Mental Health Thread

What circumstances ?
Distance ?
Her having a dick ?

I needed to move overseas for university, it was not my choice; if I didn't move, my family as a whole wouldn't be granted a visa. It would have been selfish to sacrifice my entire family's plan to emigrate for the sake of a girl.

I have a hard time understanding how the fuck you moving or not impacts on your whole family obtaining a visa.

>law school

Quit while you can

really am thinking about quitting
if im miserable as a law student, ill prob be miserable when i practice

You could start by putting on a Pillows album.

>mental health
>posting on Veeky Forums
>not understanding concepts such as mutual exclusivity

do 100 squats 100 push ups now
stop being a faggot
smoke everyday a cigarette less

that's a pretty good comeback m8, fuck her if she didn't find it funny. She's probably used that line on other guys before or saw it somewhere and thought it was le hillarious to use irl

>just found out ex found a new guy
So what? Fuck your ex, she's your ex for a reason

That's the way to do it

Am i in the wrong for chasing a girl?

im smokin cigarettes in the shower when they get wet i just light another fatal cardiac over cancer don't give me no suffer steal me off and feel me linger until im 6 under aint a fucking thing sacred when i get naked im lighting up like vegas all 7s king of pentacles im chaining like its money dirty money surgeons general as if my flesh keeps me prisoner as if ive been spinnin chambers since the day i was born like whats it all for like why the fuck not look if i dont get off i dont know how to be caught

not really, but take the inevitable failure, heartbreak and pain as a learning experience so that you don't repeat the same mistake next time.

Guys, my best friends ex wants me but he still has feeling for her.

I love my friend but I haven't fucked in a year, last time was an escort. Help.

What if i'm failed to make the same mistake again and again because that's just the type of girl i'm into?

Then I hope you like excruciating pain.

Come on dude have some self control

>best friends ex
Not worth it breh

Guess i'm a masochist after all

She's using you to get back at him. You'll cause a major tear in your friendship for some stupid slut who'll disappear from your life anyway. This guy could likely be your friend for the rest of your life. It's simply not worth it. Go out and find a girl who actually likes you instead.

Thanks, somehow I knew the answer but reading it from you guys reassures me.

What were you wearing when she made that comment?

Just finish what you started, damn get a grip and do what you gotta do

You might feel miserable NOW but feelings change, you'll feel better soon enough

youtu.be/ykvC3QXJb18

I do nothing but sleep, work, smoke weed/play videog games.

I am starting to unfuck my life. I'm now going back to school in a few months for message therapy.
I havent gotten laid in 6 months. Last girl was an escort. Same with girl before that a couple months.
I can attract women in clubs usually but I want companionship.

Tips on how to improve life would be nice. Also any tips on how to libido/sex drive would also be nice.

I talk to no one. I have no social interaction outside of small talk at work. I dream of having a wife and kid(s) one day and leaving something behind when I die. Help please

stay on the golden path and we will all make it

Imagine a habit what you would like to have, a good one

Now go through all your bad habits and decide what you want to replace with the good one. And stick with it, it takes will power

One step at a time, slowly change your ways of living for the better

>tell her I have a great deal on a refurbished Kia

You should be proud of this

I've personally seen what a manipulative girl can do to a group of friends, including me. It's unbelievable how at first glance such a sweet and honest (thought she was pure gf material) girl can be so emotionless and scheming.
It's sad that I still have feelings for her when I see her cuddling together with a friend, regardless of knowing how cold of a person she truly is. I've noticed that she even subtly looks at me to see how I'm gonna react to those things.
Best to stay away from such people, they can only do harm both to you and your friendships.
Live and learn.

FLCL FTW

Quit smoking weed. You might have now idea how heavily it impacts your life. Give it a try, I'm a convinced testimony of quitting weed. Some people just can't handle it.

I just can't let go of the fact that I'm a Virgin.

Long story short, I missed tons of great opportunities in the past because I was afraid of taking risks and rather grasped for any reason to not fuck girls I probably could've instead.

So I'm 25 and still a virgin. Thta isn't so much of a problem itself, but since I ended all my coping mechanisms (smoking shitloads of weed, vidya, excessive masturbation, getting incredibly drunk and high when out with friends)
it's fucking me up. I can barely stop thinking about how to get laid, I constantly read shit on the internet how to do it, and even worse all kinds of stories/tthreads/articles where other people tell about their fucks (Veeky Forums especially)
It makes me constantly feel like crap.
At least it has gotten me to act finally - got a few numbers, asked a few girls out and generally make more of an effort to meet new people.
Still, I think that simply being in a good mood and my usually fun and laid-back self would be much much better to actually get laid - I just need to sprinkle on actually trying with girls while realising that I have a pretty good life so I don't give so much of a fuck whether I end up banging that girl or not.

