Tfw found my ex gf of 5 fucking years cheating on me with a Chad she met at her new job...

>tfw found my ex gf of 5 fucking years cheating on me with a Chad she met at her new job . through suspicion and looking through her phone
>immediately break the relationship up while commiting to no contact of the ex
> used this incident as motivation to cut my bf% to below 12 percent
> signed up on tinder , start slaying random pussy left and right but still feel empty
> it's been 6 months since the break up
>get sad after the gym one day
> look up her Facebook because Iam stupid and curious
> |shes in a serious relationship with the Chad she tore my heart open for and she looks happy after only 6 months of being out of a fucking serious relationship (seriously how do women get over relationships like that)
> tfw get instantly more depressed


What do I do Veeky Forums bros ?feel like Iam not going to make it

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She will cheat on Chad too

Don't ever look that shit up anymore, you'll only fuck yourself even more up.

If you can do that, you'll make it

>> look up her Facebook because Iam stupid and curious

You did this to yourself.

Cut to 6% bf fgt

The pain will help you grow mate. You can only really pity her as she won't learn anything because she didn't really move on she just stayed with the guy that ruined her old relationship

>Have 10/10 qt gf
>Live together, get pregnant, have child
>2 years goes by
>No love or lust left
>Life itself becomes a chore, constantly going with work and when I get home it's more work
>Empty feeling 24/7
>Cheat on her with random girls who show me affection but I can't pursue any further because I don't want gf to find out
>Cheat on her with hookers because I want to feel loved
>Feel even worse and more empty after either/both
>Meet nice, genuine people
>Get a glimpse of happiness
>Go home and it's gone

Bruv at least you aren't me. My life is shit and I'm only 25. I will most likely break up with her and be that scumbag absent father because I can not deal with this shit for much longer

take comfort in the fact that chad is probably in for a cucking in the near future too

>he doesn't realize you're supposed to put effort into relationships

Retard. You think happy couples just have passion and love magically fall out of the sky their entire lives?

This.

You literally cannot win. The best thing you can do is break up.

I felt this feel once.
>be together for 3 years
>she cheated on me and i found out becasue the guy was a casual acquaintance of the two of us
>still try to cuck it out and make it work
>realize after a week she doesn't care/want to anymore
>sadness and depression lasted 2 years
>had reoccurring nightmares about her the entire time
>4 months ago
>had another nightmare with her in it
>escalated to a place none of the others have before
>joined a group of people all planning to off ourselves at the same time
>tie noose around my neck and jump from the tree
>feel a strange sense of happiness before waking up
>wake up happy
>its been that 4 months now and the dreams thet were weekly at least haven't come back
>i feel much better now, not that happy but just not sad anymore
I used to think that pain would never stop user, those dreams haunted me like nothing else. eventually it did stop. Since then i've been able to get my life back on track. Use the pain and light a fire under your ass OP, you will pull through.

>don't want to put in effort to fix things.
>Can't pinpoint exact problem that is supposedly so difficult to tackle.
>But I can
>you are a fucking pussy and a quitter and about to take a decision that is in line with all decisions that got you at this point.
>You are going to give up after you let it deteriorate enough to sell it to yourself, only to massively regret it later
>you are this much of a retard
>you lack this self reflection
If you two are white, have children and find love again. Hike together, switch jobs, take a nice holiday, restrain yourself during fights and tell her to do the same. Mature a whole fucking lot in the coming month. In the end, if a 10/10 can't satisfy you, it must be you that is the problem. And you have to face your demons sooner or later anyway, why not do it now and prevent another (massive) regret being added to the already sizeable list.

no thanks for the life advice, hope you make the right choice.

She'll cheat on Chad eventually. Women are whores.

Plus she only seems happy because those are the pictures she took. What makes you think she's going to upload pictures of her sad and depressed?

She's a dumb bitch, OP. You're better off now. Continue the no contact. She isn't worth your time anymore.

