I just wanna be loved god dammit

I've been doing this for the last few years and it has worked wonders for me. My confidence is through the roof and I am generally much happier.

Unfortunately it doesn't seem to be enough lately. At this point it feels almost hollow. It isn't quite loneliness (at least not what I interpret as loneliness), I just have this longing for someone to love and share my life with.

What do I do fit? Where do you find love?

How old are you? What do you do?

I understand this on such a deep level man. This hit me hard...

I just want someone that will make me feel that way long-term

Our story is pretty similar friend. A combination of poor health, sucky work situation, and dumb bitch led me down my hole.

My situation has drastically improved but inside no thing's changed.

You have a friend in me user. We'll make it

20, currently in school trying for med school. I work too much for me to be a socialite but I still put myself out there fairly often. I casually date and develop friendships with people but it never seems to go beyond the surface level stuff

i can't even imagine myself not alone anymore

You're in the best position you might ever be in to find a long lasting relationship. Putting yourself out there is the best thing you can do, talk to people in class and at parties and if you're into someone, don't squander the opportunity to let them know and find out if they reciprocate those feelings.

Most people I know who are in long term relationships met in college by either studying together, having mutual friends or by meeting at parties.

where do you find love?

Well, location makes the fucking difference.

It depends on the person on who you are.

I've been told I am a chad on Veeky Forums 6'1', fit, good jaw, great genetics over-all. Ottermode.

Girls look at me all the time, but if you were once young and spent all your youth being a fat little fuck drinking coca-cola, fapping to hentai for years, and having waifus, trying to pretend to be a normie is hard as fuck for me, and nobody would ever look at me and think I was once of those people.
Location, location....a fucking game of luck. Some people meet at sporting events, but if you are like me, you'll have to pretend to know shit about sports. Hell, I know fuck all, and hate sports.
You can go to church.

Veeky Forums always says "clubs", but fuck it, I am in GOD DAMN MISSOURI. This is the state where most anons act like they don't even know this place is a state. Not much going on here, so the question is...are you in a place that has high traffic and has "clubs".

Some people meet in college...

Some people ironically and truly meet in clubs.

My autistic fucking idiot friend of a programmer married a fucking hot doctor from meeting her at a place with rock climbing, can you fucking believe that?

It's location and luck.

Oh, and if you are shitty with conversations like me, you'll have to work on that.

Maybe I just have a shitty personality, I don't fucking know.

Thanks man

You sound a lot like me user. Very outgoing, everything looks good on paper, only problem is being super lonely. While I was still at my university I occasionally saw a counselor for depression, and he said that my loneliness is a choice I make. Basically I put friends behind doing well in school or my hobbies or whatever. At first I thought he was full of it, but now I think he was right. I put a lot of things before forming relationships with others. You sound a lot like me user, so just give it time. I have hope we'll both find a qtp2t one day c:

So I just need to keep doing what I am doing? I've never really had a serious relationship so I was curious if the formula differs from the casual dating scene (in the beginning that is)

Yeah I live in Indiana so I feel your pain, I guess I will just keep trying and hope for the best.

Good luck user, we're all gonna make it

Accept the 2D waifu pill it is the only way OP.

I feel that pain bro. Being surrounded by people and still feeling empty and alone. She let me see her for who she is. Once I got too close she pushed me away. Pulled me in just to break me. Don't fuck around with broken girls because they will take more from you and leave you with less. She saw through me when no else did and she made me worse. You give and they take till they're better and you're left empty handed.

Ask your friends of either gender if they know anyone to hook you up with. If they know you well enough, they can give you good recommendations. Otherwise just keep going to parties and being as social as you can.

The difference is the amount of effort you want to put into it. You shouldn't stress out about it obviously but you find someone you like, jump on it and try to mold into a long term relationship as opposed to just casually seeing each other once in a while to hang out or have sex or w/e.

Too bad, you'll never be loved unless you're a grade A genetic specimen. You are disposable and worthless.

ky fat neckbeard anime poster

What I have learned is that you and I can be outgoing when we are lonely. I've learned that the world, however, is not outgoing.
The majority of people out there, the people created by society who grew up, made friends, have connections, these people are in their cliques. They don't need you or me, but they are very outgoing to their friends and their loved ones.
Or maybe this could be a Missouri thing. I don't know. I read that an user once tried to talk to everyone around him, and his social skills went up. Thanks to having a career that forces me to talk and find out about people, I am very talkative. I've tried this same thing. Talking to everyone around me in society, but everyone I tried talking to just stares at me. Is quiet, odd, weird acting. They are silent. Maybe one or two will be friendly, but it's just for the moment before someone they know and hang around with will come ask em' to go do something.

