Self Improvement

literally the only thing that isnt great in my life is no gf

>oh boy i can't wait to read 100 pages worth of inane bullshit and memes today

What's wrong with lactose?

>success silhouette is female

>unsuccessful is male

So is there a wage gap or not?

>forgive others
NO.

This

I think I do a lot of the "Successful" things, but I don't think it makes me that much better a person. It just helps me. Saying things like "successful people read every day" just leads to hopeless idiots making sure to get it in and tell everyone about it so that they will magically become happy.

user you're only hurting yourself though

The points in that imagine are horse shit and most of the successful traits are a recipe for getting used.

>Forgive Others
Forgiveness is not always a given, also if you choose to forgive you should have reduced trust in the person.

>Want Others to Succeed
Only if it benefits you in one way or another, or if you really care about that person. Also if they help you, then return the favor.

>Embrace Change
Change isn't always good

>Exude Joy
Yes, but don't over do it. Hyper Joyful people are just as annoying as ultra depressed and mopey people.

etc....

I could go on, when in doubt use common sense.

Yeah successful doesn't seem to be the right word really. Most of the mindset stuff seems to be more about how to be more happy, or contented.

I definitely feel better when I'm not resentful, happy for people, and forgiving; but I don't think it's gonna make me successful per se.

Obsessing about perceived victimisation or identity politics doesn't do any good for anyone user.

beta detected

>woman pictured as successful
>man pictured as unsuccessful
>unsuccessful on man side is spelled wrong

>most of the successful traits are a recipe for getting used

lol @ this paranoia
unsuccesful as fuck

You're never gonna make it

Don't forget to forgive your cheating whore of a GF/Wife when you catch her on Chad's dick

:)

I recently exited a 2.5 year Cocoon mode dedicated to self improvement

Before:
>just graduated with a history degree, can't find a job to save my life
>dumped by my gf because future not looking good financially
>working at freaking target full time
>ottermode

After:
>graduated with masters in finance
>got job in commercial real estate making $68k all-in (more than ex is now making)
>after a year will look into an acquisitions entry level job in my firm that pays $90k all in
>cold approached a girl this friday for the first time in my life and got her number, she was the most attractive girl I've ever pursued which isnt saying much though
>5'11" 182lbs at 13% bf

While taking a lunch downtown last week, I went to chill at this hotel lounge nearby looking at all the affluence around me and the feeling of "making it" washed over me in an awesome wave

Yeah what's wrong with lacrosse?

Good for you dude hope to be in your position one day

I ran away.

>lucky enough to be with that girl next door I grew up with, hanging out each and every day
>short, perky little redhead that I genuinely believe can be trusted
>same age, both had our share of shitty childhoods
>she gets offered a manager position for this small boutique pet store chain she's been working at for a few years now, out of state, coincidentally in Nashville where her parents moved to
>I was working as a the team manager for my aunt's real estate team back home in Chicago but could feel I was about to lose it and have a break down
>she takes the job, asks me "you're coming with right?"
>that break down came when she asked that question
>we moved down there found a apartment brought all our shit
>then I dropped the bomb on her, told her I had to leave for a little while, the relationship is not over I just need to figure some shit out and I will be back in six weeks
>hop in my car, bought a satellite phone, and brought clothes, tools, and other necessities including a few thousand cash
>for a month I drove around northern Canada and Alaska, sleeping in my car and camping, left the cell phone in the glove box most of the time, just disappeared
>About 2am in Prudhoe Bay, Alaska, sitting outside freezing, drinking a cup of coffee and watching the midnight sun.
>This was when everything changed and I started calling people; called my mom, dad, and grandma crying and breaking down
>Lastly, called the girlfriend, at about 3:30am, told her I was coming home and for the first time in a long time I heard her cry

About a week later I arrived back at our new home in Nashville. She's pregnant now and we're engaged.

Running away let me figure out a lot of shit when there's nothing to do but drive 18 hours a day and be scared of bears in the woods at night.

Took you 2.5 years to reach 182lbs at 13% body fat? That's horrible. Everything else is great. Don't stop.

>Born male
>Can only be successful if female according to the picture

Whelp, according to this poster it's time to kill myself. It all makes sense now. Man-lets, when will they learn? No wonder there are so many transgendered people on this board. Truly they are the real red-pilled individuals.

people out here really getting triggered over the genders of the people in that infographic

retweet nigger

sounds cool user. def couldn't do it by myself i dont think

I flossed and my gums bled like they just had their period. Other than that I'm better than all of you.

>most of the successful traits are a recipe for getting used.
That's not what Mr. Rogers would want you to feel. I'm sorry you've been hurt user.

