I literally see women like this at my gym all the time. What's the proper way to approach one of them in the gym?

I literally see women like this at my gym all the time. What's the proper way to approach one of them in the gym?

I have absolutely no idea how to even do this. I'm always scared that they're going to be related to the gym owner some how and that they'll tell the owner that I harassed them and I'll end up getting kicked out.

Also - How can I tell if they have a BF or not?

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they already have a bf. dont bother with the embarrasment. youre best bet is to need to use something they are using and see how much longer they need to use it, or if you can work in. but dont seem gay about it.

>What's the proper way to approach one of them in the gym?
You don't you fucking sperg. Leave people alone.

>wanting to both someone who is working out
You're a faggot.

Don't even consider it unless they make prolonged eye contact with you.
I fucking mean it. I'm not talking a little glance here or there, but they actually have to hold your gaze for a few seconds, and preferable smile or give some sort of notification in their face that they are attracted to you.
Then you can talk to them at some point of mutual contact (water fountain, entrance/exit, same workout station) if you should happen to meet there organically, don't just go running over to them like a wolf after a crippled fat kid.

Don't approach a woman like that, OP. The fat that you're asking Veeky Forums for advice on women, and that you're terrified of them tells me that she's way out of your league. Approach uglier women than that.

You will get responses ITT telling you you're a faggot if you talk to a girl in the gym. Whether you think it's a cringe move or not, do you want to do it and would you feel good doing it? Forget about the "consequences" of doing it. (there really are none) I just watched the movie Her and it made me think about how we crave human connection but are too scared to actually be around humans. You're a guy. You're not supposed to down, you're supposed to look forward. Do with information as you will

>girl at the gym
>over the course of days she's constantly, what seems like, getting closer to me and looking at me
>I'm deadlifting and she's right behind me
>decide that I'm gonna chat her up
>a guy walks up to her and asks for her number
>she says "no"

And I don't pull through

I don't understand this. What about if they keep looking my way every now and then? Like we make eye-contact multiple times. I'm an above average looking guy, but I have a mental disorder that keeps me from being able to have strong social skills.


I'm on disability with my mental disorder, so I'm pretty scared of actually ever trying, because I don't think any woman (especially a good looking one) would want anything to do with a guy like men on disability bux for mental disorder. I keep myself well groomed, well dressed, low bodyfat, and I have been lifting for many years now, so I appear like a "chad" on the outside, but I'm seriously fucked up in every other aspect of my life.

I feel like this is what's holding me back. I don't feel like I could ever really be "myself" and get a GF, I'm just not normal and I don't think women can handle a guy who isn't normal like me.

>I don't think any woman (especially a good looking one) would want anything to do with a guy like men on disability bux for mental disorder

Words of truth breh

I'm trying to find a work around for this. My parents bought me my own apartment so I have my own place.

I have the income from the disability which is a lot for me because I don't spend any money, have no rent/mortgage, just pay utility bills and buy food. Being honest about my situation is only going to cockblock me, I need some way to explain my situation without it scaring off a woman.

It sucks because I basically have to live a lie if I ever want a chance at getting a GF.

>quoting every person that replied to thread

At least you're honest about being autistic.

it's a huge redflag, because you're admitting to mental illness. The only woman you'll get is one who is the same.

The only chance you have is to first get your life in order by getting a job and then meet someone and only tell them about your disorder after knowing them sometime, the mental disorder won't be as bad in real life as in their imagination.

>What about if they keep looking my way every now and then? Like we make eye-contact multiple times.
Still different. Women who are dating someone will still look even if they have no interest in being approached by that person. Don't force the scenario, but check next time you're passing by them if they turn their body towards you and look at you again. This is usually a good indicator of someone wanting to interact with you. If this is the case just start in with a simple "Hi" and a slight smile. If they want to talk with you they will make a point to continue conversation at this point.
Don't go in thinking about trying to start a relationship with this person, just go in thinking about wanting to make it a learning experience for yourself. You want to talk and interact with someone else and that is all

My doctors diagnosed me with Schizoid Personality, so autism had to be ruled out before I could get that diagnosis.

I can't get a job. My doctors are worried that me having to deal with normal life stresses will likely make me develop Schizophrenia. They wont even put me through CBT because they think it will cause more harm than good.

I had a very late diagnosis (29 years old) and I lived this way my entire life, was shut-in for 10+ years.

How much do you get for disability op?

