Veeky Forums i'm a 23yo virgo who finally found a girl

Nah the erections just kept getting stronger and lasted longer each time we tried until I got comfortable and now I don't have any probs with it. I still have issues lasting long but I think that's another story.

>just ask the girl to go down on you

You disgust me.

>Taking a piss

There's your answer, your body won't get a boner right after you piss man.

>Dude, whenever you're not hard yet, just ask the girl to go down on you for a sec.
>just ask the girl to go down on you for a sec.
>just ask the girl to go down on you
>just ask the girl
>just ask
>ask

Man, I don't think pills are entirely necessary. People get nervous, it happens. First time I had sex it took ages to get hard. Just go for it again, be honest, all that.

It's because you thought that sex wasn't going to happen that your sexdrive went to sleep. You should've done some foreplay on her to get yourself back into the mood.

This has happened to me twice op once with my girlfriend when I was 16 and again when I was in Cuba at 23 just nerves. Try to get a few drinks into you next time to help out with anxiety.

Dude you are probably a fag, I get rock hard whenever I feel the moistness of a girls pussy.

How did he not get a boner when he was fucking her with a vibrator? Was it too emasculating or something?

ya I think this has t o do with it. I'm also at my horniest when I really need to piss, then when I go piss I kinda chill a bit. Definitely not imagining it at this point

I dont know man i just didnt feel anything
I was excited and my heart was racing but not it a sexual way
Fucking weird

Dont listen to these idiots recommending pills, you do NOT need them, you need to get more comfortable with the girl and your body will relax. If she is a good person she will understand.

I too have had the same issue, first time no erection, second time I couldnt cum, was bedridden for the whole day because of blue balls, after that I managed to come and it became good.

3 and a half years later she cums 3-4-5 times per sex and I can go 2-3 more times after cumming.

well that's just weird. i never got why anyone liked the idea of a girl putting a condom on with her mouth instead of just having her suck your dick

>Use dick pills to reteach your body how sex works. Slowly wean off.

is this a thing that works? seems like once you started using them you couldnt go back

Maybe, but its a fucking unneccesary risk, for billions of years creatures reproduced without pills to "kickstart" their dick.

This.

Sounds like classic performance anxiety ED. Avoid porn if not already, don't whack it for a few days before seeing her next.

If it happens again, just tell her you're nervous because she's so fine or something. Put on a 'sode or lay there and chat naked for a bit. As you said, you had no issue with pressure in the engine room until the pressure was on.

Self esteem issues. You think you're ugly so when she sees you naked all you can think about is "wow she must be so disappointed in my body"

This. You've been overstimulated. Also, there was no pressure because you thought it wouldn't happen back then, but it's a bit different when the moment of truth arrives. Also, pissing further delays a new boner (you get one easier the fuller the bladder, usually).
Best course of action would've been to tell her to give you a back massage - or give her one. The latter would also have the advantage of you sitting up. Because works better if you are standing or sitting up, so blood flows easier into your dick. Lying down flat on the back (especially when under stress and thus not relaxed) might hinder the bloodflow to your dick. Sitting up might be the best course of action.

Also, have no issues with masturbating during foreplay, that's easily done while you lick her pussy, if you want to. A better way IMO is to brush your dick against her body while you caress her, though. It's not as obvious or embarassing (especially if the girl is inexperienced as well and might see masturbating as sort of an insult, make her feel unsexy).

maybe you should try guys

you were either laying there for so long you got un-excited because you werent doing anything, you watched too much porn in the week following you getting in bed with her, or your gay.

by the way, if you're ever laying in bed with a women you always have the go-ahead to make your move. dont just lay in bed with a girl not making any moves like a passive little bitch. be a man and grab her tits and start kissing her man, take whats yours.

man it's perfectly normal don't listen to faggots telling you you are gay or some shit. getting laid for the first time is a huge deal in your mind (especially if you browse Veeky Forums) and there's a lot of performance anxiety. I had the same thing happen
>be me 18, 2 years ago
>girl invites me to drink @ her place
>end up sleeping there, we talk a lot and have lots of fun
>all of a sudden she hugs me and asks me if I want to be her bf
>I say yes, we start making out, try rubbing her clit but she says she's too sensitve & not ready, she is dripping wet through her panties though
>raging boner the whole time
>she feels it, asks me if I want her to help
>say yes, she starts licking and stroking it
>semi during the whole thing
t b h her technique was nonexistant but I should have gotten hard just by the fact that she was doing it. the unironic reason is I have a pretty big dick and I wanted her to see it in its full might so I kept thinking "fuck I have to get hard" which had the absolute opposite effect. this in turn makes you even more anxious etc. the second time I got fully hard once we'd removed all the tension and anxiety. Have her lick the underside of your cock rather than sucking it famalam, gets me hard like nothing else. You'll be having gr8 sex in no time. Also if she's a virgin don't expect your first time to be great, especially if you have some girth. Also if she's a nice girl she won't care and will probably think it's cute, my exgf teased me about it sometimes but I just fucked her hard and she gave up.

You're just overthinking that's all. It has happened to me few times as well but only with a girl who I care about. Your brain pretty much fucks up and you start thinking what happens if you fuck it up and from that moment you start losing erection. After that you start thinking "holy shit, I can't get it up" and you're pretty much doomed. Been there done that.

Maybe you should try again when you've had 1-2 beers.

>Maybe you should try again when you've had 1-2 beers.
this OP, don't be wasted but be slightly buzzed. Always helps during sex. I fuck my gf so fucking hard when I'm slightly drunk, plus it makes you fearless, you can really go harder and have more "passionate" sex imo.

Happened on my first time too, though mine was on a tiring camping trip where I'd also been having stomach issues so i had a good excuse, but in reality i knew my dick just wouldnt go up.

It's nerves, entirely nerves, you are simply not in the right frame of mind. You need to forget everything and just focus on sex, like forget worries, forget getting hard, forget what anyone thinks, just focus on her tits and suck the fuck out of them and then just get really focused on this actual womans body and then shit you'll be hard.

>doesn't matter if I cum 4 or 5 times I still get hard at the slightest thing to the point that my dick physically hurts but still gets hard
>not even sexually aroused and getting erections constantly
just do kegels they said... fucking christ

>first gf at 22
>know each other for 3 months, dance around a bit for 2 of those, date for like a week or two
>both virgins
>sex the first time
>rock hard the whole time
>fuck her good, cum almost simultaneously
felt good
just don't stress it too much, I made a few jokes here and there and it was fun

This.
If you're nervous or stressed, the body goes into 'fight or flight' mode. When this happens your body switches off things like digestion and erections, because as far as your body is concerned it's being chased by a tiger and doesn't need those functions.
This is the same reason you get 'stim dick' from preworkout or party drugs like MDMA, btw.

Sharing mine

I have this issue earlier when I have sex with someone I love(wife). Don't have problem with casual sex. Granted I only have 2 partner before my wife, but it felt different. I'm nervous and filled with emotions.

My solution is to take it slow. I meant for casual sex, I wouldn't last for more than 10min. But with my wife, it can be up to 1 hour because I make it more sensual. Lots of kissing, massaging, dirty talk, and foreplay inbetween intercourse.

So yeah, maybe you want to try that.

you have ruined your pleasure center from watching porn everyday and whacking it. you will only recover with no fap

t. person its happened to on 10 separate occasions. i technically still havent properly fucked and have given up trying because i literally do not want to give up porn

The problem isn't porn its you. I watch porn all the time and i fuck just fine, im just constantly horny.

Its a perk of lifting, eating well and being fit.