Sadly, society and the way it is...it's brainwashed. If you have no friends, you are an outcast. Not just girls will find you weird. Many people will. They will think something is wrong with you.
Then comes the self depression. You realize this all, you try and try, you lift, you buy nice clothes, you eat well...but at the end of the day, your phone is silent. Nobody is texting you, and nobody wants to because everyone already has someone.

Fuck.

I'll try that! That's good advice, thanks user

That makes sense, I just struggle finding someone that makes me want to put in the effort know what I mean? That has been the hardest part for me thus far

exactly

Love is a fucking meme. Girls aren't capable of the same sort of love guys are. They love your fame/money/status, not you. They don't actually care about your hobbies or interests. They don't have any real interest in talking about cool things with you. You can show them the world and they don't care about it beyond what they can best plaster on their Facebook.

I've tried dozens and come to the same conclusion every time. I wish I could go back to being a KHV and thinking they were some mystery to be found.

Nope. Just a fucking pussy and zero real interest beyond that. The truth is, girls aren't interesting. You think they are, but it's just your dick talking.

The ideal woman is around just enough for you to fuck and then go on with the rest of your day. Greeks/Romans/etc had it basically nailed.

>your fame/money/status
Genetics*

All that other stuff is for cuckolds

Fuck. That's me except I can't even talk well. What kind of career do you have?

Who hurt you?

What's it mean when women turn on the waterworks around you? This is the third grill in a row that's cried when talking about her past or listening to me talk about deeper shit.

you make her feel comfortable.

you will never fuck her, good going retard

Tfw the closest I've ever been to a girl was at my first festival. 9/10 latina walk over to me from her friends when I was dancing alone and put her arm around me, and started dancing with me. Then she spent the next hour with her ass on my dick twerking and shit, it was weird. We literally didn't say a word the entire time, until she mentioned she was tired and wanted to sit. This scared me because I didn't want her to hear how spaghetti I was, so I said okay and told her to give me her number and we'll meetup cause I had to piss.

So she went to sit down and then when I came back I got scared because I didn't want to sit with her because I'd drop my spaghetti and she made it obvious she wanted to make out.

So I just started dancing by myself again and this super drunk asian girl walked up to me and started making out with me, and then looked at me and said "you have no idea how to kiss" and walked away. I looked behind me after kind of laughing and saw the girl I was dancing with before.

Never texted her but almost 8 months later I still think about her sometimes. Is that normal or could it mean I'm autistic? It was weird having so many girls approach me I was only like a 7/10

Myself by trying to find women that aren't vapid whores.

From the bar floozy to the lawyer girl in church, they are all exactly the same in the end.

I gave up trying to find an "intereting" girl that shares my interests and outlook on life.

You're better off banging the hottest one you can land that isn't psychotic. Then ignoring her the rest of the day. Repeat.

Holy fucking beta faggotry

My experiences thus far agree with what you are saying, but i sincerely hope you are wrong. I want a partner, not just someone to stick my dick in

>Hell, I know fuck all, and hate sports
>My autistic fucking idiot friend of a programmer married a fucking hot doctor from meeting her at a place with rock climbing, can you fucking believe that?

Following and playing sports is the express pass to successful socialization and being a sports-hating fedora-tipper is silly bullshit anyway.

I work for the company who has the nation's highest 4GLTE network ;)
Ironically, I make people laugh and fucking say "he needs a promotion" "can I talk to your manager, you're the best!" or get hugs. I even get old people asking "so what are you going for in life? What do you want out of it because I'm sure you could get anything." Even yesterday, an old woman asked "so how many girls do you have to beat off and how many hearts have you broken?"

People look at me and have a great time and they call me fun. They think I have life figured out. They ask what plans I have when they work with me on the weekend. After I hold the door for them and watch as they leave with the biggest smiles ever, they don't know that they just worked with someone who is heavily alone.
"oh sorry to keep you, I know it's friday night and you probably have your friends waiting for you".
I just smile.

