TALKING TO GRILLS AT THE GYM

Has no one here tried to flirt with a girl at the Gym?

>tfw abnormal sex life/pretty normal social life

What's normal to you?

Don't talk to her while she's lifting, but maybe if she's resting between sets, or casually when she's racking her weights? I don't like when men talk to me while I'm working out, but if they're very polite and don't interrupt me mid-set it's not a big deal at all.

It's reverse psychology, idiot

I don't think it's the appropriate place. If you happen to catch them in the store or something then maybe use the gym as an opener. Like "hey do you go to x?" but trying to flirt at the gym seems a little thirsty imo.

Ok so as a girl, and assume OP is mildly attractive, how would he approach her? What would a guy have to do to win you over or at least get you interested? I have had success with girls who approach me in the gym, my ex was a trainer, but she came to me essentially. How can you cold approach a girl there? I feel like it's different if you both go to a crossfit box or a powerlifting gym, because you immediately have something specific in common.

I figured that much. What's a good intro though?
I have no problem flirting with girls when there's a reason to interact with them but I don't have a reason while at the gym.

>"uh you look pretty fit, what's your routine"
???
>"the smith machine is actually really bad for you"
???
>"I usually bug random girls but you're insanely attractive"
???

According to OP's ideas of what's, I had only one sex partner and I've only kiss her in my entire life (I'm 21), hence the abnormal sex life but I go to parties and have good old friends, hence the normal social life.

This has occurred to me, but the odds of seeing her at the store are low.

This lady user says she okay with guys chatting her up but it does seem thirsty with no actual reason to talk to her.

you walk up and talk to them. you fuckers overthink so much shit.

actually i used to sit there and overthink all this shit and wonder what to say, when to approach her. you just walk up and do it. fuck waiting for the perfect moment. you think a girl gives a fuck if an attractive guy approaches her at the gym or in the store or wherever?

do you guys SERIOUSLY think that she goes "omg this guy is so hot but he approached me at the gym what a faggot, if it was anywhere else id fuck him xDDD"

go up and do it. i can almost guarantee that you're going to fuck it up, but you know what? it's ok to fuck it up because eventually you'll learn that talking to girls is a joke anyways. 95% of them are fucking retards and you guys psych yourself out because you spend your days fapping to porn and wishing a girl would kiss you let alone jump on your dick.

Hey, I'm user. Would you like to get coffee (insert date)?

Unfortunately any attempt to talk to a girl at the gym is going to look like creeping. Even if it's unintentional and nonthrearening like "where's the bathroom?" Or some shit.

Your best bet is bump into her somewhere else, like said.

So just stalk her and "suddenly" run into her on the street. What could possibly go wrong?

Kek, it crossed my mind. This guy' says it's cool to chat up girls at the gym.

That's really sweet user, I wish I could have that but your case it actually quite rare.

Wew lad

That's what this thread is for. What reason an I find to talk to her. Give gyms are not a great place to chat.

Without even a minute of banter? That seems kinda rapey. Perhaps after I make her laugh a few time.

10 partners at 28 is pretty low senpai

Talking to a girl at the gym is exactly like talking to a girl anywhere else.

Be super confident, but don't be afraid of being rejected.

And don't come out with dumbass openers like critiquing her form.

If she's interested she'll go for it, if she isn't she'll turn you down. A bunch of awkward gym talk isn't going to change it one way or the other. I've found people respect a straightforward, honest attitude. But do your own thing.

He could walk out at the same time as her.

Compliment her form. Really.
A compliment is the best way to approch a woman plus it's both your hobby.
That's always a good way to start a conversation.

this sounds even more creepy than just talking in the gym

He could. But seriously...girls aren't dumb. In fact they are a lot better at reading guys than the other way around. Trying to orchestrate some elaborate scenario to talk to a girl comes across as manipulative and weird. Easier on your ego if it goes poorly but less likely to succeed in my opinion.

Y'all all over thinking the fuck out of this. Anytime I approach a girl I always comment on something relevant and nearby. There's no fucking algorithm to pussy you fucking faggots. Just walk up and say that whatever fucking retarded backwards reverse underhand deadgrip glute shrugs exercise she was doing looks cool and that you'd love for her to teach you it. It doesn't fucking matter, comment on how clean the air fucking is nobody gives a fuck. Your entrance doesn't matter, just set your destination for getting a number or setting up a date.

Not OP but could imagine trying this with my gym crush.
>hey, I noticed your form is great and you lift more than me.
Holy shit nothing like being at .5/1/2/2 after 4 months to hate your fucking self.

maybe compliment her form on a lift or be impressed with the weight she pushes/pulls
that opens communication so you can chat while leaving too

It's probably more like 15. I've partied HARD. in my early twenties. Woke up next to some nameless faces.

Thank you, this if for sure in my wheelhouse.

Yeah she would think I'm following her... because I WOULD BE.

Thank you. I can work with this.

