So my girlfriend bassicly never wants to have sex, We're in 24 and we fuck like once a week and everytime it's kind of boring and she'll pull a "you can come whenever" line like 2 minutes in (the worst.) It would be less if I didn't try every day. She's on anti-anxiety meds which curb her sex drive, she pretty much never excersizes (yoga once a week), and she stays skinny because she doesn't eat very well so she has no energy ever.
Help Veeky Forums what do I do.
>labito
>bassicly
slip 'er the 'ol female viagra into her drink
take the meds out?
She sounds depressed, nothing you can do about that. Search long and hard in yourself and figure out if it is where you want to be. Nothing lasts forever.
Tell her to get off the fucking pharms and start exercising
Anxiety and depression are very commonly associated
sounds like a fucking dead shit
If I did that she would just start crying, she would have to hear it from someone else. Maybe I get a cousellor or something, because obviously that would solve the problem.
>She's on anti-anxiety meds
It's that. Unless she stops them nothing will change.
move along user.
she does not sound like anything worth even the slightest effort.
perhaps keep her around a little longer because females are atracted to males who already have female attention.
Depends on your answer to this question OP. I want you to think about this properly and give a genuine answer:
Are you better off leaving her?
No, she's out of my league, I'm doing the right thing staying with her. We did the long distance thing all through school so I didn't realize this was a problem until moving in together this year.
plus you know love and all that
dump her, one of the few benefits of monogamy is supposed to be pussy on tap. if she isn't going to hold up her end of the relationship, ditch her
Libido is mostly a matter of sex hormones, which are improved/controlled by:
>Regular exercise
>Regular sunshine
>Good diet
>Good sleep
Anti depressants and anti anxiety medication are both flawed in that they're treating the symptoms of imbalanced hormones rather than the cause, as a result they simply don't work other than masking the problem. As you've identified, they also flatten hormones responsible for sex drive
Effective treatment for anxiety is the same as it is for depression and as listed above. In short, ask her to fix herself through other means and tell her your lack of sex is a problem
sad lyfe for op
was she raped lmao?
>out of your league
that's one reason why
cause u desperate a f, and cause u a lazy worthless shit. no woman would drip for a lazy nigga.
Two thinks that you need to acknowledge before reconsidering:
1.) Once you put effort into something, you become more attached to it. If you break up, all that long distance shit is for nothing right? Wrong! Those are sunk costs and all that matters is what is in front of you.
2.) When you are content you don't make positive changes. 9 times out of ten when you consider leaving or changing something, you should have already done it earlier.
If you want to stay with her communication is key. Tell her you don't like being told when to cum. Also, stop being so thirsty. Making yourself so available will be a bit of a turn off. I had performance anxiety which made me not want to fuck and how thirsty my gf was made me not want to fuck her.
Also you might just be a bad fuck. Look up sex tips.
Why would she cry? Explain to her the benefits of having a healthy fucking diet and exercising daily. I know plenty of people who were on SSRIs before they got their shit together and now they don't need them.
>anti-anxiety meds
>she's out of my league
you know what's going to happen if you fix her libido? she's going to try to trade you in for a guy she feels is out of her league
I agree with this completely, I bring up the sex thing once a month or whatever, and she makes an effort for a couple days then forgets and it's out of her mind, but yeah the other tough sale is getting her off those pills. she was depressed in university, like half of 18 year olds and now I'm sure she could go off them, but she's scared. Not sure how to convince her to try, there's the whole withdrawl period and all that to get over where you think your depressed again
I'm not interested in leaving her, I'm over simplifying our relationship, it is mostly healthy. As far as being over available I'd have to disagree there, if I don't try for it she never does, and sex just pretty much doesn't happen and she thinks everything is fine. It's one thing getting turned down, it's another waiting for her to start something, and just stewing in frustration by my self when she doesn't even notice.
Tell her that having a healthy diet and exercising daily will more than likely solve the anxiety issue instead of just making it all about the sex
Yeah bro its the meds. Tolerate it till you get sick of it and leave her.
She had a doctor give her the pills, I think a doctor is going to have to take them away, I should probably try and get her back into see one. It's been a 5-6 years now that she's been taking them. Good call on not making it about me though
KICK HER TO THE FUCKING CURB!!!FACT!!!
Thanks for the chat guys, I appreciate the advice, have a good night.
Give her multi-vitamins.
That said some women just don't have a big sex drive. I'm one of them. However I try extra hard for my husband the few times we do have sex every month because I feel bad and try to make up for it.
Pressuring her will only make her less interested.
Try making sure you're paying attention to her needs. When my husband gets me to cum at least one or two times before we even start fucking, it's easier for me to stay into it than if we just jump into straight sex.
