How do I stop being shy? I have 0 friends. Any way to gain social skills without joining a club...

How do I stop being shy? I have 0 friends. Any way to gain social skills without joining a club? Where can I meet people alone? Bars have mostly closed circle groups.

Why do you have such poisonous bitches on your computer, holy fuck, each and every one of those seems like they have INSANE mental issues.

They are all the same.

I've fucked and dated those bitches and let me tell you other than the ego boost its not worth it.
Even the greatest of them shows to be crazy bitch (like being bipolar or having anger issues) after few months

The worst part is you can see that top-left chick is a natural beauty if she got rid of her warpaint and piercings.

I saw an exercise once about fear of rejection. Shyness or social anxiety (different things but you may have both) can be a fear of judgement or rejection. Anyway the exercise, they sent the guys out to ask 50 women for their numbers.

In other words you could expose yourself to that you fear so much. Maybe in another town so you aren't bumping into them again. Then in your local area, maybe your social skills will improve.

I also want to add, I work in youth support and the biggest advice I will give is don't force it. If you force conversation people pick up on it and feel awkward. Get a hobby or a job where you meet people.

I also want to add if you are nervous, you probably come across autistic. Try not to give a shit and people will talk to you eventually.

I have social anxiety, and because I know it, I come across aloof to people, so suddenly they want to be my friend or fuck me.

Take it easy and don't think much about it.

All the anxiety and shyness comes from overthinking. This advice is had, but it's the only one that will eventually help you. Realize that your issues stem from within and only then you'll be able to overcome them. Only superficial people with no real drive in their life would care about things like how you look or how you speak or how your voice is or how tall you are or how cranky your voice is. All they care about is the words coming out of your mouth and the tone you say them in. People love you, but you don't love yourself.

Wish I could convince myself of all of this, but there is hope.

>coping

hard*

>person looks pretty
>they must have mental problems
way to cope user

>person looks completely fucked, retarded hair colour that screams need for validation and attention and fucking up airlobes forever
>they must be completely sane and comfortable with themselves
way to be a fag enabler user

You'll get sick of a natural beauty behind crazy after shit like this
>Boils water in kettle for tea for gf and myself
>fuck, forgot abotu it, it has been 20 mins
>turn on water kettle again to boil water
>gf running to stop it
>her "what the fuck are you fucking mental, why are you boiling water twice"
>"what? It got cold, wtf am i supposed to do"
>"you want to poison us? Don't you know you must boil same water twice EVER, it get poisonous"
>"that fucking dumb, its just water getting heated, if anything it would contain less bacteria"
>"you calling me dumb??? you think im dumb?? You're so fucking stubborn, accept it that i know something you dont"
>"it makes no fucking sense, i've never head of it, and you're making a drama out of nothing"
>she fucking slaps me
>i slap her the fuck back
>her "if you cant fucking respect me there is no point, im not dumb!"
>"well youre acting dumb right now, being all angry about nothing, fuck this tea"
...
>we stay silent for a while, minding out own business
>im laying on bed reading a book
>she comes to me, takes my dick out and start riding me and scratching my chest

Thats what you can expect from the girls like that. Fun for drinking and fucking, but God helps you if you start dating.
Incident i described was one of the mild ones, and that shit stacks up on your mental health pretty fast

yeah keep making up reasons why you wouldn't talk to this girl so you don't have to think of the real reason which is simply you;re a scared little twat and the though of female interaction terrifies you kid

>implying there's women without mental issues
They're ALL crazy bitches user.

Don't let the fact they're not wearing makeup fool you, all the pretty ones are bat shit.

I married this. I could trade war stories, but what's the point... It will just make me depressed.

I have a gf of 3 years user, I can say whatever I want about females.