I wish I was the person people think I am. Everyone I work with has such a fun time working with me because they are my way of having a social interaction, because after that, I go home and live in darkness. Silence from until I leave the company, to coming back.

The people who smile and laugh the most truly are the most depressed. People say I sometimes laugh too much or smile a lot, and the reason for that is that I craved being around people to talk to, and I am so happy to just have a social life at my job with absolute strangers.

I think you hit the nail on the head user. I'm in Michigan, and just moved from a college town back home with my parents to what is essentially a trailer park surrounded by nothing. I think I just lack meaningful connections with people in general. I worked in a hospital last year and now I'm at a local fitness center doing personal training while working towards med school. I talk to people all the time it seems like, but when I come home it feels like I've been alone all day. I go days without receiving texts or phone calls. I get excited from spam calls at this point hoping that there might be a human on the other end who intentionally called my number. Idk, it's nice to know there's other anons in similar positions

>yfw she calls you friend

>acting like guys are any different

>I get excited from spam calls at this point >hoping that there might be a human on the other end who intentionally called my number. Idk, it's nice to know there's other anons in similar positions

Yep, that's me too, user.

I even fucking had to cool my fucking jets when I was younger because I was an idiot and used a lot of happy emojis and shit, and I deterred a lot of girls like that.
I fucking feel like I win the lottery if my phone does get a text though, which never happens. It's been dead for awhile.

I look at a lot of people's phones at work, and it fucking utterly amazes me how people have their text boxes flooded with SO MANY PEOPLE.

Fuck man, like I said, I fucking sell phones. The majority of everyone who comes in has so many connections, contacts, messages coming in.

I would fucking do anything to have this. I literally even have to tell people "sorry, but I'm going to have to turn off your phone. Too much is coming through and it's interfering with what I'm trying to do".

Can you fucking believe that?

>tfw you see your friends phones vs your phone.
>friends phone - last text 1 second ago
>my phone - last text 1 week ago

shit like this kind of pisses me off.
although i do agree a lot of women are vapid, self absorbed, and care too much about facebook and makeup there's also a lot of genuinely good girls.
sure, these may be the 7 and 8/10's and not the stacies but i don't see why you don't feel the need to commit to a cutie who is into what you are into, will blow you and listen to you sperg on about things you like.

i feel like you are all going for the wrong type of girls. Also, have you tried meeting girls online? not like tinder but through games or websites. it's easy to find girls with similar interests if you go do your hobbies and not look for them at the bar.
i'm really torn because there are a lot of women who sleep around and don't really value a good relationship, but i can't help but feel like you're ignoring the slightly less hot girls who would let you creampie if you just cuddled with her afterwards and talked. A lot of you guys lack respect, or maybe it's just the way you talk on image boards.

the thicc models you guys keep posting are unattainable to most Veeky Forums posters and men in general. i don't know if you guys know this and still lust after them but you should probably realize it and go for people in your league.

>People say I sometimes laugh too much or smile a lot, and the reason for that is that I craved being around people to talk to, and I am so happy to just have a social life at my job with absolute strangers.

Who's cutting onions?

Is there anything you can do to put yourself out there more? Do you have any hobbies?

Forgot to quote.

>and used a lot of happy emojis and shit
Oh God the memories.
You're tougher than I am user. I'd be comparing myself to every person with a halfway decent social life and wonder where everything went so wrong. I work with a lot of old people who are generally pretty nice to talk to. That might be because they're just as lonely though. Have you had any other relationships besides the ONS?

maybe i'm just biased because im a female who prefers long term relationships (im scared of hooking up because aids and most guys are cringey when they try to get nudes or sex out of you).
but i find that the guys who have had the most success with me are the ones who treat me as an equal. i'm not just a pair of tits and ass to fuck and leave. i want to play games with you, i want to exercise with you, cook for you and talk and joke around.
i don't see how it's so hard to have relationships when there are plenty of girls who just want a qt bf who is interesting, caring and has interesting hobbies.

Missourifag here

The most fucking hilarious shit I ever did was go to my university, meet a japanese girl, show her my last name "which is also jap. I am french/jap" then I got her #.
Then I asked her a day later if she would like to hang out. She asked if she could bring some friend or two. I said sure.
These girls are all from Japan, and are transfer students. Here I am pulling up to the school, three jap girls get in, and I feel like a fucking pimp.
Then we go to dave n' busters. a place where you can play games n' shit.

