How the fuck do I get rid of a femdom/cuckold/sissification fetish

Then she holds all the fucking power. If she decides all of a sudden that my secrets aren't worth keeping, she could ruin my life by telling everyone I know about my fetishes.

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No one would care

You have 6 2's brah

and you just deny it. Wow that was hard

i guarantee you're only into it because you feel worthless. I went through a really weird period of that same exact fetish after an exceptionally rough/out of the blue break-up. take some time off of porn, meditate, maybe try to work on some self-esteem building, you'll get over it, man. you just gotta remember/realize just how damn good it feels to be masculine

goddamn spitting eternal truths backed up by that fucking glorious sextet of dueces

t. psychology master degree

both. Its a cycle. In my opinion, being too submissive/dominant to the extreme (like cucks) is a sign of underlying personality problems.

How is your self esteem? Do you think you are worthy of pleasure and good things happening to you?

this basically. don't flatter yourself by thinking anyone actually cares about you that much.

also, most people into kinky shit are pretty chill about confidentiality, i've found. are you a virgin?

How the fuck do I deal with a small dick? It's ruining my life

Go trans

So you think if i get my life together, i'll be more turned on by normal sex, and go off this fetish shit?

It's a cache 22, because I'm un motivated to work on myself, because i don't see the point if I'll never land a woman because of this fetish, so I end up doing nothing apart from lifting to improve myself, which in turn makes me feel more worthless.

i'd probably do this if i had a micropenis desu. i've heard that's what a lot of dudes do, they get into small penis fetish shit.

If you're above 5 inches you're fine. If not, become a monk.

My self esteem is shaky. I have good, successful friends, a loving family, a son (i'm 25, he's 4), I don't feel worthy though. I see other guys on facebook surrounded by women every week, having a good time and having cool, relaxed conversations with people, expanding their social circle, who are un afraid to take the reigns and lead with women. Then i think of my desires, and it makes me feel like I can't have what they have.

For the record, the first thing I wanked to was femdom. A dominatrix in red latex. I never started on just vanilla porn.

Can i get rid of this if i build my self esteem?

In all honesty it takes way longer than that. Its like 4-5 months for a brain reset.

Just going off of my personal experience, absolutely. after that break up i was a fucking mess, 300+ lbs, sad all the time for like 3 straight years (first love is the deepest and all)...got fed up with it, started eating better, started working out, riding bikes, running, tons of stuff. lost 100~ lbs and still trucking towards my goals. Those weird fetish feelings have not come back in any serious sense since i made that change

Depends. Did you fall for the "16cm is a micropenis" meme?

But I would care. I feel ashamed that I basically want a woman to mother me, dress me up like a girl and generally degrade me. Surely this isnt healthy?

I'm not a virgin. I'm 25, but i've only stuck my dick in 3 women. One LTR.

Your a fucking faggot op, but checked

I have the same feel. 6ft 1 200lbs, broad shouldered, and ugly as hell, and all a want is some thick 7ft tall Stacy to sit on my face.

probably repression from all the social shaming, loneliness, and fistfights in my youth, My junior year i broke down and went full hermit with the online school, never recovered.

I think of fucking killing myself every single day, my mind just rots away in this hell.

I am planing a trip though, it'll be the first time out of my state.

also, to keep it fit related

bench 260, deadlift 405, i rarely squat but when i do its just 3 sets of 10 with only 185, i only go heavy on the squat press, ohp 145

dude just chill. do you realize how beta you sound trying to compare yourself to chads who are going to be paying alimony in less than a decade? work on your fucking fitness, get a nice girl who's into queening your face and live your life the way YOU want. stop looking up to narcissistic fags whose major life accomplishments are impressing idiots like you through facebook.

christ almighty, how are you 25 with a kid and still lamenting over this shit? be a fucking example for him, dude.

I found that when I do go on short periods of self improvement , I do generally feel happier and more confident. Then i fap, and it all comes crumbling down again.

So basically, I should fill my time COMPLETELY with fulfilling activities?

