Tfw no friends

Tried that. Usually get blown off. Hurts more than being blown off by a chick.

i have nowhere to go outside my home, since i don't have friends to invite me to places

i go to work, but since i have no social skills people know my as the socially awkward, quiet guy

So it never really gets better, does it?

I'm 23, in university, and i feel the exact same. If you replace 29 with 23 and 10 with 5, i could've written that post.

Do this:

1. Start watching your local NFL team, pick one: NHL or NBA, and MLB for off season
2. For extra info, read up on trivia and learn some about the players and trades
3. Goto a sports bar, sit by yourself, and start watching the games
4. Eventually start a conversation about the sport with someone

No bars? gyms? shotting ranges? whatever places where would be socially acaptable to talk to other people?

Let me guess, you're also doing stem?
>tfw in highschool I expected that once I'll go for a reasonable degree I'll sit with qts on a blanket on a green grass
>tfw I expected comfy parties at friends places and meeting there qt friends of friends with whom I would hang out after the party ended, riding on someone's bicycles around the city at night
>tfw I am finishing my math MSc, and it is just like user said most of ppl are busy, and the parties means playing board games and talking about classes
>tfw I will soon graduate, go to the job, where the things will look even worse
>tfw all my memories are exams and classes related and maybe coming home for winter and summer breaks
>tfw my youth poured like a water through my fingers

Yeah, at least I AM A REASONABLE PERSON WITH A NICE DEGREE, DON'T I? AFTER ALL THAT'S WHAT REALLY MATTERS. Don't fall for the stem meme guys - you'll make money anyway, but you won't buy relationships and friendships.

at least you kept moving and didndt stagnate, think of all the loss people have gone through because of weird addictions like being addicted to the computer, or even weed (some people get locked in a time capsule and dont evolve at all when they're hooked on it, I would know)

i don't like sports at all though

>bars
how do i make friends here? everyone there is with a group of their friends usually

>gyms
i have a home gym, do i approach guys at the gym and ask them questions to make friends?

>shotting ranges
very few here

>whatever places where would be socially acaptable to talk to other people?
i don't know what else there is. i'm not good at any sport, so sports leagues or martial arts lessons won't work for me

>parties
>playing board games

I'm kinda happy that I never had to do this at parties but also wish I did this at parties.

Parties I was in involved eating, drinking, dancing and then hitting the clubs later.

>i don't like sports at all though
What do you like?

>bars
People get more talkative once they got drunk.

>Any other places
Good first step is ask for advice, poeple like to help if they can. Ask for spot in the gym and try small talk about routines and diets for examlpe. Same goes for any other places, if you're not good at sports its great oportunity to ask someone to help you get better.

Relationships are about sharing your life with someone. What about your life makes it shareable?

>i don't like sports at all though

you probably don't like working either and you'd rather sleep in everyday.

force yourself.

Yeah i know that feel, but i guess my whole town is pretty autistic.
For example: Nobody talks at bus, never, even friends dont do it and when somebody talks everybody is mad af.

Also I guess im stuck in the past when i had a fiancee and was happy.
Pic is pretty related i guess.

>bars?
Dont drink.
>gyms?
Tried but i think they dont like me, they just watch me, when i try to talk to them they are pretty dismissive.
>shotting ranges?
Pretty strict laws here.
>whatever places where would be socially acaptable to talk to other people?
Dont know any place.

I watch chinese cartoons

>>What do you like?
i don't have interests tbqh

i want to try rock climbing, but i don't have any friends, so can only do bouldering. i went to a bouldering gym for a month, but haven't signed up again

want to learn a language, programming and guitar too, but these are more solitary activities

thanks for the advice

exactly, nothing
i don't have friends and do things with them, so i have nothing to really share with others

Believe in yourself!!

>can only do bouldering
and i mean indoor bouldering only

>i don't have interests tbqh
Because you probably didn't try many things. It's hard to determine if you're into something if you didn't even try it.
You can try cooking something new, maybe you find you enjoy cooking.
You can buy/gather seed of for example lemon and try to grow one in a pot, maybe you would like gardening.
You don't need to go all out, just try little things, reaserch them to do them as best as can and maybe you'll find something. There are various interest boards here, maybe lurk some of them.

