Since autism/social anxiety/etc. is universal among the people of Veeky Forums...

I have been lifting for 5 years. I was molested as a child by a stranger, turning 30 soon, never recovered, shut-in (aside from gym) and unable to drive or take public transport, can't even get a hair cut from another person, can't develop intimate relationships, can't really function at all in society.

I basically just lift, browse the net, and hang around.

Oh, and I was molested at a pool, even simple things like the water hitting me in thes shower gives me anxiety because the wetness of the water reminds me of it.

Pretty insane how an event 20+ years ago pretty much destroyed my life.

> Clearly, lifting isn't working.
We just haven't lifted enough.

The main thing that leads to unhappiness is high, and unmet expectations, and longing for things that don't/no longer exist. Also, doing these things t helps a lot.

Most people don't do that who post on Veeky Forums most people who post here are predominantly trolls, or just starting into getting healthy. Best thing for new people to do is just stick to stronglifts/starting strength for 12 weeks, and be persistent in it.

sorry to hear that mate. does counselling help in any way?

>only sensible post on Veeky Forums today
>gets ignored
Well user I hope this one reply brings you solace

As an actual autist, I can say for sure that I've hurt myself by holding myself to the standard of "normal" than any other person has by doing so.

>Clearly, lifting isn't working.

Here is where you are wrong. For lifting to work, you need to actually lift instead of sitting in front of Veeky Forums fantasizing about rugged men using your gf as a nutrag

You forgot
>stop browsing image boards
I don't know why I keep coming back. Clearly it's not healthy

I don't know, I didn't go for any mental health help until recently. Have my first appointment next Monday after getting a bunch of medical tests on me done.

I think the doctor thought that I'm on a bunch of drugs or something and wanted to check me out before referring me to a psychologist.

Turns out my testosterone level is above 1000 ng/dl, vitamin D is good, b12 good, blood sugar good, everything good, so he said I'm cleared to get mental professional help now as he has come to the conclusion my mental issues aren't health related. (I didn't tell him what happened to me, but I did sort of hint at it today after he gave me my blood test results back)

MDMA healed me.

But increased my ADHD and Bipolar disorder.

Because as long as the internet exists, autists will cling to it for safety

best of luck to you mate, hope it helps.

>intermittent fast
redpill me on intermittent fasting

I'm completely socially competent, I just browse Veeky Forums because I can't find any other forum with Meme's as good which is also intellectually stimulating

Tried these and none worked
>lifting
>nofap
>no video games
>no internet

Any other memes that I should try, or just resort to NoLife?

have you tried social interaction

I hope, but I'm sure it wont. I'm already too far gone to be honest. I'm more so interested to see what kind of mental disorders I've developed over the years of not doing anything about it earlier.

use google u fucking moron

Need serious help with this one

>Be me, social anxiety most of life
>22 years old, sex with 3 girls in my life
>Meet a literal 10/10
>Somehow snag her, bang her every day for 3 months
>She is crazy about me for some reason, not sure why cause I'm maybe a 7/10 at best
>She moves things further, introduces me to her family, asks to meet my family, etc
>This is all her doing, I didn't try to push for more
>Move in, continue great sex, 2 years later get her pregnant
>She is SO happy to carry my baby
>Somehow conversation comes up about number of partners
>I lie, say she's my 9th, really she's my 4th
>She says I'm her 7th

She's hot as fuck and obviously very desirable, but I feel so fucking insecure that she has banged more people than me. It isn't even about her, I just feel like I should have banged more girls, but I know my previous social anxiety limited that. I have LOADS of opportunity to bang girls now, but I have a pregnant girlfriend and don't think it's the right thing to do.

Does this feeling ever go away? How can I feel less insecure? I can't help but think that I have to bang a bunch of random sloots to make myself feel better.

I think regular meditation is the one true key to improving your life. Success in everything starts with having a spacious and positive mind. You can't dig your way out of a depressive hole if every effort you make is hampered with rampant negativity and obsessive self-loathing.

Just learning to breathe and create some space in the mind makes a big difference. Being able to be at once clam and yet alert allows you to approach the rest of your life without that panic and defeatism gnawing away at your every venture.

Just 10 minutes every morning, guided, made a huge change to my relationships with people and my anxiety. Do you know how much better it feels to talk to people without having to worry about saying the right things? Do you know how much happier you can be when you're not tripping over everything you say and berating yourself internally for saying the 'wrong things'?

I highly recommend it as the absolute bedrock of your self-improvement. Start with that, then start thinking about seriously lifting, sleeping, eating right and all the rest because without developing that foundation you'll just end up collapsing back into this shit the first time your self-improvement journey hits a roadblock.

its cool user, I'm used to it

she has had sex with at least 21 dudes, bro

but that all leads to bullshit website claiming it's the cure to all your problems. I want real experiences.

>has had sex with multiple women in early 20s
>social anxiety

youtube.com/watch?v=I0gXomy5Dxw

seems good, I tried getting into meditation multiple times, never worked for me... I wish it would though

It NEVER goes away, and she is lying drastically about her number. Sorry my man.