>psychology master degree

Need your help, i'm a fat fuck 250lb and I want to lose this shit, I have severe depression, low esteem I really need your professional advise on getting Veeky Forums and fixing my mentality.

>I would care

but why tho? do you get off on feeling ashamed? does it affect your job, your kid? no? then who cares?

i'm telling you, no girl who will put up with your wanting to be dressed up like a girl and smacked around is going to out you. surely you understand that the rapport you have to build with someone to get to that point precludes them from fucking you over, right? kink people are chill af bro. i'm btw

I went through some social shunning as a kid, but not as bad as what you went through. I imagine all people who are into femdom and shit went through something similar like we did. The kids who were always popular and sporty seemed to be doing fine, not into this shit at all

If thats what it takes for the short term, then yes. I always find that if i really take advantage of my day and go to bed feeling like i was productive during the time i was awake, i don't feel like i /need/ to fap in order to feel good before going to sleep. Staying active all day also helps you go to bed tired and fall asleep fast so you are not lying awake risking the temptation

AWWWWWWWWW SHHHHHIIIIIIITTTTTT

>the kids who were always popular...not into this shit at all

you know they're jerking off to fucked up shit in their heads when their wives aren't around, right?

I got a lump in my throat, because you are right.

I want to make my son proud, but these desires are exactly what are stopping me from that. How can I honestly believe i'm a good masculine role model, when I secretly want to be forced to dress as a girl and other depraved shit?

Switch to Futa pov. Much more patrician and no, it's not gay.

not him, but what worked for me was treating my mind and my body as different entities. The mind is the chisel and the body is the marble.

If you recognize that you have low self-esteem and dislike your body, if you're able to, turn those negative feelings into positive motion/energy. learn to love your mind but hate your body, drag it through the mud, kick it's ass to reach the goals that your mind has set for it.

>6ft 1 200lbs

I REALLY misread these numbers at first

oh wow look a repeating number, this is gonna do so much for you in your life!

faggots

Thanks bro. It's invigorating to hear that it's possible to crack this shit. Have you been successful with women since you perked yourself up and pulled yourself out of you slump?

what matters is that you own your position in life. do you think every father shares with his son every fucked up thing he does with his wife, whether he gets wrapped up in saran wrap or just goes hard missionary style? fuck no. what you do behind closed doors doesn't affect him. if you can keep a steady mind and a job, then you're giving your kid more than my dad ever gave me. learn to love yourself please.

Probably not the weird shit i'm into. Maybe they the weirdest they will go is incest porn, least it's still normal sex, and not some dominatrix just using a guy as an ashtray.

>deadlift 405
not even a 2x bw deadlift.

Kys my man.

I dunno, fucking your sister is pretty damn taboo. And that's coming from a guy who has literally been cuckolded before.

Thanks dude, really for the inspiring answer, I think first i'm going to work on my mental case first or maybe both, either way thank you.

I'm sorry about your dad.

That''s why I'm asking on this board dude, I used to love myself, i think we all did at a certain point.

But try and imagine it from my point of view, how could I logically love myself, if I enjoy being verbally humilliated by strong women? There is a disconnect there.

You are a fucking jelly doughnut.

You mean willingly cucked? Did you watch? Or you mean just cheated on?

i know, it was hard

from as early as third grade i was feeling the feels.

Not even the "undesirables" would have anything to do with me.

I still the absolute dread i felt every single day, in all my classes.
Everyone would throw shit at me, laugh behind my back, people would leave notes at my locker from "my gay lover."

The worst memory i have was in middleschool was on my hour long bus ride to my house in the middle of fucking nowhere. The entire bus was chanting

"user is a Retard! user is a Retard! hahaha What a fucking faggot!"
Than i got off the bus and went back to my shitty homelife.

I know this all sounds like petty shit, and it is. But this stuff adds up. I don't know how i spent 1000's of days like this and not killed anyone.

At least i beat the shit out of druggie manlet chad so fucking bad he had to get facial Reconstruction and a nose job.

Thanks for listening to my rant. I don't have anyone else but you guys

But where all going to make it.

