Long term relationship or banging random sloots?

>not wanting slow carb gf to give you that satisfying fullness of a good healthy meal, instead of sugary soda one night stand girls that leaves you spiritually bloated and fat
>not lifting for balance and harmony
>implying a successful relationship isn't core of making it

I don't know dog, I don't think it's gonna help much, since it's gonna be so different from actual sex. The hard part isn't sex itself, it's what leads up to the situation, initiating body contact etc.
Also it might be a blow to your confidence having lost your virginity to a whore.

I used to be super anxious about sex, so I did my first time with another virgin who were equally scared about it. Maybe try something like that instead.

Well part of the reason I'm still a virgin is because I was abused as a child and ended up severely sexually repressed. I had chances to have gfs/sex in the past but I always withdrew from it because of my own issues. I've never even watched porn and until a year ago I was unable to look at pictures of naked people without feeling squeamish.
My thinking is if I just have sex, any sex, I'll be able to get over the mental block.

Wait if a dude raped you why would you not want to have or look at sex? Homosex would be something you would want no part of.
But how would a woman rape you?
explain friendo

You'd be surprised how many people are in the same situation, sadly.
Seek help and advice of people in similar positions, this goes beyond my training as a furniture salesman.

dude you need an appointment with a shrink, not a whore.
I'm and I was beaten as a kid which made me kind of scared of intimate contact and feeling vulnerable etc. Get on anxiety killers and talk that shit out, you're not gonna solve that problem with paid sex with some skanky prostitute

best of luck to you bro, it seems like a real tough situation. Just be calm and reasonable about it and you'll make it.

maybe think of it like this: most people lose their virginity at ~18. a small chunk of people lose it at 24-25. You're not THAT much older, those years can easily be caught up on once you solve your issues. Remember some people go through life without having sex once.

You might be right but I think shrinks are mostly a scam. I've been to a few before for a session or two and they always wanted to dilute my distress into some meme issue that they had a pre-written playbook for like my parents' divorce or anxiety.
I'm really not trying to sound special snowflake but I feel like I've just been through some things that the average shrink can't relate to, not even academically. I'm in college now and I see the kind of people who are majoring in psychology and shit and they're all Staceys, I just don't think I can get the kind of help I need from people who haven't ever faced any sort of significant trouble or trauma.

Isn't it possible that whores are the best shrinks, at least when it comes to sex?

Long term, you faglord.
Jews love families = more money.

Oh boy are you wrong.
You pay for sex, literally meat rubbing. No more, no less.
Don't expect them to understand your problems, and to be fair, they shouldn't have to deal with that shit.
Another scenario would be paying an escort and explaining you're virgin, but not a word about traumas. Just ask her to take it slow and take the lead, so you understand how great and liberating sex is.

>You might be right but I think shrinks are mostly a scam.
I totally agree when it comes to psychologists. I'd recommend a psychiatrist though, there's a big difference between the two.
Psychology is Stacy and weird uncle Al reading five years of Freud's made up theories and then think they can "solve" people issues like it's some kind of jigsaw with clues from dreams and whatever.

Psychiatrists, however, are evidence-based scientists. They know when to use meds and what kind, and have met hundreds of patients before you with the same issues. They know what's up with your condition and how to treat it.

I wouldn't be alive today if I didn't go see a psychiatrist to be honest.

As mentioned earlier, this is not an uncommon thing. A lot more people than one would think have been molested as kids, and that fucks them up in various ways. A professional will most likely be prepared to treat this not-so-uncommon situation.

>Isn't it possible that whores are the best shrinks, at least when it comes to sex?
My friend have you ever seen a whore, or talked to one? They're the most broken women there are in society. They're selling both their physical body and mental/spiritual integrity and honor for filthy cash. The only reason anyone would ever do this is because they're drug addicts, have psychiatric issues, and most common; a combination

I'm cool with that I don't want her to be my waifu or anything. I definitely wasn't planning on telling her my problems other than that I'm a virgin.