You aren't even trying to fix shit? Instead you're taking the asshole route out and cheating on the mother of your child.

Jesus Christ, man. The fuck is wrong with you.

soon

Hey man you know what happened to me in the gym today?

>get to gym
>need to piss
>after 1 or 2 seconds of pissing feel my leg getting warm
>stream wasn't coming out straight, one half of my gym pants covered
>sit down on the toilet and contemplate what to do
>decide to train anyway
>use blowdryer to make some of the moisture disappear
>still somewhat visible, but okay
>smells bad
>switch places often, in order to not let the scent get too strong in one place
>do every exercise like normal

That's how I overcame my problem. Maybe it cheers you up a little maybe not.

You will get over her in time.

My boyfriend of 8 years left me for someone 12 years younger. For her part, she was engaged to another man when they started cheating (at least emotionally - he swears they weren't physically cheating, but who cares at this point). Within 2 weeks of moving out of our apartment, they were living together.

It sucked. I think they're still together.

just fucking go home and get shorts or a new pair of pants you fucker what in the fuck

break up with her, she deserves better

fuckwit did you even tell her that you were starting to fall out of love with her? or was it just your instant response to cheat on her?

What's worse? If somebody has a 1 night stand with a stranger or emotional cheating with the work husband or something to that effects?

4year relationship, kid together. sweet little girl.

Came to break up cause we didnt comunicate properly.

2 and half months later she already is in another relationship, and wont talk to me at all.

Thought id marry her, heartbroken, gues woman cant be trusted, 2 and a half months, but in the mean time tell me she cares about me and then suddonly ow im with him.

well okay then...

Not him, how? Srs.

>12 years younger

Pretty nice, good on him.

for making her happy, take her out and buy her food and nice things. Treat her like a princess

for making him happy, let him do anal and fuck his brains out at least 4x a week

>>stream wasn't coming out straight, one half of my gym pants covered
This shit happened to me on my first date with first gf.

I don't understand people like that desu.

If they're living together so soon, it's gonna be one of those "oh my god I must have you now or never" and then it fizzles out in a couple months and they realize what fuck ups they are.

So... how do I go about stopping myself from flirting with a newly single female friend in such an obvious fashion that it made my wife cry? I swear I don't wanna be an arsehole...

By just not doing so?

That and telling your wife to be more sensual so you dont have to. (okay dont do this except if you want more tears lol)

>By just not doing so?
Yeah yeah but she's hot and I'm horny and I don't even realise I'm doing it... wife is usually a nympho but meds are fucking her sex-drive up and fapping just does not do it... been chatting up a trap on the down-low too, no homo. Help.

Guess im on right way. Ill remember that, thanks mang.

Women are different creatures. They will lose the love they had for you over a long span of time, then eventually the respect. They will stick in the relationship generally because they either feel constrained with no way out or because they still want to have you, but also have the other guy as well.

That's why when they cheat and the relationship ends (if you break up with them) you are removing their self-guilt and they can get over you faster. They had already spent months prior getting over your ass, you are basically just relieving them of self guilt.

Then your left for what could be years wondering what the fuck while she's off riding another guys dick happy as fuck 1 week after the relationship ends.

In order to keep a loyalty there are a few things you need to do

>Cut them off from their slut friends immediately
>Cut them off from any guy friends
>Do not let them go to clubs alone or with said slut friends/guy friends
>Cut them off from most people, remove their social protection. This will take a lot of manipulation.
>Collect nudes/videos so they know you have shit on them so if they are to act out you can destroy their lives
>Make them give you their facebook passwords and check their phones randomly
>Make them losing you be the worst possible thing for them possible, make the consequences clear

Train them like you would train a dog. Set real consequences down. Remember you were born male and are superior - enforce your dominance.

What the fuck is emotional cheating?

Improve yourself in every way you can so as to impress her the next time you se her and make her regret her decision. Improve your body, mind, work your ass off at your job, socialise as much as you can. Use revenge as your motivation.

