Was there a libido mismatch between your bf/gf? How did you deal with it...

maslow's hierarchy of needs, to be pedantic

she's not the love of your life if you have issues this big.

recently had it happen to me, just shut up and realize life will suck for a bit before it gets better once you leave her

Well, the point still stands. You can't change her. Only she can do that. Tell her what you want and the rest is up to her.

Other than figuring out what turns her on and performing the ritual of it every time you want to have sex there isn't much to directly alter libido.

i was never denied sex because my gf knows how easy it would be for me to get it elsewhere.

there are two things she makes sure always have, food and sex.
her mom raised her well i guess.

It's not about her not denying. I want her to want me as much as I want her. I don't know how some people can still have sex knowing the other person is doing it out of obligation

Is she on birth control by any chance? Different birth control can increase libido is this one is curbing it.

lol shut the fuck up you larping tripfag, post body if you're going to call yourself 'Chad.' Fuck, I hate summer Veeky Forums

My partner of 7 years broke up with me last month because I couldn't sexually satisfy him. Thank you SSRIs for killing my libido, worst decision I've ever made. I was never in the mood for it but would have sex if he wanted it and would put effort in during the act but he didn't like to be the one to always initiate it.

Not only lost my partner but lost my best friend.

We're still friends but it's awful lonely to not have anyone to shit talk with in the evenings. Avoid medication for anxiety and depression if you can guys.

lol

Could you orgasm on SSRIs? also are you a boi or grill

Yes & grill.

I'd looked into St John's Wort which was meant to potentially help but it would also make my contraception ineffective. Wellbutrin was an option as it can help libido but might have played with blood sugars (type 1 diabetic).

I have accepted that I am just going to be a cat lady.

Why can't you just stop the SSRIs?

Really blasts my bananas.

I unironically wish you the best.

Oh that's the thing, I did. I stopped in October 2015 cold turkey and my libido never returned. Lasting effects. I've read that some people get their libido back after years have passed.

Did you go to a doctor? Surely there must be a way to get your libido back.

Thanks, it's a shit situation but I can completely understand his point of view and I know how hard of a decision it was for him to make.

I felt awful for the first week and just slaved at work and the gym so I didn't have to be on my own at the flat. At least I get to focus more on me now.

I always expected a level of treatment from her but she never met it. Tried to lower my standards and adapt to her but that only made her even farther away from me because I became not the person she met, but the person she slashed through. I'm such a faggot for not breaking it up 9 months ago. We'll break up soon. She's ignoring me and I feel like a dog. I tried to leave a while ago and she was crying her heart out that she loves me and she wants me. user, if what you want is never met ane it's not going the way you expected, tell her about it, discuss what you want and what she wants and see if a compromise that doesn't affect you can be made. If not, don't waste your time, believe me, because you'll really hate yourself for it.

There was a libido mismatch occasionally but luckily we were both horny pretty much at the same time and if one of us wasn't the other knew how to turn us on.

>lying in bed one morning cuddling
>gf gets up and goes to closet
>pulls out kinky bag of magic fun time
>pulls on red leather opera gloves to match her red babydoll
>pulls on red knee high patent leather 5 inch heel boots
>eye fucking me the whole time
>pulls out leather posture collar and leash
>"kneel in front of me"
>literally the best sexual experience of my life as she made out with me while tugging on my leash with one hand while stroking my cock with the other, keeping me on edge and teasing me for what felt like hours, before making me crawl over to the bed and ordering me to fuck the everloving shit out of her

This was like 4 years ago and I still masturbate over it.

Fuck why is this thread right now.

Literally just confronted mg gf yesterday about how it feels like she never wants to have sex anymore, like it's an inconvenience almost, how I'm always the one to initiate, and so on.

She said "I just don't want to sometimes. I don't have as high a sex drive as You, and if you need to get it somewhere else, get it somewhere else."

The whole thing culminated in a fight, even though she pried and asked me what was wrong. We almost broke up and reading some of these replies I think maybe we should have.

Epimedium.

Peppermint oil.

Diffusing the peppermint oil *

I haven't been to a doctor for it but have looked into it quite a bit and there isn't a cure all. When it's caused by SSRIs it would be a conversation about adjusting what SSRI I'm on, but as I'm not on one anymore that wouldn't help. Type of contraception can be a thing, I changed from pill, to combipill, to injection and nothing changed. I introduced regular exercise and lost weight to feel good within myself to see if it was linked to that, no change still.

It could even just be linked to complacency in our relationship. He's all I've ever known, my first partner from when I was 16 so maybe my libido would come back if I find someone new?

We had the same drive at the beginning but he definitely maintained a high drive throughout. Communication is extremely important, I feel if he told me he was frustrated with me the first time he felt it a half year ago then things might've been different today.

i read smoking weed helps

Serotonin and dopamine are made with protein.

