What do I do fit

My girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me and I have no idea what to do with my time. My literal only hobby is working out and there's no cuties at my gym at all

Move somewhere new.

You man up and stop being a beta bitch boy

Not helping

Start reading and go hiking. Reading helped me process my feelings and hiking helped me feel connected with something greater than myself. Something more than another person.

Sounds kind weird but it worked for me. Any non-self-destructive hobby will do the trick, as long as it's a hobby. Busying yourself with work won't do anything good.

You're asking in the wrong place m8.

ive been trying to expand my social circle cause i only hang with a few people. ive hungout with coworkers that i normally wouldnt really want to but i just did it cause i know its probably good for me, and once you do that the cuties will come. my goal after my breakup was to try to get lots of friends and then you meet their friends and so on. but yeah i still do a lot of working and working out and not much else :/ guess that's how it goes for now

fuck them hoes
buy you a ps4 and never learn the house again

Mobilefag detected

Find more hobbies.

start getting into marksmanship (guns or bows, but don't be a bitch, so do guns)

He's not fucking wrong though.

Don't let it beat you.
Keep going to the gym, keep getting better.

When you can, expand your horizons a bit, learn an art, a language or save up to travel.

You'll meet someone worthwhile, but it will take time.

Also, right now you don't need a relationship, you don't need to rebound into the same situation you were in before - you need to get your mind right first.
Nothing wrong with a booty call/hookup via Tinder right now, just wrap your dick and your heart.

If you worry you don't have anyone to talk to, just blog post again - you'll get some sad cunts try to drag you down, but there's plenty of us who've been in the same place who want to listen and help.

What if your mind never gets right?

It's been a year since my break up and I'm still not right.

It's because you're focusing on it, you seem to be trying to replace her - artificially trying to collect friends and cultivate a partner.

You need to focus on you, do something for you, learn something new, start a new hobby.
When you feel you can, have a hookup or two, and see how you feel.
Only when you're no longer trying to replace your last gf is it okay to start a new relationship - it's not okay to make someone a stand in for someone else, your relationship has to be genuine and mutual.

>I have no idea what to do with my time
>My literal only hobby is working out
I might have some vague idea about what your problem is

maybe try getting a brain

if you are too stupid to entertain or preoccupy yourself you are too stupid to function as an adult, no wonder your gf broke up with you

STOP WATCHING PORN RIGHT NOW

I do what I want

this

I'm in the same boat lad except we were together 3.5 years. I have found trying to widen my social circle and talking to old friends is helping but nothing really beats having someone you have a great connection with talking to you until you fall asleep and being there to talk to when you wake up, it's sort of weird being surrounded by people but being isolated. Only thing that is actually helping is working out even harder than before, I've lost some "relationship weight" and I've got a lot further to go, that and restarting boxing is keeping me busy. After I lose more weight I'll try online dating.

Tinder

Same boat bro. Left my gf of 4.5 years.

Been single for about 2 years. I cant connect with anyone like i could with her.
Muay thai helps keep my mind off girls, only a hand full of women have tried picking me up so far. I rejected them and im not entirely sure why. Life is strange the game

now THAT is what i call a braphog

Post the nudes we all know you have

Are you fags all a bunch of children? Why the fuck would you have a girlfriend for multiple years as an adult? It doesn't take that long to decide if you want to have a serious relationship with someone and playing at one does neither of you any good.

Count yourselves lucky that the dumped you because thise relationships were a dead end anyway. You would have been married already if one of you wasn't settling for the other.

brain gains at this point, you dunce.

When viewed from a standpoint of risk/benefit, marriage weighs heavily in favor of the female the way current legal systems are set up.

Dating for multiple years allows for a "staging period" where you can build the relationship without the immense risk of marrying someone who, for all you know, could be hiding all kinds of narcissism and psychosis that you aren't going to see for the first year or two.

I think MGTOW attracts a ton of losers and has by and large become a misogynistic fringe movement, but it was established for very legitimate reasons.

Divorce rape breaks men.

This. These guys would be much less happy after getting divorced and losing their kids from the same woman paying alimony.

I'll hijack this thread for my own women issues. I'm 32, bounced around from relationship to relationship, never really felt a connection to anyone. New women transfers to my work, shes a few years younger then me, get to talking to her and somehow just roll into her becoming a friend and out of no where I start getting feelings for her. We don't even have a ton in common but we just get along. Now here's the issue, shes got 2 kids and was married. Her husband was killed in a car accident 5 years ago. Can't say i'm thrilled with the idea of dealing with kids that arnt my own and before meeting this women I wouldn't have said no to any women with kids for any type of long term relationship. We got to talking about it and she says she was only ever with her husband and normally i'd think she was full of shit but when we fucked she was as awkward as a virgin and we didn't fuck till after knowing one another for like a year.