>not saying no to any form of socialising
>dont drink
wut

I got held back in my 11th year in highschool. I weighed about 260 pounds. Always was a lazy fuck who went to school and fell asleep in class just to shamble back home and play video games for 6-10 hours a day.
When I got held back I put more effort in my class work, I was still slaking but I managed to pass. Transfered to a new school since the only person that I considered a friend graduated.
The school I transfered to had gym, a shit one but they still had one. Long story short I went on a diet and spent some time in the gym and lost 20 pounds by the time ive graduated. I also got into a program that paid for my community college tuition and I decided to go for a degree in criminal justice. But I during the time before I started attending my college classes I shut my self in my house again.
Now ive gained the weight back and gained even more
Ive failed two of my classes last semester so im feeling like im in a pit

I learned DBT and Mindfulness. I would definitely recommend checking out DBT self-help resources online and learning Mindfulness.

>much less angry ( still working on that tho )
>much more honest with myself
>don't feel like killing myself every day
>better at telling which of my quirks are legitimate personality traits and which are mental issues
>accepting the quirks, working on the mental issues
>was able to claw myself out of the neet hole ( think neckbeard nests ) that was my apartment and move in with SO.
>more accepting of self in general by that, found courage to do things such as going to the gym
>mended relations with parents

It's still an uphill battle though and it took years but it's definitely getting better from what it was

All the best to you user.

>Successful one is a woman
>Unsuccessful one is a man

Shock

that picture is slight bullshit because we have all those traits, some people just get sucked into the negatives ones far too often, others are striving to be good

4.5 Years now.

>Got really Veeky Forums
>178cm 71kg 7%bf
>Playing guitar, singing, picked up reading and writing my own stuff to get away of the goddamn pc.
>Feels good.jpg
>I finally love myself most of the time
>I can even forget about my shitty past
>Studying
>Still feeling lonely and really lost
>But learned to meditate so i can see its pointless to feel like this
>Actually meet qt3.14
>Holy shit am i going to make it.jpg?
>Hole inside me slowly fills
>Feels so good
>I think im going to make it completely
>She tells me she cant...

Brehs, i was so close.
I love her and i still love her and i want that to happen.
Why cant i stop feeling that she was the one?
>Starting to feel so useless and disgusting again
I dont know how to go on anymore, the girl is the one thing but why do i begin to hate the thing i am studying?

These words are always in my head "if you ride like lightning you're going to crash like thunder"

Change your environment.

>living at home, wallowing in TF2 hat trading
>decide enough's enough
>work in a warehouse for 8 months
>suddenly have a large sum of the cash (not paying rent at the olds)
>time for a change
>haul my shit interstate
>leave all my family and friends behind
>move into some fucking random sharehouse
>start a degree in engineering because why not
>move houses around the city a lot, probably once every 6 months
>meet lots of absolute fuckwits and a handful of good people
>finish degree
>get graduate job as an engineer
>finally enough money to rent a place by myself and live very comfortably
>lifting game and confidence through the roof

You're probably in the situation I was in. Doing exactly what I did might not work for you, but I would give changing your environment a try. It was a very difficult, painful, poor 4 years for me without much support from my family. However I gained many life lessons and skills that it's hard to put into words.

Imagine the classic advice replying to "How do I become better socially equipped?"
>just work in retail bro
What I've somehow managed to do in the past 5 years is to improve myself beyond what I though was possible given the cards I was initially dealt with, instead of sticking to some shitty job in a town I didn't give a fuck about. It's cliche as fuck but if I can do it any of you other autists can.

I literally can't watch tv anymore because of this shit. Like professional sports? Does anyone fucking pay attention to the amount of commercials / bullshit thats being shoved down your throat?

Yeah, you can mute it or walk around, but the amount of jewing / advertising is just unreal

>Mr. Rogers
RIP. Grew up in pittsburgh, so his death was a huge bummer

Most people have a mix of those traits.

Personalities are not binary.

>keep a journal

Is this actually valuable?

The exude joy bs is weird too. Sometimes bad shit does happen. Worrying about looking happy after your mother just died is psychopath tier bs.

Thought this story was going to take a cheating-based turn, I am glad for you user, I hope it all works out for you.

If you review it, yeah. I'm useless at keeping one though.

who hurt you user?

> that infographic

dear god this person has clearly never interacted with society's upper crust

You read my mind user.

It's the current year. Do you guys really watch TV shows as they as airing live? I don't think I've watched anything like that in years. Just DVR what you want to watch and skip all the ads, or order it on demand/netflix/hulu/amazon prime. It's so easy to avoid commercials now.