Also if you're really autistic to the point that you can't even hold simple small talk converstion try to read one of those self-help books like pic.

Stop being anxious. I'm almost the same spot as you right now, (except the buddies part) but a year ago, I did not any friends at all.

I started talking, talking and talking. You're gonna fail and don't be afraid of it.
Its how life is and usually life doesn't really give a fuck if you fail, go homeless heartbroken all that shit. So its really up to you to improve yourself and that has to come from a good place with good intentions. Stop putting yourself down and love yourself.

Experience shit, practice and learn from it, there's no other way to do it.

Were born social creature, not fucking hermits.

If you want to make people laugh, watch and listen to comedians. Study how they make a joke and figure out their pattern. But really if you even think about, a lot of their jokes come from their life experiences.

I would suggest learning how to tell a story.

Go meet people on Tinder. Join a dance class. Or a cooking class. Sheilas love those.

>But really if you even think about, a lot of their jokes come from their life experiences.

That's more American stand-up. Brits tend to concentrate more on social commentary or just pure abstracts.

>You train it

Why is this allowed?

thanks for the advice

thanks

>I started talking,
who did you talk to and what about? i'm not very good at conversations, it's mostly me listening to other people

>a lot of their jokes come from their life experiences.
i find this too, but i don't have any good experiences

the most popular guy at my workplace always has a story. the majority of which involve something he does with his friends
but because i don't do a lot and don't have friends, i don't have stories.

i'm not very good looking

Make your body aesthetically pleasing so that chicks will pour chocolate sauce and lick it up from your abs. Plus more aesthetics will give you more confidence brah.

The most retarded idea

It's easy to lie to others, but you'll know that connection was formed from bullshit.

Not only that, how long do you think you can maintain a friendship based on something you don't care about?

The point is that, he'll eventually find sports interesting, or at least socially profitable. He'll start caring then.

For all the lonely solos in this thread, check out this website and create a profile. It's made for ppl exactly like you looking to make friends and find new hobbies that can be done in a group.

meetup.com/

I suggest joining a Disc golf/ Frisbee golf group in your city. It's a chill out door activity and most of the ppl who play are pretty laid back in my experience. Focus on getting a group of guy friends before going after a gf. That way your gf won't be your entire world.

I went to college. I was a social retard but I just listened to my buddies on how they talk and the norms. Connected with them through shared music interest and fashion.

The year before that, I was depressed monkey, always putting myself down. One day, I had break down and cried for almost a week, alone in my room. Experiencing my lowest in life really gave me a perspective in life in general. I'm on my own, seriously. I'm trapped with my mind, and decided to do a 180 and better myself cause there's no other way. I thought about what I want to be in 5 years and I'm still working on it. Really though its easier said than done but sweet isn't so sweet without the bitter.

One more thing, you seem to stick too much to what you know about hobbies. Try doing something else, something new, really push yourself out there. Go sweat some bullets, thats totally normal.

Good luck dude

In my city, the only active ones are:
>Python
>Java
>.Net
>Scrum
>Discovering Bible
>Bitcoin

Bruhs, will I make it?

Scrum as in Rugby? That sounds like the perfect group to meet other fitizens. Also I bet the bitcoin group is pretty fun and cyberpunky. Maybe try changing your interest settings on the website to cast a larger net. There are other ppl out there who share your interests and values you just have to find them.

>"Oh my God, you lied to me user!" cries and runs away
>montage of user and user's friend walking around lonely with sad faces while sad music is playing

It suppose to be a starter for a friendship, not basis of it. Once you make a friend you're suppose to talk with him to find other common interests other that sports.

sports are the easiest way to bond with people for one reason: they give you a common enemy.

that's the trick, find a common enemy.

Seconding this, bounced around a lot between different jobs and always met cool people just doing like MtG meetups or other need shit.