After some time you won't give a fuck about her, you'll be over her, you'll think break up was the best thing to ever happen to you because your body looks great, you're wiser and your personality stronger, you're doing better at your job, you have more friends and perhaps a new qt gf. Fuck revenge and fuck her.

TALK
TO
YOUR
DAMN
WIFE

JESUS

Wow. You're retarded beyond saving. Enjoy whatever happens to you m8

I'm assuming it means like, flirting and saying sexual things. The calm before the storm, I suppose it would be.

I'm just guessing though. I wouldn't personally find much of a difference in any kind of cheating.

>take her out and buy her food and nice things.
Won't work, you can't compensate with money. Treat her well, and be a good person yourself: have dreams, passions, interests, and solid values. Doesn't matter what: you can be obsessed with D&D, dream of being a scientist and be a staunch socialist or you can love cars, dream of being a police officer and be a Christian - or whatever else. You'll have to find a girl to match your beliefs, of course, but honestly I think most women would prefer a man with convictions they disagree with then a man who lacks convictions.

It's when you fall in love with someone else, maybe flirt a little, but don't actually fuck them.

> They had already spent months prior getting over your ass, you are basically just relieving them of self guilt.
This is the only worth-while thing you said. Women tend to fear conflict, and will only break up when they're pretty much already over you. A guy I know got dumped recently and for him it seemed sudden - but since my gf is friends with his ex I know she'd been thinking about it for a year at least. Guilt was the only thing keeping her there. So of course now she's already hitting on other guys while he can't figure out wtf happened...

But the rest of your post is just sad and pathetic. Real answer is, gotta talk to your girl, gotta have her trust you so she's not afraid of conflict and can tell you honestly how she feels. Then you can work on any problems together. Yeah, my view isn't as edgy, but it's correct.

Wish someone would post that comment that talked about how real love isn't some pretty Magical feeling, real love is a choice.

That doesn't mean you can't still have those romantic feelings or that you delude yourself, but love requires active effort and a decision to be good and treat your partner well.

Cheating is for the worst sort of human.

Falling in love/feeling attracted to someone else but not acting on it.
You haven't done anything wrong per se, but it hurts just as much to your partner. Best thing you can do is be honest about it. The cheating part comes from not telling your partner until its way too late and allowing the attraction to someone else to develop.

But if I just have feelings for someone or flirt, it isn't cheating. Cheating is having sex with someone. That's like saying, I cheat on my gf with my friends, if I value them equally to her

It doesn't have to make sense, it's feelings. You haven't done anything wrong, but common, how would you feel if you knew your gf was in love with another man? A friend of yours even? Even if she didn't do anything, it would hurt.

We're all going to make it. She was a whore who didn't deserve you OP.

Well, she would have to be retarded if she told me without acting on it. And if she acts on it, I have a good reason to dump her

that means sh'es been over you for a long while if she's ready for someone else

Exactly. But sometimes you can tell even if the other person doesn't say anything - or at least you suspect. The way the talk or look at someone, and you just know... So you confront them and they confess they have feelings but haven't done anything. What then? It hurts, but they where honest and did nothing wrong. Reliationships are hard, bro....

Yes, I'm the user whose boyfriend left her for a younger girl.

It's basically like treating someone else, who isn't your partner, like they're your partner instead - opening up to them, sharing secrets, etc.

In my case, I had started going back to school and he started becoming really good friends with people at work, and in particular a girl. At first I didn't care and was glad he was making new friends after a long period of depression, but after a while hanging out with his new friends at bars turned into having lunch and hanging out with this girl alone. She and her fiance shared a car, so my boyfriend was always giving her rides to work, and even occasionally helping her run errands. She once interrupted a dinner she knew we were having to have him come pick her up because her contacts were hurting.