Not sure if I should go forward with this or bail. She makes good money and is willing to have more kids but i'm torn because her current kids might be a pill I can't swallow

Raising a dead man's kids is the only excuse to raise any other man's kids.
These kids aren't torn between two houses, you're not being forced to raise a deadbeats kids.

Plus, these kids will need a strong father figure to prevent them from becoming numales/sloots.
So long as you actually have your own kids, then it's a great situation.

Funny how all these needy guys never have many hobbies. How beta is that, your life revolves around a woman.

This guy () gets it, I'm gonna second him.

Yeah, I can tell. I know she still feel conflicted about her dead husband but really the thing stopping me is her kids. Every time I wanna take a vacation she has to beg her mother or other family member to baby sit. That shit really cramps my style, i like to take random trips to the beach or hop on jets to Vegas for a weekend. Now everything is "ohh let me see if I can get so and so to watch the kids"

if I didn't like her so much i would have bounced already.,

>If I didn't like her so much I would have bounced already.
Well there's your fucking answer.

And yes, it will cramp you a bit, less spur of the moment trips - but if you're capable of planning your fitness, you can plan your trips.

Everything every male ever does is for women whether they know it or not and everything a female does is for men.

Fuck man, i'm, basically signing up to be a father to these 2 kids. This is a lot of responsibility.

When she was holding me after we banged for the first time, she told me she never thought she would ever be with anyone ever again and hasn't felt like a women since her husband died. How she tried to repress her feelings for me for months because she felt like she was cheating on her dead husband. It was husbands sister that told her to let him go and move on and that's why she started to date me.

Im already in to fucking deep arnt i?

Which books specifically help you process the feels?

A-asking f-for a friend

You're in deep man, best thing to do is be honest.

Explain that you're scared/apprehensive, but would like to try.
I'm not saying be a dad on a trial basis, I'm saying move on on a trial basis, and start picking up some of the responsibilities alongside her.

If you can see yourself enjoying raising these kids, step it up a notch.

Just be honest with her from the start, don't pull any moves behind her back, shit will bite you in the arse.

Keep going to the gym! Go back to school bro. Study something that is challenging and master that shit.

Does she get pissed off when you discipline her children? That can turn into a big issue.

you'll find some bud
I play video games and mess with legos in my downtime, I'm actually a huge lego star wars fan and it eats up a good bit of time setting everything up
or maybe try carving wood and get good at it and start selling it
or ask chain mail guy how to smith

>I'm entitled to help even though I'm unwilling to try anything first

im scared man, kids are so much reasonably. I've just never connected with anyone the way I have with this women. She makes me feel ways I never felt, I can only assume this is what love feels like. Im not even being funny, i've never loved anyone until now

Hasn't come up, her kids are really well behaved. She takes zero bullshit from them

This 100

Then give it a shot.

You have nothing to worry about if you're honest and you genuinely try.

>he fell for the marriage meme

Letters from a Stoic by Seneca
The Stranger by Albert Camus
Temple of the Golden Pavilion by Mishima
Adventures of Huckleberry Finn by Mark Twain
Les Miserables (Unabridged) by Victor Hugo
Walden by Henry David Thoreau
Count of Monte Cristp by Dumas

Find other hobbies or other people. Read books with all that spare time you have now, pick up an instrument, learn a new language, do whatever you want to do

Honestly, sounds fine. Widowed single moms are in a class of their own. Be a good father figure for her kids, as well as your own with her, and you'll be doing your part in combatting the downfall of the nuclear family

Welcome to being an adult with responsibilities. What did you think having your own biological children would entail?

I pictured my own children being a down the road thing

And youre 32. Idk what to tell you man. Im more worried about you crushing her heart more than anything.

My head I always had it figured id party till the back half of 30s then find some mid 20s chick to marry and have kids with

Agreed.

Life doesn't work out how you think it will. Figure it out and make your decision, one way or another. If youre going to leave her, do it and stop wasting her time.

It's been about 10 months since mine, and I felt great the first 4 months, felt like shit and tried to get back with her around February and got rejected. Went through hell and back to pick myself up and just recently I found out she's in a relationship with some guy. It hurt for like a day but then I realized I'm better off without her and we just weren't meant to be. Just keep focusing on yourself, improving everyday and not looking back.

I've been with my gf for about 8 years and have had several issues we worked through with multiple breakups, and we will most likely get married. I know she wants to, but I haven't asked her because our lives really won't change much at all at the moment. I dont' want to spend a bunch on a ring and a wedding because it's a bunch of pointless shit. I'm waiting until we are going to have shared financial assets like a house. If for some reason we broke up now, it would just involve her moving back in with her parents. Why make that situation 10x more complicated?

>that perfect breediing body
dman