Worse comes to worse you might just need to talk to her about what you could do better cause there's also a chance you're just bad at sex and she's afraid to tell you user, which means you'll have to drop your own ego to find out what you can do to satisfy her.
All else fails, try introducing sex toys. Even the least sexually active women can get horny for a toy, and since it's an easy orgasm you can get her a few times first with that, and if she's anything like me, she'll be insatiable until she gets fucked after that.
Good luck user.
Sounds like it's already over and you don't realise it yet.
Find someone else then dump her, or let her do it first.
Give her the ol' lickeroo
Any good getting her from the couch on her phone into the mood advise? I usually do try and make her come before sex, but sometimes that just stresses her out because she can't always do it. I'm pretty open to asking her what I can do, and I've got a blind fold and a little vibrater that if I can get her in the mood usually do the trick. also she gets soar quickly when we do have sex after getting her warmed up so that's when she usually tells me to cum faster. Any more girl perspective advice?
>the few times we do have sex every month
This right here is why marriage is complete bullshit and sex with other people should not be a taboo.
Just let the guy fuck other women, let him be happy and you don`t have to force yourself to have sex.
you need to start playing mind games with her.
in the morning tell her youre going to give her head/fuck later that night, and that you want her to imagine it all day long.
send her a text later that day along the lines of "cant wait for later"
this is the kinda shit that women love
or he could just ... you know... cheat on her ?
Encourage her to enjoy herself rather than focusing on climaxing. Sometimes my husband can't cum (If we've been ging at it for awhile it just gets to be exhausting for us both) and we both agree to keep a positive attitude of "It was still fun anyway" which has personally helped me feel more comfortable.
Ultimately though this might not have a fix, user. You might just have to deal with the fact that you have a girl with a low sex drive.
I'd say talk to her about her telling you you can cum during since that likely doesn't help you cum any faster which probably stresses her out more.
Maybe try talking about any kinda fantasies she might have and letting her lead the situation? Some people can't get off without their kinks too so that might help? (Like sometimes i can't cum unless i get choked).
I dunno man. She could try talking to her doctor as well about how she can raise her libidio herself. I don't think you'll be able to get her off her medication, being depressed can be terrifying.
This might not work. It can be offputting for a lot of women and most girls will just humor the guy because we think that's what HE wants.
OP don't cheat on her either if you value the relationship itsself. Sex shouldn't be the top priority if you want a lasting relationship. It should be there sure, but it shouldn't be an absolute deal breaker if you can come up with a compromise (Like with my husband and I and I just kinda giving him some pussy once in awhile even when I don't feel like it, and going harder on the times I do to make up for it).
Maybe she can do something similar for a compromise, like maybe giving you head a little more often?
Talking about the emotional connection from sharing a sexual experience might help her too if relaxing is difficult for her (most common reason women don't cum is feeling too pressured to do so after all).
Stressing the emotional connection and less importance on cumming might help.
10/10 post nigga
If you want to cheat on her, then just break up with her. Don't ruin someone's emotional state and trust just because you're horny, that's fucked up. If sex is more important, then break up and go fuck someone else. If the relationship is important, keep finding a way to make it work.
Relationships of any kind whether it's friendship or love are about compromise and communication.
Cheating on someone makes you a pussy.
SERIOUS answer is tell her that the lack of sex is affecting you because you feel love on a physical level. And tell her to go to her doctor and get on a different medication where the side effects aren't bad for her. Everyone reacts to meds differently and it's a fucking shame that nobody actually tailors their medication to their patient.
Get out now my dude. In my experience bitches on those meds or with "anxiety/depression" are shit to be with and boring to fuck. Even though mine had ridiculously high sex drive, everything else always outweighs it.
I'm not planning on cheating on her or breaking up over any of this no realationship is going to be perfect. I just want her to put in the effort to find the middle ground.
>try introducing sex toys
Fuck off degenerate.
Bro... i hate to break it to you but you are 24, if she is not boiling with hormones now she never will. And dont believe that no energy/pharma shit, which is another underlying issue and possible red flag.
I wont tell you what to do but you get the gist of it
We lived together a few years back and I did get her to switch meds, there is a pretty big withdrawl period, and then an adjustment period for the new meds. It's quite a bit of work for her, and it didn't really change anything, well not for long anyways. I'd like to ask her to go off them, because I personally think she's out grown them, but it's a big ask, and I'm not a doctor or her so it's a tough sell.
>the few times we do have sex every month because I feel bad and try to make up for it.
> When my husband gets me to cum at least one or two times before we even start fucking
Poor guy. Arn't you sexually attracted to him?
