Mental Fitness Thread: "No"vember Edition

Drink less. Read a chapter of a nonfiction book and then go out for a walk where you contemplate what you read instead.

>Drink less. Read a chapter of a nonfiction book and then go out for a walk where you contemplate what you read instead.
I will drink less over the next couple of days but I've been reading scifi stuff like Philip K Dick and Neal Stephenson

Only good nonfiction books I have are a biography of Margaret Thatcher and a book on the Federal Reserve

Jesus Christ user. Money >>>>>> looks. Especially if it's purely aesthetic looks and not related to being fat/unfit. Take care of that shit later you literally have your whole entire life to fix it or get over it and get with girlies.

Asking questions about their health is a very awkward situation for anyone to ask, but if it makes you comfortable hopefully Stacy with understand. The risks of sexsual intercourse are a preventable and some rarer than you think.

If you don't want to get your partner pregnant work with her menstruation cycle, some say that it's impossible to get her pregnant. Do more research about being safe

STEM dropout thinking he will be able to get a job good enough to pay for expensive plastic surgery. Stay in school. Get the surgery after.

Continue your studies, who cares how you look. Worry about that later, this is so much more important

With no experience you are doomed to a rough first time, the best you can do is do penial exercises and cardio and hope for the best.

Do any of you have experience with anxiety/depression meds? I used to not believe in that, but things started crumbling and I sought help and I'm most likely gonna be on meds now? Do they help?

meds help, and the right meds can help a lot
but dont expect it to work like a magic pill where suddenly its all sunshine and rainbows

just want to keep your expectations realistic

>tfw got really horny and did some really heavy petting with ex gf
Fuck that was close brahs, I got massive blue balls but it was worth it to not sleep with her again.

Other than that, doing pretty well at the moment.

I've been on a couple of different meds. For depression I've been on citalopram (Celexa) and escitalopram (lexapro), and for anxiety I was put on trazodone.

I will admit up front that my experience with meds has been largely negative, but I know that some people need them. I'm just letting you know how they affected me and what you might be in for.

The citalopram was the first med I was ever put on. I was on it for a good few months before the prescription ran out and I was unable to get it refilled due to some bullshit with my insurance and transferring doctors. You don't feel any affects until a couple weeks in, and even then, they're milder forms of what is to come. I went through long periods of time where I couldn't cum at all (still got horny and could get hard, but could never finish without extreme effort), which was frustrating, but livable. As I reached the end of the loading period (about 6 weeks in) the effects were in full swing, though I didn't recognize it until I was forced off the meds. The best way I could describe it was that it was kind of dulling. I no longer got my extreme bouts of sadness (or if I did they did not last anywhere near as long as they used to), but I also didn't feel levels of happiness or enjoyment from things that I felt prior to the meds.

It was like when you play with image settings on a screen: all the colors are still there, but their vibrancy and saturation is turned way down. The benefit of it all being obviously that I didn't feel as shitty overall, but the lower enjoyment I felt in other places made it hard to justify doing a number of things. It was a double-edged sword in that regard.

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Meditation cured anxiety and depression for me.

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After about a year of being off the citalopram, I was prescribed escitalopram by a non-psych doctor. I do not fault him, for he used his best judgment given my situation, but it made shit much worse. I had suicidal ideation for years prior to being put on meds, but after the loading period was complete for this, I actually made an attempt. This is a possible side effect of some SSRIs, and if you experience worsening depression or depressive states (depending on what your diagnosis is), you need to address it pronto. I thought it was just times turning bad for me (they were, but it was greatly overblown in my mind), so I ignored it, but it wound up fucking me up for a good long while.

To deal with the anxiety of being put in a psych ward for suicide, I was given trazodone while admitted and for some time while I was released. This shit fucked me up. I've heard Xanax is fairly similar in it's effects, but I cannot confirm it. Basically it made me very lethargic to the point where I needed to make sure I didn't have to drive or go anywhere outside my home around the time I took it. The sleep was always very restful (which was excellent because I had anxiety-induced insomnia), but I often felt a mental fog through the waking hours, and felt myself being a little slower to things.