$1800/month

Your condition is probably not permanent. Try heavy metal detox, this could be the cause of your mental disorders. Go to saunas very often to detox by sweat, take taurine (250mg every meal) while also drinking enough water to make it circulate and flush through urine. Using actual chelators can be dangerous, taurine just helps the body's natural detox system. Hope you make it bro, imo it's never purely a matter of mindset but it has a physical cause.

damn son, where can i sign up for some of those neet bux?

If you have to ask, then please rest assured these females want absolutely nothing to do with you

Know your place

You will be approached by girls if you are worth it -- don't be a pussy about dating across or down

Alternatively become a celebrity and acquire wealth and you will have your pick of girls like these

Even if you secure one, they will leave you immediately for something better the absolute second it's available

It is permanent, in-fact it gets worse over-time and can develop into schizophrenia.


DSM-5 criteria
>The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders is a widely used manual for diagnosing mental disorders. DSM- 5 still includes schizoid personality disorder with the same criteria as in DSM-IV.
According to the DSM, those with SPD may often be unable to express aggressiveness or hostility, even when provoked directly. These individuals can seem vague or drifting about their goals and their lives may appear directionless. Others view them as indecisive in their actions, self-absorbed, absentminded and detached from their surroundings (''not with it'' or ''in a fog''). Excessive daydreaming is often present. In cases with severe defects in the capacity to form social relationships, dating and marriage may not be possible.

ICD-10 criteria
>The Classification of Mental and Behavioural Disorders of ICD-10 lists schizoid personality disorder under (F60.1).
>It is characterized by at least four of the following criteria:

>Emotional coldness, detachment or reduced affect.
>Limited capacity to express either positive or negative emotions towards others.
>Consistent preference for solitary activities.
>Very few, if any, close friends or personal relationship, and a lack of desire for such.
>Indifference to either praise or criticism.
>Little interest in having sexual experiences with another person (taking age into account).
>Taking pleasure in few, if any, activities.
>Indifference to social norms and conventions.
>Preoccupation with fantasy and introspection.


>In cases with severe defects in the capacity to form social relationships, dating and marriage may not be possible.

That's me.

Did you self diagnose, and do you live in the USA

No, got diagnosed by a psychologists and a psychiatrist who work at my doctors practice. I already mentioned doctors in earlier posts.

No I don't live in US, I live in Australia.

Jesus Christ I'm a lot of these

It gets worse because you keep on accumulating heavy metals (mainly aluminium which causes neurological problems). Do you really think mainstream science has figured out everything about your disorder? Look at our environment and the rise of mental illness.

What you cite is terrible science based on an approach where they classify problems as permanent and that the only answer is this one chemically engineered pill that big pharmas make billions out of.

But hey, you believe what you want. I did my job of showing you an alternate answer, one that could make you feel normal again without the need for pills. And I may be wrong too, but I think it's a pretty safe protocol to try.

Im not on any pills and I trust the doctors over some random hippy broscience shit.

Hi! Jesus Christ here! Reminding you from the heavens to NOT SELF DIAGNOSE.
By my holy shit, a lot of those behaviours are normal and acceptable up to a point.

I guess you don't deserve to be mentally sane then.

Kekked. I know not to self diagnose it's just always a shock to see every quality or trait you have at this stage of life written down perfectly. Gotta improve myself.

You don't, do you think they're at the gym to flirt or work out?

Oh and about the "broscience" bit, here's some backed up science :

ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5300790/

ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4158644/

ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22178136

You're probably too dumb to understand any of it though and gonna call it "hippy broscience shit".

To you and all the other faggots here.

Well you like her, you want to speak to her...
If you dont do it, you have already fucking lost her, you already got your rejection and she thinks you are a pussy... coz well you are one.
Dont get me wrong, you are a beta.
Nothing wrong with that.

So either you dont talk to her, get your rejection and stay a pussy or you just do what you want (go talk to her), either she likes you either she doesn't, but guess what! you are no longer a pussy in her mind. You are now a man that doesn't fear rejection and do whatever the fuck he likes. Fuck the consequences, life goes on and it Looks good.
Be your best you can be, fukkin risk and learn, expirience!

>What's the proper way to approach one of them in the gym?
You don't, unless its a polite smile or like if she's using a machine and you are next you can throw some inocuos comment. But this is not flirting, nor trying to hook up, it's normal human interaction.

>How can I tell if they have a BF or not?
You can't, assume they all have one and focus on lifting, enjoy the view from time to time and that's it.
Wanna find girls? Get hobbies, go to places where people with the same interests as yours congregate, fuck OP, this is Human Interaction 101 again!

how the fuck does the state pay you for a fucking personality disorder

i mean i could literally get diagnosed with 50% of the shit in the DSM-5

The fuck is this beta!

