Got a date with a girl tomorrow, wanna back out of it. How do i stop my toxic mindset...

got a date with a girl tomorrow, wanna back out of it. How do i stop my toxic mindset, I feel like i'm shit and not worth anyone time. I try so hard to get rid of this mindset, good grades, great job and good career prospect. Lifting now to get that perfect body, but i don't think it gonna help. How do i be happy with myself.

By going out with her

nobody's gonna be happy for you, you have to choose to be happy

you fucking wanker

Did you guys ever deal with this, exactly how did you stop it?

Why you feel like that man?

bottle your anger and use it just like the psychologist says you shouldnt

just have a massive inferioirty complex. I always push myself hard because I feel that i'm not worth it for the world.

Dont worry too much man, you take care of your body and you mentioned school. You are really valuable and we are here for you, at least i am. If youd like to talk a bit more about it i can be here for you. Fem user btw, no, wont post tits sorry

Thanks, I like the girl and all but i have fears that it won't work out, I'm a senior in college and i've yet to lost my v-card, don't do parties but i have nice circle of friend, I hate alot of degeneracy and I focused alot of my college career on education and getting a nice paying job. However my love life is shit, I always feel inadquete and I always put women on some pedestal, I know i should feel important, I know i'm smart and I got into one of the best companies last year and they never hire from my school. Still i feel like i'm worth a sack of shit when it comes to dating.

What about ass?

It's just like training any muscle.
The heaviest weights we lift, are in our heads.

So you've fucked yourself. You've seen the horrors of The Warp, while traversing the online hyperspace.
You've seen all the gore, scat, rape, kiddie-porn bullshit...Hell you even began to like that shit.

You're like an addict with a needle in your arm...
Because sometimes we can enjoy the pain. We can feel good from the melancholy, pain, and anger in some twisted way.

Take the needle out of your arm...

Take the needle out, and light a candle.
Start with just the bar.
Start by focusing on just your body. The body dismorphia will kick in, and the bad thoughts will come... but sail right past...

With a candle in our small boat, we are sailing towards home.

Focus on the feelings. Immediately you'll be hit with "dem feels", but it's just a gentle wind along the way. Feel how warm your body is, and even though you may be disgusted with it, focus on how comfortable you are.

Focus deeper on this comfort, and you'll begin to relax. Focus on how soft your bed is, or how the air rests on your exposed body...

We're almost home.

I don't care if you're a landwhale gasping for each breath, Or a skelly drawing breath like a death rattle...The act of breathing ties you to the only precious thing in the universe: your life.
(Unless you're a post-singularity, sentient A.I.
In which case, let's be friends)

Focus on how pleasurable each breath you take. Feel your chest rise and fall. Feel the air flowing in and out. And there you'll find peace.
Like a lighthouse in the distance.

The thoughts may appear from time to time, but keep your gaze on the light as you sail past. Nothing can hurt you, as long as you see the light ahead....
Congratz noob-lord, you've lifted the bar. You've learned how to be aware of the present moment.

Oh my god man! Are you even hearing you? You are the one that is like on the top of the world, i would do anything to find a guy like you. You areally really are worth a lot and as a person you sound like such a nice and caring guy. Remember that your life also matters and while you are in love with this girl or something, remember that she is for you for a reason.

go have fun and don't worry about the outcome

So now you've learned what the bar is, but when you leave "home" something is off.
You look around your environment, among the anime wall scrolls, lolicon wallpaper, and MLP posters... and you won't even peak into the deep folders of your hardrive...
Your environment is just shit. everything from the depressing/screamo/black music you listen to, all the way to the stuff you read and see on the net.

It's so bad, that it's poisoning your perception. You leave your house and bring all that shit with you into the world. You see things differently, and lament that all you see is shit...

So you load up the bar. Time to lift weights.

Start small, you wouldn't put an untrained noob under a 315 lbs bench.
Start with a tiny feature of yourself or the environment that you think is shitty.

We're not talking about your massive gut, or the shithole you live in... but rather something like your hand, or maybe a lamp in your room.
What you are going to do may feel forced an unnatural at first, and there is some truth to it. You are lifting weights here, you will need to apply force or be dragged under the shit-slop.
Start to appreciate the thing you're focusing on.
Maybe you like how articulate your hands are. Or the size and shape. Large, warm, and bountiful? Or perhaps small, lithe, and dexterous.
Maybe how inviting the light is, how it sets a mood, and brightens the room in a pleasant way.

Keep doing this, and get bigger and bigger. Move to other objects/features.Keep shining light on everything you see, and only become aware of the best traits.
Ignore the thoughts that you are deluding yourself, that you aren't being "real". You are training, not accurately observing.

Here's the interesting thing about this exercise: you will begin to actually perceive the object/feature in the way you are describing. It's the equivalent of a self-fulfilling prophecy/placebo-effect/positive feedback loop... all rolled into one.

Eventually, you make gains.
And things will be better.
And by remaining "present", you'll immediately recognize your internal state and surroundings.
And just like before, you simply apply force and shape whatever you see/experience to the way you want.
And just like lifting weights, when you get strong enough; the loads you struggled with in the past are a cool breeze now.
Do it enough, and it becomes automatic.

That's all there is to it.

Note: Ultimately you have the power to shape what you see/experience into whatever you want. that means for 'good' or 'bad'. Whatever that means. Like a sculptor, sometimes it's necessary to make relief cuts...or in stage lighting, the shadows as well as the light set the scene and mood. Master both, and you have greater range.

Take a shot or two of liquid courage before you go.

Hey I like these photos a lot user, thanks

gorilla semen?

Let her be the judge of that. Your insecurity will show on its own anyway. Just try to enjoy yourself while you are with someone you are interested in.

That is a good thing right? Then treat it as getting a present and be happy with it, phraggot

Just figure out how to have fun
If you're having a good time she will too, every date you go on will help you get a little better at dating, so there's nothing to lose.

As long as you're not
>dyel
>fat
>manlet
>autistic
you have nothing to worry about.

What about feet?

If you don't wanna go, don't, nobody is forcing you. If you want to go, just go.

A girl that likes me invited me to a fashion show where she was supposed to get an award or something, I said yes. 2 days later I called her and said something big came up and I had to cancel.

She was dissapointed but at least I could play dota all day.

gay

Not op but I'm
5"11
Swole
17% bf
Never had gf but kissed and held hands
How ready am I ?