Someone needs to do something about the site charging $10/month to host a meetup though

>Someone needs to do something about the site charging $10/month to host a meetup though

This. I wanted to start a programming over drinks group in my are (go to a bar with laptops and code type shit) and it's fucking expensive.

> in my are
area*

Yeah it's just a ridiculous amount for the resource equivalent of a geocities page from 10 years ago, compared to other services you get for $10/mo like spotify, Amazon prime, etc

Sadly I don't think there are any good alternatives

It's a free voice/text chat website much like teamspeak

DID YOU SEE THAT LUDICROUS DISPLAY LAST NIGHT?

i'm trying, but i'm bulking still

nothing in my area
>live in the suburbs, so most groups are for women and moms
>all of the popular ones are in the city

thanks for the advice

be yourself

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Find a sport you like , go join a club for it.
Dont be an assburger when interracting with people.
There you go easy friends.
Did that with basketball and now my social circle is full.

>Find a sport you like
not very good at sports, i don't do cardio and have poor hand-eye coordination

>i dont do cardio
do it
>poor hand eye coordination
practice

it aint fucking hard

>where do i meet girls?
You don't user. Making new friends is also very unlikely if you are not someway forced to interact with them alot. So either be in school, hobby group, work with them and that way try to build friendships. That is unless everyone has their own circles inside those things, then it is hopeless. The world is a cold place for people without social skills, also fairly cold to those who have social skills though.

What was Manchester thinking?

Start reading books, even audiobooks. Your vocabulary will greatly increase. My recommendation to you is "How to Win Friends and Influence People". youtube.com/watch?v=YcNfyBJILZE

Confirmed

I met some guys at a local sports bar and eventually joined their fantasy football league. Now they're all really close friends with me and it's pretty great.

start practicing some sport you like, pref a team based sport and make friends with your teamates, so you can go out with them and meet peole to fuck

I haven't had friends since I was 13. No friends has caused every problem in my life.

Not having friends meant I never met girls

Not getting girls or having friends meant I became isolated

Becoming isolated meant I became lonely, miserable, bitter through high school

Being miserable and isolated in high school meant I didn't learn how to interact socially with peers

Not learning how to interact with peers carried over into college so i basically had the same existence there

All the isolation, misery, loneliness, etc, meant I had nothing to work towards, so no motivation.

All I do is make observational humor jokes with people so people usually think I'm funny, but I never have real conversations with people. Been like this my whole life. I honestly am literally scared to try to meet people because people haven't liked me my whole life so I don't want to burden them with my existence, and I also don't want people to see how pathetic my life is.

No motivation meant I stayed a manlet and holocaust mode (5'9" 140, just here for shitposting) and didn't do great in college because studying is difficult when you have no motivation and nothing to strive for

Graduate college, move back home, work shit job because I don't see the point in trying grad school, terrible relationship with parents (they are assholes, I'm an asshole, so we all barely even talk to each other, only child)

Now a 25 year old kissless friendless shut-in (besides work) who has never even attempted to get a girl

And sure I'm ugly as fuck (get rated 3-4/10 online, insulted for my face since I was a kid), but the friendlessness is what has killed all hope for me since I was 13.

i posted without reading everything, but yeah, what i said, and you dont need to be good at something to do it, its even better if you are a noob so you have more themes to make conversation, like questions about that sport, clothes and that kind of shit

> on a fitness board where so many people have reported a confidence boost after lifting
> still remains a depressed twink who doesn't even attempt to improve his life
If you get the opportunity, kill yourself.
Both the body and the mind can be improved, you've made a conscious choice to be a failure.

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Isolations are bad, do more free weight

Where can I meet those who will join me against the Jews?

I'm with you brother.

For the love God, can someone please share the source ?

try an autism treatment clinic

This is copypasta.

prison

>so many people have reported a confidence boost after lifting

This is bullshit. Now I just have body dysmorphia on top of my crippling socialphobia.

yes from me.