As soon as I got there, 90% of the time, the girls were just playing with eachother and maybe 10% of the time they interracted with me.

Then I dropped em' off. Lesson learned, you can't buy respect ;^)

I was such a fucking idiot learning things growing up. Always have been.

Dang, this post makes me sad because it reminds me of myself.

>i'm not just a pair of tits and ass to fuck and leave

That's exactly what a pair of tits and ass to fuck and leave would want us to believe.

Just buy an escort if you're so rich

user, like I said...there's not much to do on the outskirts of Missouri. I work every day except for Tuesdays and Thursdays. I don't have any hobbies really...
I even have to watch how I talk because people say sometimes I have a nature about me that is intimidating, so I try to talk sweet to people. That's one thing I've been trying to work on.

But really, I don't know what to do. I just go to work and go to the gym, and everyone at my gym is an asshole and girls are super cocky there and already have bfs.

this is why you don't have a qt gf to blow you every night and laughs at Veeky Forums memes with you :^)

No, being 23, I never had any real relationships. I even tell people I haven't and they think I'm a liar. People around me are so fucking cookie cutter that they think it's impossible to not play sports, have a million friends, or a thousand messages on your phone.
They don't know that people like you or me exist. Normies like this would be blown away by the very shit we are talking about right now.

So instead of people thinking I'm a liar, because I've been called a liar many times, I just say "I haven't been in a relationship in awhile"..

...fucking kek...

Escorts are just meaningless sex.

I want to have sex with a girl I fucking love. Not just some random slut. Anyone can take a trip to Nevada and fuck a bunch of legal prostitutes.

I love a girl for everything she is, but of course even though she is interested in me, she rather stay in her globally announced shitty relationship that turned into a fiance-thing and now they plan to get married even though they constantly fight.
Life makes zero sense sometimes. A girl can love you and talk to you non-stop and constantly says "we have the same interests, you're hot, I love being around you", but then she wants to marry a fucking idiot who she is actually in love with for some reason nobody knows. All her friends call her a fucking idiot.

Damn, I think you guys know a lot about me now.

What's the meaning of having sex with a person you "love"?

It feels better

You seem like a good person user. And you've had at least one girl like you enough to sleep with you. As much as it sucks to think about, I think once girls are looking to seriously settle down, we'll be the guys they're looking for. It's just in the interim that we have to stay sane and hopeful.

I know exactly this fucking feel. I used to think that loneliness was the worst feeling a person could feel. I had finally gotten a girlfriend though, we dated for about a month, and she dumped me yesterday. I cherished absolutely every moment with her and she even told me that she loved me. I think I loved her back. Whenever we were together, just laying on the couch together or having sex, these were the happiest moments of my life. These last couple of days have been really rough. I feel like I finally clawed my way out of this abyss of loneliness only to lose my grip and fall all the way back down.

She was pretty shitty to me when she broke up with me and I have no idea why. She was the nicest girl I had ever met. But I think I'll always love her a little bit for giving me the affection and love that I've spent so long fantasizing about and letting me return that feeling to her.

But at the end of the day, finding a woman to love, finding "the one", I think, is worth the pain that comes with losing the ones who you thought were the ones for you but ended up not working out.

Don't lose hope, anons. I know it hurts, but keep your chins up. She (whoever she may be) will come around for you in the end.

There's a connection that goes beyond lust desu

Have you considered moving? Stability doesn't mean much if you're not happy.
Sorry, I have no idea what it's like where you live but...
Maybe you could spend less time at the gym and do something else. Something that has a social aspect to it like sports or dancing. Is going to the gym so much really that important to you?
Meetup.com could work or try online dating.
Read through reddit.com/r/theredpill/comments/32gcqe/_/. I know... TRP and Reddit. Ignore the stuff about women.

see? this world is fucking bullshit. That's utter absolute bullshit.
I was at the bar yesterday, and these two fucking textbook asshole chads asked me "hey, want to go fuck some girls? Me and my friend here found three sluts but there's only two of us and you look fucking chill brah".

I just was fucking disappointed, and I just stared forward drinking my whiskey as I said "naa" with a half-sick voice from having the flu still.

It's shit like that which fucks up the world. People just want one night stands left and fucking right.

