QTDDTOT Questions that don't deserve their own thread

Questions that don't deserve their own thread

i'll start:

My ex-girlfriend texted me in the middle of the night asking about some silly pointless shit,

we haven't talked in 3-4 years, she left me, was a real bitch about it too.

What is this? how do i make it go away i don't want to play her games any more, is non responding the best way?

>is non responding the best way?
Unfortunately its the only way. Anything else would just be playing into her hand

dont respond
but what do i know, im just some dumb shit posting on a taiwanese ronnie coleman worshipping forum late at night

should i hire an escort?
not a virgin but been on a dry spell for close to a year
also how much do escorts generally cost
the real thing holding me back is
>but what would my future wife think of me

it's hard cause some times i think about her, and since we dated for a long time the nostalgia value is high. But she was really shitty with some things after we broke up. So i try to stay strong. Also the attention feels nice, but since i have a nice gf now i dont want to ruin it over her idiocy.

In an ideal world i'd love to have them both as a harem, really like, get a couple of children out of each and make a big family, but realism prevails luckily, and i try real hard not to pursue unrealistic goals.

if you have a current gf absolutely dont respond to your ex

>should i hire an escort?
>not a virgin but been on a dry spell for close to a year
sure, have fun, but don't get used to that, once or twice is fine. Depending on that will distort your social interaction skills
>also how much do escorts generally cost
it varies, but remember, dont cheap out or youll have a bad time. Do not screw around with rubbers and shit, wear them. If you go to a serious professional hooker she will be clean and remind you of this
>the real thing holding me back is
Any girl worth a damn will not care about girls you fucked in the past. Actually, if youre not a guy who always goes with hookers, it will make you look more adventurous in the eyes of some girls.
Just make sure you dont get a reputation, women cant stand social stigma. Like, if she digs into your past on purpose and finds out she wont make a big deal, but if she finds out because there are several videos of you with hookers on youtube then youre in trouble.

thanks bros sometimes you need your user bros to really remind yourselves what youre doing

>younger me used to have some success with women
>used to ask random girls out with some success
>prob not good looking, but didnt think i was ugly, aka average face
>graduate from college, have depression, become withdrawn
>start lifting, been lifting for around 1.5 years
>try tinder because i cant bring myself to go out like i used to and i dont drink/do drugs anymore
>only match with fatties or ugs

am i in fact ugly? have i been deluding myself this whole time?
or is my lack of success with tinder due to being a minority
or is it because that in this age of social media and online dating, women have the pick of the litter, and now their standards have been raised?

>am i in fact ugly?
what does it matter, if youre succesful you can get a nice chick. even old guys can get hot chicks if thyre very succesful

two weeks ago I ran 5km with a slight incline in 23'; I took a week-long break during which I had to haul some heavy furniture around (once).
yesterday I set for another 5km at the same standards and I found I couldn't go more than 17' without stopping. My legs (calves and ankles) were giving out from fatigue, even though my breath was doing just fine. I hadn't really eaten any significant amounts of carbs before running and I probably didn't drink enough, but it's still a significant drop in performance. Could it be some kind of overtraining or could it be more because of my nutrition? Maybe just a bad day?

I have to run a 5k for a military test and this is disconcerting to say the least - one week I pass the test, the next I barely make it through half the run.

>not a virgin but been on a dry spell for close to a year
you are like a baby. watch this
>7 years

how's sleep?stress?stretching?, weird pains?

What makes you so depressed on a cut? When I'm deep into a cut I feel very cranky, suicidal, unmotivated to do anything, and weak. I legit feel like I'm dying, mentally.

Then I have a refeed or stop cutting and suddenly life becomes awesome and wonder why I felt so bad.

