bullshit but it might be worth reading just to get an idea of steps you can take. You don't want to feel powerless and bitter at the same time.

Good luck user.

hey man is that lola lo in oxford??

>i hate all that redpill bullshit

Unless very drunk I tend to only go for 7's or above

there are only 5-10 whoa re sub par that was down to pure intoxication

To be fair, I dont really care. Yeah I know, it's "awful" I tend to only have one night stands and no numbers are exchanged.

See:

Men are conditioned to think that wanting sex from women is bad. I've fucked plenty of times when I didn't really want to at first because the girl did.

Not to mention, most women don't do shit during sex anyway. Literally only fucked 1 girl who knew how to ride a dick. She just has to lie there, take the dick, and enjoy herself.

Nah man, I'm up north.

most of it is incredibly autistic and is actively deciding to look at the world through the worst possible prism.

It's made by people who naturally have a shit social circle and assume the world to be an extension of that. There are LOADS of girls that are educated, health conscious and desire to be in a relationship with a high quality partner. Just because you don't represent that high quality partner or are only exposed to shitty people doesn't mean the whole world is wrong.

>impossible prism
>100 years ago most of society had rates of obesity/overweightness close to zero %, like todays japan with 3%
>Most testosterone of men was okay and men were healthy and good

>cultures, civilizations often are cyclical. That means that the average of society changes EVERYONE
>you are one of these people who has no recollection or idea of how different it could be, or was and thinks that his virtue of simply being alive is enough evidence for your statements.

100 years ago sugar was still rare, smokers were far less...people still walked. We are living in this style of living for an extremely brief time. You have to be really retarded to think that the way that we are living is natural.

Preach it

#BornInTheWrongGeneration - stop trying to be red-pill. it's just a bunch of angry virgins pretending to be high-status when in reality women arent complex. just be yourself and if thats an autistic cunt then allow it

>spot the dumbfag millennial

>"awful"

This isn't some sort of made up "awful". You're ruining peoples' lives. Please consider suicide.

Uni-man-whore here

What is the whole "red-pill" thing? never understood and too lazy to research

Am I though? You seriously underestimate the number of people with STIs

Dont be so ignorant to the fact people fuck. I wear condoms, dont fuck when I have an outbreak. and that's all I can do.

Stop using cuck number one.

You should just hook up with other chicks on the sly. Your gf is too accustomed to you now. Don't show her so much attention for a while and she'll come crawling back

>Start flirting with other girls when she's around, touch them a bit.
>Go out with your friends without her and basically make it so you have one foot in the relationship and one out.
>After 2 weeks of this and she hasn't got it yet, stop touching her entirely
>She'll get the hint quickly enough and do something about it if she really cares.

Best of luck

>smokers were less

That's just not true. You need to stop looking at history with rose tinted glasses, especially when your last exposure to history probably came in high school

so much bullshit in your post i can't be bothered to go through point by point. Keep your rosy retrospection and I hope your view of the world leads you to a fulfilling lifestyle, rather than a permanent state of resentment towards the world. That way of being ends up only eroding yourself.

You know OP. Life isnt a porno where girls want your cock inside 24/7.

bunch of virgins that can't get laid so assume that their pathetic life is the world's fault rather than their own. Literally the other side of the coin to SJW, same level of entitlement but different mental gymnastics

herpesopportunity.com/downloads/herpes-opportunity-disclosure-handout.pdf

>transmission rates
>herpes male to non-herpes female
>10%
>assumes no active outbreaks
>condom usage decreases this by 30%-50%
>daily antiviral medication lowers risk by 48%

I found some medicine, it would cost about $1.25 per day.

walgreens.com/store/c/olympian-labs-herp-eeze-vegetarian-capsules/ID=prod6161320-product?ext=gooPLA_-_Vitamins&pla&kpid=sku6144018&sst=2c0dd490-24c7-46a7-9b0d-2393998cbd06&adtype=pla

I've never researched this stuff before, it's kind of interesting.

Anyway with no medicine that's about 1 in 18 sexual encounters, with medicine it's about 1 in 36. Very significant either way but the medicine would help a lot.

I've been in your situation. My gf at the time never wanted to fuck, and would literally cry when we did it because she was so bad at it and she knew she wasn't satisfying me.

She was depressed so I assumed it had effected her low sex drive. I tried to help her in every way shape and form to get things better.

Found out she was cheating on me with a couple dudes. She just wasn't attracted to me any more and I was a cuck in denial.

I suggest you leave her. From what you're describing it's a lost cause

Cheers man but I already have acyclovir from NHS.

Basedbro though

>with no medicine that's about 1 in 18 sexual encounters, with medicine it's about 1 in 36

and that assumes you're using a condom

desu mate it's pretty simple she has lost desire for you. Don't by the bullshit, women are very sexual and they need regular sex.