What if that girl you were with just wanted to jump on another guy's dick? I fucking know girls who have done that exact bullshit that just happened to you.

I fucking swear, this planet, whoever the fuck tells children that it's all sunshine and rainbows are the biggest liars.

Oh I'm going to move soon. It's either that or I'm going to go wack.

Try going to any board on Veeky Forums or any other website. There are meet-ups for every fucking state it seems but Missouri, and the people who haven't even been to this state know what kind of a fuck up it is thanks to the whole Ferguson thing.
In the city, you have chaos and fucked up people, in the country, hicks.

>As much as it sucks to think about, I think once girls are looking to seriously settle down, we'll be the guys they're looking for.

Yeah, after they've had their fill of casual sex with randoms at bar hookups. Are you seriously implying that you're willing to be a used-up whore's backup plan?

Can a 23 year old even get in sports when he's never been apart of them?

I don't really like to think about her sex life beyond her sex life with me. I never wanted to know so I never asked. She was a nice, decent girl though. Part of the reason why she liked me to begin with was that I was, as she put it, an "old school romantic." I don't like the idea of dating around just for "fun" or having one night stands either. I want a girl to marry and have a big family with. It really sucks that that's out of style, or uncool I guess.

True love is impossible. Phenomenologically speaking, there's exists no "God's-eye view," at least not in any relevant sense to the human condition. In the end, all scientific or empirical knowledge is filtered through the subjective capacities of the human mind. Likewise, any "person" you meet can at most be to you only a collection of past-ward impressions and future-ward expectations. In other words, you cannot truly "know" somebody else in the authentic sense, as they can only be an extension of your consciousness's perception. It is as if every person you ever knew were simply imaginary friends, though not quite so literally. And similarly, your actual self cannot be authentically apprehended by any other human, meaning that if you are ever "loved," it is at most a quasi-representational image of you who is being loved. If you so choose to pursue the romantic follies of man, know that it is this ineluctable facet of human experience that makes our human condition fundamentally tragic.

Not him, but sadly, if we all in this fucking thread don't move fast, all we are going to get is the used-up cum driveled sluts who have had chad's seed up her pooper and a small handful of abortions.

>girls at 15: fuck me, chad!
>girls at 18: fuck me, chad!
>girls at 21: fuck me, chad!
>vagina stretched at 30%
>girls at 23: fuck me, chad!
>girls at 24: fuck me, chad!
>vagina stretched at 60%
>girls at 25: JOHN, WHERE IS MY JOHN!? OH JOHN, YOU ARE SO FINANCIALLY HEALTHY AND YOU'RE SO HANDSOME! JOHN WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN ALL MY LIFE!? LET'S SETTLE DOWN, JOHN ;)
>John marries girl
>John: "I finally get pussy"
>John looks down at the stretched to fuck roast beef pussy lips
>cucked_hair_and_eyes.jpg
>I ..l-love you, Stacy ;_;
>John tries to get friction going from Stacy's vag
>throwinghotdogdownhallway.jpg
>Stacy wants a divorce
>John gives everything to her
>John commits suicide as Stacy goes back to Chad

This is my biggest fear.

ugh...thanks....

...why are you on fit, Veeky Forums?

but chad doesnt take her back and now stacy is doing zumba

the issue with your thinking is that you think there is a time limit for men

men age like wine while women age like milk

I know 30 year old guys that tell me they fuck 18 year olds

It is also my biggest fucking fear.

Right now, the girls intended for you and I, sadly, might even be fucking other men tomorrow night on the lovely evening of Friday.

Chances are all of us here are going to get roast beef women.

where the fuck do 30 year old meet 18 year old girls...better yet, why would the girls say yes.

Also, I doubt they will get married.

>tfw my name is john

teaching english in asia

fucking kek

>that post

I don't remember making that.
Is that user me?

I'm still optimistic. There's a lot of women out there, user. My first real relationship may have ended out of the blue and in a real sour way, but she proved to me that I can get the women I want as long as I try. And so I'm going to keep trying to find her.

>when you love someone but they can't love you back properly
>when they've been too affected to know how to properly engage and you don't know how to help
>when you realize they're even more lonely than you are
I guess I'll go back to having awkward sex with strangers.

as will I

>babbys first philosophy class
I bet you think love is just a chemical reaction in the brain too you nihilist fuck