What... what does that have with natural beauty to do?

i'm not OP

>Only superficial people with no real drive in their life would care about things like how you look or how you speak or how your voice is or how tall you are or how cranky your voice is.
how tall you are affects your looks. better looking people are perceived as more intelligent, and so people would want to associate with you more

>All they care about is the words coming out of your mouth and the tone you say them in.
except it's been proven what you say is the least important part of a conversation, or speech. both body language (how you look) and tonality are more important

>People love you, but you don't love yourself.
i don't love myself because i'm an ugly loser with no friends and no social skills

>judging someone they don't even know based on pictures
>REEEE HELP Veeky Forums IM TOO SCARED TO GO TO THE GYM BECAUSE PEOPLE WILL JUDGE ME

That is you faggot. Kill yourself.

>projecting this hard
You can judge people WITHOUT being insecure you know?

>projecting
You know judgement IS projecting right fuck tard?

>how tall you are affects your looks. better looking people are perceived as more intelligent, and so people would want to associate with you more

>Affects your looks
Ok
>Better looking people are perceived as more intelligent
By which metric? I would consider a really good looking person as spoiled and stupid, there goes your assumption.

>except it's been proven what you say is the least important part of a conversation, or speech. both body language (how you look) and tonality are more important
I agree, that's why I added the "tone" part. Knowing what to say in each different situation is important as well. This is all based on good intuition and developed social skills via more social experience that is reinforced by going out more.

>i don't love myself because i'm an ugly loser with no friends and no social skills

Well there you go, don't you want to change that?

No, it's just making negative observations, holy shit user, who hurt you? Why you whiteknighting for mental bitches?

>Well there you go, don't you want to change that?
Not him but what's a good, quick accessible place that's not work or a club?

>Any way to gain social skills without joining a club?
Why not join a club?
what are you interested in?

>Where can I meet people alone?
In dark alleys… Oh, wait, wrong…

What helped me, was "clubs". Found a bunch of great friends climbing. Another friend of mine (met him through a gun club) is playing warhammer and got to know quite a few poeple there.

And since I assume you wanna meat females, tinder is actually not bad for training to interact with them.

Just make a fake account with some chad pics, and practice talking to them. If you feel comortable chatting, switch over to your real account and try to get them to practive IRL.

You need to make yourself as ugly as possible. This will force you to either sink or swim because no one will give you the benefit of the doubt based on your appearance. There's a reason the "fat/ugly/etc but charismatic" trope exists irl. I'm only half kidding.

I meet a lot of people in the gym and I have made a shitton of friends from there especially the reception girls. I got out on a few dates with one I really liked and after having a small 5 sentences conversation everytime I'm leaving the gym, I asked her if she wants to hang out some day and he was comfortable enough to say yes.

If I had no outlet I would take courses in things i'm interested in. For one I'd be learning stuff I care about and I'd also have a bigger network of people I know which increases my social value.

I have no problems texting girls. And yeah, I wanna give them my meat.

>I have no problems texting girls. And yeah, I wanna give them my meat.
So what's stopping you from meating them, then?

If I went in a date from tinder I wouldn't know what to say to them and would act awkward all the time making her want to kill her self.

>Take courses in things
???

Music? Sign up for programs man. Learn new things from people with others who want to learn as well, that in of itself is a good common interest for you to have meaningful conversations with other people.

I took piano lessons for about 6 weeks, the people I met there I still go out with at least once/month for the last 7 years and we just occasionally talk about our lives and what we've been doing to keep up with each other.

God damn why am i such a sucker for these super fake hair colors gets me rock hard every time

>If I went in a date from tinder I wouldn't know what to say to them
Well, how about continuing the texting you are so good at and then some random small talk…
Weather, school/work, hobbies, holidays, the possibilities are endless
>and would act awkward all the time
Practice makes perfect…
> making her want to kill her self.
I was in your shoes once too, but trust me, she won't kill herself. She'll just find an excuse why she has to leave after just one beer, or maybe she'll even be that hones to tell you that it won't work out and that you are both wasting your time.
But you'll get better over time.
Now I'm a huge physics nerd (doing a PhD in phys doesn't really help…), and I really try to tone that down, but I often fail, but if you know how to talk to people you can even have a nice discussion about that stuff. Had a girl once that was mildly interested in that stuff, and suddenly I was explaing her quantum mechanics and I couldn't stop.
After I realized what I had done, I prepared for her to walk away, but she was actually like
>wow, that is the first time someone talked to me about that nerdy stuff and I felt entertained and I even think I understood some things.
also, sex at the next date.