Yeah what this guy said: FUCK OFF NORMALFAG. JUST STAY WITH YOUR GOD DAMN GIRLFRIEND YOU FUCKING RETARD. NOBODY. LITERALLY NOBODY. GIVES A FUCK. ABOUT HOW MANY WOMEN YOU'VE BANGED YOU GOD DAMNED WHORE.

>intermittent fast (increases test significantly, clears your head)
Are there papers on this or is this a wive's tale?

>Do you know how much better it feels to talk to people without having to worry about saying the right things? Do you know how much happier you can be when you're not tripping over everything you say and berating yourself internally for saying the 'wrong things'?
Sounds nice, but how do you know this is a direct result of meditation and not some other mindset change?

It makes it easier to keep your calories in check if you're on a cut.
Also my own theory:
There is this nutrition science guy who released a book this year in which he literally claimes that eating breakfast is basically as bad as somking (at least that is what he said to promote it, I wasn't interested enough to read it). He backed up his claim by documenting his bloodsugar and insulin levels througout the day for years and came to the conclusion that the don't fluctuate way less if he doesn't eat breakfast. I read multiple times that these not only fuck with your appetite but also your concentration/focus and tiredness. So what I think intermittent fasting does for you is just that your metabolism runs more stable (if that makes any sense) if you do intermittent fasting/don't eat breakfast/don'Ät eat before about 12:00. Note that I this is might be complete bullshit, as I never bothered to research this and I just use intermittent fasting to keep my calories in check and I also think that no porn/fap, cold showers and all that is mostly placebo.

Because my circumstances have been on a measurable and steady decline even since I started and I'm calmer in spite of this than I ever have been.

If it's not meditation I can't think what it would be.

The effect is subtle at first and I imagine is dependent on you actual meditating properly. The key is consistency. It takes practice and understanding to get the benefit and part of that is just enjoying it for its own sake.

All I can say is find some guided meditation and stick with it for a few weeks. You will start to find that your natural inclination to react to things with panic or anxiety become lessened and easier to control.

You will also start to find that you find yourself slipping into small periods of calm and enjoyment at various moments in the day. I noticed a difference just walking down the street now; the wind in the trees and the rustle of the leaves brings on a really pleasant kind of tranquility, sounds seem richer and life just seems more immediate and vibrant.

It's not perfect. I still have problems but then I'm only just getting started. Just the fact that everything irritates me less makes a big difference. I just feel more 'grounded'.

First off why would you lie?
Second off youre an idiot, its about quality over quantity and anyone who thinks different hasnt had that much sex.
Most girls look like shit naked. Yours doesnt.
Most girls you fuck are lazy and they dont do shit during sex except lay there. Yours doesnt do that.
Most girls you fuck youre gonna wanna wear a condom, which makes the sex terrible and if you dont wear one you could catch a STD. Clearly you dont gotta worry about that with your girl.
Im telling you right now you made it and youre acting stupid as fuck my nig.

me on the right

lol, same :)

Fuck, man. Why didn't they send you to a psychiatrist back when it happened?

Why would I want to cure this?

Yet Chad doesn't have to do all these things and he lives a much more fulfilling life than yours

They don't know it happened and they will never know. It's something I'd never want anyone to know about me, besides a mental health professional.

I'd rather be the weird shut-in loser of the family then have everyone in my family feel sorry for me about being molested as a kid.

THIS.

The difference between us and Chad is this: Chad doesn't give a FUCK.

ive had bad anxiety and depression for years. the only way around it is by actually doing something. basically you have to just do things you dont want to do every day, no matter how bad you dont wanna do them. lifting is only supposed to be a supplement that helps lighten the load of life a little.

Meditation right before bed is a god-tier treatment for insomnia.

I dont know what to say lad...

You mother fuckers gotta realize you have to lift and dress nicely/ groom yourself.

even the hottest girl looks like a bum if she dresses like shit. And the average girl moves up a few points if she dresses well.

Don't kill yourself socially by neglecting your looks. some cologne and well fitting cloths goes a long way you fuckers.

I know we don't lift for ladies, but we sure as fuck should groom for them.

I Did that, it didnt work at all
I can go to a party at uni and watch someone in a tracksuit with a snapback pick girls up

The next Veeky Forums meme when /sip/ is done should be finding a /cure/ for autism.

I actually we believe we could find it as a team. We will combine our broscience knowledge and come up with a final solution that will end worldwide autism.

Who's with me?????

>I actually we believe we

I have autism

Were you confident and positive?
Did you smile at the cuties and talk them up?

You have to do it all, sure some fucker in a tracksuit might get a girl, he must bring more to the table than you. Or you just didn't fucking try.

Find what he did right and copy it, keep your style and strength ( without be a pompous asshat) and you will get more girls. Believe within yourself that you deserve to get these hoes.

this desu.

>intellectually stimulating

fuck off normalfag

When the memory comes back you should replay it in your mind to every vivid detail possible. And objectively look at the situation, tell yourself why it bothers you, and tell yourself what you could have done differently. Your survival mechanisms in your mind may be haywire and if so you may have never deducted how to better survive that scenario in the future. Your brain has been trying to sort it out for 20 years. If you can evaluate it and your brain can resolve how to survive in the situation again, you kay relieve its grip on your psyche.