I started to see the writing on the wall and would try to schedule time around school and work for us to spend time together but half the time he would flake to spend time with her or, while we were spending time together, would go off covertly to text her.

Eventually he began hanging out with her until 3 or 4 in the morning frequently while I stayed at home and cried. One time I was particularly upset and kept texting him asking him to come home. When he got home around 6 am, he yelled at me for being rude.

One week I went out of town for work and, without telling me, he invited her over to our place to watch movies with him. We broke up for good shortly after that. It's been about 2 years now.

He swears up and down that they were never physical while we were still officially together, but at that point, what difference does it make?

Sometimes it's easier to make a clean break. It's shitty that she wasn't open with you about this but maybe that's what she needed to do.

I would say that her not talking to you is a sign that she cares about you but doesn't want to fall into bad habits and wants to move on. If she truly didn't give a shit, then talking to you would be no big deal.

But it's not a sign that women can't be trusted.

>(seriously how do women get over relationships like that)
War Brides.

You pass your genes along more if you don't fight your new overlords after they killed all the males in your tribe. Evolutionary selected trait.

It's more than just flirting or having a crush on someone else. That stuff is no big deal.

i'm only 20 but i dated my ex for 2 years and she recently left me, but deep down i always knew that's exactly how it would've gone

social media was a mistake. the single biggest mistake a man can do after a breakup is checking her facebook paga, and yet every one does it at least once.

t. I don't know what a cuck is

That doesn't work senpai. I've fucked 3 girls with super over protective bf's. The bf's did everything you described and more. They'll find a way to cheat if they feel stuck/trapped in a relationship and want new and better dick. They get off on knowing there's someone out there that will pound and dominate them better than their bf ever could

Can some anons here help a bro out? heres my post on adv

has to do with ex and mixed signals, screenshots included

You just have to learn the lessons that women WILL hurt you. You can date and have a serious relationship again, sure, but don't rely on a woman for happiness ever again.

That's fucking rough. Dude was a scumbag. I'm not whiteknighting or any shit. Being cheated on changes you. It's fucked up. Your story is all too similar to the one I have with my gf. We were only together for 1.5 years and then similar shit started happening. She would be at his house until like 4 in the morning and I would be texting her to see what the fuck she was doing.

She swore they never did anything physical either, so I completely understand how you feel in terms of it not making any difference.

It's hard to come to terms with garbage people like that when you trusted them so much and they fuck you over at the drop of a hat.

No one deserves to be cheated on. It's fucked.

THERE ARE (((MIXED))) SIGNALS, EVER

It doesnt matter how much she might seem to want you back or not - it's irrelevant, you broke up for a reason. Move on and don't be a faggot.

The thing is we never had a real breakup, like we never fought, she has emotional problems and goes to therapy and shit and she does shit based on emotions a lot...

we never even had areason to break up, she was still hung up on her ex, and in the back of my mind i know itll never work because realistically this shit will happen again, i already know it, my brain and heart are at conflict right now man and for some reason heart's winning even though i know it wont work..

this shit is tough

hey asshole she was done with the relationshit 6 months before you figured it out

Literally just read the beginning. What the flying fuck are you doing?

Why are you picking up this stupid bitch that keeps dropping you and running off and comes crying back? Tell her to fuck off and block her number.

Jesus. Don't talk to your ex's, people. It will literally never turn out well.

I knew I was going to get at least one response like this. I'm kind of surprised I didn't get a dozen more.

To fantasize a bit: she's not going to age well (doesn't take care of herself, eats cupcakes all day, etc) and he's not just going to be able to trade her in for a younger model like he did with me. At this point I am over it and can recognize that her interest in him is a freak occurrence. He's not the type of person women are lining up to date. He is overweight, has terrible skin, a neckbeard, and works in retail. We met in our early 20s and he never really grew as a person while I did.