I just got back into lifting literally a week ago. my old max was 455 before injuring my acl tear, and considering i pulled that just last Monday, i thinks its pretty good. Not great, but a start.

I got a hill to climb, but you got a mountain.

All this means is that when you do make it, you'll have a better story to tell.

>how could I logically love myself, if I enjoy being verbally humiliated by strong women?

dude, you're me. do you think i wanted to be a yuppie when i was younger? fuck no. but i've learned to compartmentalize those parts of my life so that i can get by and be productive for mine and my family's sake. enjoying life isn't about the end result, it's about the means to the end result. it's about how you react and adapt. some day you will be 90 years old, and the very last thing on your mind will be "holy shit, i wish a woman would do X, Y, Z to me right now." you need to own whatever you're about right now or else you will be a fucking phony and i will hate you.

if you derive catharsis from being verbally assaulted by confident women, then go for it. people kill for less.

willingly, shit was cash

You just have keep interacting with them.
Over and over again, and learning each time, what not to do.

Thanks man, don't stop chasing the dream.

we might not all be able to make it, but its when you stop trying you might as well be dead.

Since that breakup i had one gf for almost 2 years but we just recently split, and then just the other day i got a total qts number at work, so by my standards i have been doing pretty okay, There has not really been a time when i wanted to talk to a girl btu i have not been able to because of those feelings

yeah no problem man, it's just what worked for me. might have been triggered by a shroom trip that i had where i felt like i was a prisoner in my own body, but it's the mindset that counts in the end. you will learn to recognize when your body wants to quit, when it's crying out to stop, and in your mind you will be able to tell it to shut the fuck up and keep going

don't ever squat with me or my son ever again

You embrace it.

Nigga call me. And tell yo girl she about to get dis BBC

idek man that sounds insane though. i would not worry about that, but if that crazy scenario happened to me i would just own it lol

kek

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Dont listen to this cuck

actually get a gf that you care about. You won't want her to cuck you for anyone else.

I'm into femdom myself, but I have a healthy self-image and love life. Get rid of the cuckold fetish because that can seriously harm you psychologically.

I tried femdom once because my gf asked me about it. It was not sexy or fun for me, but she seemed to be enjoying it so I went with it for a bit. Then she told me to do something that would have made been a "point of no return" type of thing and I put a stop to it with a quickness.

The point is this: I tried it, didn't like it, found exactly where my line was.

If I had been into the idea, this experience would have cured me of it.

If I had discovered that I did, in fact, like it, then there would have been no problem.

So what I'm saying is this, if you think you're a gigantic faggot, try being one and see if you are. If you discover you're not a gigantic faggot, kill yourself, I guess, because you just did some super faggot shit that the is going to tell all your friends about.

>>>/reddit/

>Then she told me to do something that would have made been a "point of no return" type of thing
What was it user? Please tell us.

>"point of no return" type of thing
What was it? I want to guess butt-stuff.

Become a combat monk.

is that a dick

this guy gets it

hang yourselfs

Dude you're fucking lucky you have a boy and you're a single dad do you've any idea how much puss you can get with that hahaha. In all seriousness though you should put your love into that boy. Motivate yourself to get better for his sake lead through example. I can't tell you how to do it but going to night classes is a start. Continue lifting abstain from cuck porn/porn in general. Read more and just focus on being a great dad. The rest will sort itself. Rome wasn't built in a day and you're never going too get instant results.

"Blueshoes looks like THIS?!"

Nice

>into femdom to some extent
>find cuckery, pegging and this sissification shit disgusting
Where do I find a traditional grill who is willing to casually dominate me every once in a while while not taking it too far?

Advice from multiple parents:
One day you'll just grow into it and start doing the things you need to do. It'll click in your head soon enough.

*Yourselves. You autistic faggot.

you probably just have an F personality type.

Didn't know which posts I'm replying to so tagged a few.

This fetish is caused by the same thing that causes people to have animal sex fetishes.

I'll explain the animal sex fetish because it's simpler. But you can make the relation yourself.

