/sig/ - Self improvement general

im just doing 10s max because im scared of damaging my pelvic floor like some randoms say, i dont want to pee blood

is like hold for 1 min and then be done with it? or various sets of 1 min?

also reverse kegels not needed?

>This self-improvement journey is lonely.

I'm here for you user. doing pretty much the same thing.

i found no fap enough to stop my death grip problems
still havent been able to cum from oral but think im getting there.

im more jealous of people with discipline than the party animals desu

were on this road together bro

I've been doing a few things recently that I'm pretty happy with:
>stopped going out to bars and clubs. Helps me save so much money and really cut back on drinking.
>deleted bumble and tinder. Yes girls are fun, but I've already got a fwb and at this point chasing girls is a waste of time
>started getting up at 5am. Gives me so much time to get my shit done. Also, shifted my workouts to the morning, which helps me get more energy throughout the day.
>cut out listening to music. This is an odd one, but I've found that if I don't listen to music at all I'm much more focused and aware during the day.
>closing in on going back to college. Man I'm ready to finally get my degree.

>Say something out of context and funny to the gf on Facefuck
>She doesn't reply
>I say it's a joke
>No response
>Ask if she's alright
>No response

She's been a bit uptight and bitchy lately.
What do, lads, is it my humor ?

i started LDR(long distance running) with heavy cycling and compared to 3 months ago im immortal fuck.

maybe it's because you back track and say "it's a joke!" and then "i-im sorry dear...", must be a regular occurrence. sounds fucking pathetic desu

Not even in my most awkward beta high school days was I this bad, user

Never in my life have I heard of kegels causing any damage whatsoever. Yes, you should also do reverse kegels to balance out the muscle.

just do no porn homie and bust as much as you want. With no porn you won't want to masturbate as much.

Does this thread have a discord?

Would really benefit everyone, ya know with the consistency and all.

How can I stop taking amphetamine?

I'm having a similar issue. GF is distancing herself from me and it's kinda making me feel like shit.

I'll break up with her tomorrow, I can't take this mental gymnastics anymore with her shit.

Can any anons recommend me music (preferably metal) for cardio & lifting? I love Tyr (thanks user from a few months back) and just started listening to Warduna. This helps gains

>Tyr
Thx man

>>started getting up at 5am. Gives me so much time to get my shit done

I never understood this. Are you guys retarted? Getting up earlier doesnt magically make your day longer. Its still 24 hours. You just go to bed earlier.

>>I cant socialize without drugs

So you will always be forced to choose between a shit lifestyle or a shit social life?
Pathetic

I guess it's because, since humans are diurnal, for a fair amount of people when it gets dark it's "winding down" time and you don't get as much shit done. Alternatively some people just get things done better in the morning, or, if they don't wake up early, they'd just sleep in even if they went to bed at the same time. Probably depends on the individual situation.

Bump for this

Got used to the gym routine, got used to diet routine, the only thing that I can't get used to is no alcohol or even a small amount of alcohol

this sucks

So there's a couple of reasons that I've found early wakeups to be a big improvement:
First, waking up early gives me control of the time where I have peak performance without any distractions. Why should I give that time to my boss when I can use it for myself. Also, by the time I do get to work I've already been at it for hours and the momentum just carries through. And I can use the time in the morning to schedule and plan my day, which is a major force multiplier.
Second, most negative behaviors happen at night. I already mentioned bars and clubs, you have to cut those out to wake up early. How about drugs? No one is doinf drugs at 5am, or before 8pm when I go to bed. My friends are better people now, because before I was surrounded by bad influences that just wanted to party, get laid, and spend money, while the friends I've retained are hell-bent on crushing life.

So long story short, waking up early gives you the room to do the things you need to do while forcing you to avoid the things you shouldn't do. The day is just as long, but you use it better.

>self improvement
faggots kys

Faggot

please let it happen i wanna start fresh

Ur a faggot

Fuck you
You lose the game

>no one is doing drugs at 5am

Spotted the virgin loser.

