Be shy, awkward loser with no social skills and no friends

I used to hang out on other boards a lot. r9k, primarily.
Spending so much time in a cesspool full of people who hate themselves, like really really hate themselves, fucks you up mentally. Life's not fair. Everything is shit. Shit shit shit. You're shit, I'm shit, everybody is shit and deep down we all know we deserve to be losers and we're incapable of being anything else, because we're shit.
Hard work is for suckers, there are no fair deals, so why even try? Why not just stay inside this safe cozy echo chamber where sure, people will tell you you're shit, but then again you can call them shit too. Nobody expects anything from you, here or IRL, but the difference is that here a lack of spine and initiative is a sign of enlightenment.
I spent most of high school alienating myself from the people around me because I got it in my head that nobody wanted me around, and I found a community of faceless strangers that not only reinforced that, but celebrated it in their own weird, fucked up way.
A lot of FA/incels feel that they simply can't be better people. They don't know how, and since the poison they're mainlining comes from shutting themselves in their rooms and almost never going out except for work (where they don't talk to anyone), nobody in real life knows how bad it's gotten, and even then they're already convinced "normies" don't give a shit because when their reprehensible behavior is brought up, what happens? Somebody makes a virgin joke. Somebody else calls them losers. Everybody agrees, they're pieces of shit.

First, let yourself go. Allow yourself to study conversations and develop tactics. Doing so does not make you a sociopath.

Conversation is very complicated and there are many ways to start one.

Anticipate/imagine how the first few parts of an exchange might go so that you have something to pull from to ease yourself in.

Ask them for their opinion on something you also have an opinion on and see if it sparks a conversation.

>what if i never feel like opening up?
>i haven't had a friend in years

those two are mutually exclusive. people can be naturally reserved and that's fine. but that isn't stopping you from caring about and forming relationships with other people.

>all i do is lift and browse the web
I don't understand how this isn't enough for an engaging conversation for so many people. Browsing the web isn't some niche activity anymore. I see people talking about things they saw on the internet all the time. Also, you literally have the world's entire knowledge at your fingertips while you browse, isn't there anything you can learn that'll be interesting.

People are always up for talking about sports and politics. 2 of the biggest boards on here are /sp/ and /pol/. I'm not saying that you should talk about the joos but surely there must be something about current affairs that you can have an interesting take on.

Just be alright with being made fun of, that's all social interaction is. Pretty soon you'll be breaking their balls too.

>those two are mutually exclusive
that's not what mutually exclusive means tardo.

this. the #1 rule of any social interaction is don't be so serious. learn to take a ball busting, and be comfortable giving a light hearted ball busting in return.

OK, thanks commandant grammar nazi. you know what i fucking mean

>Volunteering requires references

True, but its a bunch of bs that they almost certainly won't check. If you have any social connections (literally your parents' friends, a teacher, whatever) who doesn't mind possibly taking a phone call and saying how much you love (dogs/caring for people/ whatever the thing is,) it will be fine.

Volunteering might not necessarily be for you, but making excuses isn't going to get you anywhere user. I believe your gonna make it, but you gotta believe your gonna make it.

>and be comfortable giving a light hearted ball busting in return.
I agree but unless you're good at reading social situations (like I assume OP) I wouldn't be too eager about that. Sometimes it's best to take the L in an interaction. You'll eventually get it back. Or not, doesn't matter. Just avoid being a doormat but be a sport.

Ask them questions, it seems youre still developing so ask about things you know. Like do they lift? Do they have an interest in it? If they do ask if you can show them or teach them something.

My coworkers are trying to be healthier currently. Theres 4 women trying to lose weight at my job and I always offer advice and encouragement, it seems like only two of them are taking it seriously while the other two are just going through the motions. Thats still an impact you're having.

>what if i never feel like opening up?

fake it. it may sound strange but try it.
It's the same with confidence and women. Women can mostly detect fraudulent confidence, but literally the fact that you're persistent in your attempt is courageous in itself (which can be endearing, even in the face of failure), and that is a kind of double meaning behind "fake it til you make it".

>maybe i am too worried about what I'm going to say and answer that i can't think of good questions to ask back
ask about their personal endeavours;
what I do is ask people "what's your thing? What do you do for work/in your spare time"
Or make questions using assumptions: an obvious one about someone who has a muscular physique; "you totally look like you work out, lemme guess you deadlift 4 plates" This is an assumption that isn't meant to be accurate, but is meant to be praising.

One of the best things you can do is get people to talk about themselves. People can't help but enjoy telling their own story, because deep down, all people seek to feel special. If you can tap into that area, they will like you, even though they don't know you.

If there is any one general advice I can tell you, it is to be active in doing shit. Literally, how man manifests his own destiny and greatness is through his action; the literal action of DOING something with utmost full intent and awareness.

In other words, going through your day half asleep and thinking about other shit while doing boring shit is the literal cause of ones own grief and self-destruction.

>ywn have a hot af japanese gf like this
My soul is so saddened, but at least you've managed to cheer up my penis OP.

>tfw I've internalized all of this without even browsing /r9k/

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This is very true. Veeky Forums actually seems to be a pretty positive board to go on even though most of it is just alt-coin betting. I've generally been avoiding Veeky Forums ever since early 2016 when /pol/ really took over every other board, but i'm back here now because i'm unemployed and bored. The most dramatic change I've noticed is in Veeky Forums really, it's always been a bunch of insecure young men, but holy hell, all of the hate was usually contained in those fat people stories threads but now every thread is filled with morons who can't go five seconds without complaining about "western woman" or cuckposting. Does anyone even remember when cuckposting started on /tv/ just to make fun of Louis CK?

o shit i thought this was a Veeky Forums thread not Veeky Forums lel
but yeah man, Veeky Forums really needs to up the mod presence. Racism on Veeky Forums used to be comical but now you literally see the same /r9pol/ negativity in EVERY fucking thread and the only way to get away from it is to spend as little time on Veeky Forums as possible, or get onto interest boards that aren't filled with the absolute dregs of human society. Every time you see a shitpost, just think about what kind of person would actually be behind that comment.

N-n-n... N-n-n... N-NIPPLE! I SEE NIPPLE!

I shitpost when I'm bored

thanks for the advice

that's how i feel too
i see people who are new at my workplace, and they have a group of coworkers they hang out with, while I'm still alone. people have tried being friendly with me, but i suppose im not interesting or good at conversations

I would go to jail for three counts of rape and assault with a meaty weapon. I just know it.

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25 years old. Haven't had friends since middle school, also an ugly as fuck kissless permavirgin who has never even asked a girl out.

I've realized that I just completely dislike people. I can only be around people for a short time before I start getting really annoyed and, honestly, pissed off at the shit they talk about and do. Even though I haven't had friends for a decade and no sex at all, I never sit here and cry about not having a girlfriend or friends, and I don't even put an effort in to get either, because I know that if I did get one I would just leave it all.

I know it's complete autism, and you guys will say that the reason I dislike people is because of the social isolation, and that it's a coping mechanism. While this is probably true, I just don't know how to overcome it. And this isn't to say that I'm this guy who everyone likes and I just act aloof. All I do is crack jokes and they eventually turn from funny to mean/angry as I get more pissed off being around people. I know I'm and asshole and I basically sabotage any possible relationships I can have with random people, coworkers, classmates (when I was in school) from a combination of avoiding social situations and getting so annoyed and pissed off from the start

Hell, I've even been a youth sports referee for the past decade because I literally get paid to piss people off and laugh about it afterwards.

I think it's over for me fit.