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hello Veeky Forums - what is the best way to approach a guy at a gym? What kind of girls at gym would you consider relationship material and not just a hook-up? Would you even want to be talked to at gym?

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lol idk, ive never thought of it from the other side.. I swear there are like 2 -3 girls who want me notice them. They make eye contact with me often. They seem to act weird when they are in my field of view.. Like hair and shit, I read once that when a girl likes you she sort of copies your mannerism. I swear i've seen this.. It could be all in my head but I am tall. 7 years in the gym and good looking..

The point of that blog post is to be direct, alot of men arent as intune with subtleties as women.. Just say hi and askabout a workout or something, keep it short, then make small talk the next time you see em..

Girls who take their fitness serious are one of the aspects of wife material..

A girl approaching a guy is the one time that 'just b urself and go and say hi' is legit advice.

>what is the best way to approach a guy at a gym?
Wether youre a guy or a girl just walk up and talk to him, he will most likely do the rest and you can relax

About the girls thing i dont consider any girls at the gym hook-up material and especially not relationship material but generally im guessing its a 50/50 depending on the dude but you cant really fail

>I swear there are like 2 -3 girls who want me notice them.
Ive noticed girls who do the same when im around and trust me friend, they just want attention. Its not about you, its about them and their need for validation

Even if you're a 6/10 he will still fuck you so just go talk to him, don't play dumb games and ask about routines and stuff, you will probably be fucking that afternoon.

>What kind of girls at gym would you consider relationship material and not just a hook-up?
None

i don't think irl works like that? it's not like a porno, wouldn't a guy be suspicious of a girl who would immediately suggest fucking? also i would like to get to know him first, bud i don't know what to say

why, don't you want a fit gf?

Never really though about it, but I work out at the gym solo all the time and if a grill asked be between sets something in the ballpark of 'Jane Doe bailed on me and I don't have a workout buddy today, mind if I tag along with you' I'd be hard pressed to say no. Just work with it from there and if you are attractive to him you could probably set up another workout day in the future.

Only thing I would say to avoid is trying to get between a man and his gains. I fucking hate it when people just want to talk for hours while you are trying to move on to the next exercise but they won't let you leave without making it awkward. If you are just looking to talk instead of working out at the gym you will probably have less success though not by much (none at all if you are a super qt3.14).

my lady,
>relationship material
is not so easy to fake...
just be playful and drop the drama
take your relation with ppl in general serious
and take yourself with a healthyly less-serious

Dont approach people at the gym

> i don't think irl works like that? it's not like a porno, wouldn't a guy be suspicious of a girl who would immediately suggest fucking?

What's the guy like? Is he a CHAD? Nerdy GOMAD nerd? (yeah right)

It's different for every guy but if you want a good relationship obviously just be yourself, ask him some banal small talk questions about why he works out, if he plays sports, etc, and then see if he wants to get coffee sometime.

>why, don't you want a fit gf?
There are two types of girls who go to the gym
One goes because her bf goes there and she wants to be with him
The other type just goes for validation and attention

Neither of these are any good for anything, hooking up with a girl with a bf who works out will lead to drama and its not wanted at the gym
Girls who want attention and validation dont put out so they can fuck off

Seriously mate, if youre a girl just walk up and make your intentions clear. We are guys and we like fucking. we arent girls so there is no need to manipulate or trick us into it

guys dont care, you´re overthinking this

just be yourself and talk shit, you wont lose any street cred if you at least tried

Just got a bar you stupid fucking slut.

I'm trying to work out.

>We are guys and we like fucking. we arent girls so there is no need to manipulate or trick us into it

Fucking this, I swear to god girls are retarded, it's simple as fuck.

You got this, OP.

>Just got a bar you stupid fucking slut.
this

>"i only get 210 phone numbers every night i go out but i want more, better hit up guys at the gym too!"
This is why i hate women, you have bars, clubs, streets, festivals, parties and ALL of the fucking internet feeding you attention and if you want it dick.
gtfo out of the gym, its out place

I would literally never stop having sex with that if I could.

