Mental Health General:
Alright guys post your questions and problems that can't be fixed by lifting.
I'm looking for the cure to the "cringe attack". Whenever I have too much time to think (especially when bored at work) I can't help but think of all the stupid shit I've done and said in my past. I thought moving to a different state would help but it really hasn't.
Today I had a date go about as bad as it possibly could and I'm already dreading how it's going to replay in my head for months...
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Meditation. Research it
Yoga helps too.
Or quit being beta, you couldn't of done anything that dumb.
Lemme spout some nonsense.
Maybe it's because you view all those errors as unfinished business? Because lifting teaches us that when we fail, we stop, analyze, try again. Was if my breathing? My form? Have I been undereating? Alright, let's fix that and move on.
You know what made you do all those wrong things, you just haven't actually addressed and corrected the issue, so your brain is hitting rewind and play.
>Zeigarnik effect
How do I turn off the music in my head?
best way to stop cringing about your past is to stop doing stupid shit so you don't have as much to look back and cringe about.
I'm not sure what's wrong with me
I think as I'm getting older I'm slowly just losing it, I'm extremely wired up all the time and like I feel very disoriented and out of place in society, when I'm out in public I have to control my mind very well otherwise it will go astray like a foul mouthed rabid dog and think about the most messed up situations. I'm extremely self aware and I'm now aware that people have esp when talking to others and they don't even really have to try they are aware of what others are emenating from their energy field and will emenate a personality/ energy signature to balance the interaction. I on the other hand have an extremely messed up energy signature and people can tell, and people do avoid me because I'm extremely self aware and I try so hard to act like I'm just another average bloke it creeps people out I think I am not sure,I'm starting to have trouble not bumping into people now and weird shit is happening in my dreams, I'm talking to people in my dreams but I am aware I am dreaming and these characters in my dream imagination still at the same time have the ability to independently talk to me at the same time which is wierd, I think I am unwell and it really winds me up the disconnect I have with others, I never had a girlfriend and girls seem to just think I am a ghost or ghost me it is the weirdest shit. I feel so wierd and messed up, human interaction is an enigma to me, the only time I'm relaxed is if I'm very sleepy or I play a lot of video games to the point I forget myself.
I pretty much suffer from daily violent impulsive thoughts, and that's what causes me to be all wound up, I rarely get a break to be in the moment and I feel guilty and feel like a criminal all the time, I'm afraid that one day I'll act on these impulses and it legit takes me resistance willpower to stay sane, this has been going on for about a year now and all I want is to feel genuine towards others one day, I miss being normal.
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Stop listening to music.
People give me wierd looks a lot too in the store and when I'm out and about, not everybody but it happens every day that it's something that stresses me out, I think I might isolate myself for my own good and the good of others, when I'm alone for a few days I really start to wind down and relax.
Ever since the violent impulsive thoughts have started I have also lost a good portion of my ability to memorize stuff, this is in part because I try so hard to isolate this really violent part of myself so it can't do any harm and like legit my memory is really bad now, if you asked me what happened 3 days ago I wouldn't be able to say but I have a great visual memory, I just can't tie my visual memory to a specific point in time anymore, so the days all come and go.
That's why I think I'll isolate myself from others, I don't want to be a threat or a liability if my mental health continues to decline, I was such a normal person a year ago now I'm ranting like a lunatic, I hope all of you get better, if you have depression in time you will get better trust me, life is like an mmo, you will constantly lose shit and have to build up again and every once in a while you will find some treasure or help in some form that helps a lot, it's not supposed to be one continuous staircase going up and up and up, a lot of people fall apart as they get older because they stop working on themselves, that's a lot of the reason our childhood was so happy was because we were forced to go to school and work on ourself, well if that impulse isn't there we all of a sudden start falling apart, make sure to always maintain that level so you always are smart and well mannered like you were as a kid.
- sincerely schizoid user
Obsessive thoughts. I've had them most my life. Maybe it's related to having a very good memory--I dunno. I still obsess over interactions from 15-20 years ago. And I know those people don't even spend one second thinking about me and wouldn't remember any of it (or even meeting me at all).
It's gotten worse over time, and I have crippling social anxiety now; I avoid hanging out with people because I know I will obsess over shit like an autismo for years to come.
Meditate.
It gets a little clearer each time user.
How do I stop drinking?
I've reached the point I get anxiety without it.
Literally just stop consuming alcohol. It's in no way difficult, you are just a pussy.
Get psychiatric help.
I've been sober several months, and the intense withdrawal anxiety went away after a few days to a week (tried quitting on a 4 day weekend where I didn't have to deal with people increasing my anxiety).
Helped kickstart sobriety and all, but...months later, here I am with generalized anxiety climbing week after week. I dunno what to tell you senpai. I wish I knew. Been thinking about zoloft or something.
Any good resources? Like a couch to 5k for meditating?
1. Learn to punctuate
2. See a shrink
How to deal with paranoia? I've been struggling with aggressive paranoia for a few months and it's ruining my social life.