Looking back, the last few years we had together were absolutely terrible and most of the fault was with him. For instance: once I was going out of town to visit my dying father in the hospital and he whined about having to watch the pets alone and had me take the dog with me so all he had to do was feed the cat twice a day (he left the litterbox for me, as always). I had to shuffle between the hospital and going to the house to let the dog out. This sort of shit was so frequent I didn't even think of it as shitty at the time, it was just par for the course.

And meanwhile, he now provides her with a car and an apartment and it sounds like he does most of the work around the house now. She whines about her health and reads young adult books about love triangles all day. He takes martial arts classes now and acts like a complete douche.

I still care about him, though it's definitely hard at times, and I want him to be happy but there's still a part of me that wants that happiness to not be with her. Like I'd be 100% ok with him being happy with another girl, but not the girl who disrupted my life so dramatically.

On the upside, I just started dating a doctor who is like what the ex-boyfriend used to be when we first met, but an upgrade: funnier, smarter, and sweeter. Sometimes things work out for the best, even if they seem awful at the time.

so she's fucked up mentally and emotionally, you dodged a bullet, move on breh

man you think that shit is easy? I know exactly how feels. You HAVE love and then it just dies.
>tfw you marry her and 6months later there is still no real spark
>tfw you just wish you could feel the butterflies in your stomach when you look into a womans eyes again.

> and he's not just going to be able to trade her in for a younger model like he did with me

that'swhereyouarewrongkiddo.jpg

And that's exactly it. Glad you found someone new, user.

Your ex sounds like an ultra faggot though. Jesus Christ.

Why not work on yourself? Find some happiness outside of your marriage?

You can't just rely on your marriage to make you happy. It's not like being married means you're banned from doing anything that doesn't have to do with your wife.

Go lift, go play a sport, go volunteer. You can still do shit, man.

post tits

if Chad got cucked he wouldn't be Chad now would he dumb fuck gymcels are retarded

>I still care about him, though it's definitely hard at times, and I want him to be happy but there's still a part of me that wants that happiness to not be with her.

that's totally normal and reasonable, don't think too much about it

He had to trade you in so he could let go and finally have the space to grow into his responsibilities it sounds like.

Yeah, it helps to write stuff like that out. For so long after the breakup I blamed myself. I thought I had been too unavailable and cranky while working full time and going to school full time. I blamed myself for not being nice enough or pretty enough or patient enough. Now that I'm finally moving on, it's therapeutic to go through the face palming moments I should have noticed before.

Like now I'm remembering the reason I started going back to school was because he was whining about his job and considering getting a degree, so I picked up some catalogs for him from the local community college. Then when going through them with him, I saw a degree I had always wanted to pursue but wasn't available when I was younger (web design and development). So I ended up going back to school and finished about 2 years later.

Spoiler alert: he never went back to school. He played online poker and claimed that was like school for him. He still has the same job he was complaining about when I got the catalogs.

my ex left me 2 months ago and the dreams are the worst, i'm more suicidal than ever but i still feel like that's ridiculous to think, it's a fucking roller coaster lol

Not him but you clearly dont get it.
Its not that you can't feel happy.
You just don't have the same feeling of love that you used to and it fucking sucks. It's like chasing the dragon, nothing will match the original high but you'll keep on trying... it's only worse as you get older.

>tfw you will never look into the eyes of a beautiful girl and see such a look, as if you were capable of giving her the world, ever again

You're a father at 25 and I've never had a gf at 28.

[thinking intensifies]

It's definitely possible, I always tried to encourage him to do new things, but it was impossible to get him to do anything he didn't want to do. He would marathon tv all day everyday.

He's now taking his martial arts classes but he still seems like a complete mess to me. I may be looking at him through a bitter lens though.

We don't talk much anymore, but he still occasionally comes crying to me about how depressed he is or because he wants to tell me how he did in a martial arts test. He talks a big game about his martial arts classes and how good they are for him, but the last time I saw him (a few months ago), it looked like he had gained weight and not in a good way. It sounds like he spends all his money now on $200 knives, guns, and stuff like LASIK surgery so he doesn't have to worry about his glasses getting knocked off during a fight.