OP, dont listen to this beta. I dont wanna know how long ago is that he smelled a pussy.

Change your mindset. It doesn't matter if she is going to like you or not, if you are going to succed or not. What does matter is you doing what you want, dont fear rejection.
Then you will be a man and plenty of pussy will come your way.
Just be Alpha and pussy will come.
May OP fuck more pussy than he ever could imagine

That's kinda creepy. That's what I don't really like, and I get that often from dudes so I usually look away. Just have a small chat with chiks instead of just looking, and make them remember your face and just say hi to them everyday and become friends in the gym. If girls aren't interested they will usually throw you a hint.

It's not a bother if they're in between sets and the encounter is brief and non-autistic.

Are you seriously one of those people who think that certain places are off limits for hitting on girls? You can hit on girls in church, even. It doesn't matter. If you see a really good looking girl in public who ticks all your boxes, you talk to her. There's an incredibly small chance of ever seeing her anywhere else.

My gymbro says hello to everyone, including pretty girls. Make small talk with everyone, including the gym staff, make yourself known to everyone. It's a short thing from there to asking if she wants to grab a coffee afterwards.

When the disorder is so bad that you can't drive, can't work, can't make friends, can't socialise, can't use public transport, can't be around groups of people, never leave the house other than to go to familiar places (like the gym), etc.


legislation.gov.au/Details/F2011L02716/Html/Text#_Toc310259533

oh ok you live in australia

here in the land of the free they would just put you in a gas chamber if they could

Maybe you guys would have less happenings if there were more mental health services for your mentally ill.

Good post. Have a (You)

What's the disorder OP?

You seem self aware enough to apparently list out all these problems of yours, I can't help but feel you just convincing yourself you've got problems

>Little interest in having sexual experiences with another person (taking age into account).

Yet you here asking about chicks?

>Indifference to either praise or criticism.

Bothered enough to list all your problems.

Don't become the illness OP, I'm sure you are fucked in some way but I bet you bought into some of these symptoms after being "diagnosed". A lot of psychologists are cons OP, not all but most.

Pull your head out of your ass

What?

I didn't even go to a psychologist until I was forced by my family after over 10+ years of being a shut-in NEET (it's closer to 15 years desu)

There's a difference in having thoughts about women, approaching women, etc, and then there's you NEVER doing anything about it for years on end, because there really actually isn't any that much interest.

Lack of interest doesn't just mean you're 100% not even thinking about sex or women ever. What it does mean is that there's never enough interest to actually put forth the required effort in order to gain social connections enough to actually get sex.

That's what it means by lacking interest in sex.

I would quite literally drink the diarrhea out of sommer rays arsehole

Like 90% of people on Veeky Forums are long term shut-in neets and kissless virgins, it's a common problem and most of it is solved by getting the fuck outside. You really grasping at straws here m8

>Indifference to either praise or criticism.

>that ass on Angie
How the might have fallen, women truly do age terribly

t.lazy

>What about if they keep looking my way every now and then?
yeah dude, people look at each other every now and then. Anyway, if a girl look like this she's either
1) already has a boyfriend
2) she has 5 chads hitting on her and she gets approached by multiple guys everyday
so dont even bother

Which State are you in user? I would gladly be your friend and help you out if your close to me.

>15 year shut in
>"you're just lazy, lol nothing wrong with ya haha XD"

kek

Schizoid personality disorder (SPD) is a personality disorder characterized by a lack of interest in social relationships, a tendency towards a solitary or sheltered lifestyle, secretiveness, emotional coldness, and apathy.

why do you want to talk to anyone if you're a schizoid

>being this much of a desperate faggot
Women like that have more dudes lined up than you could imagine, if they aren't in a relationship already. No offense, but you also sound like you never approached a female in your life. You could pull it off, but you won't.

I thing is I actually don't.

This thread is entirely my imagination thinking out loud.

I can type this on the internet but then when I'm in-front of the 8/10 at the gym, I just lose interest, until I go home and go back into my fantasy world.

Nothing will ever come of this, this thread can pretty much be ignored.

that's interesting user

can you explain what you mean by fantasy world? describe it?