I saw Mass gainers being reffered to as "heart attack shakes" on here before
Whats wrong with them? Aren't they just 1000cals worth of carbs? seems like it would be fine for skeletons.

stress is not bad. Got some deadlines, but it's fine. I run a full stretching routine after each workout, especially since I'm afraid to tighten up too much and snap something. Sleep is probably the main culprit, I usually can't get more than 7h of sleep, and even then it's usually interrupted during the night due to needing to piss. Like, I'll go to sleep early to be able to put in a square 8h and I'll wake up groggy and all fucked up with my bladder threatening to burst. Getting up in the morning I usually struggle to even open my eyes.
As for weird pains, nothing's afoot.

I heard that low carb diets can cause this.

depends on the macros they have, the types of fat they pack and a lot of other nutritional stuff. I wouldn't shit on it right away.

What happens if instead of increasing the weights on a lift, you increase the amount of reps instead?

By the time you're at 12 reps or higher, will you still develop muscle?

yeah
progressive overload doesnt only mean putting on more weight
progressive overload can also refer to increasing the reps/volume, or having stricter, better form

>Sleep is probably the main culprit
find time to sleep good. this is very important before the test, because you will need all your strenght to ace it.

once you're in the military, don't worry, youll never have troubles sleeping again after a day's drill

Could be an insufficient amount of any of the macros that your body's responding to. Same applies for a deficiency of vitamins, Vit D in particular, so supplement pills might not be a bad idea. It could also be the way you distribute your daily calorie intake, if you're eating at a high deficit and try to spread it out across the whole day, your body might not be getting the fuel it needs to function optimally. IF could help you there, skipping either breakfast or dinner, depending on around which meal you're not going about your daily life (school/work/etc).

if im 173cm 86kg, what are some decent strenght standards that i can achieve natty while on a cut?

[spoiler]I already am, I moved to the reserves to follow university and now I'm training for a promotion thingy.[/spoiler]

I also thought that I could strengthen my legs to facilitate distance running. What if I started squatting high reps/lowish weight? Or doing calf raises?

Would macros like this be damaging to health?
with 1200 cals out of the way it wouldn't be hard to stay under 100% recommended sat fat intake

It really depends on how long you're on a cut. If you're just starting out, then you can build a solid foundation, especially if you focus primarily on form. Going to need a little more info on your lifting journey so far, and your current lifts if any.

goddamn that's a lot of shit
like, on a full day of eating, 2200kcal as per my own diet, I get 150g of protein and 250 of carbs. This is way beyond what I personally would get. Fat is relatively low for what this is, but you'd have to think what kind of carbs they put in that stuff to reach these macros.

I'm a prude as far as supplements go, so take what I say with a whole spoonful of salt, but I probably wouldn't put this in my body.

I was getting enough of all macros (except maybe my fats were low), eating IF and getting vit D, fish oil and multivit supps.

My deficit wasn't too large either (300-500 kcal). Maybe because I'm super lean?

Say you weren't cutting anymore, just maintaining with 10/10 nutrition, training and sleep, but were insanely lean, would your moods still be bad due to being so lean?

Im not starting out, i've been at it for 6-8 months but i had a lot of periods of on an of with the gym.

im currently 173cm 86kg in perma cut mode, i usually relapse becaus of my diet but im still trying:

these are my current lifts:
(important notice: i cant do squat or deadlifts because of some back issues that im fixing)

Bench press: 90kg for 5 reps
Shoulder press: 50kg for 10 reps
Leg press:80kg for 10 reps
Pullups: max i can do is 8 but average is like 6

i know those are shitty numbers but i dont want to do a lot of effort in vain knowing that during a cut its hard to gain strenght, so what realistic goals should i set? which one of my lifts is lagging more?

pic related is me

I doubt it unless you're down to competition-time bodybuilding leanness. Maintaining with perfect nutrition/training/sleep should be ideal for your mental health. It might not be a bad idea to consult a doctor about it. If a doctor's appointment isn't free for you, then hopefully someone a little more knowledgeable than me comes along and has an answer for you, because I'm at my wit's end. Sorry, user.

