/SIG/ self improvement general

A place for anons to escape the braps. shitposts and Chads and focus on bettering themselves physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. What positive thing did you do today? How did your week go?

NoVidya: 28 days
NoPorn: 4 days

I know what I want from life is materialistic and vain, but I can't seem to let it go. Why is this? Logically I know I shouldn't but I can't change my true opinions.

I'm in the same boat as you. I'd like to escape my materialistic desires and just be content with who I am.

I'm been reading 100 Letters from a Stoic to try and quench this.

To me it's really more of a psychological issue and less of a philosophical one. I understand why I'm wrong, but I can't get rid of the animalistic desire within me, only fight it.

Maybe there is nothing broken user. It is okay to want things. Try not to over think it.

I'm looking for a new book to read. Ideally something that will help me tell people to put an end to all of this violence and walk away. Do you all have any suggestions?

Nofap 5 days
Novidya 35 days
Mediation streak 72 days

I quit smoking about a month ago and that's made me feel less depressed.

Now I want to work on time management. I need some kind of system to plan what I need to do. Like I need to get a planner but then actually look at it. Because right now I constantly have my head in the clouds and Im thinking about all the shit I need to do in the future, to the point where I forget to do really basic things to take care of myself like paying bills on time and not losing things.

I had a job interview this week. I've been a neet for 4 years, I'm excited. I want to gain mass but without a proper schedule it's pretty hard, and not meeting new people for this long took a toll on my mental health. It's only McDonald's but I'm glad I'll finally do something, and having cash will be a nice bonus

That image literally makes no goddamn sense

I didn't drink a single drop of booze all weekend. I'm usually shitfaced and out until 3-5am every Fri/Sat.

Ran 5 miles on Saturday, lifted on Sunday, ate clen all weekend.

Feels good to make gains on a weekend instead of losing them

No no no you're getting it all wrong.

You don't want to escape your desires, you can't, that's what desires are.

Here's a technique I developed.

1. There's something I really want to buy right now, I pin it to my pinterest and let it sit there for at least a month, I look at it once in a while, generally after a month I don't crave it anymore, this works perfectly.

>TFW day 6 of SSRIs

Have problem with intrusive thoughts. Itdoesn't affect my life that much, but I really hate those "kill niggers", "fuck children", "rape and pillage" thoughts, I don't even mean all that stuff. Maybe it's stress related

good job man

I recently moved much closer to work, saving me two hours a day. Time to go back to the gym and to run more.

So, I've run twice. And now I'm about to walk/jog over to the gym (about a mile and a half away) to see about signing up.

So I'm in the preparation stage. But I'm on my wake. I'm gonna make it, brah.

>day 9 on zoloft
>couldn't cum during piv sex
>didn't get off yesterday

..."I'm on my way."

Not "wake". I'm not dead yet.

that's awesome man

google "pure O OCD". I have it. It's obsessive, intrusive thoughts, like yours, but with no corresponding compulsion. Not saying you for sure have it but it's a possibility.

There's some decent youtube channels devoted that deal with OCD. I've found that educating myself about it has helped me deal with it a little better.

Vidya is not bad. It's bad all of the time but no need to stop it all together.

>72 days
holy shit breh mirin' this hard. Thanks for the reminder to get back to it.

Try being forced to say it out loud too. Every time I'm in the train I silently say "I'll kill you all" while holding my hand in front of my mouth and hoping no one heard it.

What do you do instead of gaming

read, work on things, play instruments, draw, write, plenty of stuff that's just as satisfying and fun.

Gym membership acquired!

lol

Anybody here try to read books but cant comprehend deeper meaning than just the story? Feels like im just going through the motions

Going through a low point in life. Recently had a breakup with a girl I wasn't crazy about. I'm not heartbroken and don't really miss her, but I asked her to tell me about why she thought it wouldn't work out. She said some things that really hit home.

She said I lack passion, have trouble emotionally connecting with people, and have too many mental walls.. She was right about all those things and idk how to fix it

If you have emotional problems you can try metta meditation. It was found that it can increase positive emotions, improve social connection and other things.
Google metta meditation benefits

Have you tried going through Special Ed?

I'm willing to try anything. Thanks bro.

Get an egg timer and do something constructive for 20 minutes. Take a 5 minute break. After 3 reps of this, take a 15 minute break.
This study pattern is life changing.

Are those supposed to be famous fitness people? I only recognize Jason Blaha as Gluttony, who is everyone else?

Does anyone have anything for getting over the feel that you're never good enough and can never stick to anything? Like I study well for two weeks at the start of the semester and then it all goes to shit, been happening for the last few years and it's really jeopardising my career because I can't focus unless conditions are absolutely perfect.
I really need to get over this so I can get a good job, money and boost status in society, so those are my goals, but right now I'm finding it hard to see a path forward as the job market is absolutely fucked

Either read more or read simpler books. Would also help if you are aware of things such as background context of the book or literary devices etc

bros, give me the lowdown on why meditation is good. Are the benefits really that strong? looking to become more intelligent and stay more motivated

>more intelligent
>more motivated
None of that things will happen, meditation is usefull to clear your mind. And if you do it regularly, some fun stuff will happen.

I really need help trying to quit smoking. I iust bought a vape and it's helping a little bit, but not very much. Any tips anons?

Meds, often times, just mask the symptoms of depression while wreaking havoc on your body and brain chemistry. As hard as it sounds, change your environment is usually the best solution.

>I really need help

you don't.

Keeping busy is what helped me. Also, do your best to remove your self from situations where you normally would smoke. Don't beat yourself up if you crack and have one every now and again, look for the broader trend. I'll also say again, keep busy.
Maybe start a lot book of sorts. Track things the same way you would track your lifts. Also, tell people about your goals.

We are all going to make it anons.

Then why the fuck should I waste my time sitting motionless for however fucking long per day

Can I meditate lying down?

You don't see any value in stillness?

Tell a friend that you would never lie to that you bet 300 dollars or something that you will quit smoking for a year. They don't have to pay or anything, worked for me

>day 3 of nofap because can't bring myself to fap
This break up bullshit has me all kinds of fucked up. I'm trying to use guitar and a job search to distract myself, but I can't shake any of those background thoughts about her. I'm gonna try to get into meditation desu

Cardio. It's a force for reversing the damage to your body caused by smoking!