I guess what I meant is that they are probably more used to dealing with this kind of thing.

>Wait if a dude raped you why would you not want to have or look at sex
Because of negative emotions associated with anything sexual.
>But how would a woman rape you?
Forcibly make you penetrate her, perform oral sex, or sodomize you. Some of those are worse than others.

You couldn't figure this out on your own?

>paying Desirée with aspergers who got raped by her step-father from the age of 8 to have sex with you so she can fund her crack-cocaine addiction
>thinking she's level-headed and understanding of complex personal issues

Well I mean if she got sexually abused too then she at least knows where I'm coming from even if she doesn't care and/or doesn't know how to talk about it desu

Dude, stop it. Do NOT try to relate with a hooker, you'll only hurt yourself more.
Be objective.

heavy drug users are basically fiends user. you lose a lot of your humanity when you're deep in that haze, all you can think about is getting your next fix. I wouldn't count on much empathy or understanding

>Jews love families = more money.
but not for the goy

Married, have a girlfriend too. Don't marry a bitch.

Fuckbuddies. Monogamy's for penguins. No matter how hot your gf is you're always going to run in to someone better.

>Don't marry a bitch.
So why did you?

It's really something you should decide for yourself

This Tbh

>people here advocating cheating on their partner
fucking trash

>Be "daddy" of emotionally troubled young women.
This.

Making them emotionally dependent on you is pretty funny. You can get them to do all sorts of things. My little whore gives A2M on a daily basis even though she hates it.

Guess he learned his lesson.

He's going to get fucked to death in the divorce court and it's coming. Didn't make the same mistake because I saw what happened to my father.

sounds like you're not a virgin after all you liar you

...

Long term reltionship.
But only if you get a non-roastie, preferable a Virgin or some oen than never sleeped around. A roastie will probably cheat and make your life hell on earth.

>hurr durr people who have other oppinions than mine are trash

go back to /pol/

casual sex is degenerate

Of all reaction pics to choose from you chose the guy who is a serial cheater.

enjoy a long term relationship then fuck sluts
or the opposite

Neither, just live for yourself and if either of those options presents itself do whatever you want.

no, you could not figure that out by your own and you know why?
cause this is bullshit my faggot friend.
Baiting... try harder.

Both

yeah dog that's my point. Tony was a sociopathic piece of shit who ruined everything good around him, partly with his chronic cheating

What the fuck are you on about?

I bang random sloots all the time and it's boring and depressing.

LTR all the way

This guy gets it. However, do not ever move in with a woman (if you can handle it financially to live alone) Once they move in with you, their bitch personalities will show up sooner or later.

long term brap

Why are you namefagging? Who the fuck are you?

Im the mighty Crow.
A wheelchair faggot that have seen too much

Best is to get a hot, loyal gf who's a total slut in bed and build a good sex life together. It takes a while to get good chemistry in bed, and if you have a cool partner you can build something great, while still enjoying the stability and emotional support of a loving, caring relationship.

how many womans have you fucked?
You dont Need time to have a good chemistry.
Chemistry is something you have or not.

I bet you either are a virgin or a married cuck.
explain

Why're you doing it?

Is it because you want to fuck something? If so, go for it. Get a decent one though.

Is it because you think you'll magically become attractive to the opposite sex once you've banged someone? Then don't bother, you won't. It's not magic mate.

Just got out of a 1 year, God dam is it better (salty now tho that she banged 2 guys just 2 weeks after we broke up)

I'm 24 so I'm sure some other have more experience than me.

I spent ages 17-22 banging as many sloots as I could. Some I really liked and some I just wanted to have sex with. In almost every case they didn't work out, some by choice but some because the girl just didn't like me that much.

When I turned 22 I met my *dream* girl. Fit all of my standards and ideals, and had a cool as fuck personality. We banged a ton, had lots of fun together, and built a life together. 2 short years later we are engaged and 2~ months pregnant. When I knew she was the one I was happy to dive right in and get started building a family together.