>guys dont care, you´re overthinking this
I'd be pretty suspicious if a girl just walked up to me and said she wanted to bang. I mean, I'd DO it, but I'd have a few questions before I fuck her.

First thought would be that it's some type of setup. She's going to lure me to a bathroom or something, then I'd get mugged by a guy waiting for my dumb ass.

Second thought would be that I'm on some type of prank game show, and a whole camera crew will coming running out of nowhere to out me as some type of pervert.

Third thought would be that this girl may be a hooker, and then I'd wonder if she's expecting money or some type of transaction. Then I'd be afraid to ask about it because if she's NOT a hooker, I've just blown my chance by implying she's a prostitute.

Last thought would be that I better double up on the condom. Because if she's promiscuous enough to fuck a random dude on the street once, she's probably had a ton of dicks in her.

Don't immediately suggest it, you retard. What the fuck does that even mean? "Hey do you wanna fuck?" You'll get limited success doing that, but everyone will think you're a dumb whore.

Just talk like you don't browse Veeky Forums, then go to coffee, then go to your place or his and bang.

but we have different routines, it would make no sense to "tag along" with him, i would just hold him back

borderline chad (at least looks), dunno if he's a slayer.

so i should start with a friendship first to get to know him? I never asked anyone out, i don't know how this works. i don't want to just use him for sex.

>taking advice from autistic neets to go up and ask to fuck
>kek

ayyyy baby i'm on here meet me in the toilet tomorrow ;)

You are a girl, you cant fail in this. Its impossible, rejection isnt a thing for girls
Go up and talk to him, he will do the rest

and dont be fucking autistic enough to tell him you want to fuck, he should get that from you talking to him.

Listen to Shia and JUST DO IT

Pic related for relationship material.

I'd nut in any kaffir sloot in yoga pants tho.

i would be thrilled if he browsed Veeky Forums though

ok but i'll cancel my membership if he rejects me

>rejection isnt a thing for girls
I've turned down a few girls. They were either ugly as fuck, ham beasts, or both.

So OP, if you're ugly, fat, or both, there's a real chance you could get turned down or brushed off (I've done it before). But if you're actually cute and at least semi-fit/not fat, you're golden.

Now that I think of it, I've literally never been hit on by a cute girl. Every time a girl hit on me or tried to take me home for sex, they were ugly landwhales...

>ok but i'll cancel my membership if he rejects me
Ill fucking eat my membership card if he does, unless he has a gf and doesnt want to cheat

>girls.
>ugly as fuck ham beasts
pick one
But yeah, i assume OP isnt a fat ass or ugly because then all is void
you have to be atleast 6/10 for it to work

legit only way you can fail

Or if she's fat and/or ugly.

Speaking of which, post a pic OP. That way we can judge your chances of success.

this, at least physique pic

i've been gymcelling long enough to have a decent figure and i think my face is ok too. he's really attractive though, how do i find out if he has a gf? fuck, why does this have to be so hard?

>why does this have to be so hard?
>coming from a girl
Dude, you have zero idea
Rule of thumb for dating girls is if she is even close to attractive she has a boyfriend or is batshit insane so thats what guys deal with

Just fucking ask the dude out or talk to him atleast, unless he is autistic he will do most of the work

Just ask you fucking autist. Same shit everyone else has to go through.

post bod pic, stop being scared we post our pics all the time.

Well have you ever made eye contact? If he is interested you would probably catch him looking. Then smile and see how he responds. Then start a convo at a next convenient occasion. That's how I would do it anyway...

>i've been gymcelling long enough to have a decent figure and i think my face is ok too
Okay, so you're NOT going to at least post a physique pic. Any reason? We post our bodies all the time. There's even an entire thread dedicated to it.