I'm very angry and feel like im constantly like one little incident away from just exploding. Is this just a build up of stress? I just got out of a relationship with a girl who dealt with anxiety and depression all the time and i felt like i couldn't really get mad at her or it would make things worse, when she got upset.
I'm assuming/hoping the anger i feel now is just built up stress from that, but i was curious what you guys thought?
I just can't seem to make relationships work.
At some point, deep into commitment, I just get offended by the slacking process that every relationship experiences after like 2 years - it's small things but they add up in my head.
To me relationships become more serious the longer they last, emotional commitment becomes stronger for me and thus also my will to commit mental work to consider actions / words / etc. .
But for everyone else this is not the case - relationships slack out and become less serious, more and more other contacts ramp up again and slowly steal the focus of the RS.
And I am retard for being offended by senseless shit.
Example: We see each other around 3 days a week.
Yesterday was one of them, made plans to meet after her work, was ready to go and meet her at 5pm.
But she said she will pick me up instead, so I waited - she said she will be there at around 6pm.
Then she texted me that she will quickly do some "drifting" (it's snowing) with her friends close to town.
And she ended up getting to my place at 10pm.
It's actually no biggie at all but it somehow still offends me lel
well if she made plans with you and then went off and did other things, that's kind of shitty
A healthy adult male would still not really be bothered by it - he'd just say "fuck it" and do something else.
You would hear other people say that in that situation I should be happy for her having fun, etc.
I disagree, don't let yourself be walked all over like that mate
i have the same problem, im having anxiety and being paranoid about weird stuff, my memory have been failing too, i don't hear voices but im losing contact with people, only when im alone i feel calm and without anxiety or weird thoughts, i think we need medical attention, i hope you get well bro, sorry about my english, its shit.
Stop smoking weed
nah man you gotta learn to stand up for yourself with stuff like this. I just went through 2 years of doing the same exact "oh well, at least SHE'S happy" kind of runaround. If she does something that makes you upset, allow yourself to be upset about it
Had a rough couple of years ever since being prescribed ritalin. It has totally ruined my life.
I'm just not the same. I used to lucid dream constantly but can't recall any dreams for the past three years. It totally broke my dick and none of the health 'professionals' I have been to about it care. I mentioned to one "I don't shoot like I used to" to which she replied: "Men don't shoot far".
I used to have a really strong libido (and this was when I was 40kg overweight and eating shit). One would assume that getting fit and lifting weights would have ramped it up, right? Well, yeah, ritalin completely destroyed my sexual functioning. I stopped the pills ages ago but the problems are still there.
Ever since disclosing that I believed I had been sexually abused from a young age (and therapists, psychologists all believe I have been) I have been suffering horrific brain fog, I don't feel 'here' at all, I'm just in a massive daze constantly. Ever since I disclosed this I've felt even less like myself, fucking sucks.
I'm hoping psilocybin will 'reset' me but who knows. Wish I never took those stupid pills! Meditation is something I have started.
That's bullshit user. The best advice I can give you is if something upsets you in a relationship, fucking say so. If she ditches you after you've made plans, tell her that's fucked and up make sure she knows not to do it again. If she talks to some dude too much for your comfort (who's not an old af friend), tell her to fucking stop. If she talks shit about a good friend of yours, tell her to shut the fuck up.
Women will constantly test boundaries and if you let them get away with everything, they'll lose respect for you and walk all over you. It's OK to blow a gasket sometimes to let them know there are still boundaries they can't cross. You gotta let that steam off occasionally. Don't be a constantly angry dickhead who constantly gets mad about superfluous shit, but don't bottle it up forever.
A woman can be your partner, but sometimes you need to use a firm hand.
t.user who was in a 6 year relationship of that shit
>"I don't shoot like I used to" to which she replied: "Men don't shoot far".
Ayyyyy
Get help from a doctor though it can be VERY dangerous to stop alcohol cold turkey. You can die.
Look up Mindfullness in Plain English
Dude grow some balls. I wouldn't get mad but if my gf did that to me she wouldn't be my gf. You made plans with her and she basically said "lol jk"
Not necessarily. It depends on his addiction level.
t. someone who stopped cold turkey
I can't put into words how defeated I was at hearing that. She then, after I spilled my guts about how my dicks is broken, asked: "So what are you here for exactly?".
Because of my issues I internalised a lot of stuff and did the whole "Nobody could ever like me" thing. The opposite is true (going to therapy has allowed me to change my thinking on that) so imagine how frustrating it is to lose weight, start to put yourself out there to date and (and get some of the tasty boypussy) only for your dick to stop working.
I think I'm going to have to go to therapy to learn how to use my dick again. I don't wake up with morning wood anymore whereas I used to constantly. My test is fine, got it tested last year (while I was in the middle of my worst depressive episode ever) and it was 24.2 out of 30 (or whatever it is). Shits fucked.
Do you masturbate to porn? That was the reason my dick didnt work anymore
If you are regularly smoking pot, stop
You need to toughen up, son. See it as an opportunity rather than a problem. Without having to worry about being horny you can focus your energy on more constructive stuff.