She does not like you enough.
fuck off /pol/
go back to your containment board
Low sex drive is the biggest bullshit I've ever heard.
Your GF would drop her panties and bend over if Brad Pitt told her to.
She just doesn't respect you, or find your sexually appealing.
Search and read "sex God method" by Daniel rose. Some other fitizen on here recommended it, and although I'm not getting regular sex to apply what he describes, it sounds like it has a lot of merit.
Man that sucks. I'd talk to her about it and get her into a more healthy lifestyle as suggested because she's clearly off balance.
A 24 year-old woman who loves you will fuck your brains out.
At 24 I
I know how you feel man
My girlfriend is like 260lbs and fat as shit, and has no sex drive. She literally only gains pleasure from food.
I am so sexually repressed as well. I have gotten pretty strong from lifting and look pretty good and she still isn't sexually aroused by me
Man I've tried everything. I once bought fine dark chocolate, melted it, poured it whilst it was still quite hot over my testicles and penis and laid on the table for her. She smiled, scraped the chocolate off with a very sharp knife (which drew blood), and used it as dip for a nougat bar, she didn't even realise I was trying to arouse her. I also leave bowls of cherries, oysters, truffle chocolate etc in the house for her to eat as I heard they raise sexual impulse. It hasn't worked yet,in fact she has gained 3lb since I started.
Tempted to cheat desu
Come inside her.
It drives women crazy
>have high test gf who squats more than most guys
>fuck her silly hard and in the ass after working out together everyday
>she cooks, cleans and buys me shit constantly
>college ends
>move in with her parents because big house and they offer, I didn't have a job yet
>she stops exercising I start working 12 hours a day + studying after work
>we both gain weight at her parents she wasn't high test with all that exercise because she was raised eating healthy
>sex drive gone because "wut if parents hear"
>same chick that's response to someone flirting me at a party was to pull me into a room and tell me to fuck her hard enough that everyone could hear her scream.
>anxiety issues from stopping exercise, stopping healthy food and her mom treating her poorly
>can't leave because now her parents are dependent on her doing stuff around the house and the paycheck from both our rent
I'm terrified it won't go back to how things were the first two years of our relationship when we have our own place again.
My girlfriend is caring, 5ft, works out five times a week and we watch anime and play vidya together with icecream in the weekend next to lifting together and tonight we are going out to eat pizza together. Gonna ask her to marry me once I graduate this year.
Oh and the sex is great too
I remember this doujin my dude
pretty cool vanilla
>few times we do have sex every month
This is UTTERLY incomprehensible to me. Why can't you take care of your partner in life, you supposedly love ever day? Even if you are not into it, you shouldn't be actively averse to it. You should be able to do this for your HUSBAND.
It's not like most people have sky high work-drives but they still manage to go to work 5 days a week. So surely laying for 5 minutes in a comfy bed for your significant other will be infinitely easier?
I wish more people would see relationships as a form of work, where you sometimes do needs to be done, regardless of your snowflake feels in that fleeting instant.
>'ol
I dont think I would want to fuck my partner if she wasn't in to it
I'm all for patience and communication but ultimately it's my partner's job to satisfy my needs and vice versa.
Femanon here
Same happened to me with my last bf. The truth is, the sex wasn't very exciting for me, and once you bounce out of the sex train, you forget that you even want it.
What works for me is sexting, dirty talk and generally new and exciting shit in the bed.
I may have some fucked up fetishes, but try being more aggressive/dominant with her, play force her into it. A lot of girls love being dominated and don't even know it. Make her feel wanted, no questions asked.
t b h rape her. She'll love it. Depressed people love the attention. :^)
Tbh talk to her about it. Give it some time and if it doesn't change talk to her again my wife was like this after our kid was born for a year but it changed after we talked about it and I guess after I calmly told her how I felt about it like 4 times it changed. Idk man I'm not a scientist but it worked for me so hopefully it helps you.
It doesn't happen over night. Its slowly sinks to "too busy, every other day" then "just on weekends when we aren't tired" then to "every other weekend"
been in this type of relationship before, with a girl with low sex drive
gf also had anxiety issues and said she was afraid i would want someone else, because she didnt like to have sex, but i legitimately thought that i loved her so much it would never affect me, and i ignored all the advice people typically give about how important it is to find someone with an equal sex drive to your own
the relationship eventually ended because i felt miserable because she generally didnt show a lot of affection
it was never going to work, dont lie to others about what you can give up in life
I want to believe
Is she on the pill?
My gf got off the pill and her libido (proper spelling you fuckhead) increased dramatically.