Man you're cool as fuck. I wish I'll have the balls to do that one day. Not for the sake of figuring something about me but just for the adventure.

I'm gonna take that video game idea user. Ty

>keep a journal every day

I haven't done this for years, and I don't really see the point unless I'm depressed.

If I'm working/studying/lifting/socializing literally every day, there's not much to write about other than >keep it up user

In my final year at uni, am currently in exam season (hence the Veeky Forums Procrastination ya feel). Hoping to apply for med school next year. My girlfriend and I are planning to move to new Zealand for 6 months as long as it doesn't interfere with my application process. It's all looking good. Truth it though, med school is a way for me to kill 4 years whilst secretly working on my acting career... Haven't had the balls to tell anyone that that's where I see myself and all I really want to be so... med schools just a cover/back up

Rockboxx in Salem, OR?

Got any cosmetics you don't want anymore?

Fitter, happier, more productive
Comfortable
Not drinking too much
Regular exercise at the gym
Three days a week
Getting on better with your associate employee contemporaries
At ease
Eating well
No more microwave dinners and saturated fats
A patient, better driver
A safer car
Baby smiling in back seat
Sleeping well
No bad dreams
No paranoia
Careful to all animals
Never washing spiders down the plughole
Keep in contact with old friends
Enjoy a drink now and then
Will frequently check credit at moral bank
Hole in the wall
Favours for favours
Fond but not in love
Charity standing orders
On Sundays ring road supermarket
No killing moths or putting boiling water on the ants
Car wash
Also on Sundays
No longer afraid of the dark or midday shadows
Nothing so ridiculously teenage and desperate
Nothing so childish, at a better pace
Slower and more calculated
No chance of escape
Now self-employed
Concerned but powerless
An empowered and informed member of society
Pragmatism not idealism
Will not cry in public
Less chance of illness
Tires that grip in the wet
Shot of baby strapped in back seat
A good memory
Still cries at a good film
Still kisses with saliva
No longer empty and frantic like a cat tied to a stick
That's driven into frozen winter shit
The ability to laugh at weakness
Calm
Fitter, healthier and more productive
A pig in a cage on antibiotics

you are a massive faggot m8

These threads are pathetic.
Veeky Forums used to not suck this bad.

Not him but, how so ?

>pig in cage
What!?

>Succesful
>Woman
>Unsuccesful
>Man

Kid A was all about computer generated music. A lot was made using the cut up method as I understand it.

I slip away
I slipped on a little white lie
We've got heads on sticks
You've got ventriloquists

I want to /selfimprovement/ by getting a job that isn't restaurant work but I don't know where to begin. What are some jobs I can apply for that don't need more than a high school education but also aren't in the food industry?

>tfw had a few of days off and have now spent three days in a row sitting in my chair watching Veronica Mars instead of doing something productive

I forgot how exhausting it is to sit on your computer and do nothing all day. I don't know how I survived my NEET days

>worked crazy hard at uni
>got a first
>read a shit tonne about my job (software dev)
>got involved in open source
>post loads on Stackoverflow
>doing my first talk at a conference this summer
My career is going really fucking well. I'm earning more than my parents combined at the height of their careers and I'm only 24.

Sorry if that sounded like bragging. Don't worry, I still hate myself and have no friends.

>Want Others to Succeed

>Only if it benefits you in one way or another

Unsuccessful detected

Just hang in there user, don't look at what happened as some sort of failure or regression. Focus on coming out a better, more experienced person from this. Its just another step in making it, learning to deal with and recover from what life throws at you. Remember, you're the only one that can take away from you what you've accomplished so far.
As far as shaking the feeling that she was the one, my suggestion is just to reaffirm to yourself that you're valuable and desirable, and if you managed to get a girl who was desirable to you, odds are you'll be able to get another one. Besides, if she were the one then she wouldn't have broken up with you, right? Don't stress it too much, some things just aren't meant to be. You sound like you're close to being the person you want to be if you aren't already there, so her leaving you? Her loss desu.

This.

My brother in law is a self made millionaire and he watches more tv in a day than I watch in a week

What is this journal circlejerking?

Fuckin SLEEP.

It's amazing how much it impacts my work ethic, sociobility, and physical endurance. I finally ditched the college sleep habits and I'm seeing massive life gains.

Set your cell phone to remind you to go to bed at 9 on weeknights, get up at 5:30, see results.

>more than ex is now making
she still has her foot on your neck years later and probably hasn't even thought about you in the last 18 months

why not both. I like recording emotional things so I can look back and marvel at how far I've come as a person, or when I'm feeling nostalgic it helps me remember how I felt about a place or person. it's not therapy, it's a log of my internal life