>1800 a month for doing literally nothing
I work my ass off everyday for 456 odd dollars a month (depends on how bad the currency is at the moment) and I'm barely eating, I'm thinking about getting a second job and buying a 10yo used grand cherokee laredo for 2000 something dollars, I literally have to save for almost half a year to save the money up living extremely frugally while at too, life is horrible when your a poor third world peasant, I grew up in America and then my parent's decided to go back to our native country, my dad is white and American, but I was born in this third world shit hole, he never cared about me or my brother's future, my mom and us spent 15 year's arguing about this whole thing but he always had an excuse, now I'm 19 and I'm stuck in this living hell hole, he always told me I was going to be great, but he's laziness and his lack of care has left me with a miserable job in minimum wage, I went to uni and finished it, so did most of my coworkers, I'm so angry, I don't understand these people, they treat me like shit for not being like them, I felt so isolated all my life due to it.. thing's have been slowly getting better when I started to hang out with some of the Americans working with me, I finally feel connected to other people, the people of this country are egotistical little asshole's, everyone is out for themselves, everyone wants something and they will fake everything in order to get it, that's what happens when quality of life is scarce, I just want to be happy, but everthing is horrible and I I'm not going anywhere good, I'm getting progressively worse and worse with my drug usage and my alcohol consumption, everyone here uses that shit to escape and a lot them don't come back, I literally get fucked up on cocaine, weed, xanax and alcohol with my coworkers and boss everyother day of the week, my boss has ties with the drug cartels and I have a an effay relationship with her, we are literally fuck buddy's.

getting worried of my health, my head ain't right, I get into extremely anxious moods when I'm sober, and I get recurring suicidal thoughts once I'm off, don't get me wrong it's fun but I'm not exactly the smartest man in the world, I have a problem with addiction.

Don't. Smile at her if she looks at you, and she'll speak to you if she wants to. Don't bother people who are working out.

Yeah you are right there isn't anything wrong with you, other than being a weak willed lazy piece of shit.

I'm speaking from experience, mine and others.

You dont. If you catch her eye throw your jead up or smile. Thats it. Dont go around harassing people who just want to work out. Its rude.

It's hard to describe it because I just thought it was normal until very recently when my psychologist told me about it.

It's like, when I'm alone and by myself I enter a place where time doesn't really exist, I feel like a godly observer of the world, I see other people as ants, I see the world as a meme, like it's just there for me to look at and take information in.

I exit the fantasy temporarily anytime I'm forced into situations where I have to be around others for a specific reason, but after prolonged periods of time I renter the fantasy in that situation, but I can't go deep into it unless I'm home by myself away from everything and everyone.

I wasn't able to finish school because of it, I went back in my early 20s and ended up leaving again because of it. Life is like a blur to me in a way because of this, I have no real concept of time. Hours can pass for me and it only feels like minutes have gone by.


I have no concentration or anything, not even for small simple tasks. I cannot even drive a car because of it.


Veeky Forums is part of this fantasy world.

>My mind wanders and I daydream a lot
Big fucking whoop, grow a pair

Just flex a 'cep and say "hows this for a start"

shut up faggot

that's pretty interesting dude I hope you can overcome it at some point

Damn that's a sweet deal. My friend gets 1200€ a month for "anxiety and depression" but he's also allowed to earn up to 1000€ on the side.

I should really get on that.

lol you are fucking pathetic if you actually believe this lazy faggot, you just stroking his wo me bullshit attention seeking nonsense.

I can't recover from it because there is no cure, no meds or anything. In the next few decades I might develop schizophrenia because of it.

>attention seeking
>anonymous image board

kekeke

user, but how do you imagine a relationship would work out? Or is it just about getting sex?
The best moments from my relationships have been the ones I've shared with the person I loved. Little trips, events, concerts, going out, learning together something new. But you actually have to get out there.
Also, when you're with someone great it creates a little universe between the two people. Then again it might be easier to go out if you have that.

Yeah that's the thing, schizoids don't typically ever have friends, or relationships. I'd still be living with my parents if they didn't buy me an apartment and force me to go live by myself.

w2c autism?

It's not autism, schizoids have autistic thinking, but not autism.

Also, I don't know, I got forced to go to mental health professionals after being shut-in for a very long time.

They asked me a bunch of questions, I did a bunch of tests, and after talking to a small team (2 psychologist and 1 psychiatrist) they all decided together to advise me to apply for disability.

They gave me their reports and I handed them in with the disability application.

After that I had an interview at a government office with a person who read over my file and they accepted it. One of my psychologist meet me there and was present with me.

I think even you would appreciate it if you had a friend. Not all friends are great but there are people out there that just understand you and click with you in an almost magical way. But it's hard to explain what you are missing out on if you have never had it.

Bringing someone into my life on that level makes me feel like my world is coming apart.

I just can't do it.

There are some videos on youtube that explain it really well (schizoid mind).

>I just can't do it.
I'm sorry to hear that, user. Best of luck to you anyway.

