I literally had no idea where to go, or where to ask for some kind of help.
We were in a relationship of 1 year and 8 months.
She left me because she was feeling insecure about her body. This is not only because of me going to the gym, this is mostly because I used to watch porn and because she hated fucking Veeky Forums and how we are kind of weeaboo virginfags even when we are not real virgins.
I truly loved her, and we were trying not to break up, but from what she told me, she could not ease the feeling of insecurity and not being loved (because I watched other girls in the past).
I feel like shit right now and I thought that maybe I could share it here, even if it is for only an answer saying "stop being a faggot", but I literally have no real friend to talk with.
To not make this a nonfitness thread, I would like to ask:
>Did lifting help you to forget bad moments in your life?
Also pic related, it's her saying that she still has problems with what I did, and I'm just saying "you just broke with me, Isn't that a relief?".
She was uncomfortable cause you watch porn? There's a good chance she was hiding something bro
It's a different world when lifting, just me and the iron. Nothing matters but to win for the day. Sometimes I win, sometimes the iron wins. Either way that feeling lasts long enough to keep me up
Ian Cooper
>I'm breaking up with you because I'm insecure
She's either lying or a total piece of shit. So, either way she's shit and you're better. Go out and get laid.
Zachary Perry
Nice trips, OP.
Lifting surely helps. You will eventually realize it's part of life, you get stronger, you learn new stuff and you try to not make the same mistakes. It's hard as fuck but you're the only one capable of moving on. You're not a faggot for feeling like shit, you're just a normal human bean.
btw are you an argiebro? google fabio fusaro
Asher Miller
Sorry mate, while crying and drinking it ain't easy for me to say anything that makes sense. Thanks for reading it anyways.
I don't think she was hiding anything, she never lyed to me, I'm pretty sure it was just her being sensitive
Christian Sanchez
Wait, she's guilt-tripping you because you watched girls in porn?
just lol
Anyway, that wasn't the real reason. She probably found another dick to jump on. When women break up with guys they try to spin it as the guy's fault as much as possible. She just completely made this nonsense up. Women are shit, get use to it.
Nolan Reyes
look man, this shit isn't always easy. you need to redirect the centre of your life to focus on yourself. fitness related: yes go lift retard it helps
Chase Wright
Not argie, Urubro here.
No tengo más Fb, lo borré ahora. Lo único que tengo es Wpp.
I will most definetly go and lift some weight on monday. Thanks.
Dylan Flores
It helps to erase the past, but it also lets you know how much further you have to go. She left you for a stupid reason and it's clear that she lacks the maturity to be a long-term relationship. Maybe that'll not be the case one day, but for now it's best to focus on your own life.
Parker Wright
Thank you too. I'm not sure I'm going to make it in college on this semester how I'm feeling right now. But I'll try my best for focusing on me, on acquiring knowledge, gaining strenght, etc. Thanks a lot.
Wyatt Cooper
Ella no es tu vida. Borrala a ella pero no te borres a ti. Metete al gym, consigue hobbies nuevos, conoce gente, haz un cambio. Con el tiempo te sentiras mucho mejor.
Isaac Clark
Part of me wants to agree and say she was hiding something. I've learned to live by this ideal. Never attribute to malice what you can attribute to idiocy and lack of forethought. Either way, result is the same. Crazy insecure person is not in your life. Right now, do not think about going after her. Drink a bit tonight, forget about her in the morning. You're better off without that mess in your life. In 5 years time you'll have moved on to something amazing and she'll still be insecure.
Angel Price
Puertorican fag here, todos lo lograremos, hermano.
The best i can say is if you didn't already sit down with her, tell her the reasons you love her and why its always going to be more than just sex and eye candy that is one vital thing you should've done. This is why allowing porn into a relationship is a sure fire way too cause problems, it will always boil down in a woman's head to "you'd rather get satisfaction from these barbie-looking women than me" ALWAYS.
It seems her issues stem far beyond your influence, she needs to figure this out herself and learn to love herself to the point where these things stop affecting her decision making in a relationship. If you love her, be a friend but give her space, she has issues with herself and she needs to learn to face them.
similar thing happened with an ex of mine, we casually talk from time to time but even though i was crazy for her i had to give her space sort out her big insecurities that along with my sometimes cold and calculating heart made a good relationship unbearable.
Hace sentido que le duela porque no eres tu es su propia mente la que le estaba causando problemas. No le cuestiones el porque le duele, deja que sane sola pero si ella sigue buscandote para tirarte el dedo sin tu escribirle ni nada con mucho respeto apartate de ella, eso significa que quiere hacer de su problema tuyo tambien y eso no va.
Pero deja la porno, es un asesino de estima, hormonas y relaciones por nada mas que una simple paja.
Asher Peterson
Forget about her urgaybro. Women are a dime a dozen just concentrate on lifting and just hit it and quit it when it comes to chicks
Jaxon Gray
That's what I'm trying to think, 5 year from now, it won't really matter anymore. Thanks. Wow, no words for this. Simplemente sorprendente. No tengo dudas de que dices lo correcto. Ya no me pajeo e intentaré que ésto se mantenga así. Muchas gracias, algún día visitaré Puerto Rico y pensaré en tus palabras nuevamente. Thank you very much.
I used to do the hit it and quit it scheme for girls. But I thought it would be a good idea to have a relationship, I was really hoping to get a long term thing from that Girl.