When do you weigh chicken breast? It weighs differently depending on how long I cook it. If I leave it an extra ten minutes or weighs like 50g less.

Weigh it raw

I'm currently losing weight and (5'10, originally 80kgs+, now 71kgs and aiming for 60-63kgs range) and don't have any muscle definition right now.

Honestly, I only want to build any muscle right now except for my ab area. What type of workouts should I be doing (I have no equipment) so I can have some ab definition? I don't mind if I'm not shredded, I just want to ab definition.

I'll get this out the way:
>I was technically overweight for a while, so that's why I'm still losing weight
>I don't really care about building muscle overall right now because I don't have a job and can't afford a gym membership, hence why I only do cardio and only want abs

get a job, seriously, you wont get anywere with body weight

No s after the kg

>some ab definition
get into plancking, but do them heavily. youll have to do a lot of REALLY intense plancks to see any kind of results

Your leg press is pretty crap. What's wrong with your back exactly? Squat/DL are the foundation for leg strength.

Also my personal observation is that legs see the most strength loss while on a deficit.

I finally have a job interview tomorrow.

Right now, I'm looking to be muscular. It's kind of a personal preference right now. I will build muscle in the future, however, right now, I'd prefer to be slim instead of in-between. I don't really have strong facial features either, so I'd prefer to bring back some definition to my face in the mean time.

My bad.

Alright, I'll try that out.

Thanks for your answer user

>What's wrong with your back exactly?
Hamstring shortening, kinesiologist forbid me from doing them unless its just the bar.

Any way, besides that, what strenght standards should i be aiming at?

What are some general tips to avoid mistakes for beginners? Like not overdoing shit, taking about 60 seconds instead of as fast as possible, you are what you eat, etc.

Seeing that you've been at it for 6-8 months, you're probably going to have to settle for maintaining your lifts. Gaining mass on a deficit just doesn't happen past newb gains. Eat enough protein (try and aim for 1g per pound of lean body mass).
I'd say your legs are what's lagging behind, based on those numbers. I know it's hard to really work them out for strength when you have back issues, I've been there myself. The rest of your mentioned lifts seem to be nicely on par, I'm actually mildly impressed with your pullups at that weight compared to the rest of your stats.
But yeah, make sure you get enough protein, throw in some accessories where you feel weaker, and maintain your lifts. I think that's the most realistic approach to your continued cut.

>I think that's the most realistic approach to your continued cut.
thanks, yes i just desperately want to look aesthetic, judging from my pics, do you think i will look good with low body fat? i like to think theres some muscle under there

Realise that you're a beginner. Your body isn't used to working out, you have no knowledge and experience about lifting
As base I'd suggest the sticky, ss for form, pp for routines and canditos views on cutting/bulking
There is a lot of false information on youtube and bb.com
If something hurts keep lifting but take it slow and see a doctor
And don't stop. Focus on training regularly, and getting enough water, protein and sleep

i've heard that vitamin supplements are useless, but if im doing an extreme cut, say 1200-1500 cals, could i benefit from them? should i count the calories from lifting, how about the ones from riding a bike?

What to do if I have social anxiety and can't go outside for too long

How should I take BCAAs? I don't need a protein shake or anything like that
Are the tablets just as good and not unnecessarily expensive?
Should I just change my diet to include a protien shake with BCAAs in it?

There's definitely muscle under there. I would definitely continue the cut, I guarantee you it's not gonna be a waste of time, user. You're gonna make it.

They're not useless, but they're not God's gift to a healthy lifestyle either. Depending on where you live, what you eat, stuff like that, they can be good for you. Say you don't get a lot of sunlight or eat a lot of fish Vit D is a good supplement, for example. Just don't assume they're going to change your world. They may give your mental fortitude a boost, which in turn can lead to a bit better results in the gym (and elsewhere). Don't throw them down, just because.
And if you're cutting, don't factor in the calories you lose from lifts/cardio. They're going to speed up the cutting process and simply add to the CICO factor.

