Bdsm and lifting

As someone an active straight top there is nothing more infuriating to me than all of the middle age fatty neckbeards who call themselves dominant.

You can go to any party or munch anywhere and there will be a bunch of socially inept assholes who have never been to a gym in their life giving the whole damn community a bad name.

Personally I subscribe to the Henry Rollins school of romance where I couldn't imagine myself being involved with, much less dominant to, a girl unless I'm much stronger than her. But I can atleast respect the guys who put a lot of time into having an athletic body and run a lot.

What I can't understand is how you can call yourself dominant and be a fatty? Its about having control of yourself and your world, how can you not start with your own body?

Idk how many here can relate, just had to put my feelings into words.

Barneyfags all need to die

tfw name is Barney :(

hang yourself faggot

I sort of understand OP. But I feel disgusted on the other end of the spectrum; I'm a sub and am disgusted at how many subs are just middle aged fat men.

What triggered me lifting was looking down, dick in hand, while watching a femdom video with a fat balding 40 year old in it, and noticing my gut.

Honestly, some people use BDSM as an excuse; its the same with "dominant women"; people take advantage of the fetishism in order to bypass physicality. There are many fat, ugly dominatrices who get business/fans purely because some people are in so deep that all they care about is the fetish, whether its latex/leather, or harder aspects of bdsm (or even stuff like adult baby etc.)


Really the BDSM community just needs to stop being so fucking fat. I bet if everyone of us became magically trim and fit tomorrow, thousands would stop being "fetishists" because they'd suddenly have other options.

Hey, it's me again. Just wanting you to know that I STILL remember that chat we had about degeneracy.

My theory is that many people who are part of BDSM have issues with impulse control, which applies to all aspects of thier lives, including food.

Pls stop stalking me unless you're a hot woman who wants to dominate/switch me in which case pls be in London

Makes sense. I'd imagine its why BDSM has so many "lifestyle" fetishists too; its an inability to separate fantasy/impulse from daily life. Don't get me wrong; the idea is hot, but i'd never life it like a lifestyle; its just a kink I enjoy.

I know plenty of dominants and subs are are bedroom/private only, but some people just HAVE to drag it into literally everything.

I knew a guy named Barney Johnson. He had no middle names.

Be glad you're not him.

Sort yourself out.

>do nofap
>bdsm fetish crashes to dust with a bit of conscient avoidance, together with my now nonexistant libido
I mean, I'm okay with this.

I did try that but the itch didn't go away and it just led to me being even more degenerate when I crashed.

You gotta fill the time you spent on fapping with something else, otherwise you just sit and wait for it. Like with everything, SWITCHING STUFF OUT is the key to bettering yourself. You don't "stop eating trash", you SWITCH the trash food out with healthier food. You don't "stop" fapping, you SWITCH the fapping out with something more productive. And if you want to look at porn and fap, you SWITCH that out with NOT looking at porn and fapping.

I mean for me a big part of the turn on is that the domination aspect colors our whole relationship. I love the fact that there is always an implication that she is subservient to me, no matter how small. Part of that is probably that I\m not at all into tying girls up and stuff though, so its much easier to fit outside the bedroom.

That being said, what I can't is people who show it of outside their own relationship. Wearing latex in public spaces and stuff. I won't lie if someone asks me, but not kissing and telling is part of being an adult.

This

Yeah thats what i meant; like I don't mind people who have it always "turned on", but when some overweight gay dude goes out wearing assless chaps and a dog collar its too far.

Like I used to want my ex to wear remote vibes and used to lock her high heels on her sometimes when we went out. But I didn't parade her about as she was dressed up as a leather clad whore and start fingering her

I hate the whole representation of male doms as long haired hippy mode goth dudes wearing ill fitting clothing with goatees.

Well, that's what they are, the fucking degenerates.

That's what most of them are now. idk how old you are, but that's like 90% of all the

So i'm a 27 yo switch but i'm a city working briefcase wanker who usually has a decent haircut and well maintained trim beard, whose wardrobe is like 95% well fitted shirts, trousers and blazers

I can't identify with most maledom porn because of how pathetic most of the men look

I was into the """"""lifestyle"""""" for a long time b4 Veeky Forums
It's just dumb LARPing and is in no way to be taken so seriously as to cause you to be bothered by fat neckbeards calling themselves """"dom""""
If you were really, truly, dominant, you do not need to put a label on it...because dominant people don't need to ask for such dumb forms of validation

>hi i'm going to chat a load of random shit in an effort to tug myself off

You have every right to hate that dominant men in the BDSM community (oh wow look at that, there's a context that's missing from your post), are usually fat and ugly or look like high school goth rejects.

The BDSM community consists of fat girls desperate for attention and beta guys who try to find an alternative meat market because they have no chance in the real world. Kind of like male feminists.