>gymcelling
>is a girl
Not possible, desu

no i pretend he doesn't exist, too scared to look at him directly

i don't want to + what if he browses Veeky Forums too? he will never gf me then.

Are you a tranny role playing?

Why would someone who browses fit not want to gf who browses Veeky Forums if anything thats a +

>no i pretend he doesn't exist, too scared to look at him directly

if you actually make eye contact and smile he might approach you

you a real autist aren't you, making it hard on yourself

i see many mixed opinions on this board, even this thread

>Why would someone who browses fit not want to gf who browses Veeky Forums if anything thats a +
Because girls are a massive waste of time and resources and when things do fuck up she will browse Veeky Forums as well and you wont have that to yourself anymore

Not all guys are thirsty fuckers dying to serve some girls need for attention you know?

>what if he browses Veeky Forums too? he will never gf me then.
Nigga he'll probably be all over you if it means both of you can shitpost on Veeky Forums and share a hatred for fatties.

preach senpai

He's going to be turned off by your fucking autism if you sound like you do in here in person.

omg i swear i'm normal irl, but i honestly suck at pursuing guys and i wanted insider info

if you got a thiccc ass then its ez mode

Like I said talk like you don't browse Veeky Forums.

We gave you all the insider info and you're not listening. Why do women ask for advice and bring up problems when they always reject the solutions? Fuck

post bod pic cover ur face.

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Am I crazy, do they want me to talk to them? I usually keep my head phones in and try to avoid alot of socializing in the gym. I like to get lost in my workouts, but It may come off stand offish.

>why does this have to be so hard?
You're overcomplicating this, just go and ask him for coffee. You have a 99% success rate for fucks sake.
Men do what you do hundreds of times throughout their lives if they ever want a chance of not dying alone.

>What kind of girls at gym would you consider relationship material and not just a hook-up?
I don't consider any woman relationship material.

Why would I want to settle with 1 woman when I could have many women?
Slut acceptance has made it easy for me to sleep around.

Women fail to understand the male psyche. We have an old adage that tired, aged men with white hair say: "Never get married." As simple as it is true, men are not happy in marriage. No man wants to be chained to responsibility and sameness, as opposed to having freedom and variety.

God bless your souls, you women are empathetic. However, your empathy is your downfall; you assume that we men experience the same emotions as you, the same want for stability, family, and lifelong relationships. Men do not want these things. Some men do, of course, but it's because they've been convinced of it by media, moms, and other forces. A man who has tasted both lives --one of freedom and casual sex, and one of monotony-- almost never chooses the latter if he believes he has the ability to achieve the former. The men who will reply to this post saying "fuck you i want to be married and have kids you dumb fuck!!!" are either homely males who could only ever achieve 1 partner anyway, or they are misled souls who do not realize the the satisfaction of having 7 different friends with benefits.

Women used to demanded marriage for sex. Men begrudgingly agreed. Slut acceptance means that if you won't fuck me, there is another chick with low personal standards who will. Why would I waste time with your demands of marriage and a stable relationship? Easy hoes are all around me. I don't have to put in any work for pussy in modern times. I'm pretty sure it didn't used to be that way.

If you want any of this to change, you need to start slut shaming, hard. Slut shaming is beneficial for all women and harmful mostly to men like me. Without slut shaming, I'll exist this way forever.

You're not supposed to solve their problem, you're supposed to pay attention and nod your head

Fuck if you ever have kids man. If you get a girl pregnant you should leave like your father.

>The point of that blog post is to be direct, alot of men arent as intune with subtleties as women
codeword for, "when men want something they just walk up and talk directly for it, we aren't used to this retarded bullshit where women are too stupid/scared to make a move so they think dropping a pen or some idiot shit is equivalent to flirting"

video evidence: youtube.com/watch?v=reU4OCi30Fw

Pretend you are new or are interested in his routines, you don't have to squat 500 lbs.

