/glg/ getting laid general

Since there were some people interested in this topic in that thread but it's about to die, I thought I'd make a new one.

Sexual health is very important for overall health, obviously, physically and mentally.

Things I wanted to address from that other thread:

1. "How do you dump girl? I always end up with a slump feeling. Im always put in boyfriend zone regardless how casual i keep things.
>inba communication"

That's a very very hard thing for me as well. Honestly, it's something I need help with myself. For some reason, I seem to attract very young girls (

Im a skellyfat 5'11 and 158lbs. No abs visible. I could probably hit 12% bf at 140lbs. I look like fat shit atm. If i cut to 140 will my leanness make me more attractive even if Im skinny?

How do I ask her out on a date through text? Also what are some good places to go on a first date if I wanted to get laid but also have a nice conversation?

Getting leaner will pretty much always make your face look better. If you don't have any muscle your body won't look much better, but if you believe the meme; it's all about the face.

2. "the thing about the PUA 7 hours deadline -- its not that you fuck within 7 hours of meeting her, its that you don't spend total 7 hours together without at least trying to fuck her.

e.g. meet her on Friday night, spend 2 hours together, kiss, get number.

Meet up again on saturday, chill in the park for an hour, go eat dinner for 2 hours, total time is now 5 hours, so you should either try to fuck her that day if its convenient, or arrange to meet her somewhere near your place tomorrow say, and then fuck her.

The longer it goes past that the lower your odds. Very accurate in my experience."

I get that concept, but I don't believe in it. It depends on the approach I guess, if your game is more shallow and immediately physical (not necessarily a bad thing!), it is true that your chances diminish over time, since it's harder to escalate the sexual tension or keep it high over an extended period of time. My approach is "deeper" in a way that, as mentioned in the other thread, I genuinely enjoy "meaningful" connection with women and can adapt to a broad range of different characters without having to fake interest or getting impatient. I am constantly seeing around 4-5 girls so I never really grow impatient or develop blue balls at all and have all the time in the world to wait until a girl is "ready". Sometimes it happens after the first encounter, sometimes it takes up to a year (granted, with minimal communication in between).

>that picture

2girls1schlub

>Friday night
>Went on date with a girl
>Date went well. Went back to her place.
>Made out. She didn't want to escalate.
>Haven't heard from her since.

>Sunday night
>Girl at bar wants to fuck
>Asks where I live
>Was visiting a buddy, so my place was 40 minutes away
>Got her number. She actually texted back but I doubt it will happen

I'm 28 and have banged 3 girls. It'd be one thing if I was a total fuck up and never attracted women, but shit like above will happen. Life is suffering.

just hit the gym hard and eat at a slight surplus then shred it all off until next summer. If you're skelly, there's definitely no point in "cutting" if you want to get laid. In my experience, girls even like chubby (strongfat) guys way more than thin guys (especially if you're a manlet).

I never really ask girls out on classic dates I guess. Try to develop some common ground with her and then propose to talk about it over a drink, or if her interest is more evident, tell her you've got great at home and she should come over, although she shouldn't expect anything to happen.

In summer, when I'm most sexually active, I always go to public places like the river that flows through my city or a park (among other reasons also to save money lol), where I literally always bring almost exactly the same stuff: a blanket to sit on, speakers, a cooling bag with chilled white whine and sparkling water (even slices of lemon), cups, ice cubes, some snacks and some weed. girls love the effort I put in and mostly think I'm doing it just for them specifically, so it's really a win-win. But be casual about it and don't brag or pretend it's a huge thing. You're just a considerate, smart, mature guy with the savoir vivre.

Coffee is always a chill spot. A bar can work as long as it's a quiet enough place to have good conversation.

holy shit dude you're a girls wet dream not even being ironic

I never go to coffee shops, it's just too casual. I also almost exclusively meet in the late evening, not during the day. Daytime is great for the initial approach, but you wanna meet in the evening for dat dere mood setting. Bar is okay but a little boring, except if it's a cool bar she possibly doesn't know yet (I have a fav rooftop bar here).

Sounds like you probably look decent and are decent in the opening, but severely fuck up in the mid-game stage. Try working on your conversation/story-telling skills, humour, body language and develop real interpersonal dynamics. Also, I recommend learning how to kiss really well if you don't know how to (protip: do exactly the opposite of what you see in porn and you should be ok - minimal tongue, mouth just slightly open, never too much, keep them lips really soft, be relaxed throughout and just enjoy it)

I'm a 27 hkv who's never been on a date. How does this work? how to meet women? tell me instructions like you would a retard.

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hmmm i've thought a lot about this. It's hard to convey it in a nutshell, really, without oversimplifying it. What works for me is just being the guy that she wants me to be. Not the guy she THINKS she wants me to be, but the man that best corresponds to her primordial needs (I usually just go for sex and make that clear from the beginning, my approach is way different if I really like a girl).