>And if you're cutting, don't factor in the calories you lose from lifts/cardio. They're going to speed up the cutting process and simply add to the CICO factor.
even if im at an extreme 1200 cals cut? (same question for vitamins)

3 to 4 fucking YEARS of silence and then she suddenly texts you?
Am I the only one finding that weird? It's amazing you even have the same number

>There's definitely muscle under there. I would definitely continue the cut, I guarantee you it's not gonna be a waste of time, user. You're gonna make it.
if i mantain that muscle and cut will i look more otter or athletic?

>keeping your number after 3 years
WHAT THE FUCK?
do people seriously do this?

What do you guys think about rhe concerging chest press machine? I feel like it puts more stress on my chest than all other things I've tried so far :/

yeah it freaked me out a bit too, but the possibility that i still mean something to her really does something for my ego

Same answer, really. If you're extreme cutting, vitamin supplements CAN be good for you, but it depends on which vitamins you come up short on in your diet. Keeping a glass of multivitamins and taking 1 per day is in no way going to be harmful to you, and should cover your needs. If you get next to no Vit D, get some of those. I'd suggest calcium tablets that contain Vitamin D3 (which is pretty much the only one you'll need in conjunction with multivitamins), for the added benefit to your bones.

So I just started with SL last week, I don't think I have a single muscle in my body but I need to lose about 10-15kg and getting a bit stronger during it seems like a good idea.
I am doing moderately fine with most exercises, but I'm completely fucked when it comes to OHPs. I didn't manage to do 5x5 with 20kg the first time I tried it, and barely managed to do it the second time with 2.5-3min pauses inbetween. From what I can see I kinda focus more on my left arm than the other, making the bar kinda skewed while lifting it up. Also it feels like I use my left arm more since it hurts like a bitch now compared to the right arm. I think for whatever reason I am not managing to use both in sync while lifting.
Are there any exercises or anything to get them more in sync?

Tell her to fuck off and stop responding? This isn't fucking fitness.

Try to find out whats wrong with you and how exactly your parents fucked you up. Enough information online

>2.5-3min pauses
Try 7 min
>I think for whatever reason I am not managing to use both in sync while lifting
Don't worry about that. Theoretically you could even train only your left side and your right side will grow a bit too

While the lighting in your picture is pretty shit, I'd say you have serious potential for showing off a hell of a V-shape if you reach >15% bodyfat. Your shoulders also look like they've developed nicely so far. And your fat distribution doesn't look focused on your stomach, but rather equally distributed across your body, if a little bit more concentrated around your chest.

Short answer: Yes, I think you'll look way more athletic at the end of your cut.

last question: is it too late to get there if im 28yo?

Will lateral raises on the free days of SL help me to broaden my shoulders?

>diet question

Is it a good idea to have cottage cheese for lunch every day? I tried it for the first time yesterday and I'm in love, and I know it's got an ass load of protein.

Also does anyone have any ideas as to what I can mix with it if it gets boring? Anyone have anything they've done before that they liked?

Yea boi
Accessories are just that.
Plus small muscles recover faster.

no do them on your training days

So how much can a female probably lift bench/squat natty (limit) with avg genetics under 6ft?

No they will overtrain your shoulders. Think of it like this: sl is one of the fastest way to get your ohp up and if additional lat raises didn't cause overtraining they would have been included in the basic strenth program. They aren't, so they cause overtraining.
You hit all three heads of the deltoids with the ohp and there is no need to worry about middle and front deltoid proportions (wtf?)
People that recommend lat raises are either juicers and different isolation exercises actially make sense for them or lack anatomical knowledge and just try to emulate what these top level bodybuilders are doing even though focusing on compound movements is much more efficient to the natual lifter when it comes to stress-recovery-adaption and then they spread their new found 'wisdom' over youtube and bodybuilding.com and ruin the fitness world and it even reaches Veeky Forums REEEEEEEEE

On SS for around 5 months.
Been stalling on bench and ohp for 2/3 weeks. Other lifts keep slowly going up.
numbers are:
squat: 105kg
deadlift: 90kg
ohp: 50kg
bench: 65kg
rows: 57kg
Been doing also chinups, dips, curls and skullcrusher as the program suggests as accessories.


what do? switch to more volume? try to keep on SS with different accessories?