You underestimate how much influence an attractive girl can have on a man. You could probably have him lifting in his underwear for the rest of the day if you tried hard enough.

>2017
>not cheating on your gurl
>kek

i hope your sleeping around leads to you never passing down your shitty genetics

have fun dying alone you piece of shit

All the fugly beta males rolling out, as expected. Enjoy financially supporting my progeny, I appreciate it.

This is the red-pilled life. Our world is not ideal, I'm only here to tell you about it.

did your father treat your mother this way? Would you want a man to treat your sister this way?

You need the ironpill friendo

Haha, I guess I'm brainwashed as hell because the idea of fucking sluts disgusts me.

I'll keep the girl who gave me her virginity for now thanks.

I could probably settle for a non-virgin but never a chick that hooks up.

I'll have you know I've slayed over 300 women and finally saw the light and realized jesus was right and got married now I'm happier than ever praise the lord

unless your 16 goodluck finding a virgin.. Aslong as its respectable numbers and not a coal burner is the best ur gonna get past 20

you high or retarded?

>Fuck off, just trying to have a coffee with my bro.
Thats some autist shit.

No, my father is married to my mother who stays at home and does nothing. He goes to work 5 days of the week and brings home a large salary. There was a time when we were poor, but those times have passed and my father is a high earner. As soon as was possible, my mother quit her job and resigned herself to housekeeping. She contributes virtually nothing to the household, is weak and cannot lift a 20 lbs. object, and nags my father to fix things around the house. Her greatest contribution to the family is dragging the vacuum cleaner across the carpet 1x/week and cooking dinner sometimes.

My father works 50 hours per week, cooks dinner 3x/week, and spends all of saturday doing yard work that my mother is incapable of doing. My mother is old with wrinkles, sagging breasts, and muddled skin. She is post-menopausal and they do not ever have sex. My father is financially supporting a 3rd child, in basic terms. My father only ever had sex with one woman.

I love my mother and my father and I appreciate all that they have done for me, but I am unwilling to flip a coin by entering a marriage contract with a woman who only has 10 years of sex for us planned anyway, will let herself go after the first kid, and will get herself a nice short dyke haircut after she's got me locked down.

>tfw no autistic gf

goddamn i wish i saw that video at 21. fuck my numbers could 4x what they are right now

if she does become fat and sexless. Then I believe it is acceptable to cheat. But the family system is needed for a strong society... We all have to do our part or be like africa.

reminds me of the bread comic

The family system is necessary for society, but we've been through 30 years now of feminists and Leftists trying to destroy the nuclear family unit. It's no longer possible to have a marriage.

Men have never been particularly happy being married. Just read my post [] and tell me if you'd be happy with that kind of a lifestyle.

It's only through coercion and high personal standards that women used to be able to convince men to settle down. It was a pretty bad deal, but men are so sex-crazed that we did it anyway. "Yes, yes, I'll marry you, give you 3 children all with the names you've pre-planned, support you financially at a grueling job i hate, and do manual labor on my free time to fix the house that i bought for you -- just give me that pussy!!!"

The only way men can be convinced to take that deal is with slut shaming. If the community even has a small amount of sluts, say 10%, then the family structure will be destroyed. Men would prefer to pass around the 10% of the female population who are sluts, compared to settling down with any 1 woman.

And if you live in a college town? Forget it. College women are saving responsibility for 5 years down the road when they've already started their career. Most college women FUCK, and they fuck A LOT. There is no fucking reason for me to even bother flirting with or exploring the possibility of women I work with, because I know they're going to want a relationship and long-term bullshit that doesn't matter to me. WHY BOTHER when I can go out on the town and pick up a hot young college slut almost any night of the week?

I deflowered my wife when she was 20. Feels good man.

>What kind of girls at gym would you consider relationship material
one that takes her time to get to know me and let's me know her. If she's immediately sexual I know she's not a relationship material.