Just kidding, I have way more energy in the morning and my whole day is improved waking up at 6am as opposed to 9am. I'm shit at waking up early and I fucking hate it but my day is so much better when I do.

Two things that help me get up in the mornings: I set a picture alarm where I have to get out of bed, turn on the light, and take a pic of the light on to turn off the alarm. If I still need help I usually lay out a caffeine pill the night before and just down that with some water. Not going back to bed after all that.

ok messaging girl, i say: any plans? She says: what do you mean?

what do i respond? i wanna fug this grill, she's a 16-17 (legal age here) qt slav pls respond

>people migrate to discord
>thread dies
I've seen it too many times. Trust me, we don't want to go that way. Just formulate your thoughts and post in a fucking thread.

Start drinking lots and lots of coffee instead

so you post discord along with the info and links that go in the thread as usual. tons of threads do this

>asking girls for plans
>ever
99% of women are clueless ameboa with attitude of children. They're mostly intellectually inferior and emotion-driven anomalies who are attracted to power, passion and adventure. You're the man, you lead, you decide.

Just say you want to go birdwatching on Saturday or something. If she declines just ask her when she's free and you're fine. If she declines again then forget about her and focus on lifting.

>focus on lifting
sorry, i lift in the library

I'm going to be working 38 hours a week with a chemistry degree this fall since I skipped and failed before like a degenerate.

What am I in for? I've been sleeping 5-6 hours a night so I'll have to adjust that too.

reee

REEEEE

How do I go outside and socialize like a normal human being? I recently graduated HS and taking a gap year for reasons outside my control. Ihave no idea how to meet people outside of that setting, and aside from running and the gym I never go outside. Preferably looking for other nerdbros to hang out with.

I'm tired of myself brehs.
>Keep relapsing to fucked up porn.
>Probably have some kind of personality disorder
>Want to talk with qt coworker but just autistically ignore her because i'm afraid of socializing
>Rarely felt any true intimacy with my family or friends. Don't understand how they're still with me when i don't care about them.

breh did you get a career in the chemistry field?

Son of a gun

I switched to using shampoo only once every 5 days and it fixed my acne

25 years old. Haven't had friends since middle school, also an ugly as fuck kissless permavirgin who has never even asked a girl out.

I've realized that I just completely dislike people. I can only be around people for a short time before I start getting really annoyed and, honestly, pissed off at the shit they talk about and do. Even though I haven't had friends for a decade and no sex at all, I never sit here and cry about not having a girlfriend or friends, and I don't even put an effort in to get either, because I know that if I did get one I would just leave it all.

I know it's complete autism, and you guys will say that the reason I dislike people is because of the social isolation, and that it's a coping mechanism. While this is probably true, I just don't know how to overcome it. And this isn't to say that I'm this guy who everyone likes and I just act aloof. All I do is crack jokes and they eventually turn from funny to mean/angry as I get more pissed off being around people. I know I'm and asshole and I basically sabotage any possible relationships I can have with random people, coworkers, classmates (when I was in school) from a combination of avoiding social situations and getting so annoyed and pissed off from the start.

I don't know if this misanthropy is the result of me not having friends/relationships, or vice versa.

Hell, I've even been a youth sports referee for the past decade because I literally get paid to piss people off and laugh about it afterwards.

I think it's over for me fit.

>She responded
Alpha as fucked m8

Lol, you pretty much just described me. What's pathetic is that I'm good decently attractive and rich as fuck so it makes me feel even worse.

I just spent a period of time feeling very normal and now I'm back to being a Veeky Forums loser and it's fucking with me. I have to overcome these hurdles and make it. I'm going to make it and so are you fags let's do our best.

Judas Priest - Painkiller, Defenders of the Faith
Bolt Thrower - Realm of Chaos, Those once Loyal
Slayer - South of Heaven, Seasons in the Abyss
Crimson Glory - Crimson Glory, Astronomica

Dude just go volunteer for your local parks and rec, or church, or hospital. You will make friends and meet cuties. Plus if you play your cards right you can score letters of rec.