Not a gf, but when my boyfriend moved in and went on my diet and shed 20 lbs his libido went through the roof.

Also, lifting increases test which increases libido, sensations, and orgasm.

Wouldn't that be mainly estrogen for women since that is their primary sex hormone though?

That is directly from a study on topical test treatment.

My issue with that is I'm not sure how I would be able to manage my diabetes if I'm high. If I get munchies then I'm probably not going to be in the right state to eat and shoot up insulin mindfully.

Saying this, I know alcohol helps with my libido massively. I only drink about 4 times a year though because again trying to manage my bloods can be hard if intoxicated and I also lost my insulin and monitor the last time I got drunk.

Fuck are you me.. I'm finally breaking up with her tomorrow. But I feel like she already got me out of her life and I'm just being a beta doing her the courtesy that I always provide.

I still love her though user.. I really do..

ME TOO BRO. ME TOO. I still love her even though the sex is gone, but I have needs. What's the point of a relationship without the sex? It's just a friendship at that point.

this is an excellent thread

Test will make you want it no matter your gender.

This is true. Me and my ex were best friends and companions, it turned into a sexless relationship and he finally realised he was unhappy.

He had been coming to terms with it for months before he ended it with me, part of it was because he does still love me and didn't want to make me upset. He did what he had to do and I do not feel any resentment towards him for it.

Do what you need to do to be happy.

Then just don't eat. Munchies are just like wanting to eat when you're cutting. Ignore it and you'll be fine.

Alternatively, 2-3 scoops and some flaxseed oil.

I can't tell if you're being sarcasmal but it is a really important thing for people to talk about. I still see the board as health and fitness, the fitness part can play a role in helping the health particularly in this thread as others have pointed out - whether it's been successful for them or not.

>i have better understanding and research methods than a doctor
why do people think this?

legit an actually good thread

Best: 24/7 hours, not many people go there. Only two squat racks and I've never had to wait. Tons of bars and plates.

Worst: Absolutely filthy, always shit smeared in the bathroom, no attractive women. Only one platform for deads & nowhere to do oly lifts.

$36 bucks a month...better than planet fitness though.

Kek

The only doctor I trust is my diabetic specialist because I feel she has the time for me. GPs in the UK have a quota and rush appointments, I never feel like they listen to me and they've misdiagnosed me multiple times.

Giggled twice

Man, the sex was never frequent anyway for me. We had it twice throughout 2 years. I was horny as fuck the whole time and she had depression but I didn't mind, she was my soulmate and I wanted to see her bloom... everything was going the right way until she found a waitress job and works nightshifts. She'd call me every break and we'd talk for 30 minutes or so and I'd drive her home and come by. One day I said that I was feeling low and that those 30 minutes talks don't make me feel so good and she was surprised by it. She was shocked that my sexless, special-moments-only relationship wasn't making me happy so she started creating more and more distance between us. She fucking cries herself to sleep every night and I can do nothing but watch. It's fucking horrible man, I hate this and sometimes I think to myself, why the fuck did I ever do this to myself. I HATE that we cant have any moments because of her job but I always encouraged her and told her how proud I was of her for trying to cover up some of her tuition by herself and not her parents money. But IDK man, I just don't know.. I find myself questioning if this whole thing was right at all. Only thing keeping me is that I love her, but she says it's unclear for her and she'll take some time to think about it and i dont know wtf to do at this point other than get as depressed as she is and feeling like I can't do anything.

It is okay. We all die one day.

Topkek

/thread

Is her name aleksa?

Right now I'm the one with the lower libido. It's psychological though. I can't afford to move out of my parents and hate having to have quiet, soft sex (all the time at least). Don't ever raise your kids in socal or they'll be forced to live with you forever.

Damnit I didn't come here expecting to get this turned on

Test (although in much smaller amounts than males) is necessary for female health and is also responsible for female sex drive.

Women don't need to fuck like men do. Thats just the way things are

are you the same faggot who posts these threads about your asexual gf? I've seen three today already.

Not really fitness related btw, but I answer nonetheless.

I broke up with my gf of 4 years because she was always low libido basically and she was always busy with her studies.

No sex = shit relationship

last time i was on SSRI i still had my libido but i remember it was really hard to get a bonner

Then how come most couples have healthy sex lives with both their libidos matching.

honestly nothing you do will really help. Like some other anons in this thread said, if she gets fit then it will increase libido. So you can help her try to get fit but that help will only go so far. Being fit has to be a decision she makes. and wanting sex is also needs to come from her.