Bohoo then do something about it, the guys in here alreday told you what diffrent things you could do but you have to act on it

would you call rock climbing a sport?

i joined a gym once, i never spoke to a single person

I am a manlet twig but i do work out some. cardio and lifting some. it has not changed my confidence levels at all.

my past and entire life up to this point is actually handcuffing me. i know people say not to lvie in the past, but having to think about how literally my entire life has been wasted completely destroys you mentally

it stops destroying you mentally when you stop thinking about it. is very cool desu.

Join a mma gym. If you train consistently those guys will treat you like a brother. Also girls train too so you can get yourself a fit girl.

i don't want to get injured, and i need glasses to see (don't wear contacts)

Lol, beta faggots.
Im 6'1 but i always tell people im 5'11 to make lanklets feel shorter.
I also subtract an inch from my dick so whens shes with the next guy he feels smaller

>knowing that you can overpower a greater fraction of men as your strength increases doesn't grant you confidence
This is what happens when you start to lift for the sake of looking better I guess.

just be urself. if they still dont like you well sorry you're out of luck.

Train brazilian jiu jitsu. As long as you train smart and with good partners you shouldn't get injured. You don't need to see that well to grapple since your kinda seeing more with the feeling of your body, not your eyes.

>have no social skills
>all your interests are solitary activities
>wish you had friends
>wish you had a girlfriend
>wish you were normal

/pol/

I'm a social retard, got on tinder and went to work on the few matches I got, it's the confidence gainz that matter. My first few conversations were trainwrecks but it gets better everytime

And believe me, I'm nowhere near anything that could be considered attractive

breh..............

>just be yourself

fit let me ask you something

can you even fathom what it would be like to date girls like this. can you imagine how insanely narcissistic and high maintenance they are. imagine your fear every time you go somewhere with them that guys will be hitting on them all the time

terrifying

i don't even have pics for tinder, ill have to take selfies
maybe i will try it

how did you have success on tinder if you aren't attractive when looks is basically 90% of tinder?

Anyone else terrified of the thought of someone you know finding you on tinder?

It's easy, go for ugly and fat girls. Boom sex.

I don't quite get the stigma about Tinder. Like, apparently Tinder is really popular, and possibly the most popular "hookup" app. There are lots of girls on there but the ratio of guys to girls is around 70/30 (and if you take out the fake girls, probably 80/20). Reddit's tinder board is very popular

Yet for some reason people seem to be scared of the thought of people finding them on tinder, like they will look down on you, when they are on tinder themselves.

I mean I can get why a girl would feel embarrassed being there because a girl shouldn't need an app to find guys. But guys are depserate so it makes sense they would be on it

How's your social gains progress been brahs?

>went out to a club/bar for the first time and got fucked and high for first time, was fun
>grill danced with me and kissed on [spoiler]cheek[/spoilersdon'tworkonfit]
>actually talking to grills
>anxiety went away, not afraid to talk to people anymore
>more confident than other betas now, started actually not giving many fucks about what people think
>started looking for and practicing body language
>got more frindz
>talking louder

still khv but gonna make it

did you go to the club by yourself?

I'm in a similar boat. I'm 35 and in my teens and early 20s I had lots of friends, but around 26 I started to drift from people I knew, and never made any new friends. Over time I became increasingly isolated until I was totally alone. The last few people who were my "friends" cut me off when they learned I was a Trump supporter. Now it's been so many years since I've had a fulfilling social life that I've forgotten what it's even like. It almost feels like those memories are a dream, like they're someone else's memories. I can't even imagine that someone would want to be friends with someone like me. It just doesn't seem believable.

Me. Also tinder has alot more men than women so the women can be as picky as they want and if you are not atleast decent looking you can forget about it.

Nah brah, went out with college class. But so far I've been just jumping at every single opportunity to go to clubs/bars and socialize with friends whereas b4 I'd sit at home and play dota or some shit.

>tfw 26 almost 27 and this is me
>tfw never had so few "friends"
>tfw just wanna be left alone and avoid people most of the time now