Yeah but the problem came about on ritalin. Everything was fine until I took that pill. The first day I had a wank in the shower and hardly anything came out. I thought there and then I ought to stop, didn't, and here we are.
Except sexual health is an important aspect of mental health
Stop wanking and watching porn for a month or two and see where that takes you. Can't hurt in any case
Except sexual health is an important aspect of mental health.
I know what you're getting at but I don't have that fire in my belly that I would get even one day of not having a wank. My dick is even smaller than it used to be (when limp). Something is wrong as fuck and it's not good for my mental health.
miss you Dave xoxo
Miss you too, Starman.
>Hello hello
>This is Bowie
>Starman
Not very clever, in a thread dealing with mental illness, to start accusing anons of being aliens, alien user.
Shrooms are fun, but not if you are mentally unstable. They can trigger a psychotic episode in you. I never experienced something bad so far while doing shrooms.
As for your penis, why blaim the ritalin? Check the medicine box for any side effects that also cover yours. It could very well be a different cause, such as finding out you've been abused.
My brainfog was connected to being depressed, when I got out of it by doing sports and socializing more, the fog also lifted. A very weird feel.
Tip: Keep a diary, so you can track progress, or reanalize situations.
>As for your penis, why blaim the ritalin?
Because the first day I took it I ejaculated the least I ever have in my life, an hour after taking it. I looked around to see if I could see the rest.
The trigger for the abuse coming back was getting involved with someone for the first time (and getting in the shower with them and almost fainting) but this was a year after the sexual dysfunction started.
It's only a problem because you're focusing on it. Use your energy where it matters and stop fretting over trivialities.
I get that it's a bit of a catch-22 but I'm not sure how to stop focusing on it.
>mfw cyclothymic (weak bipolar)
>mfw manic now
>mfw feel like I could help you guys
>mfw have so much advice
>mfw mentall illnesess are completely beatable even without meds
>mfw wait 3 weeks for the switch to slip
honestly, the gym is the only thing keeping me alive. If I dont go to the gym for few weeks everything goes to shit, every time.
I might spend too much money on food and supplements, but whatever if it lets me train more.
I dont even know what I want in response from you guys. Propably nothing. Just wenting out.
Godspeed user, make my manic visions a reality.
i don't know either, but it sounds like you might have a problem that some idiots on a vietnamese rice jug trading board can't fix
so do what say, see a proffesional
either loosen up the whole relationship and have her be ok with you pulling the same shit or stand up for yourself dude, she pretty much blew you off.
could've at least invited you to come over
Just broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years, we lived together.
I can't even think of why anymore, just that it hurts so fucking much. What the fuck do I do Veeky Forums? I spent almost every day with her for four years. Four fucking years. How do I go on from this?
Do the same thing to her and see how she reacts to it. She's probably not going to be happy, just remind her then of what she did.
You just made me realize i might be like you
Exact same thing happened to me this summer. Just get through the feelings, you can't do much right now about it, but you'll get over it with time. Focus on finding yourself again.
It's just been hours man. Why the fuck do we feel emotions
I got through the first hours by driving 13h to scream and cry at her after she broke up by text. Not the most glorious day in my life. Had to drive back afterwards. Find something more productive to do to take your mind off it.
The worst part is that it was mutual, but I instigated the breakup. It just didn't work to live together. Maybe I'll see things better in a few hours or days.
>tfw no car to sing in, student life is pain
Thanks for letting me pour my heart out a bit. Appreciated it man.
No problem man. We are all gonna make it.
On a more thread related not, i've find that for mental and general health, the following in order are most important :
> Good Sleep (Same time every day, 8+ hours)
> Good food (lots of vegetables, medium meat and eggs, little carbohydrates in the form of fruits preferably)
> Exercise
If you have just these 3 in check its like 90% of the battle.
i cant lift my crippling dyslexia away :(
>be out with friends yesterday
>kinda drunk, laughing about how we're losers
>accidentally say "haha yeah, I just deserve to die"
>wasn't even paying attention, it just slipped out
>silence
I'm not doing too good. I'm a fucking weirdo and I'm not too good at hiding it.
Get one of those reading machines for the blind. You know, a pen thingy that converts written words into audio. If you're diagnosed you can get it through insurance :)
is your green text a specific Bowie reference?
I don't know if being mentally ill led to me having no friends or if having no friends led to me becoming mentally ill. But I have no friends and I'm mentally ill.
Those two things sorta feed into each other if you let them.
People give a shit less though if you have shared interests.
Like a lot less.
Do shit you want and talk to people who do it too. Even ask for help. People love answering questions, especially about their own self/work.
I can't flirt. At all. I had a lot of female friends in high school due to classes being that way, so I can talk to them fine. I just can't go over the threshold to flirting because I always worried that I'd lose a friend (since that happened to me a couple of times after i asked out a girl)
How do I just go over this threshold, and how the fuck do you even flirt? I can be clever, just don't know what to say/what's acceptable.
Be direct abd be fine with being rejected. Like "I think you are cute do you wanna hang out?" and don't make a big deal out of being rejected.