Also I don't know how fit you are but if you've gained weight that could be a contributing factor. I know with my girlfriend when I was fat sex wasn't enjoyable for both of us. Now that I lost a bunch of weight and have muscle she wants to have sex a lot more.

tl:dr just work out faggot and jack off every once in awhile

Last girl I was seriously seeing would want to fuck usually 3-4 times a night and then twice in the morning before work. It was fun for awhile but eventually it gets hard to keep yourself well... hard for all that time.

She is, yes. She goes to a clinic every week to see her specialist. Sometimes he's not there though so she has to see him in the week. He must be good 'cos she's always texting him about sex and stuff.

this is sad user. My gf kind of did the same thing. She was going to community college during the day, waitressing at night, had a second job for weekend. Some weeks we'd get maybe a night together. Once she finished 2 years at the community college she transferred to a uni 5 hours away from me. So now we see each other maybe for a weekend a month. It's hard and I think about ending it all the time. The only thing that's keeping me together is how much I love her and I'm kind of enjoying the time to work on myself too. Best of luck to you and your girl user

Ejaculationless orgasm.

It seems proper refraining from all the focus minigames from books and just getting super PC tone. I have good results with the information that the pelvic floor presses on the vein that goes on the pelvis and that keeps blood in the penis.

She told me she wants to see me tomorrow,
I replied with :"Can I ask you a quick yes or no question?"
>Yes
>You know I love you, right?
>We both have different definitions of love, but from your corner, you do, yes

Beh...

I dont even know WHAT THE FUCK makes her think like that. Were those 2 years she kept telling me she loves me a lie? What the fuck anons

heh, sounds like one hell of a specialist

Kind of because with my first gf I had crazy performance anxiety while she wanted to fuck all the time

i fucking hate you normieposting faggots
i lift to not feel anything, for catharsis, i just want to talk about lifting and you pollute the board

She's just not that attracted to you, if you can't make em dripping wet and hyperventilating without even touching them you're doing it wrong

I'm a dude with low libido. I've had a couple girlfriends say things like, "Isn't the girl supposed to be denying the guy sex..." and I think I made them feel unattractive by not wanting to have sex with them all the time.

If I'm banging a girl for the first time, I'm extremely attracted to her. But after the first time, I want to fuck her less and less. Anyone else have this issue?

>my contraception
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>"Isn't the girl supposed to be denying the guy sex..."

Man I hate this mentality . Are most women like this?

why not? because some beta cuck says so?

This guy gets it. Until I started rampantly cheating on my gf it got so bad to the point where we fucked only once a month. It drove me crazy for a while but as soon as I didn't give a shit anymore because I was getting it else where she went back to normal. I think I'm in the sweet spot now. I have a gf so girls want to fuck me more because that's just the way the female brain works. Kinda racking up a long blocked list on social media though

if she's the love of your life just ask yourself if you can live on for years with her low libido.
if it's a dealbreaker for you sort it out. her libido will probably never change and your sexual incompitability might hurt your relationship in the long run.

Are the herbs etc that are advertised on the web just scams?

You realize she's cheating on you too, right?

Every cheater I've ever met thinks their significant other isn't cheating on them. They're too blinded by covering up their own trail of shit to open their eyes and see they're also being cheated on. Unhealthy relationships built on lies are truly a sad, sad sight.

Epimedium is getting the rep of giving me 24hr chubs.

Peppermint oil is used for lip thickening, and it gives me super boners.

Does Epimedium work for women too?

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Huh? What should I takeaway from that pic? I think I'm dumb.

I'm just going to do what I always do.
>rampantly cheat on her
>get caught or confess
>She will forgive me because I am physically more beautiful, and smarter. The only thing she has that I don't is a degree
>then I will break up with her

I have that issue as well. Have no idea what causes it.

Love is a really finicky thing, and no one really have a set definition for it. That's probably what she meant
Why she would phrase it in such a way probably means she feels like she doesn't feel as strongly about you as she thinks you do of her

Hmm... that actually makes sense. What would you advise me do?

Married user, 3 kids, actual oldfag. This is a rare good post on Veeky Forums. Can confirm.

Elaborate. Pretty sure that guy was a troll

Maca powder has been shown in clinical studies to improve libido among women on SSRIs.

She didn't have 10 minutes for a quickie in the car after work? This story is bullshit.

Married user from above. Open marriages are a good thing. If you can compartmentalize the sex, it is only an outlet, then you're in good shape. Just make sure she understands that it's open for you and not her. It's serving a specific need, and if she has that need it's a different conversation, but this is a solution to your issue and she doesn't need to get someone on the side just because.

Yeah it's pretty much. Wow you actually put on makeup to hide all of the acne that you make excuses for when it's your shot diet and lifetstyle I'll guess I'll fuck your overweight ass

>25
>trouble getting hard

Help me...