>physics need
>got some fuqq

Good for you user everyone deserves some happiness in this world

I haven't had a hug or anything in the past 14 years.

Have high test.

Who is this girl OP?

Semen Demon#73

>ow do I stop being shy?
Practice and building confidence in approaching people.

>Any way to gain social skills without joining a club?
Socialise outside of a club.

>Where can I meet people alone?
Anywhere you want.

Stupid questions, so I'll expand and talk about what worked for me.

>Hobby & Interest Groups
These are a fantastic place to start for most Veeky Forums autists because they're
>Full of new people with similar interests to you
>Have almost no requirements or social expectations
>Often very friendly and supportive to newcomers
>Can be a good way to have fun, learn skills, etc while you're socialising to boot

Other than that, simply joining social clubs, or using websites like reddit to organise a meetup in a local place can be good methods- Yes, it will feel sad and pathetic and autistic to ask for strangers to meet and possibly become friends, but it's no less autistic than anything else and it's more likely to lead somewhere if you're not a disinteresting piece of shit.

Finally, good old social media. The same as above works great here despite making you feel self concious and like a loser. If you can stomach that and present yourself well then you'll be fine. Remember that facebook is also choc full of group activities and meetups.

If you want some cues and tips for socialising let me know, I've improved that hugely by practice too.

You also haven't socialised, taken an interest in other people in social situations, come out of your shell, asked for hugs or anything else for the past 14 years. Cause and effect son, you don't get things simply by wanting them.

First of all, those girls aren't pretty. What sets the crazy alarm off is their hair. For the first girl, her hair and lip piercings. Those just scream crazy. Secondly, yes, most pretty girls are crazy just like women in general.

Is a hooker worth it when you're still a 28 kv? I'm craving it since the past few weeks. Some callgirks have really nice bodies.

Go back to /pol/ conservitard, every third girl in my area dyes their hair that is nothing to judge by.

...Then again the statistic of one in three females being crazy sounds about right.

>Anyone with hair dye or piercings is crazy
>Teenagers doing stupid shit are crazy and set off my alarm bells

Get a job kid, come to terms with the reality that people have differences and make stupid choices. Nobody cares about your alarm bells.

Every girl I've met irl with that hair has been crazy. Every girl I've heard stories about with that hair has been crazy. Every girl I've seen with that hair has been crazy. It's not 1 or 2 either. Combining all those, it's in the hundreds. Brightly colored hair is a sign of mental issues. That's not me being conservative, it's you being fucking stupid and blaming something you don't want to believe on someone else's political views.

Really? Nobody cares? Because plenty of people in this thread seem to share my sentiment. Maybe instead of calling me some NEET, you should try reading the thread or heading out and meeting anybody with neon blue hair.

I'm 28 virgin too and I want to get a hooker this year. This no sex thing has fucking wrecked me mentally with girls.

What are you waiting for? I think about this weekend or next one. Not sure if I should visit the Callgirl or get a hotel room. Not sure what they are expecting.

I'll stick with reality but whatever makes you feel better about getting triggered over the internet.

I agree they're unattractive though.

Literally baseless conjecture with 0 evidence

>those hair colors


May as well have dyed it red because that's the sort of flag it raises

hooker sex is pretty boring desu. i like some kind of connection or at least have them be attracted to me. tho not like I get a lot of action anyway.

I agree with the first part. If you go to a different town and get out of your social comfort zone, then you won't fear rejection as much 'cause you'll probably never bump into them again. That'll help at home because you got some experience with being social.
The second part I highly disagree with, though. Unless the person is rude or busy, then there's nothing wrong with forcing conversation. Give someone at the gym some dab or just ask what's up as if you're already friends. You'll find that most people aren't as overly critical as you think.

...Or confirmation bias combined with your low approach rate. "All the (two) women I approached this year had wild hair and rejected me. Clearly dyed hair = crazy, cuz they'd be crazy to reject this quality D."

I thought piano lessons were one on one?
Where do you hear about these programs being offered?