This stuff is so far from the person I knew I never know how to respond. In some ways I'm glad it happened because it was finally the thing that got me to start looking for someone else instead of hoping he'd come back, but it also causes me some worry that he's becoming mentally ill. I even asked /k/ about something he said to me once (that he was carrying 7 knives on him) and they made fun of him for being batshit crazy.

But hey, not my problem anymore.

LOL

Hey thanks user.

Sounds like it was an all in all good change for you. I'm happy for you, try not to let yourself fall into the mindset/state of regret or wondering what may have been 'cause it honestly sounds like you're much better off.

Yeah, it's weird. I feel like a meaningless one night stand would have been hurtful, but preferable in a way.

Those nights waiting up for them to come home, wondering what they are doing, and the hours passing by so slowly are just awful. Those were some of the worst nights of my life.

And then when they come home and act like you have no right to be upset because they technically didn't do anything wrong...ugh. You're right, fuck those people.

Fuck you. Love isn't about emotions. Love is dedication and ownership. Own your shit, and raise your child. If you need side pussy, fine. But we don't need any more fatherless children; it's fucking everything up.

>What do I do Veeky Forums bros ?feel like Iam not going to make it
You're no going to make it because you're feeling sad for a cheating whore. She's a failure as gf who happy about proving the only thing she's best at and the relationship wise is cheating, will most likely never try to better herself and will most likely cheat on her new bf and any other bf after that. Quit feeling sad and do your best to find a quality woman who's can stay faithful

Thanks for listening user. There's still a little bit of a wound left, but it's now more like a scratch rather than the gaping axe wound it was for 15-18 months.

that dream was bad ass. sounds like your spirit finally escaped her clutches.

Get out of this relationship ASAP
I don't have time to explain but you're being cucked

either make a concious decision to stop flirting or go on ahead and fug her. a man cheating is an entirely different thing than a woman doin the cheating. but if you do it you are one step closer to being an animal, which is aint so grest pal.

youll rise above and eventually look back and realize how silly you were being

12% bf is meaningless if you have no muscle

well, you're not wrong, but i would not even want to be in a relationship where i would have to utilize all of them greentexts. if you know yourself you can find a quality woman that isnt a piece of shit. just gotta take your time and be super honet about your shit and the things you want and expect etc, so you can weed out the foul ones without loosing too much time on a hoe.

Any advice for someone who is trying to start something?

I've spent the last two months talking to several girls, most have actually given me numbers, I'm not that terrible to talk to it seems, but then they disappear

I don't know if I talk too much or too little, I'm leaning towards too much because over the years, it has become my way of weeding out who is compatible or not.

you must not know yourself well if you select such a piece of shit as your partner. also if you really loved him you would support him in his actions and let him fuck around, maybe get in on the action from time to time. jesus

this is true. i wish i coukd find that cap with the pic of lenny explaining the whole thing.

white women are disgusting

keep on doing what you're doing, eventually you will find one that wants to stick around.

>When he got home around 6 am, he yelled at me for being rude.
That is harsh, and frankly, had we spoken just a week ago, we would really not have agreed. I thought I was really hitting it off with a girl only to have her jump ship to another guy in a blink.That made me really bitter for awhile.

For what it's worth, you were absolutely right all the way through, and you made all the right choices. I wish someone was a part of my life like that.

It seems to always be a humbling experience to read stories on Veeky Forums, because it reminds me how shitty people can be outside of my own little world. I still remember

...

what kind of cuck would date a single mom?

Well user, it's not like it started off that way. People don't typically get into and stay in relationships that are terrible and miserable right off the bat. They can just sour over time, and sometimes so gradually you don't even really notice.

And if you want an open relationship, user, that's fine. I don't.

> >get sad after the gym one day
Literally the only part of the thread that was fit related.

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