Check natty world records on powerliftinggeneral.com

How about acutally reading practical programming son?

>It's not in the program therefore you shouldn't do it

ICF doesn't have pull ups, dips or pushups, does that mean I shouldn't do them?

Stop being silly.

No, user. People have gone from obese to athletic in their late 30s and even early 40s. 28 is nothing, no matter what the memes tell you.

>Current gf
Don't ever, ever EVER respond. All it would take is one time getting caught responding to mess stuff up.

If anyone asks, just say you assumed she had texted the wrong person since you haven't seen each other in years.

>squat: 105kg
>deadlift: 90kg

>you're smarter and more experienced than the sl guy

>or is it because that in this age of social media and online dating, women have the pick of the litter, and now their standards have been raised?

Effectively this. Sorry man, I wish I could let you borrow my insatiable craving for fatties so you could make the best of your situation.

Favorite bench accessories?

There's nothing inherently wrong with them, there's just plenty of better options out there. Not to summon the piano man, but you could just as easy mix a regular whey shake with oats, milk and a banana and get better results.

dumbell flyes,no contest. Flyes hit the pecs DIRECTLY, bench press actually involves a lot of triceps also

How long should the standing up part of a squat take? I hit a new pr yesterday, except when I was coming up out of the hole, it took me a lot longer than normal.


Should I be de loading? Or going the same weight next session? Or should I push on and try to increase weight like normal?

how low should i go when doing barbell or dumbbell military press?
is slightly below parallel good enough? or does the bar have to hit my upper chest?

What are some exercises which build ass a lot but not quads?

barbell hip thrusts
cable pull through
cable kick back

Bump

Is spot muscle reduction possible? My legs and ass are too big and I want to lose some mass there while I am cutting. Is simply not training these areas enough?

muscle atrophy happens when you stop training it
so i would think, yes, simply not training these areas are enough

how do I add deadlift volume? i want to start weaning into intermediate training but anything beyond 1x5 takes too long to recover (>5 days). I tried doing 50% weight for reps but even that takes considerable time to recover from.

Yeah but will I only lose muscle in these areas? I know I will lose muscle while cutting but I'm wondering if I can selectively target which areas the muscle loss occurs in by training my upper body on my cut and not training my legs

>barbell
Should rest a bit on your chest
>dumbell
stupid excercise anyway

you're fucking clueless

Enlighten me then cunt

It's probably banter bait with her friends

>banter bait
what do you mean?

HELP!
I talk when i sleep, and i say really disturbing things, i almost lost my gf because of this:

amongst the things i've said were:

-That i wanted to rape her little (12yo) sister
-That i would make new holes to her that i could fuck
-That if our first son wasnt female i would rape her to death
-That i would tie her in a secluded place and never let her leave


How the fuck do i control what i say in my dreams, is there a way? similar experiences?
None of this turns me on remotely but apparently its what i say in my dreams, does this mean im a pervert?

help!!

>does this mean im a pervert?

>does this mean im a pervert?
not more than anyone. Everyone secretly or subconciously wants to do terrible things. The only difference is who can control themselves

no way in hell this isn't bait

>not more than anyone.
Oh boy now that's what I call projective identification

tape your mouth shut

That's fucking hilarious.
Ex-gf told me I jacked off in my sleep a lot.

>That's fucking hilarious.
yeah, hilarious to you. I think he told her mother about it, she looks at me funny now.

>he
that explains why you're having gay dreams about your unborn mtf son