When I was a teen, I was hopeless with girls. I was 16/17 and had never kissed a girl. Never held a girls hand. Never had a conversation with a non relative female that wasn't just a yes/no reply.

I knew that I couldn't get a girl to have sex with me. But I also knew that I could go into a farm and put my dick in a sheep. I started thinking about how it would feel, how I would hold it so it didn't get away etc... I obviously got a boner, so I jerked off.

I got more satisfaction from jerking off to the idea of sheep fucking than human fucking because it was less realistic. I was fantasizing about something that that was actually possible.

This phase ended when I was 19 and somehow got a girlfriend. My ego skyrocketed and I now have zero problems with girls and at 24 have had 4 relationships and a good few more slays.

The moment I got a girlfriend is when my weird animal fantasy went away. I never thought about it since and now the idea absolutely repulses me.

You obviously have a much less serious issue because you've had sex and relationships etc... But I'm guessing the idea of a woman being in control and making you do things is more REALISTIC (somehow) in your mind than a girl accepting what you are telling them to do.. You think you are more likely to submit to a woman than a woman submit to you... Which is obviously creating a snowball effect on your ego, self esteem and fetish issue.

Chances are once you conquer this issue, you will have the complete reverse (naturally) fetish and become extremely dominant in bed etc. You probably have a dominant personality so extremely repressed that it has reversed slightly.

Understand the source of your problem, and it's easy to fix.

because it was MORE realistic****

Sorry. Terrible typo that makes my point completely the opposite lol

Do not fall for the nofap meme, just stop masturbating to porn involving sex or even masturbation of women, because your brain end up mixing up woman's pleasure and your pleasure. Masturbate to hot dances, strip tease not involving teasing or masturbation and pictures.
Also, if you have such fetishes, it's because modern society taught you that it's men's job to pleasure the woman and that it goes this way only, you're the one who have to " perform".
Just stop being a beta and just starts not giving a fuck

Kek

Look up a psychologist called Viktor Frankl and read up on some of his theories. Ultinately you are responsible for you and the thoughts that occur in your head. All triggers, environmental factors, etc. play a role to some degree but ultimately you are the one letting thisbfetish rule you.

If you believe you are conditioned to do something you do not want to do, then that is called cognitive dissonance. The obly way to stop this is to simply take control of your thoughts, actions, and behavior.

just accept it OP, deep down I know my tiny white penis could never please a woman

I fap to masturbationvideos my gf sends me
Should be fine right?

Witnessed.
And yes I do think bad self-esteem can be some underlying cause. Think positively and actively think well of yourself. If you find yourself watching that type of porn think "No, I deserve better" and close the fucking tab, go outside for a walk. And stop porn.

WITNESSED

Go hook up with a guy and you will see how gross it actually it. It's perfectly healthy to explore different things and find out what you like or don't like. This is not healthy and when you actually try it you'll see it isn't a turn on at all

This can be done anonymously by finding local gay "cruising" spots. I've tried it once, it was gross and it completely got rid of my gay/shemale/cuck porn habits

it's fine if u don't treat them as porn videos (=> use them once), but it may trigger you to watch porn again

TRT

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Checked, stop watching porn. If you have to jack off, do it once a week without porn and thinking at vanilla shit. This is literally the only way to overcome your fetish, and it's really, really hard. You have to stick to it for at least 1 year, but in the end you will be way happier. Been there, done that

CHECKED

TFW your femdom fetish is your primary motivation for getting Veeky Forums

TFW the idea of a petite qt3.14 asserting complete dominance over a man twice her size gets your motor going like nothing else

TFW you lift solely to fulfil that fantasy

TFW you lift for her

not gonna happen, faggot, never
women, all women, are submissive

B-but I thought we were all gonna make it? :(

Pretty much this. Much more likely to find a feminine gay twink who's willing to dom you. Time to swallow the gaypill.

Don't listen to that virgin.

You'll find a qt who pushes you at the gym then sits on your face and smacks your dick around while you suffocate between her thighs.