Here, have a smily pic from my bestest dogo pal.

>I just can't do it.
Have you ever tried, or have you just decided to give up because you "know it wouldn't work out"?
qt doggo

You're a moron. He has an actual psychiatric disorder and you're telling him you can cure it through some bullshit detox. Fuck outta here.

as beta that wants to ask one girl out i approve of this post

I'm not defending his retarded detox but just because something is a "legit" disorder doesn't mean only pills can cure it. Our knowledge of psychiatric disorders is still very much in its infancy and many if not most of the drugs prescribed have considerable side effects.

It's also worth noting that "disorders" aren't some on/off switch in the brain you either have or you don't. That's just how we classify them because it fits our approach to medical science. Healthy living habits are always helpful, disorder or no disorder.

I generally disapprove of the inspirational self help bullshit on here but this is actually true.

>attention seeking on a anonymous image board

That's how low the faggot will stoop

years of Veeky Forums across multiple boards and I still think a lot of people here are schizoid. It is INTP on crack.
No friends, Introspective, rational over emotional,detachment instead of playing into something you do not like or enjoy.
However Veeky Forums 2017 surely has a smaller percentage of INTP compared to /v/.

They might be glancing at you because you've been staring at them begging for eye contact.

At this point though if you're this much of a mess i dont see the harm in going up to a girl and asking if she'd like to hang out sometime. Worst she could say is no. And if you really do look good you can easily lie about your situation long enough to get some pussy.

Hi, I noticed you're low bodyfat...

Veeky Forums you ever see a girl you think is so good looking, that it kinda ruins your day?

You don't faggot.

Yes and sometimes I stalk them for just a little longer to prolong the moment because I know I'll never see them again.

not OP, I don't go to a gym. but I often see qts on the train
>don't even know how to begin talking to her
>afraid other people around us will listen to the conversation and hear my awkward and forced attempt at conversation
what do?

hey op i fucked your parents

>afraid other people around us will listen to the conversation and hear my awkward and forced attempt at conversation
Why the fuck would you care what some stranger on a train you'll never see again thinks? Also it's a brotherly "you go girl" type of chuckle if anything.

just say you have an online business if they ask and make it clear you have money by having nice clothes and a nice car

yeah i know that feel. it is something i try to eliminate too.

Like said, we should not care what other will think, This is the only time their are going to see us in our lives and guess what, they will Forget what we've done in an instant!
So the proble is not the People, the Problem our balls! We must find them and go talk to her.
>How i approache
I said i have that small Problem too, so i try to make eye contact first. Once we see eachother, i small at her, if she smiles back... well thats sign enought for me to go talk to her.
Now imagine...
>im sitting on a wheelchair...
But anyway, if we have eye contact and we smile at eachother i go!

Anons we have nothing to lose, we can only win, only learn and get better!

user... don't waste your time hitting on a girl at the gym. She is there to grow her buttsqueezers and you're there to build the body of a god. If she's on the way out the same time you are (don't make it happen either you creepy fuck) then say something. Chicks at the gym most likely have a BF or GF. Being alpha doesn't mean you act like an autistic moron full of test. You just have to be confident faggot.

Who is gril

t. Girl at gym

1. If she has headphones in or is running DO NOT APPROACH
2. This can backfire, but if she's doing something wrong technique wise, offer to help. If she gets offended or whatever, stay cordial and back off or all hell will break loose
3.Best places to talk to people are in communal areas where they are not working out
4. Offer to go for a post exercise protein boost/coffee/whatever
5. Sign up for a class! Best way to meet people imho

Be nice! Sometimes confidence can come across as arrogance. Remember to smile!!

Don't. I don't have legit mental disorders but I am a long term heroin addict from adolescence.
They gave me :
Oxcarbazepine
Venlafaxine
Hydroxyzine pamoate
And I trusted them because i was running out of chances.
Oxcarbazepine is primarily a seizure medicine though, and even though I'm not epileptic, due to the rebound effect and the in my opinion heavy dosage I WILL have seizures when I quit. I don't know how long they will last either.

They told me it was a "mood stabilizer"
I tried to quit because I do not like the idea of psych drugs and quickly found out if I did so I'd have a seizure, which happened while driving a 2800lb vehicle.

Never take lithium.

Tread slowly drugs are uber gay

Gyms should be off limits to be social at all, I don't even want other dudes talking to me about shit. I don't care about your life when I'm lifting either spot me quietly or fuck off and watch take risks.

Trust me dude if they want you too approach them you would know by now.

Like another user said, they're probably taken already. Just hover around them and take creepshots like a normal person