See

>Asking advice about girls from "girls"

Dont do this when you've just met her
next time your gaze meets hers walk up to her
and say hey dont think to hard about what you say

So I just walk up to her and say "hi I noticed you have really great form, how long have you been doing this?

"She says something"

I introduce myself

NICE. thankyou. I've got this now guise.

That's the perfect time. When she's looking at me again.

Bueatiful, I've got this bros!

>"Hi, I noticed you have great form, how long have you been doing this?"
>"I want you to bend me over a barbell and make me scream like a wild hog."
>H--h---I'm uh....user....

Sure that's fine. Just don't go out of your way to insult her and the worst you can do is be boring. You're fine.

I keked.

That's my plan. Next time our eyes meet.

I've got this now.

For

I'm confident about this now. Sometimes I just need to brainstorm with my autistic friend simulator.

just challenger her to a lift-off and make it high-stakes.
whats she gonna do? complain that its unfair because of gender inequalities?

alternatively you could ask her how many kilograms she weighs girls love talking about kilos

In all seriousness, you got this dude. You can say nearly anything, if a girl is into you it doesn't make much of a difference. Most important thing is that you like whatever you are saying or doing.

Then give her a dead arm and say "your turn!".

>next time your gaze meets hers walk up to her

Go with this. If your eyes meet give her a little smile. If she smiles back go for it.

I hope you're not one of those faggots who never smiles because it makes them look "goofy"

...

.... dude. I've never been a smiler. Closed mouth grin maybe but not showing teeth. That's a fanatic plan though, I'll work with that.

Fantasia advice.

I did once. Gym was crowded and I started doing abs next to her (vertically) so our heads were facing each other when we were doing planks and I jokingly challenged her to a plank off. Made some small talk about abs n shit and what ab stuff she does. introduced myself when we were both finished and asked her what time she usually comes, she said it was usually around the same time and I told her hopefully I'd see her again here some more (didn't want to ask her number yet, too forward for just meeting) and she smiled and said yeah you too.

That was weeks ago and I haven't seen her since :(

Was planning on getting her number next time I saw her but now I think it's been too long since I saw her last. Is it creepy if I have a good memory and can remember people's faces and usually names for years after meeting them once at a party or somewhere random?

I hate to say but if you don't have a good smile you're never gonna make it. Any person, boy or girl, needs a good smile to get by in life. Otherwise you might as well be eliot rodgers school-shooter tier.

Even the goofy fucker in this pic probably gets by out of pity laughs.

Give her the good ole white person smile

>pic related
But with a just little more smile

>That was weeks ago and I haven't seen her since :(
>Was planning on getting her number next time I saw her but now I think it's been too long since I saw her last.
The same shit happened to me except I didn't ask her what time she usually comes and now I'm going to the gym at different hours every day for a chance to find her

she changed her schedule just so she didn't have to see you again

Guess I'll start practicing whenever I'm looking at the bathroom mirror.

Guess I better strike while the iron is hot and take my chances next time. Thanks for the cautionary tale.

>girls aren't dumb

Am I really the only KHV on fit? I'm 23 and I do not ever talk any females that I'm not related to outside of basic interaction at the store. No matter how fit I am (and at this point, 6 years in I have some nice gains) they always make it very clear they aren't interested. How can you have the balls to talk to girls? Like how do you even strike up a conversation without looking creepy?

Read the thread. It's been answered.

A wiser fellow than myself once said: "Don't shit where you eat."

"Models" by Mark Manson was super helpful for me. It's not just a how to pick up girls type of book, more like how to improve your overall life.

You're creepy if you talk to them, you're creepy if you don't. You're always going to be a creep to a certain segment of the female population. Just gotta find the ones who find you appealing. At that point all the others can choke a railroad spike.

Walk up to her and say "Hi, i'm user", wait for her to introduce herself, and follow up with "I noticed you in the gym and was wondering if you'd like to get coffee sometime".

If yes, get digits, if no, say "cool, see you around", and then never talk to her again. You probably have a 1/5 chance of getting a yes. Godspeed, user.

That's more or less the plan. Will post results.

Walk up to her when she's alone and resting.

"Excuse me. I'm gonna go back and finish my sets in a second ...

(be leaning away from her - #1 thing gym girls hate about being approached is not knowing how long you intend to stand there talking to her)

"...but I have to tell you: you look fantastic, and you're discipline is extremely attractive to me on many levels. I just wanted to introduce myself, I'm user. *handshake, get her name* I'm gonna go finish my deadlifts but I'll see you around."

>A few days later

"Hey, Erica! Wanna come back to my condo tonight, lay back on my bed and spread your tight little pussy open so I can stare into it?"

(said casually while smiling, as you gesture with your thumb over your shoulder to indicate the general direction of your condo (don't forget the lean back))

Haha geez. Asking her what her schedule was... good job creeper

Should've said "see ya next time" or some shit, nonchalant.

