Sup Veeky Forums in the past I was always noticeably stronger than people my age. Agile too. Could play most of the team sports with ease, would always get picked to be in teams etc. Used to do muay thai and wing chun.
But I fell for a chick, we were together for 3,5 years and all we did was gaming, eating(domino's, burgers etc) and fucking(10 times a week or so) and now I'm still depressed(been 8 months now)after it and can't motivate myself to train, or keep training more than a week or so.
What do you guys suggest? I don't need to look jacked. I just want to be strong and Agile.
Jeremiah Morgan
Why do you want to be strong and agile?
Jackson Jones
>>allowing women to influence your behavior and derail goals for yourself >>ohnobabywhatisyoudoing.jpg
Sebastian Wilson
So I can be full of energy, and up to do anything. Be it to have the stamina for small basketball games, or be it jumping off a high rock with a front flip into the water. And don't want to look strong so people think of me as a casual guy. And if the time and the need arises show them what can happen.
Tyler Green
Ok so write that down and look at it every morning. You have to want that more than you don't want to train. It gets easier. you've got to do it every day, that's the hard part. But it does get easier.
Cameron Smith
>go to the gym >train >repeat
first few months you might have to force yourself but eventually it will become a habit. I cant go 3 days without the gym otherwise I will start to feel sick, it's almost like an addiction i feel physically ill and small when I take a week off so I rarely do it. I have days where I dont feel like it or dont want to go but I will go anyway because it's what I do I have trained myself to seperate my feelings from my actions if it needs to be done.
The real problem here is you are mentally weak and you prefer to be comfortable. If you would rather be comfortable than reaching your goals that's fine too you can just stay at home it doesnt matter it's your life. I would rather be uncomfortable for a few hours each week and be strong/fit/athletic because I like the result. But if the result is not worth it for you it's fine and aparently it isnt.
So either you will just go to the gym with your goal in mind and whenever you dont feel like it you go nonetheless because your goal is worth it... or you stay at home noone is judging you for rather not doing hard things and staying comfortable under your blanket.
Aaron Rivera
what got me going was when I looked at my playtime in steam and had 60h in the last 2 weeks or something. and I just thought about it and I released that if I just spend half of that in the gym or improving myself in other aspects I could achieve great things. So I did just that, and now I barely play at all and all the time I have goes to more productive activities and hobbies.
But it's a personal decision afterall and gaming is more rewarding in the short-term than working out. But once you go hard for the first 1-2 months you will see changes in your body and you will see that long-term improving yourself is way more benefitial than gaming.
this society is so wired to short-term satisfaction that they struggle to see the bigger picture sometimes you have to struggle to achieve something great. If it were easy everyone would do it.
Jeremiah Ward
>Bojack Horseman My nigga
Thomas Hernandez
But in the end you just need that drive inside of you that greater goal. I want to eventually be able to do this or that is not a goal it's just a dream. It's not specific you dont have any attachement and if you fail you wont even know it because it's all so vague.
What really drives you ? Why do you want these things ? Just for general health ? Then just go sign up for a team sport or go running instead I am sure there is a sport out there you enjoy and try to get good at that. You need to want to be good in order to achieve great things it shouldnt be an endless struggle.
So find what you love and do that, maybe it's rock climbing you can get very agile and strong with that and your goal could be climbing routes with very high difficulty or climbing up a rock formation in real life that is hard to do. That's a great goal you can have that image of this big mountain in your mind when you go to sleep at night and when you wake up early.
But "Well I just wanna get kinda strong but not so strong people notice it and be kinda agile so I can eventually do teamsport activities" is not a fucking goal. Listen to yourself and find what you want to achieve because you clearly havent found it.
I hope you find it, best of luck I hope you take it to heart.
Jordan Walker
Well those are some fine suggestions guys thanks a bunch, I've decided to set specific goals, dont know what it is yet tho... Maybe I give my gaming pc and console to someone for a month? When they're not there might be easier?
Nolan Perez
I have a "backoff-routine" for times when I have no motivation/time for real gymceling. I just do hepburn style (8x2->3) workouts, squats and ohp twice a week, deadlifts once. It takes about half an our to complete the working sets and then I can go home or do something extra if I have time.
Jordan Perez
> I've decided to set specific goals, dont know what it is yet tho...
Is there anything you always wanted to do ? Any sport you wanted to do ?
I can give you a few of my earlier goals: >losing weight (getting below 220 and later 200) >getting my goal body (pic related, my longterm goal that I am getting close to) >benching 220 (always wanted to do that from the first time I entered a gym) >deadlifting 4pl8 (later DL 440lbs because it just looks awesome to see that much weight on the bar and be able to lift it) >run a decent 5k (20min)
just a few off the top of my head, most of which I have achieved by now, currently working on the bf% for my goal body and looking how far I still have to go. Also working on a 3pl8 bench but it's a hard road from 2.5pl8 to 3pl8.
I always wanted to be athletic and look like pic related so that was my original long-term goal a while ago. On my journey the other goals just developed naturally.
Daniel Turner
Unfortunately no.
Adrian Ross
>Reading stoicism related literature >Realise my mind has been rotting away due to excessive porn use, trying to have everyone like me and wanting to be accepted
I've been working out a lot more, got a new job las t month and avoid social media for the most part now. Hope this is a permanent feeling because I'm in a better place now.
Ryan Carter
>Reading stoicism related literature List some books. Or are you referring to the works left by of Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus, and Seneca?
Matthew Gomez
Yeah just those works really they're pretty helpful for when you're feeling low. Probably going to start reading different types of philosophy later on too
Benjamin Moore
Annoying thing about this is that most people work out now a days
Daniel Morgan
I too have this problem, but it's more related to the fact I'm a skelly and I'm scared of going to the gym alone. Especially since it's a uni gym and there are some huge guys there.
Also I can't bench without a spotter
Jayden Hughes
The big guys would like their way with a little twink like you
Mason Barnes
you can bench without a spotter just fine, I LITERALLY was not able to bench the bar my first time and now I bench almost a pl8, always went to the gym alone. It's funny because I wanted to quit after almost failing with the bar, didn't bench for like a week after that then I manned up and told myself the only way i'd get better at benching is by actually doing it. If you're anxious about people seeing how weak you are, GOOD, more opportunity to be a stronger person, go do it anyway, prove those faggots wrong, they'll see a skelly and think to themselves that you'll quit a week in, but you're not like that, you're different from the rest and you know it, so keep going. Persevere and don't give up, get swole baby, ain't nothing but a peanut. If I can do it, so can you
Daniel Long
they'd have a tough time 2bh I've been boxing for 8 years now. feels good when your reputation is for hitting like a freight train :^)
