Hello guys. I've come to the terrible realization im just a loser. And I don't know how to fix myself

Hello guys. I've come to the terrible realization im just a loser. And I don't know how to fix myself.

>Im a kissless virgin at 22
>Watch cuckold porn unironically everyday
>Still live with my parents, simply because they feel bad so they don't kick me out
>Not good at a single thing in the world
>Have spent 5 hours average on Veeky Forums per day for the last 3 years
>No friends
>Never had a gf
>Not even fit despite being on Veeky Forums for so long

How the fuck do i fix myself? Should I just completely change myself, do the opposite of what id normally do and never look back?

I know this is starting to look like a blogpost deserving to be on tumblr but I'm just losing hope. It was fun at first but now I'm realizing I'm becoming the person Ive never wanted to be.

Change things.

user, what you need to do is take incremental steps to improve your life. Go to the gym today and if you're a fat fuck just start with walking on the treadmill and make steps towarda a weight training plan. I recommend Starting Strength (torrent that shit). Do you have decent work? If not take up a hobby, I recommend coding and turn that into a career. You can do this user

You already know what to do (get off the computer, cultivate a hobby, make time to exercise, seek education/a career). You just need to decide every day to do it.

22 is young. You will feel way worse when you hit 28 and you're in the same boat.

But there is no magic bullet. It's all about choices you make every single day. Now get off your computer and go for a walk.

you fix yourself by doing things a better person would do

you are your shitty self because you do all these shitty things

outright stopping is hardly ever successful, gradually work stuff into your life

slowly shift; that's the way to go

this takes a lot of support and willpower though, some people can do it by themselves but if I were you I'd try to tell my parents to help me for the emotional support

do you have a good relationship with them? tell them you want to improve

in a few months you'll hopefully be at a new normal

I've been meaning to learn web development for years now

I remember being 17 saying "this sounds cool I should learn it". Never even started. Never even made the first step.

My parents hate me and want to kick me out

And I'm not even sure if I want to stay. We've never really gotten along.

This, you're still young, 22 is nothing, so better start changing shit before you hit 30 and still in the same shit, then only suicide will be your way out.

Also stop masturbating.

This is difficult

I doubt your parents outright 'hate' you though, but I understand the sentiment

Don't worry though, you're 22 still young

start improving juuust a little before your parents kick you out. that means do tutorial number 1 or something of web development with a language (javascript is pretty big on web), try to watch less porn, maybe go out for a walk today

and if you can try to be more emotionally honest with your parents to see if you can mend the relationship

unless emotional honesty is looked down upon in your household this should put you in a better place than you currently are right now

to add on to this

some people sometimes feel that admitting their mistakes makes them seem weak and makes others think less of them

perhaps in some people's eyes you will, but it takes true strength to admit mistakes and it's only a fool that will keep his pride after he admits he is discontent with his way of living

to be strong right now is to admit your weakness and accept the fact that you want change

I'm just losing hope... is it even possible to make it

I have lower back pain all the time so im scared of lifting and making it worse

I really just want to get to a reasonable level in my life overall and then move out from my parents house because i hate the area we live in and i dont like it here. I dont want to be a manchild anymore

Dude, It took me until I was 28 to start turning my life around. I wasted my 20's. You can fix yourself but you need to sort your head out first.

I was gonna try to help but
>cuckold porn unironically
There's no saving you, just end it.

No, please help

yeah, I just told you unless you're dead you can always improve

>You can fix yourself but you need to sort your head out first.

user get on codeacademy right now and start

Well if you're a fatty lose weight. My lower back, knees, neck, and shoulders hurt when I was fat, now it's just my shoulder because I separated it. Being not fat will help a lot with random pains, I've found.

im not even that fat anymore

just mostly skinnyfat

Well building core strength will help. I actually got physical training for my lower back, they just had me do a lot of planks and that kind of shit.

Op I was where you were..... Honestly the thing I did was I faked it. Everything...I'd hype myself up on caffeine and go deal with the world.