David Bennett
>I was really hoping to get a long term thing from that Girl Most women arent capable of thinking that far ahead. They dont even know what they want most of the time. Theyre like overgrown children 2bh
Ryan Kelly
I started lifting in December after a hard breakup, on the 3x weekly 'only deadlifts can make the pain stop' plan, AKA Starting Feels. I've been going strong ever since. It took time for my confidence and sense of self-worth to come back, but at least I used that time and energy to grow stronger and make something useful of myself. Time well spent, IMO.
Daniel Parker
Me ha pasado mucha mierda en la vida para algo me tiene que servir jajaja
Colton Phillips
I'll start working hard on those deadlift too. Thanks for your words.
Benjamin Wilson
Brah, it hurts at first but it's a sort of must-go-through experience for every male, you're most likely young, you're most likely not even near the prime of your wealth, skills, intelligence or physique - it will get better and a girl that breaks up over something so stupid is either hiding her true reason for breaking up or is so emotionally unstable that she would've drained you emotionally later on in life.
A good companion in life is one that gives you higher self worth, a good outlook on life and pushes you higher - not one that's depressed you fapped once.
Cooper Walker
Thats true, there are a lot of things I do have to work about my life. Thanks.
Noah Ortiz
I legitimately don't understand posts like this. Why is this board so filled with soft cunts
Dominic Baker
>look man
Not a 'man' really, OP is surely a kid, and probably this is his first break up
Robert Walker
the view must be nice from that glass house. emotional health fits well into the purpose of living an overall healthy life. You, on the other hand, sound like you're hiding behind of mask of ignorance of your own, very clear, insecurities to make it through life which in the end will be your undoing. Being exposed to criticism and being hurt builds character and will take a lot of very emotionally-ill Veeky Forumsizens out of the laughable misconceptions they have of themselves as humans, relationships and life.
i've been lurk/posting here for 5 years i think, i'm a firm believer that this board can help alot of crippled minds be strong and healthy along with their bodies. But guys like you need a reality check
Christopher Baker
My first real break up. I had a few relationships before, but I did not have a big enough emotional bond. And yes, I am 23 yo kid. But at least I'm trying to work things out.
Jordan Williams
Holy shit dude I don't think you could possibly project any harder.
Caleb Morales
Hey man I know it sucks, about a year ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years... we were living together, had been together since uni and everyone including our parents and friends thought we would eventually get married
It was really hard because I was so emotionally dependent on her, I was very hollow in the months that followed - didn't go out on Fridays with coworkers or friends and spent my weekends wallowing in self pity
This was a mistake, you've got to just do stuff to get your mind straight - go to the gym, focus on work, call up your friends and do stuff with them.
It won't be easy, it never is especially when you've been together so long - but you're young and will get over it. Don't feel ashamed if you feel sad. Everyone gets over it, it just takes time - so you might as well do your best to make it sooner rather than later
Dylan Perez
lmao you're all faggots
so what if a girl doesn't want to see you anymore, grow up and get another one
women aren't special, they're a dime a dozen in fact
Brody Wright
Found out today my ex gf has been spreading lies to our mutual friends about how much of a dickhead I am, which I was almost certain she would do. For instance, she's claiming I dropped her in the middle of a shift when actually she ended it on a Tuesday night, a night neither of us worked. Via facebook too. She's also gone crawling back to her shitty minimum wage job that she used to whinge incessantly about, and has probably bailed on doing anything productive next year.
I have been making nice gains the last few weeks, setting PR's and stuff. I'm going to grad school next year and the new job I got is going pretty well. So that's a win for me, I'm afraid Izzy.
Christian Sanders
Bromigo:
Creeme que estas mejor si te quiere dejar porque viste porno. Hay dos opciones, o esta mintiendo y te deja por otra razon oculta o es asi de insegura. En ambos casos demuestra una gran falla de caracter y estas mejor solo. Tus emociones te dicen lo contrario y influencian tu razon pero esta es la verdad. Alguien que no puede estar contigo porque viste porno antes es extremadamente inseguro y va a ser un gran problema a largo plazo que no te dejara crecer. Acaso no podras tener amigas? Salir con amigos y amigas? Con ella no. Y no podrias dejar de ser un neet y convertirte en alguien emocionalmente mas maduro. Te recomiendo leer el libro "emotional intelligence" de Daniel Goleman. Entrena duro hermano y comienza una nueva vida. Deseale lo mejor a ella tambien. Te hara libre.
Robert Sullivan
hope one of you is still up rn
How do i combat my autism, im a sophomore in uni and i can't ever find an excuse to talk to any girl, made a tinder recently for the sole purpose of just finding a friend who is a girl (got rejected by a girl on there too.)
I always ask my friends how to get to know more people and they tell me to do shit that I would just think is rly weird like introducing yourself in line or just out of nowhere (even if I did that i would be too fucking autistic to keep the conversation going) The reason i am trying to get fit (I'm a skeleton rn) is so more people will talk to me instead of me having to talk to them because I think i will be more confident.
Fuck, my disgusting baboon face skinnyfat roommate talks to more girls than me
I never talk to anyone but still I have a shitload of friends, men and female. I literally don't remember there to be one friend that didn't talk to me first. I've always wondered why I even have friends, guess Im just fucking awesome.
Anthony Davis
Shitsux, bro. But like everything, this too shall pass. Lift strong, and lift hard.