I have a lot of cringe memories (nothing like yours tho so pls dont take it as if im downplaying yours) that have bothered me for years and i have been analyzing them all in this way. It has eased my mind quite substantially.

If this is worthless info for you i hope you find a way to get through it my dude.

This place is unlikely to help in coping with a strongly self-reinforcing lack of routine in real-life face-to-face social interaction, in particular its non-verbal aspects.

Good luck buying all those fancy clothes if you're a poorfag.

Good luck getting a job and getting money if you don't have good-looking clothes.

Kill him

I did it for year
Bulk and cut cycles
My mood didn't change and I didn't notice any significant differences in daily life except I can go 2-3 days comfortably without food
3.5/7 wouldn't recommend unless your super fat

I think about how true this is all the time. I wish I started lifting when I was like 17, not when I was 22 and basically done with college. I feel like I would have been a different person. A better person.

MDMA works

You may kiss a man, though

User discredtion

>born with ambiguous genitals
>it's the 80s so doctors recommend surgery and female gender assignment
>parents do not follow through with appropriate follow-up
>tfw scarred "clit" and a "vaginal" tube made out of a segment of colon
>tfw looking at hormone therapy to finally experience full puberty in my 30s

kill me

lads if you ever have a baby with ambiguous gender, whatever you do, don't fucking cut anything off. don't lie to your kid about it, and don't do anything drastic. nobody deserves the life of a eunuch. let them make that choice for themselves when they are old enough to understand.

They also said it wasnt likely trump would win.

If we can dream it, we can meme it.

Try growing up. It'a not a game where more is better or where you're colleting exp to level up.

What
The
Fuck

Are you being serious? That is highly disturbing

It all boils down to women strongly preferring "social" males.

Sounds like a rough ride. At least you're special.

Intermittent fasting is great in so many ways. It's just something that once you've found out about it there is never any need to go back because it's superior in every way to how you did things before. Like switching squat for front squat.

The mind always wants more.

>tried meditation for a weeks and didn't instantly see the benefits. Meditation must not work for me.

>tried lifting for a few weeks and didn't see instant muscle growth. Lifting must not work for me.

Find whoever did that to you and kill them. Or at least be on a quest.

I was molested when I was 2 years old by a neighbour. It's been 20 years but I still remember vividly how he looks and smell. I know there isn't much chance of it happening but I promised myself that if I ever come accross him I will slice his fucking throat.

Keeps me going desu

yes. about every generation, doctors decide on a new "standard" for how to treat babies with ambiguous genitals. up until recently, though, that standard was always to operate and normalize in some way even if it means castration, sterilization, or creating a wound and keeping it open (think getting your ears pierced, use it or lose it, that's all i want to say)

yeah, it could be worse. could have been born in a 3rd world country and killed with a sweet potato.
bbc.com/news/world-africa-39780214

rage is a potent motivator.

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Just try it. There are a lot of memes on /f it/ and a big thing you need know is that you might be a non responder to certain

Like nofap did nothing for me personally but cold showers changed my life.

dude, you're literally living the fantasy of who knows how many dudes. don't throw it away for something so trivial

Yeah just do drugs and be a disgusting degenerate.

Get the fuck off my board normie

Talking about how memes changed a your life is a meme. Believe nothing.

>why would you lie
>calls him an idiot
Get out white knight you dont know shit

Being able to find work and support yourself is a minimum requirement to being a person

I dont think you understood what i meant and even if I did how would that make me a whiteknight?
seriously i want to know so tell me.
I askde why he would lie cause first off its irrelevant he already has a 10/10 who he said is obsessed with him so why lie? and why would you lie to your future baby mama?

>encouraging a random mentally-disturbed user to murder someone
wew

Can't wait to read about this in the newspaper.

>why haven't we collectively come up with a solution to it?
We have, it is called becoming a man.

Simply suck it up and do it, if you can't you don't deserve to make it.

>t. Former social weirdo.

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Sorry if it sounds crazy but maybe you should try MDMA, look it up, apparently it's great for PTSD and depression

In therapeutic settings possibly combined with therapy. I wouldn't recommend someone to seek out potentially tainted drugs

>I wouldn't recommend someone to seek out potentially tainted drugs
This.

There are many research chemicals that are used as substitutes for mdma, they cause similar effects but their side effects and possible therapeutical value are questionable.

Medfag here, I can't recall seeing any research directly showing IF increases test but in theory it should
>poor insulin sensitivity drastically lowers testosterone levels in men, even fit, healthy men often have suboptimal insulin sensitivity
>IF improves insulin sensitivity
>therefore IF should increase testosterone levels

Calling bullshit on your story, normie girls always bring up the topic of ex-partners early in a relationship(partially so they can find out if you're a fuckboy that's going to pump and dump them) there's no fucking way that you were together for two years before she asked you how many girls you've been with before her, nice b8 tho m8, I r8 8/8

Shit user, I was molested for a couple of years as a child and I've grown up to be a normal guy with friends, a job and a gf, admittedly I've never told anyone IRL what happened to me, I dunno why your experiences have affected you so much worse than mine have