>literally posting a chat I had with a girl

okay

kys

sa-save me

Thanks for confirming what i thought all of my Lax referees were like.

I feel the same way man, except female. I am so sick of trying to deal with people and going out of my way to fit them into my schedule. They're just a drag and expect you to constantly entertain them. To them dedication=obsession, time management=boring, saving money=boring, eating healthy=boring. Why should I adopt your shitty habits and sabotage my progress. And their idea of "hanging out" is basically wasting time drinking, ambling around aimlessly, staring at a tv screen, complaining, and eating shit food. I'm only 21 but I already feel like blowing up.

you haven't done it long enough
>typing this while sipping a drink

dump her, trust me she is going to get ALOT worse
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lemme guess, you're a "lax chad" huh

How do I become less anxious around people I don't know

Need help dudes. I can pick one girl for this weekend. I already have everything ready but I can't decide which girl to take with me.

>First option
Classic Chad girl, cheats on his BF with me. Total madman in bed, too masculine sometimes

Cont

>Second option
Shy girl from university, she has not a lot of friends, loves cars and cats. Femenine as fuck

Which one Veeky Forums? She has asked me to take her to the gym with me a couple of times too.

Duck!

I'm not you, so I don't know your situation or what you want, but I'd pick the latter 100% of the time.

Clearly Bateman has already decided for you.

option 2 ez, her not having many friends is a great sign

albums
kvelertak - kvelertak
kylesa - static tensions
black sabbath - master of reality (like this album for long cardio)
eluveitie - slania (or a playlist - their albums tend to mix slower and faster songs)

linx
youtube.com/watch?v=_ldAksH34l8&index=5&list=PLLtrICHGyxx_X3XGq3V99U7f4nwvaMMbM
youtube.com/watch?v=d4zyDRLPB8s
youtube.com/watch?v=r7sIqyoRFiU

Why is he reading such an awful text and backwards at that

Thanks guys. G'night

2nd girl has a shitload of tattoos and piercings. That's what you consider a "shy girl?"

do you guys mind if i share a story? its relevant to self improvement and i havent really spoken about it much, but its a sorta long story and i feel like i need some answers

share it

ive never responded to any of those 'your mother will die posts' amf she still hasnt. im trying to get that 300k life insurance what the fuck Veeky Forums

ill green text it only cause im really shit at structure.
>be me, insomniac
>have a thing for this girl, lets call her Maya
>legitimately like this girl, thinking about being with her makes me happy
>i want to be there for Maya.

>have friend, lets call him Les
>Les lies alot, and i mean alot
>recently had a falling out with Les because he lied to me about seeing a girl
>i didnt care about the girl, i just hated him lying to me constantly
>one thing leads to another, she stops hanging out with him as much
>her and i sorta become friends

heres the thing, i started gym around about the same time i started liking Maya, i didnt do it for her, i just really wanted to put myself into a better lifestyle. ive become so much more hygienic, my confidence is so much better, im currently growing my hair out because thats the style i like (pic related) and i was doing really well for myself
this is just the preface, it gets dark next passage

I jerk off 18 times a day, I'm super relaxed.

>skip forward a year and a half, i think im over Maya
>somehow, we start skyping. stay up till 4:00AM skyping with her
>the group call included Les, but it always ended with just Maya and I
>oh fuck.jpg
>i fancy her again
>her and i really hit it off, and i mean really hit it off
>we share common interests, agree on alot, both seem to like eachother holistically
>Les would sometimes be in these calls, but i think nothing much of it
>i get him to promise me not to do anything that would fuck this up
>i ever get her a job at where i work (some restaurant, im an all arounder, she was just a waitress)

>skip forward about a month, i tell her how i have felt but say that i dont have any intentions to date her
>Les asks Maya out to the movies
>wtf bro
>He lives nearby her, spends alot of time with her
>the holidays are over, her and i are skyping a whole lot less
>everytime Les and Maya hang out, he lies to her about me, tells her pies about me
>she begins to dislike me
>ignoring my texts, ignoring me when we walk past eachother

