Where to find a gf?

I work from home, moved back in with my parents after 4 years of living alone in a different country. I have no friends here and the only time I leave my house is to go to the gym.

I went on my first date in 7 months recently and it went okay but she turned me down for a second date because we "weren't a good match"

The only interests 90% of girls on Tinder have are drinking, partying and shopping. And they're all studying nursing, psychology, gender studies, etc...

I can get plenty of matches but they're all boring, and they'd probably be bored by me too. I don't think I can ever find a suitable girflriend on Tinder.

I know there's a hot girl at the gym who likes me but it's too awkward to approach her because she's always training with her personal trainer. And we probably wouldn't have any shared interests aside from a mutual attraction anyway...

TFW I can easily outlift anyone at my gym but I have no hope of finding a gf :(

Please help me, Veeky Forums

You're boring and a shut-in. How's that working out for you?

>And we probably wouldn't have any shared interests aside from a mutual attraction anyway...
you're both at the gym, dummy

Get the fuck out of the house and experience life

So you live with your parents, rarely leave the house and don't have any friends or social activities? The question you should be asking is: why would any girl want to be with you? If the girl of your dreams could follow you around for a month (she cannot hear your thoughts or anything just observe what you do) would she want to be a part of that life? If you struggle to come up with reasons and think the answer may be no, then you should change yourself to be more like the type of person that the type of girl you're interested in would want to be with.

Remember, nice guys don't finish last. Boring guys do.

if dubs you have to ask that girl out

Saved from some other thread today.

1. Read "How to win friends and influence people" and "The fine art of small talk".
2. FUCKING APPLY LITERALLY every advice from there. Sometimes they're crude, sometimes you may come as a little off, but it will still be 100 levels above an average autist with no social whatsoever. You aren't ready for anything more subtle.
3. Expose yourself meanwhile to EVERY SINGLE SOCIAL SITUATION possible. The best option is finding some hobbies where you can socialize easily with others. You are 20 so probably also in a college, it is the easiest possible time for doing that. Try to learn something new about yourself and how other people perceive you from every of them. Maybe take notes for yourself.
4. Install Snapchat and Instagram if you don't have them already.
5. Go to some expensive barber to ask for a cut that will fit you. Improve your style and hygiene.
6. After a few months you should have an established social circle of a few friends. Hopefully they will be social and you'll start meeting their friends and friends of friends. If not, continue exposing yourself to new people.
7. In that way you should find some nice 6-8 girl and maintain a relationship with her.
8. You may want try tinder meanwhile.

Bonus point #1. If you want just to fuck some thots, then start going to clubs. First 5-10 parties will be horrible for you and you'll need a lot of alcohol but it will get better later, trust me. In a club just mimic other people on a dancefloor and try to have a fun.
Bonus point #2. Don't stop lifting.
Bonus point #3. It may happen that you'll bang some 9-10 girl, but you won't be able to maintain a relationship with her anyway. So if that's your endgame, start thinking about increasing your status. You'll need to increase your social skills greatly, build up an interesting personality and be financially stable. Read a lot, watch movies, try to learn something from every guy who has a 8-10 girl.

Good luck.

Not great, to be honest.

I've had 2 girlfriends before so it's not like I'm a complete aspie

I'd like to think I have a lot going for me but the only thing girls on Tinder seem to be interested in is drinking and partying, which has 0 appeal to me

Then stop trying to find a girlfriend on tinder. Who told you that was a good idea anyway? It's a platform literally built for degenerate whores.

I have no alternatives

Join a sport or some sort of hobby club. Talk to a cute cashier. Visit the library. Go to farmers markets. Get into art and visit museums. Help out at your church. Volunteer in a soup kitchen. Travel. Enroll in college. Go to concerts. Find male friends (you should do this anyway) and plan literally anything with them. Become a performance artist on the street.

All of these are better ways to meet gf material than tinder and you cannot tell me none of these are viable for you.

You're like me but I don't have tinder.

All i seefrom tinder are sluts that's been with 5+ dudes and like to "party"

Volunteering worked for me being social. Also meetup dot com but that skews older demographic.

I was planning on travelling/working around Asia for a while, which would have helped a lot. But I'm getting braces and jaw surgery so I'm pretty much stuck here for another 18 months
Thanks for the suggestions, maybe I can figure something out

>but they're all boring

No user, you are the boring one

You are also probably ugly and spergy

What im saying is essentially you dont deserve a girlfriend

:'(

Hell nah OP, I'm boring as shit.

Least I got pornhub so I'm Gucci

Don't fall for that NoFap nonsense, your testosterone drops after a week along with your libido

go for run see girl on run ask to join her dont be overtly autistic.


>>>>profit

>How do I stay a loser who doesn't socialise but talk to girls and have them be interested in a relationship with me

You don't, that's not how real life works. You and the rest of /r9k/ need to come to terms with this

so then why not fap weekly to maximize test gain and still be able to fap?

>work from home

there's the first problem

go out by yourself and talk with girls

I'm not op but thanks I've been looking for a pasta to help me too.
>I'v been a shut in my entire life

DESU, you sound pretty boring and no one outside you cares what you lift.

What kind of job do you have?

>muh hobbies
>implying anything with women that you might think of isn't filled with thirsty dudes

p good advices

I work in construction so it's not much better.

>Where to find a gf
I'm pretty sure coles sells the seeds for them for about $15, cheaper than just buying one outright

I do freelance game and virtual reality development. And I earn some money with photography too.
I don't think I'm that boring. The problem is just that there are no women who are interested in the things I'm interested in. At least not on Tinder.

OP it's a numbers game mate.

If you were fending off women you could pick the one that is not slut/ least sluttiest.
However this is not the case.
you are at 0 and desperately trying to make it to 1.
You have already told me that your fear of picking up gym girl stops you from succeeding.
It's rejection deal with it.
Deal with it now and it will help.

Also you have to remember you're fighting the stats on this so you will have to work harder for what you want. If you can become a good lifter at the gym you need to apply the same concepts to social life.
Start small and work your way up. You don't just start at 5pl8 anything without the ground work.
You need to start small.
So this is either:::

Pickup uggo girls then progress to attractive girls. (Heavy weight low reps)
or
Hit on heaps of girls (AMRAP) and learn from the numerous encounters going for a weight range you can handle. (More reps less weight).

So maybe you need to treat your love life like a muscle. the gym is the world m8, you're living in it.