Im straight and still trying to make it but theres this dude at the gym that I keep miring...

own it, if you're lucky you might get to suck some of their dicks

So he's got a great body that you mire. Great.

Do you want to go out with him? engage in romantic overtures? cuddle? have sex? and then fall asleep with him in your arms or vice-versa?

It's not gay, it's being open...

Both genders can be sexy
I would love a taytay/capMurica threesome

nah bro you just mirin
i catch dudes mirin me too but i'm like 97% sure it's not gay unless they talk to me

>cuddle

Can you cuddle with your gym bro and not be gay?

my best friend in the whole world lives with me. He's openly gay and has an on-again off-again boyfriend.

When he moved in all I had was a dual recliner. We'd sit together and play vidya and watch movies, and he started cuddling on me.

Now even though I have new furniture we cuddle up together before bed watching a show or two.

I have ZERO romantic interest him. I have absolutely no desire to get sexual. (he claims the same on both parts). But I have to admit I rather enjoy the cuddling...

sometimes it upsets and bothers me.

nigga you gay

1. it's normal that you like intimacy with another human being even if you don't want it to escalate to something sexual
2. I hope you're find knowing you're the reason his relationship isn't stable, 'cause you are

>find
fine*

I'd be alright with this

>im the reason

probably :(

And I broke up with my girlfriend last month because ive been getting tired of her bullshit nagging.

sometimes I wish I could be gay because him and I do get along so well.

nigga u gay

Asexual people can be happy in a relationship. This isn't much different. Not all relationships are about sexual attraction. If you are so happy with him and you wish you were gay to be with him, you can just say fuck it and be with him anyway. You could even try being sexual with him, you might even end up liking it. Of course, this could either go really well or really bad, but the point is that "I want to be with him but my dick doesn't get hard when I look at him" is not really an excuse not to be with someone you want to be with.

how would that even work?

>"I want you to stop seeing that guy and be with me, but I don't want to have sex with you."
yeah right.

The truth is there are several ways to go about it, but even mentioning the possibility of the smallest change in your current relationship could throw it completely off balance and make things uncomfortable.

Not the user you're replying to but why not?

Seriously? Get your emotions out of the way for a second and look at it rationally.

You said he's your best friend in the whole world. You already live together, so I assume the arrangement works? Do you guys see eye-to-eye on the house? Like are you both clean freaks or ok with the same level of unkempt mess?
Can you see yourself being ok with a sexless relationship?

Cuddling is an extremely intimate gesture regardless of whatever way you're trying to justify it. And I think you need to take a step back to appreciate the fact that he was the one who had instantiated it. The fact that he sought out that intimacy in you isn't just some happenstance "just because". The dude is gay, obviously knows you're not and put no only his physical safety, but emotional safety at extreme risk to engage in that intimacy seeking initiative.

Furthermore you didn't rebuff it, or cautiously establish barriers. You willingly let him into your boundaries and the fact that it continues to happen shows that you want it as well.

If you're THAT comfortable with him to be that intimate then there's already something there that needs to be addressed. Because going on the same path you and he have been on doesn't seem healthy. Especially on his part with an on and off-again relationship. That is not healthy. And whether you want to be with him or not, that needs to stop in one way or the other.

If you're ok being in a sexless relationship, or even an open relationship where both of you can seek out sexual stimulus safely outside of each other... then maybe there's something there.

As the other user said it's not always about sex when it comes to relationships but how rewarding your company is to each other. My grandpa's advice to me when I got broken up with the first time in highschool was "A relationship between two people should be greater than the sum of the parts." That is to make each other better than you were separately.

so what if I wanted to try to pursue a relationship with him? What should I do?

I agree that his relationship with that guy isnt the best and I see it negatively affect him when his man runs off again to some rave in the forest for a month.

but I dont know that I'm sure it would be healthy to be in a sexless relationship.

>but I dont know that I'm sure it would be healthy to be in a sexless relationship.
Do you not ever pay attention to comedians or sitcoms? sexless relationships happen all the fucking time.

And the fact that you preceded this question with "what i wanted to try to pursue him?" tells me the sex isn't much of a deciding factor.

Personally I could never imagine being in a relationship with another dude regardless of the sex. The intimacy isn't something I could pull off.

I don't know how you would go about it. But I can assure you it starts with communication.

How about starting the dialog with how you think his guy running off and leaving him for months on end isn't healthy. And bring up how much you're concerned about his emotional well being. Once the dialog is open, tell him what you're thinking.

What's the situation like right now?

>What's the situation like right now?
Honestly, pretty shitty lol. He found out yesterday that the guy ran off to Oregon on Friday. We're on a game of thrones binge with pizza and snacks.