And I'd also like to add that slut shaming is built into the DNA of women. You can see very easily that women are programmed to hate other slutty women. Go out with any group of women and you will know this. If you deny this then I doubt you've had any real world experience with groups of women.

If 1 woman is the hottest and wears the sluttiest tit-bearing outfit of the group, every single one of the other girls in that group will talk mad shit about her the moment she is gone. Some may be daring enough to bring it up to her face. If she makes out with a dude that night? It's fucking over, they are going to leave her completely by herself, be mad at her for a month, and she'll be in the bar crying because she doesn't even understand why.

Women get extremely mad when there is a slut in their community and most do not even know why. It's because women intrinsically (instinctually?) understand that a slut in their community hurts them, remarkably so.

If the dude has any self worth he isn't going to sleep with you right out of the gates. Lucky for you not many guys have self worth.

All you have to do is make your intentions clear without making it seem like he is getting pranked.
>e.g. Walking up to him and asking him if he wants to fugg

Personally, if some qt walked up to me and started spilling her spaghetti all over the rubber mats and then asked me on a date I would be elated.

Then again, I'm not a Chad.

What the fuck is that dumb video. Not any girl that looks around in a place or stretches/flicks her hair is sending YOU (only you and not potentially someone else) fucking signals.

I cannot fathom how fucking retarded people are if they think this means that a chick that does this is into them.

Well let me be the first to say, this guy is right.

R u a woman saying this or angry orbiter

>Then again, I'm not a Chad.

No matter how much we lift, we will never be Chad.

Also make sure you are dressed like you actually work out.

Can't stand those attention seeking sloots that wear only sports bras and shorts. They are always the same ones that do nothing but meme exercises and baby weight compounds with terrible form.

I'm a guy and don't get me wrong, these CAN be tells, but so can be anything from her asking you for the time to her just straight up walking up to you and asking you whether you want to fuck her.

Besides, why are you even waiting for a girl to give you "access" to her...just walk up to her and chat her up if possible in the setting. As long as you don't associate rejection with your self-esteem, it is fine.

The only answer is this.

You do not approach her at the gym.

Instead you find out who she is, where she lives, what she does. And then you fabricate a chance meeting somewhere other than the gym.

To get her name, check the sign in sheet. Glance at her phone while she checks instagram. Look at her wallet on the floor. Wait for her to talk to someone else at the gym, then later ask that person who she is. Figure out an angle and find out her name.

Then stalk her religiously. Look up her facebook, insta, twitter, etc. Find her address on familytreenow. Wait outside her house in the morning and see what her daily routine is like.

At some point you will be able to be standing behind her in line at starbucks while she orders her favorite drink. You can interrupt her mid-order *- "no whip?" - * and then laugh about how thats exactly what you order. Say "two please" to the barista and then pay for her. Say "hi i'm user" and shake her hand. Ask her name (you already know), if she's single (you already know), where she's from (you already know), etc. No surprises so just keep smiling and making eye contact. If you're good it will turn into a date right there. If not, don't worry, just "bump into her" after work later and tell her it must be fate to see an angel twice in one day.

Good luck ;0)

Get really close to him and when you have his attention say:
"wanna have s3x? xd"

Ur not a woman, so maybe not act like u know. Women speak a different language friend

Then they shouldn't tell their problems to men. It's our nature to fix shit.

Hadn't thought of this. Thanks mate.

>>reasonably attractive female

You have an 85% chance of fucking
You have a 40% chance of anything going further
You have a 92% chance of having picked a boring chad because what else is there you could know from gym clothes and lifting?
Literally walk up to him and say " you're really hot" and if he spergs it's his fault not yours.

>Literally walk up to him and say " you're really hot" and if he spergs it's his fault not yours.
I did this one time. I still hate myself for it

I hope you're never responsible for raising a boy to a man. You're a failure.

Good argument

When do you see him again OP? We need to know when we can expect an update.