If she isn't getting it from you, you can bet she is getting it somewhere else.

You have two non pathetic options

1. Drop her
2. Find some side girls to have regular sex if you really don't want to break up with her.

>women are very sexual and they need regular sex.
Wrong

>If she isn't getting it from you, you can bet she is getting it somewhere else.
Right!
OP should break up, what OP is doing is hurtful to his selfesteem since its basically turbo rejection non-stop. Youre better off single
Even if you never find another girl willing to fuck again youre way better off than being a cuck and dealing with that bullshit

>mfw people give the "talk to her about" advice

lmaaoooo how fucking clueless are you cucks?

Talking to her about it literally translates in her mind:

>Baby i am such a loser that not only you don't want to have sex with me, but i have to beg for it because you are my only option and i can't get sex anywhere else, thus confirming what a loser i am.

Fucking dump her. Why would you give out your time and commitment to a girl you are not having sex with?

You should always wear a condom w/ ONS or youll end up like me

Lmao thats fucking retarded. I'm by no means 'Alpha' but pulling a 9/10 doesn't require mind games. be yourself, send risky texts. and dont be a fucking melt

>lmaaoooo how fucking clueless are you cucks?
Talking to your partner is the first step towards letting her know youre not happy so atleast she has a chance to know things arent as they should be
Nevertheless if the sex dies the relationship is doomed but talking to your gf is never a bad idea

so you're saying women don't need regular sex? on what basis?

>I'm by no means 'Alpha' but pulling a 9/10 doesn't require mind games. be yourself, send risky texts. and dont be a fucking melt
Please google redpill comics, its hilarious and sad at the same time

>Talking to your partner is the first step towards letting her know youre not happy
>letting her know youre not happy

Protip:

She knows very well his not happy, she just doesn't give a shit. No need to have "the talk" about it and demonstrate how powerless he is about it. This will make the situation even worse, he will fall even more in her eyes.

What can you possibly accomplish with that talk? The girl has no desire towards him, and no talking will bring it back, because desire is a natural body response not something you talk about.

I'll tell you what can bring her desire back though. He being balls deep in some other girl.

>redpill comics

I just got cancer.

If anyone is reading this who actually follows this shit. (I'm )

Stop. Get a job, talk to people.

I stopped a young girl outside of Asda last thursday and said "Hello, I'm (Uni-Man-Whore), You're cute, can I get your number? and I'm going out for a drink with her tomorrow.

Why do people think girls are complex and require this amount of effort. It's saddening.

Im saying women arent as sexually interested as guys are, there have been studies about this aswell.
Sex for girls is alot more complicated than it is for guys

>Why do people think girls are complex and require this amount of effort. It's saddening.

they build up an image of perfection in their heads and lots of theoreticals, they become consumed by thinking.

The fact you don't know nothing about The Red Pill doesn't mean you aren't applying the philosophy in your life.

>I stopped a young girl outside of Asda last thursday and said "Hello, I'm (Uni-Man-Whore), You're cute, can I get your number? and I'm going out for a drink with her tomorrow.

That's pretty red pill. Red pill doesn't say it's complex it just teaches you how to get to that point where it is that easy.

What studies? I agree that it can be more complicated, but really only thing stopping most girls from getting gang banged is simply society.

This is all blue pill propaganda

The "A lot more complicated" is a meme omen sell to get away with not wanting to have sex with betas.
When a woman is attracted to a guy she will have wild sex with him and won't be able to have enough of it.

There is no boundary she won't cross, she will change her religion, she will dissow her family.

Ah so its a form of overthinking and over analysing all human interactions?

Right, so it's teaching confidence to those who wernt exposed to social situations during puberty?

I guess I understand, I came out of my 'shell' when I was 15/16 when I started going to parties and lifting, before that I used to play a lot of Xbox.

I'm sure that happened.

And if it were true, I don't know what's going to be funnier. You sitting alone when some random girl decided she didn't want to go out with you or her sending her morbidly obese friend in her place.

>Ah so its a form of overthinking and over analysing all human interactions?
In my opinion yeah, they also put them on a pedestal, like they're angels or something, where you have to be perfect and they have to be perfect.

I'm so glad STDs exist so licentious libertines get what they deserve.

You dont believe that I said hello to a girl?