Well regardless of what you decide should happen between the two of you, you need to get some god damn sense into that dude to quit putting himself in that fucking situation.

Running off to another state without telling your supposed "partner" for two fucking days isn't good. That shit needs to stop.

Flat out tell him he needs to stop dating that idiot.

Either way you're a bro for being there for him. Good job man. Good luck.

tbqhwyf you already sound like his bf

Buy him a jockstrap and get drunk

well i done did it.

I told him I thought he should stop putting up with his bullshit and dump him permanently. He said he agreed but was afraid of being alone. He was laying his head on my lap, so I put my hand on his shoulder and said "You're not alone. I'm here".
To which he replied "its not the same"
and I just said again. "I'm here. He's not"

We finished the episode and I told him "I mean it, I really don't want you to see him any more". He nodded and went off to bed.

Go sleep with him

>This much effort in a post
>On Veeky Forums

Good job, user. Not even gonna comment because that's some real dedication there.

I stopped watching porn, otherwise I'd definitely request source on that one.

gayest thread of the day

not even close. there was one where some user got hit on and anons encouraged him to ask him out on a date and he did it.

fucked up part was it was kind of cute.

>user is at his ex gfs house for a party
>they have a kid together
>user is out back smoking on a joint
>its night time
>the ex's brother comes out and takes a couple hits
>they get to talking about the stars
>user knows about the stars and points out venus and constellations
>the ex's brother takes another hit, shotguns user, slips him some tongue and goes back inside
>user posts that he's been thinking about it and might want to pursue it but he's too much of a pussy
>other anons tell him to grow a pair and text him
>he posts results

for me these two are the perfect combination of perfect body and no sex appeal at all.
Yeah captain america has a great body but seriously he has no charisma, he just looks like a random guy with good proportions who got buffed. Taylor swift also has an amazing body but god is she not sexy at all.

AAAAAAAAAAJAHDSGFAGGSAA
I WISH YOU GUYS SO MUCH LUCK OMG OMG OMG GO GET YOUR UKE

>guy at the gym sucked on his finger like that while giving your doe eyes?

lol. im tempted to try and figure out where this date will happen. he landed in "stl" about an hour later. I live in St Louis and the flights from Omaha land in about an hour. dunno if theres other cities though.

>people like us

What's that supposed to mean?

Nah, it's not gay if it's the body you want, as you're just projecting your desire. I'd argue Veeky Forums makes you a bit faggy though, with all the CBTs and obsessing over the male form.

Is it weird that shit like this turns me on?

I like the thought of being the guy in the black shirt.

>be minding your own business
>some fit gay dude starts hitting on you
>try to rebuff his advances but he persists
>reassures you it would be a secret and no one would ever know
>tells you that you know it will be better than a girl because hes got one too, so he knows how it works
>you try to resist
>but your stupid dick just keeps getting harder
>he knows you're getting turned on, that you don't want to do anything, and that if he keeps pressuring you and touching your thigh you'll soon give up
>you put resist a little longer for good show
>but finally your dick just wants to get sucked so you cautiously and slowly lean back and purposefully avoid eye contact

Wow, please tell us what happened next. What you said is cute as fuck.

nothing has happened. He had breakfast made when I got up like usual and went off to work.

it was quieter than normal.

You should have been more direct, baka. Keep in mind he has no idea you are anything but 100% straight. Your words are easy to miscontrue.

Also, please describe the both of you so I can play out your love story in my mind!

I'm not the guy who gave you that great advice yesterday, but here's my opinion.

Don't let it be quieter than normal, that's how things get uncomfortable. Act normal, if the topic of his bf comes up then just repeat yourself about thinking he should leave him. Don't explicitly say you want to take his place, but be direct enough that he won't be left with the doubt if you're serious, because from experience I can tell you that it's possible he thinks he's taking your words too optimistically.

But there's also the possibility that he doesn't want to ruin what you already have so he's avoiding the topic, in that case you should drop it and let him decide what to do next. It's up to you to read the mood.

Fuck that. Momma ain't waiting weeks for OP to man up. Go get your man and cuddle until you're both hot and heavy. Then share all the details here.

This board is for self-improvement

What's more self-improvement than finding someone you care about to share your life's joy and burdens with?

I'd fuck a dude if tatytay just once looked at me like that.

you're gayer than me, m8

>Im straight... but,,,

>emojis
They're already a thing

shit nigga that's cute af

>this thread is filled with gud things

If you lift you're gay desu. Think how much time you spend looking at naked men.

its because of the *intent*

We look at girls because we wanna mount them and slap them around

We look at guys because we appreciate the hardwork and dedication required to reach that physique.

Same reason we look up to self-made billionaires and people who are top of their field. Hard work and dedication is something to appreciate and learn from.