>insomnia strikes bad, im in a really bad place
>i was talking to one of her friends and mention how Les lies to me
>Maya hears about that and gets her friend to message me about it, she was very abusive tbqh
>im only on 2 hours sleep for the past 4-5 days and im fucking jonesing
cont

now i dont know if any of you knows what insomnia feels like, but you become so cloudded up, literally cant think straight
>i just wanted anything to end
>i try and kill myself
>the only thing that stopped me was my sister walking in on me last minute
Maya stops talking to me, i stop talking to Les

things are better now, i've invested myself fully at gym, but i feel still terrible bros, i invested so much time into the both of these people and its all fucked, my motivation is down on everything other than gym and i feel really bad a whole lot of the time. ive been trying to fill my mind with other things but i cant stop thinking about all of this, i feel like ive explained it really poorly though. I think im over Maya, and funnily enough ive actually been talking and liking this girl (not fancying) a girl whos real name is Maya. I've kind of been using this scenario as my springboard, as in i dont want things to get that bad again, so im investing alot of time into trying to better myself as a person so i dont have something like this to go down again. How do i go about things? Im going to keep up with the gym, but i dont know about how to act sometimes, i still see Maya's friends often and they hate me. sorry for poor english, im rushed this out, ive told the story poorly but everything in it still comes off as how they were, there were alot of details omitted because the whole situation is still blurry to me

I kinda know how you feel, been there brother. Try to focus on gym only, listen to some healing mixes (sounds stupid but it can help). Life will get him back for that and you will see it, trust me. You are way better than them and if she fell for his lies she doesnt know you at all.

im /mu/fit/ so ive mostly only been listening to the music that makes me happy recently, and ive noticed ive been better off. ive been getting better gains and ive been making new friends. its been a long long time and its going to BE a long long time, but im going to make it bro

just picked up the Power of Habit and the Joy of Tidying Up

anyone here have experience with them?

>tfw miss /fitlit/

Were all going to make it bro. Hope you get over all that crap soon.

thanks brother, best of luck for you my man

Thanks man. Much appreciated. Also, I have sleeping problems too, sometimes it gets better, sometimes it doesnt, it comes in phases. Have you considered seeking medical help? Maybe they can prescribe you some pills, depend on where you live.

yeah im on a double dosage of melatonin right now, sleep quality is better, but im still not getting

>chasing girls

This meme. Stop investing all your time into girls. At least now you're investing it into yourself, but it's more because you don't have anyone else to invest it in (which you should do sparingly btw). You should have just asked her out the first chance you had. Spending all those hours talking to her meant jack shit. Les had the right idea, and the balls, to ask her out, and you're there seething. So what he lied about you? You didn't take the chance. As my English teacher said, "Show, don't tell."

What do?
Keep on trucking. Forget those two, they made their choice, you make yours. Get better friends and as always, there's plenty of fish in the sea. Also, try to get to bed earlier. Or work yourself to the point of passing out (not recommended desu).

Les isnt dating her, he only did it to fuck me over. also the whole thing was i didn't chase her, i literally had her as a side thing while focusing on me, only when she actually make it into my life did i focus on her. She took it upon herself to talk to me, im not going to ask someone out as soon as they talk to me.
>try going to bed earlier
gee thanks man, this is greaat advice

How much time to you spend in gym? Maybe you could add some other activity, dont know if it will help you get more sleep tho, it tends to work in my case.

about an hour and a half
i dont enjoy video games anymore, i cant really think of any hobby i would like to start

How many of you could attract a waifu-tier 3D woman like this one?

dude

Look at them teeth. Obviously a Russian that is trying to get a greencard.

Self improvement please help me.

Im an 8-9/10 so women love me i can feel theyre atracted to me when they first meet me and within 5-10 min they stop being intrested. I have a huge ego (Think american psycho ) i dont feel Close to Any one at all and ive got a depression. Im 6.3 and Weight 88 kgs and have a bf around 15/17% how do I stop being sad and find true connections with people

If only she didn't have a horse furry fetish she'd be pretty nice desu.
But with that and the God clitbonner of hers. She yandere as fuck