Ironically at this point constantly thinking about my virginity and how to lose it is worse than just letting things flow, making an effort to talk to girls and push things ahead, then take what will undoubtedly be offered to me again.

And no, neither am I lonely nor looking for a gf. I just want to fuck enough different girls so I'm qualified to pick an actually good one instead of falling for the first one who ends up on my dick.

Not an actual mental orblem, but damn it is dragging me down.

You need to have sex to realize it's not such a big of a deal, so since you don't care at this point, go all in : Tinder, happn or whatever dating app you can find.
If you don't succeed, it's not important since you're not looking for love but just sex.
That or pay a sex worker and do it dude.

What this guy said. Alternatively accept the fact that you'll never have sex and boom girls will come. You know already that your desperacy is killing any vibe.

I agree with Sex really isn't the big thing you make it out to be - so just get it over with. You'll feel miles better. Consider fucking a tumblr sloot or a sex worker if you must to preserve your sanity.

these are just problems not symptoms, you're not mentally ill special snowflake

How can a student visa grant a whole family visa?
What country is this?

>desperation is killing any vibe

Funny thing is, when I'm in a really good mood and worry about other things (Uni, being out with my friends) I have absolutely not the tiniest problem attracting girls even now. I still need to work up some nerve to approach even in a party situation (can't do it in clubs or bars yet sadly), but once I'm in I just talk and try stuff to see where it gets me while deep down realising it doesn't matter whether I get laid with this girls or the next.

>Alternatively accept the fact that you'll never have sex and boom girls will come.

Sadly doesn't seem to work for me - I did just that, and holy shit did they come. I even used to approach girls myself in bars and clubs when I felt like it sometimes, but just didn't know how to push things forward when they actually showed interest.

That's how I n´know I baldy need to regain control of my own mindset most of all - hell, I've already been to the point of truly not giving a fuck and expecting anything, thus being patient and it worked so well. Only that I always failed to pull the trigger or even rejected them when the time came, because as it turns out actually thinking sex is unimportant made me give in to my fears over actually having it at every opportunity.

I just need to stop worrying.

we're in the same boat

well, i got a bj this august from whore but didnt cum. i wasn't even hard so it sucked..heh

so am i no longer a virgin if just got oral?

You replied to me but none of the things I actually said.

> I just need to stop worrying.

Take it from someone who fucks up all his first time with girls due to anxiety (can't get it up until I feel at ease with the girl, which never happens when the expectation of sex is overwhelming, saying it won't make it go away : you need to act, and possibly fail, to make it go away.
Seriously, sex is like an omelet : it involves eggs and proteins, when you don't have one you envy those who do, and you can't make one without breaking some eggs first.
Don't think you'll "just stop worrying" : do it in spite of your fear.

How about stop being a pussy and pick yourself up.
Also why do so many fuckers with depression also hammer stimulants? Caffiene, nicotine.
Its just going to boost any anxiety you already had.

BOOM

Bro you nailed that. What are you even worried about.

I don't know about an escort - would it really change anything?

I mean I want to have aleast a tiny bit of a connection to the chick I lose it with - you know, at least some talking, seeing if you vibe well, nothing more. Not like meeting up to fuck and her walking away right after, without even cuddling or anything (you can do that with a hookup I assume)

Also, it would most likely be quite ahit to my confidence, after thinking of the many girls I had sure chances with and outright rejected.
Even met a few girls who wanted to fuck me after I told them I'm a virgin (so they'd fuck off mostly). So apparently even spilling my spaghetti works wonders when i do it while haveing a good time.

i just need to get back to doing what I was before - it's not even like I wasn't occasionally sad about being a virgin, or even hated myself over lost opportunities, but most of the time I was well. Just need to sopt concerning myself with how much other people are fucking, regain perspective, remember where I'm from and that my life is actually pretty damn good nowadays.

Really, just stop thinking about anything but the present.

Maybe Meditation is a good Idea?

Just get out there and try talking to girls. Its really not a big deal and once you have nailed your first you will realise its not that hard.
Alternatively you could pay a hooker, while I am ashamed of this I did do it when I was 19 and I haven't had an issue since. (22).
I haven't been back to a prostitute.

Where you at bro

Yeah, that's precisely why "girls will come" didn't work out for me - I always gave in to my fears.
So now I finally have the pressure to overcome them, and I do exactly that.

But at the same time it drags me down and makes me needy and much more awkward than I used to be.Will that just fade as long as I keep trying?

well did that experience help at least?