You thirsty dumb bastard

>staring into her pussy..

I'm starting to get hard.

>go to gym a few weeks ago
>been lifting here for about two years
>gym is small with no deadlift area, so I have to borrow barbell from the bench press and do deadlifts where people stretch
>after moving barbell and doing warmup, 7/10 girl approaches
>"Hey, I'm annonette. Why do they call it deadlift?
>Respond "I dunno."
>proceed to do lift for 5 reps
>never talk to her again

what does she look like?

Fuck. I genuinely thought I wasn't retarded

Kinda mousy like a l pale ibrarian with long brown hair. Small frame with a narrow waist on top a tight bubble butt and perky tits. Skin liked bleached milk.

got one

>about a month ago
>leg day, gym has very few squat racks
>qt approaches and asks if she can work in with me
>say okay, proceed with 350x5x5
>"wow you're really strong, what was your name again?
>"user. I don't know if you usually come here alone, but let me give you my number so we can work out together if you want"
>no idea where the fuck that came from
>she says okay
>text nonstop for 2 weeks
>she comes to the gym with me three times during that time
>ask if she wants to get dinner after 3rd time
>"oh sorry user, I JUST started dating somebody"
>thatfeel.png
>never texted her again

Jesus Christ, you could've just been straight forward and posted... "I've never talked to women before"

.... I guess she wanted you to bench press her vagina instantly without getting to know you first... fucking women bro, mfw

Because you're lifting "dead", as in on the floor, weight.

You're fucking retarded and deserve to have that one get away.

Damn user that sucks.

But then again you essentially hung out with her three times and didn't make a move. She probably thought you were gay and moved on.

Do it almost every day...
>smile, hey, your Name... im the Crow... gutes Training!
Nothing Special, next time a Little more small talk, maybe ask her out.

I dont start a conversation in the gym. Just Show interest and go do my Thing.

Walking with a huge bulge was always positive too. Well ist not normal Walking... i use a walker like the old Lady do... paraplegic here.

No no no, dont compliment her! for god sakes not to your Gy crush... well only if you never want to fuck her, then do it.

i think the crow knows what's good. i wouldn't show any intention the first time i talk, id probably say something when im right near her like hey i always see you here im me, maybe hows it going too. then id be like nice to meet you and continue on most likely and then next times i see her i might just say hey or something until you become sort of friends of some kind or at least an acquaintance.

damn user you jumped pretty hard into that conclusion

your pockets bro, what did you think?

>"Hey, Erica! Wanna grab a beer and then get a fingering? I could give you a high five later, too"

the only one who knows whats going on

Corny shit works.

If you see her a lot:

"Hey, nice form (or something similar). You come here often?"

"idk, might have something to do with you being drop-dead gorgeous"

then do the finger pointing gun thing and skadaddle

yeah, why not. Just dont give a fuck and say what you want to the grills. Just stay in a legal Frame.
I dont tend to verbalize such agressiv things, but i escalate (grab, kiss her) quickly if i Isolate the Prey.

thats fucking stupid
just tell her you wanna eat her ass and spin her around on your cock like a windmill
if your aesthetics are on point she will say yes

Stare at her intensely.
Scream every time you life.
Talk to yourself under your breath whilst staring at her.
>psychological warfare

>Scream every time you life
>you life
>life
>scream>life

>compliment her form on a lift
>in order to get her number

I think the first step to getting a woman, is not to ask for advice on Veeky Forums...

Compliment clothing, or just ask her to coffee (gay and unoriginal, but women usually still go for it.)

Don't compliment form, that is the most autistic approach on god's earth, she might not even understand what you're on about, and even if she does, you will come across as an autistic gym perve.

If you cannot just ask her out, don't bother. There is no wizzard's equation.

Also, gym is very 50/50 on whether it is good place to ask a girl out, half girls are easy af, the other half have got niggerish ego.

>Get it through your skull that you shouldn't talk to grills at the gym. If they want to flirt, let them come to you. Even then, consider blowing them off. You're there to work out, nothing else.
>Find another hobby, a social one. There are social fitness related hobbies
>Don't talk to girls directly
>Get guy friends at your social hobby
>Eventually, they'll take you with them to parties and stuff
>Approach girls THERE, and not at the fucking gym

You forgot the

>then die as a virgin

part... faggot

Girl here. It doesn't matter what you say. If she's seen you she has already decided whether she'd go out with you or not.

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This is exactly what she thought.

Source: someone did the same thing with me - got my number, we went for two or three runs together, the fourth time he asked me to coffee after but I honestly thought he was gay so I said no. If you don't at least flirt while you're with her she'll definitely think you're gay.

I know you won't believe it but it isn't polite even in Italy

shieet dude that sounds like my gym

DO NOT FUCKING OBSESS YOURSELF OVER HER
this is the last thing you must do. try to unobsess yourself. Don't talk to her at all. Calm down first.