Fucking hell Veeky Forums.

b8.

no man, i mean the mental gymnastics over how the world works.Eg:
>I spoke to this girl at a party
>it felt like there was a connection
>she left with another guy
>she didn't say bye to me
>she must be a SLUT that just wants CHAD
>all women must be like that
>it's degenerate societies fault
>the world is wrong

You know that kind of mentality, you must know some people that feel like women owe him sex and resent that. Now give them a place online to go speak to each other and develop their own theories and you get TheRedPill

its /r9k/ on Veeky Forums

>What can you possibly accomplish with that talk?
Men face their problems, talking to her is facing it
Im not saying it will solve anything because once the sex dies its pretty much over but too many guys become passive-aggressive bitches and dont even dare to talk to their gf and telling her things are fucked up
Otherwise he would have to sneak around behind her back fucking other chicks and refuse to deal with the problem, does that sound like a man to you? It sure doesnt sound like it to me

>Red pill doesn't say it's complex
No offence mate but TRP is pretty cringeworthy
Im a guy and like all guys i want sex and lots of it, TRP however is bullshit because it doesnt really "teach" you anything beyond a very toxic attitude towards women in general since many guys on TRP are frustrated those 10/10 mega bitches wont fuck them when they are sloppy neckbeards who refuse to better themselves in most cases
Some other user said TRP is 95% bullshit and 5% gold, im inclined to agree

>Right, so it's teaching confidence to those who wernt exposed to social situations during puberty?

Pretty much.

Red pill is just observed action of players with women, deconstructed into terms and routines and explained logically to help autists grasp it.

It wasn't something that was invented it was just stuff that succesfull womanizers have been doing for years, written down and formulated lyrically .

I actually understand, theres a group of weirder guys on my uni course who seem to feel that way

I hope it's bait for their own sake

Shes fukin someone eles n is scared u will be able to tell once u fuck her drop that bicth

Another user here, but my favourite is when they expect the women they are attracted to (10/10s) to love them and not be "shallow" (i.e. not base attraction on looks, because they aren't good looking), its crazy amounts of double think, where they can "love" a woman solely based on her looks, but when a woman bases her attraction on looks she's a slut for chad.

I understand the concept of it, I think it can be good for the more introverted people, but after some research it seems like some guys think that girls are quite complex and owe sex - thats what im struggling to comprehend, I'm hoping its only a minority in the so-called 'movement'

The advice I got when I was 15 was to work on myself and be proud of my achievements and the rest will follow. seems to have done me well so far

>Otherwise he would have to sneak around behind her back fucking other chicks and refuse to deal with the problem, does that sound like a man to you? It sure doesnt sound like it to me

Yes he would be more of a man, because now he is a cuck, and if he started fucking around he would be much less pathetic.

>Men face their problems

Facing the problem would be dumping her. Talking to her would be just digging the hole deeper.

So talking to her is what he does because he isn't man enough to break up with this chick

but user, if there were no permanent stds, humans could literally fuck like bunny rabbits with zero consequences, it would be paradise. (see IUDs and Brave New World)

The sad part is, if those with permanent viral stds just did the logical thing and abstained/suicided/got euthanized, this could've been accomplished.

As it stands everyone with one of these should logically just end it, to reduce overall suffering. Go get addicted to a drug, think of how you can get depressed, just find a way.

sincerely,
Society

It's funny because it's not really their fault.

They have been told this and brainwashed since day one.

>Just b yourself and a woman will come who will love you unconditionally because of your (((inner beauty))), all the other girls that don't like you don't deserve you.

This is the message young men are fed through media, their parents and so on.

The point is they don't love women for their "inner" beauty, they don't jerk off thinking about some girl with great personality, they jerk off to some girl with nice face/ass/tits.

100% you get it, i knew people like that at university and before i could get laid and had functional social and romantic relationships I feel like i could have easily slipped and become one of them.

They act like they see the world for what it really is but don't have the ability to place themselves in this world. At this point they will either react in one of two ways:
>1. Step up their game, if they are obese or social outcasts they will lose weight, make active improvements in social life etc. If this happens they almost inevitably realise that the world isn't black and white and hopefully move on from all the TRP bullshit and become normal functional people
>2. Not do anything, shut their eyes and ears and keep on being themselves, destined for a lifetime or resentment and hate for the world

Unfortunately no. 2 is the majority and we have a selection bias for them because the first group would stop posting and spreading the ideas. I think there are 1 or 2 valid points or ideas that TRP has but as a whole it is toxic for the person that decides to see things through this prism.

Here are some of them, ive seen newer but i didnt save them
You can read the link above too, women dont want/need sex as much as guys do
Do women still want sex? yes, ofc but point being men have a much stronger sex drive than women

There was some woman (i forgot her name, ill search) who basically was a tranny and she confirmed all the bad things with dating and male sex drive so it was pretty interesting to read about.

i might suck myself off when i get a cold sore and fuck other women raw just to piss you off.

its easier to believe that you can't change, change requires active effort/thought/patience, staying the same just needs self pity/anger etc.......