Very important: don't be a sperg. I know it's easier said than done but try to not be nervous or if you are just ... be a little nervous and cute about it, girls like that. don't do any crazy shit to cover up the nervousness. Getting into PUA in my teens definitely helped me but I disregard most of the stuff nowadays (since I genuinely respect women and) because I've just internalized the important 'inner game' parts and don't lack confidence in my approach.

Dress well. Go to Veeky Forums or reddit or other forums for help on that. I usually go for a very minimalistic look that just accentuates my body well and goes with my complexion etc.

Groom yourself. Seems like a no-brainer but it can't be stressed enough.

Gain confidence by just approaching women on the street during the day, polietely asking for directions or a good place to eat in the area. It helps get rid of your approaching anxiety and fear of rejection. Be genuinely nice and smile because you appreciate their help and move on. Once you become more confident, add more to the conversation once your initial goal (e.g. asking for directions) is accomplished, like "oh you seem to know the place well, do you live around here?" then "I like your shirt, where did you buy it?" or anything along those lines.

And another very important one: This used to be a selling point for a lot of the PUAs in the '00s, "get the girl to fuck you within 7 hours of approaching her". It's bullshit and you should get it out of your head immediately. Be relaxed and laid back at all times, never push too hard.

>first date in years
>everything goes fine until we end up in a bar
>never could hold my drinks
>get a little drunk
>unleashautism.exe
>start talking about meaning of life and stuff
>she's fine with it at the beginning but eventually gets tired of it
>I can't stop going on
>she tries to change the topic a few times
>keep going back to telling her how life is ultimately pointless regardless
>tells me she's done with drinks
>didn't get the hint and order another one anyway
>we finally leave and go our separate ways
>go to mcdonald's because hungry af
>feeling really down because realized I fucked it all up
>go to toilet and cry for a few minutes
I'm beyond saving, lifting and hooking up with fat chicks are the only things left for me.

cont'd:

assuming they are decent people and not completely shallow instagram bitches (the kind of premium gold diggers that are just way too much effort or completely unapproachable), if you start the conversation well, you should ask her some questions to find out what she's about. E.g. today I was with a very cute petite mulatto girl (19yo) who is into RnB and black culture, so I scraped together bits and pieces that I know about that topic and we had a vivid converation about how Jay-Z probably never cheated on Bey and it was all just a PR gag. Well, typing these lines I'm starting to think that a big part of the reason why I rarely fail at carrying a conversation further is because 1) I'm knowledgeable at least superficially in most areas, meaning I can either contribute to the convo or ask the right questions about stuff I don't know much about, 2) I'm genuinely interested in most girls I talk to beyond their pussy and don't have to fake enjoyment about talking to them and 3) as mentioned above I can adapt to many different types of girls like a lizard: talking about gym and fitness stuff with the cardio bunny, genetics with the molecular biologist, politics with the diplomat, esoteric bullshit with the 18yo that just had her first shroom trip.

I don't know whether this information is something that can help you guys out, but that's just the way I do it

Nah dude don't worry, it sounds like you need a therapist or some friends or people who listen to you so you can vent out all the shit in your head with them and then function at full capacity in interactions with women.

Thanks, that's comforting.

>river that flows through city
Holy shit richmond?

How to be good at talking about any random bullshit?

I've noticed most girls love to travel. I haven't left my state in almost 10 years. Maybe I just need to travel lol

education. read the news, read books, watch movies, tv-shows, talk to people, attend lectures, readings, do online courses. doing that will not only make you better at conversations but at the same time enrich your life on a more general leve.

>there are 10000 cities with rivers flowing through them in the world
>i'm not even american

virginia bros

Most girls who say they love to travel are dropping hints for potential sugar daddies lad

If they had to actually travel themselves without being pampered the whole way they'd fucking hate it

i had a whole teen love fling which lasted all four seasons and we did all the cute stuff, family outings, beach days, roadtrips, dates in the park

but I haven't been on a date with anyone else and not for more than 5 years now.. I don't even know where to begin
>inb4 just talk to girls

yeah no shit

Your dumb, I know a lot of girls who travel on their own some. Trading stories about travel and adventure is a good way to get it in.

I've traveled out of the country a few times and it is pretty overrated honestly. I take "loves to travel" as a redflag for naive girls who either haven't done a lot of traveling or are just looking to be pampered like other user mentioned.

that's kinda like saying "I watched a movies a few times and it is pretty overrated honestly", I feel like you can't make such a broad statement.
Of course it's understandable that it doesn't appeal to everyone the same, and I'm sure a lot of girls do fall under the categories you mentioned.

I'm a good looking guy with a good body even by Veeky Forums standards.

Most of Saturdays I go into bars, and there are always some chicks checking me out, but I'm afraid to go talk to them.

The last time I did, I went over and talked to a chick who was checking me, and I introduced myself, and then I didn't know what else to say, so we just smiled at each other awkwardly, and after a while she left.

So, what are some topics I should talk to a chick I'm trying to trick into having a one night stand with me?

Help brahs