Currently I'm on nothing, and I'd prefer to keep it that way. I was told in the psych ward by a nurse that once you go through about 3 cycles of being on and off psychiatric meds that you become a "lifer". I would like to avoid such a fate, but if it becomes necessary for me, then I'll accept it, though with great wariness due to the attempt I made while on them.

I won't be up for much longer, but if you have any questions, I can try to answer them

I have an issue about motivation. Recently been starting out going t socially awkward hours cause I'm an autist. But, I'm extreamly nervious about form and my lack of spacial awareness makes it hard to gauge if I hit depth or not. eventually killing any gains I make.

Make some form videos, bro. Grab a bench or a piece of equipment that is high enough off the floor to get a full body shot, use some object to support your phone to sit upright, hit record and do your thing

If you've reached the point where it's alcoholism drop everything and get better. If not then cut back and go ahead and at least try to get out there and meet someone. I lost a lot of years to depression and now I'm 31 and haven't been kissed or gone on a date since high school; I really wish I had done some of the basic shit I'm working on now sooner.

They did not help me and I had a near death reaction to one of them.

This worked for me, but you have to be disciplined and not let yourself quit.

That simple huh? I'll have to do that then, thanks for the advice. Probably the wrong thread but any advice for balance while squatting?

I'm 18, studying at uni (first year) and have a part time job at kfc. Most of my money goes to teen shit; not much saved. I only get about 3 hours a week, anyway.

My parents have been supporting me, and I've been looking for a new job. I wanna save up some cash and move out when I finish my degree.

But my dad just got offered a job overseas. Him and my mum may leave, which would mean our house would be put up for rent for a few years until then return.

This is scary as fuck for me. There was almost 2 or 3 years until I was gonna move out. Now I might need to move out within a few months, and I don't have shit saved up. My parents did promise to help me with rent (I'm assuming a percentage of what they get in rent from their house would go to me) but it's scary as hell. Plus my city has a high cost of living.

I'm gonna have to get a full time job or some shit. My middle class life is about to change to being poorfag for the next few years. And my country is expensive as fuck to live in; most people get government handouts, but my parent's combined income is exactly at the point were the government doesn't give me shit.
The only upside I see is that I'll have full control over my diet.

It's not certain yet, and Dad declined, but the potential employer isn't giving up. If he offers a high enough salary, I've told my parents to just take the deal.

What do I do Veeky Forums? I'm not ready for this. I don't know how to prepare.

How do I feel good enough in the gym guise?

How do I accept the weight I am currently able to lift?

How do I become proud after finishing a set without thinking "I should be lifting more. I am a big dude, this isnt enough weight. something is wrong with me."

How can I be satisfied with where I am at while simultaneously hungry for the next plate?

Forgot to mention. Something took a chunk out of my docs. I've worn those boots for 4 years, and I love them. Now some fucking bit of concrete damaged them.

A few years ago when I got them my parents wanted to help pay for them, but I'd just gotten my job and wanted to be independent. First thing I ever brought that was with my own money.

I'm upset.

Any advice on how to get over a lack of self worth? More so for dating and sexual health.

>Join military. Start working more
>Confidence boost in work ethic, career success, general motivation
>Work a fuck ton. Didnt focus on getting fit, dating, sexy time.
>Only have a year left in Japan

I feel great when it comes to my livelyhood but nothing to do with it. I could have a house and a job but kinda feels empty without any romanic life. Every time i try tinder or just dating i get the feeling that 'Literally anyone else is on his/her list.' Which is stupid as ive seen Exs with worst looking dudes then me and only like one that seems 'better'.

Any tips brehs?

Competence breeds confidence. You'll have to risk your self-worth until you're good enough that it won't be damaged anymore. Everything else is a crutch.

Im sorry i dont know what you mean by everything else is a crunch. Old saying practice makes perfect still applies I see.

Focus on the progress you're making. Sit down an hour or two later and spend some time enjoying that tired feeling.

Thanks breh that was helpful. Never been on any type of meds before, we'll see how it goes