Do stronglifts...Dose up on caffeine before hand.

If your looking into a different profession don't do anything with computers...That is one of the most depressing jobs.. Believe me. Do something like HVAC or auto mechanic where there is a abundance of alpha males that will make you step up to Thier lvls.

>still live with parents

Why does everyone think this is a bad thing? Do you really think that living alone with more outgoings then incoming is a better life if youre renting and dont have the ability to put a down payment on a property.

Im 24 and living at home have a good family life and have the freedom to do my own thing whilst respecting parents home standards. I just dont have the money together for a property hence why im here which id prefer to saving no money by renting and pretending things will get better.

Also you have to start becoming competitive. Competition brings out character. You can make a competition out of anything and as long as your winning (or failing, cause failure build attitude too) you'll do better...Find something that someone does...And be better then them at it. Your parents wake up early? Bet you can't wake up before them. Chad you k ow goes to the gym 3 times a week? Fuck that Chad go 4.

Little adjustments like this build up in time....It's like putting on a t-shirt everyday. One t-shirt no body is gonna notice. But when you walk out the house with like 15 t-shirts on...People are gonna be like holy fuck.

>down payment on a property

But that's awful. Owning a home gives you far worse returns almost universally than low cost ETFs.

Google "rent vs buy calculator"

Also the reason many people live in undesirable areas with their parents where it may be difficult to find good work, or be a long commute to necessities.

Also many people simply don't get along with their parents.

If you have any doubts about the advice you're getting OP, just say so, we'll elaborate (or at least I will anyway).

After spent my high school years on /m/ under similar circumstances, and only just now having friends and getting used to having a job just months before I turn 21, I can say with confidence


You will sink deeper into the void
You will grow to truly hate yourself
You will hate everyone for not being able to love you
You will want to die because you are incapable of loving people
You will feel a sense of terror that the world will never accept you
You are fucking pathetic, and a waste of space, you know this to be an absolute fact

This doesn't have to be the person you'll be forever.
But before that you n e e d t o t r y .

It doesn't get better. Even as you're fixing yourself you will grow to hate yourself. You will come face to face with uncomfortable truths that you've buried to "protect" yourself. Even as you're staring your happiness in the face, you might realize that you've buried something else, something integral, and ignored it, and you'll turn for one second, and it'll put you in the ground.

If you're incapable of accepting that, then you'll continue to be pathetic until you eventually kill yourself a year or two from now.

I guess it makes sense

I think I just need to better organize my day and slowly replace bad habits with productive habits

Yes!

It will be hard OP, but starting really is the hardest part of it all. Once you start doing something it's easy to keep doing it. Even when it gets hard because you lose motivation starting whatever you're doing will give you a lot of momentum because you'll realize you're already doing and not 'thinking' about doing it.

I wish you the best of luck.

Thank you

New year new me I guess

You'll never make it when you make excuses and don't listen. This thread has everything you need, yet you're still here. You're a lazy fat procrastinating faggot. Get your ass together and stop wasting our time unless you're ready to do what's necessary.

Now get your ass of the chair and start working

>You're a lazy fat procrastinating faggot

OP I'm marginally older than you (just turned 23), Veeky Forums and I'm learning to code. I also have a rocky relationship with my family. On the other hand I have gf, friends and hobbies and all that.

I don't really browse Veeky Forums any more, except to step down from my pedastol to give people advice. Basically I want to help people on here. I wasted countless hours on Veeky Forums. If you want any more specific advice, let me know. Then, if you're interested, we could exchange emails and I'll keep you accountable until 31/1/18, whereby you will be Veeky Forums, have friends and a career, IF you're willing to put the work in and not give up. A habit takes around 66 days to form, so this gives enough time with plenty of breathing room. After this it will be up to you.

not op but how do you get qt girlfriend?

By being someone a qt girlfriend would want to be with. Don't worry, you don't need to be perfect.