And not meming, you should post a pic of your body. Can even be clothed with out face. If you are over a 6/10 he will not turn you down. But our advice wont be much use unless we know if you are over a 6.

>mfw when I'm 23 grill and I've never had a boyfriend

Guys hit me up on the reg so I'm assuming that I'm just crazy then despite being physically perfectly doable.

As for OP, why would you approach a man? If he's handsome, he's swimming in puss already. If he saw you as something worth pursuing, he sure would. Also keep in mind that attractive men are 1:2000 attractive females. There's so few of them that they are in extremely high demand.

If I was you, I wouldn't even try. Handsome man, you as the one approaching, there's no way that would end well.

Except in modern society a few top 5% of men get all the attention while 95% dont. This is common in the wild animal kingdom too. One male has breeding rights while others answer to him.

Chances are likely the guy op likes isnt the guy with breeding rights. But you should still take a chance anyway even if he is.

False. If a man is somewhat tall, somewhat attractive, somewhat fit, well dressed and not extremely shy and weird, most women would not mind such man approaching. Every woman's preferences in men falls within those guidelines.

Where as there's tons of different styles, body shapes, breast sizes, ass sizes and what not for girls. There is no way to know whether a guy's type was short haired petite girls or if he wanted a thicccc blonde with bimbo makeup and cow tits. Maybe he fancies artist hippie grills. Maybe he just likes 2D girls.

Women's preferences doesn't vary that much and most men are just normies. Very few hippies or ghots or anything different really. As a woman you should always wait for men to make the first move in order to avoid embarrassing yourself. And if a guy is too much of a pussy to approach you, he is not worth your time or just not that into you.

Was a man interested about something, would he pursue it.

My god are women really this clueless? ITS YOU WHO PLAY THESE STUPID GAMES!
If you show us interest and we're also interested then it's already done provided you don't fucking play bullshit games.
So yea, in a gym everyone is pirmarily in a "mind your own business" mode. A guy is unlikely to talk to you there because of the huge stigma of doing that in a gym. So you have to break that barrier.

>Was a man interested about something, would he pursue it.

Bullshit. Lazy excuses for lazy women. I notice women trying to get my attention all the time, or at least I think I do. But I'm not taking that gamble, besides, I wouldn't know what to say to them any way. They expect me to guess right on something that's never going to be much safer than 50%, then come up with a good excuse to talk to them, then do the majority of the conversational lifting, and for what? Even if I get that far without any awkwardness it will probably turn out she only wanted attention and if a 7/10 like me hits on her that boosts her ego. kthxbye. Where's my reward? What do I get? It's not worth it. Hitting on women in public is a complete waste of energy, nothing comes of it.

When women want sex with a stranger I'm not interested in them.

When women want a relationship they pick some friend of a friend they meet in a private, familiar setting, not some stranger.

People hitting on each other in public is a meme.

>>attractive men are 1:2000 attractive females

thefug

Lol. Statistics are against you - marriage makes men happier, where as being married has a negative effect of women's happiness. Google it if you don't believe me.

Men are much more needy when it comes to sex and women. Throughout the history, men without women/families have caused wars and riots. Men are controlled by their hormonal urges and as soon as you loose your hair or just simply get old, you will fall flat and all the power you think you are holding right now, will be taken away from you.

Modern women are perfectly capable of supporting theirselves financially. Modern women can have kids with spermdonors. Modern women doesn't "need" men, although some women still want men. But women in general seems to be much more ok with being singles, not getting laid on the reg and not having someone to hold your hand.

Men are the pathetic ones and I bet my left ovary that you just got burned by some bitch and now you are acting all cocky and telling yourself how you are in control of the situation, but actually it's just cause you wanna avoid any further emotional trauma in the future.

Alrighty then. Feel free to "go your own way," we women don't really need you anyway. your efforts for the society as a whole will be appreciated, but as a relationship context more and more women are perfectly genuinely happy on their own. We don't need you. And not you, you or you either.