I love the shit out of this girl, but you know what? I still want to fuck other girls. I still want to nut inside random sloots with thicc hips and bury myself between the thighs of the girls I see at the gym. Now that I am in a committed relationship I feel my life would be a lot better if I were single and had the freedom to do what I want. But before this all I wanted was my *ideal* chick.

The grass is always greener. If you have something good don't fuck it up on a whim. All girls have vaginas that you can fuck, but not all of them are enjoyable to hang out/live/build/grow with.

>salty now tho that she banged 2 guys just 2 weeks after we broke up)

Why in the fuck do you care?
Bitch kept her sluttyness at bay to remain loyal and the first thing she does after breaking up with you is fuck multiple guys to fill the hole that you left/forget you.

Now if she got into a full relationship with a man a week or so after you break up? THEN you should be pissed. Because that relationship was going on long before you broke up.

ltr
can't do both

Giving free sampleas of your gains to superficial and uncommited women

Truest shit you ever post.
When your single and just fucking sloots you want a good woman to date. When you have been dating a good woman for forever you want to cum inside random sluts.

thanks man. Idk why I care (i broke up with her because she was getting annoying and no prospects). I think I care because she did it so quickly and Im not slaming anything. More time for the gym and less headaches over petty bullshit though so thats cool

it's not even about your opinion being different, it's that you're human trash.

>Be "daddy" of emotionally troubled young women.
this is secretly my dream, a Veeky Forums father figure especially because I guess I'm into micromanagement and building his ideal body to his exact specifications

you seem cool user, this one kind of touched my heartstrings a bit

user, I'm your age and a fellow abuse survivor. I was born into it, and raised that way. I had been severely broken. Obedience. Pain. I believed I would suffer that way for all of eternity because I was a sinner, and God would punish me, and as bad as my life was then, it would somehow be worse in Hell. These are the concepts I considered in my early childhood. The smell of preschools and daycares make me feel sick to my stomach in that same way I felt after a rough night with a drunk. The smell of budweiser and peanuts. They make me want to die.

But I was very fortunate to have been both highly intelligent and extremely resilient. My adult life, after it was over, had been mostly decent.

I had my first relationship at 27 and experienced consensual sex for the first time. It took years of being too afraid to speak to people, too disgusted with myself to want anyone near me, too afraid, too inclined towards the dark past I'd known and the kinds of people who were in it. So many reasons. I was so afraid. But then, I started focusing on other things. Trying to completely isolate the things that made me feel uncomfortable, and forging a path around them. Until I was working regularly and associating with people, and a relationship happened.

I am female, so 27 was comparable considering we can get d any time from anywhere. You should hold off. Wait on sex until someone can really be there for you. Mine understood and was very patient. I wasn't technically a virgin but I was so scared that we tried several times before he really gave me the whole thing. He'd stop when I was scared. It's nice when someone cares. I'd never had that.

Although, real talk, if you go with a hooker, find someone cool. A lot of them have been abused. Lived in a place with legalized prostitution, so I've met a few. They can be great people. Find someone smart, kind, who gets it. They're out there, but the search might be same as looking for a gf. Dunno. Good luck user!

>thinks shrinks are a scam
>considers fucking hookers

short term relationships and fwbs, with the occasional random sloot to keep the test flowing

Hey OP here. Damn what a post. Appreciate it. I am 24 also but not yet engaged although been with this girl for 3 years now. Wishing all day erryday i was single and could do whatever the fuck i wanted because relationship gets kinda boring. But thanks for honest post

"Nah dude just do it with a girl you love hurrr because my mother was a single mom durrr"

I want to all white knights to stfu.

Dude just go, sex is not what youre thinking. Get it out of your system

You do you man.

fuck off, stop validating and enabling women

t. closet fag

betas who dominate betas are stil betas.

This. Have like 2 FWBs you actually like being around in case one goes on vacation or is busy, plus this leaves you free for randos when you go out

Make long term relationship with sluts.