>labito
awoooo
my ex always used to ask me to cum like 30 minutes in, saying she was tired or something...
is my dick too small?
>her libido goes up
>on the downside, you have to fuck her with a condom now
worth it?
Go back to your shit hole Mohammad. You can fuck your dancing boys without judgement there.
This has to be bait... right guys?
Prolly, but let me tell you a true story. Most bait has roots in facts.
Meet gf in college. Knew her in H.S. was dance team, molly ringwald type. I was king dork perma virgin soccer nerd. Hurt knees at 18 rehab in uni gym. Gains to otter mode. Still autistic but aware of it. Over soph summer, girl notices this plus engineer future salary and latches on. Marry early cause dream girl. DD's and smart. Drop out of grad school, work to pay for her many liberal arts fluff degrees. She becomes High Test. No longer into sex. I go to chub mode working night job. Enter the begging. Goes to once a week, then monthly. I get it so rarely that when i do it lasts 5 min. 8 years l8r...in debt, can stand it no more. Shes full BBW. Get fit, get divorce cause she finally cheated, lose house. Start over and discover girls with clits that WORK. Married now to crossfit sexbot. She's married to fat beta.
DO NOT GO THROUGH WHAT I DID. Compatible sex drive IS IMPORTANT as PROTEIN.
No need to be cruel, but get out now. Dont fuck up both your lives. Parents and skools and churches do NOT tell you how important this is. I am.
>The pill is the only form of contraception for females
Just fuck other thots lmao
D U M P H E R
Same. I work at Wendy's am 6'7" make 400k a year with a 17.6ffmi at 12% body fat . My girl is 273lbs at 5'3" and I can't get her to orgasm with my 9x8 incher.
She's cheating on you.
Dump her, what a boring bitch
How does someone who calls himself a "man" puts up with this kind of shit?
t. never been in a 3+ year relationship
>my
>girlfriend
>260 lbs
One of these is out of the equation
you've obviously never been in a decent relationship
that pic man, fuck my shit up
way too real
Fuck off.
If Wojak had a dog what would he look like?
Yep
>Help Veeky Forums what do I do.
You can either be understanding and stop using her as a fuck-toy, or you can stop seeing her and find someone else. Although it sounds to me like you don't actually care about her or her situation at all, you just want a warm, wet hole to stick your dick into so you can get off; maybe you'd be better off letting her find someone who isn't an insensitive asshole like you are, and just go pay whores instead, or better yet just get yourself a fleshlight and a subscription to a porn site on the internets, then nobody will have to put up with your rape-culture adolescent-male bullshit.
Is right.
Doesn't matter over time periods, if she doesn't care she doesn't care about the needs of the other person in the relationship. I've been in several relationships for 4+ years and if sex is an issue we talked about it and she put more effort in. End of story, never a problem again. If it's an ongoing issue she doesn't care about you
rape her
It's always so easy to tell when a girl is posting
Ask if she wants the natty lickeraroo
Why, because it's not autistic? I wonder how some of us even function in real life.
>Me. Me. Me. Me.
Woman confirmed.
>wanting to have sex with the person you love is using them as a fuck toy
>expressing love through physical intimacy isn't legitimate
Took you seriously until rape culture, 6/10
You're right about medicine easing symptoms and not treating causes, but sometimes with mental shit people are just born with brains that don't work right. Sometimes people have trauma in their past that can cause it, but sometimes their brain hormones just aren't operating correctly. Kind of like prople who are born paralyzed or with fucked up intestines. Or how kids born into stable, happy families end up bipolar and shit.
Basically OP, it may or may not be possible to "fix" your girl outside of medicine. Exercise and diet will help but she might be fucked up for life. If she's too much trouble, dump her.
slap her around, choke her, bite her ass so hard she bleeds. she'll come around
it's actually because you care how he treats his girlfriend
I was in a similar situation. As most people said, the anti-anxiety meds + depression will do that. Getting her to exercise to naturally increase serotonin levels will help as well as a bit of maca powder every day. Maca powder is not a meme. I've been taking it daily for about 2 months and my sex drive is sky high and it's amazing for increasing lubrication. Seriously I just look at my boyfriend and am ready to go
>sleeping with someone
>She's out of my league
Bro, don't be that guy. Sex is sex, desire and need. Look deeper into what you want
This 100%. Seriously grow up op and ditch her you fucking child
fuck man ive been in a similar situation before. my ex was basically depressed and never wanted to have sex unless i insisted upon it, so like once a week. and it was never great because it felt like i was the only one who actually wanted it in the first place. you could try to just be there for her but really if youre seriously depressed thats something that only you can solve, nobody else can cure your depression