If a severely depressed person quits smoking it will bring him to suicide.

what are they symptoms of then?
im not trying to be argumentative, i really want to know what to do

somewhere along the way, i fucked up

It'll fade once to get into the "fuck it" mode.
Which means not overhtinking it because sex is about being able to let go, and probably not doing it with someone where feelings are involved for your first time.
Seriously a sex worker is not a bad idea mate.

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/r/cringe

>"Fuck it" mode

May be that I'm already on my way there - I've completely stopped getting One-itis or even being hung up on any specific girl. Still kinda hesitant and also battling the impulse to disgiuse myself or act any sepcific way to avoid rejection.

Only that the rejections I've gotten so far really were no thing - honestly I remember the girls I never even tried with much more than the ones who rejected me so far. Fuck, one of them is even showing interest again after I stopped being awkward around her since she already rejected me.

Soo..just keep trying, push on through until my subconscious realises there's a shitload of girls on this planet and rejection doesn't matter, so I can realx and be myself while also actively trying to get them to bed?

Also, as far as the escort goes - The first 18 years of my life were pretty much a complete nightmare, but I struggled out of it. I'll get over some girl not texting me back.
Sooner or later I'll have to face that too.
Better to get it over with right away - in my experience, going the easy way has never paid, but the hard way did, and plenty.

Does it really come easier after the first time?
I just want to be able to hook up and finally have my fun, do some crazy stuff until I get tired of it and find a solid gf.

going overseas exploring tomorrow

kinda worried i'll end up dead, diseased or depressed.

yet, I can't help but feel it's gonna do me a whole lot of good

as someone who's posted in almost every single one of these threads
I'll miss you cunts.

>pray for me fit

sexdrive/libido just quit porn and limit fapping to 1-2 times a week. cap smoking to once a day max makes you function a lot better, or even same frequency as faps p/week
find one useful/interesting to others hobby/skill to start and slowly build it up (eg a language)
balance new thing with others so you dont get bored but have a structure to practicing it, progressive overload works with any skill friendo
congrats you transitioned to being socially functional borderline normie!@!!

control your vices, move on and build yourself up. lol don't be sad about the gym being closed, do some bodyweight or improvise, and you better study between reps you slacker. probably should call home for holidays

dude that comeback was fucking alpha, give her a call, she clearly saw you can handle a little shit thrown at you

Help me user, I want to stop but for some reason, when I get done with the tasks i need to carry out during a day, all I can think about is kicking back with a joint but it´s making me less confident and more lazy and generally less motivated to go out and do stuff with people.

How do I just stop? my roomie keeps buying weed so its not like i can just remove it from my life, i need self control but seriously how?

I realize i sound beta af but i have a life that i want to live to the fullest, but the short fix of the weed messes with my psychology

You're addicted, try counseling

I feel like I have wasted my entire college life in the gym, constantly thinking I'm not good enough to have relationships with anyone, be they romantic or just friendship.

Now I'm staring down the rest of my life, and feel like if I couldn't make a connection with anyone at literally the biggest social hub I will ever be in, that there's no hope for me to ever do it.

I just want to dropout, spend what money I have on a pickup, and driving away to some nowhere town and working as a bartender for the rest of my life.

Sometimes a stick a loaded gun to my head, I'm too much of a pussy to pull the trigger.

>what should i do...

learning to use meme arrows would be a good start

Finish school brah.

I did 3 years and almost finished but out of nowhere for some odd cause, i stopped doing assignments, stopped attending class, stopped talking to friends. Just stopped. Biggest regret of my life, and I don't even know why I stopped.

>i swear to god i want to just slit my wrist end this bullshit
>throw the magnum to my head, threaten to pull shit
>and squeeze
>until the beds completely red

> drinking got in the way of lifting again

Well yea I realised sex isn't as intimidating as I thought and its also not a holy grail.
As I said, after that I have no problem dealing with girls.
Its a mental hurdle, after you get over it, it becomes easier.

>not lifting while drunk with your bros

Do you even home gym, nigga?

>one day
>happy, feel like I can crush the world
>next day
>depressed, feel like I want to literally die (but not actually suicidal)

jesus christ help me

i'd probably stutter trying to make a comeback. Very nice on your part, dont feel bad

Dad came home from the doctor today and said they found traces of blood in his urine. He's had shit bloodwork for like 3 years now but this is like he has cancer forming.

If my Dad ends up dying I'm seriously going to go off the rails

Wat do

prayed. you will love it bro. be free my nigga.

Kek be with you great traveler

>this feel

And nothing ever triggers it, I just wake up feeling like absolute shit. Then I lift shit, and it gets even worse.

wtf i drank anti stress tea and got depressed like never before, seriously i really considered suicide, why?