Personality improvement

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>are u a real grill? it would be funny if you posted feet pics lmao. like just as a joke haha, imagine that. but no really that would be funny post them! haha

Lmao fellow foot fag here. Got a real chuckle from this

Okay, I'm actually a trap, but I usually refer to myself as a woman, and my partner does too.
And sorry, I'm shy, I'm not posting my feet.

Yeah nevermind

Pretend

my man

here for the shitposting and Veeky Forums humor threads, absolutely gloss over all the toxic shit

Step 1:
Identify your personality types and your character traits. Personally, I like this one -but there are many others- and routinely give myself a check up every couple years or so to see where I am.
personality-testing.info/tests/IPIP-BFFM/

Step 2:
Once you know your current personality characteristics, you'll start to understand where you need improvement. There are exceptional channels on youtube that offer are variety of content from breaking bad habits to understand emotional blind spots. I, personally, have trouble sympathizing with others and often make character judgments based on comments made without context. Therefore, I simply google "how do I sympathize better" and over the course of my betterment I learn how to do just that.

Step 3:
Practice, practice, practice. If you're engaging with another human being, be it in person, online, or otherwise, you'll have ample opportunity to practice your particular skill set. Alternatively, I've read multiple studies about how only thinking about a certain subject or activity can improve performance. But "hands on" practice is tried and true and must not be neglected.

Step 4:
Be consistent. Self-improvement is a lifelong endeavor. You need to practice often and seek out new ways to improve yourself, otherwise just like muscles, your hard work will atrophy.

Good luck.

oh look. another humblebrag post on fit

hey 6 foot tall social stud fit poster, maybe you doing things like insulting your friends by calling them fat manlet DYELs is why your personality is shit you autistic permavirgin

Its honestly a numbers game. Just keep plugging away and don't get discouraged.

Also if you're socially retarded just ask about them and keep the conversation about them with occasional input about things you have common ground on.

>invalidate a female emotionally
what the fuck does this even mean?

you're not a fucking female then

It means treat her like a human bean and not just a meat sock.

Ayy girl you want some free drinks and your ass eaten?

so it offends you when your bf says you have PMS even though youre a male

Thank you for an actual response
>humble brag from social stud
I'm literally saying that I'm the opposite of a social stud. Also not a virgin.
Jeez why are manlets always so angry.

Literally an unlikable piece of shit. I'm only not a virgin because women have approached me first, I'm 6' and have 3 friends and those are the only people I talk to

life is fucking pain

trap faggot replied pretending to be me, anyways yeah I did get offended bc my period was a few weeks away at the time and it wasn't PMS. Idk it just seemed very rude. The attention whore part as well, because I open up my feels to a guy I trust, which I rarely do, and then he just flat out says I'm doing it for attention. I'm better now, but back then I was going through some serious shit that I hadn't told anyone about. just very insensitive person

How do I get friends at 30 years old and very successful in my field?

I have nobody anymore

If you could be another person, who would you be?

What does it have to do with calling her attention whore or drawing her attention to illogical behavior? Is that what you mean by a meat sock? I still dont understand the meaning of "emotional invalidation," sounds like a pile of dog shit

You've obviously never been Empathy'd:

>Hey, I can see that you're you're upset. Want to talk about it?
>That sounds tough. This clearly a frustrating situation.
>Sounds like it's hard now but I bet you can handle it. Let me know if there's anything I can do to help.
>Yes you can suck my cock, thanks for asking.

Get's 'em every time.

Then you're not a woman. Don't answer as one because you don't think as one

haha truth

That image is retarded.

Don't let the bastards here get you down. Live your best life.

But take the best lessons of Veeky Forums and push yourself and don't be a whiny little bitch about life situations, take control and change things through your sweat or blood or pain.

That is all.

You are more likable than me. I'm that genius that will never achieve anything because social retardation

Okay, how about this? Pretend you came home from a long and difficult day at work. Your boss or colleague has been slacking off or making professional life a challenge. You seek emotional support from your significant other -someone who's suppose to support you in a relationship- by venting your frustration but your significant other either ignores you or doesn't try to reciprocate understanding. How do you think that would make you feel? Probably not too good. That is emotional invalidation.

You just changed my life sir

Works the opposite for me. When I'm trying, people dislike me. When I stop giving a shit, people love me.

>Lazy open-minded decently sociable decently friendly emotionally unstable wreck
It's just telling me things I already knew.

What's your next step? Are you just gonna feel sorry for yourself until your dead or are you going to take initiative and do something about it? You're the only person who can make you change. It's not going to happen on its own. Every little step will bring you closer to your goal.

Change what? My personality? Nah, I'm good bro.

Just play to your strengths and make sure your weaknesses don't get pronounced.

Nope. Actual females need to be invalidated. Tell her you're not interested until she really works for it. Trust me. I'm a lesbian and it's literally given me the best amount of success by fanning disinterest. Also it's a numbers game.

If you're happy with yourself then good on you. But is that really what you want? It seems to me you've high-lighted your personality traits in a negative manner. You can't train the anterior chain and neglect the posterior; you will end up unbalanced and hurt yourself physically. Just the same, you shouldn't be content with only the positive aspects of your personality and neglect the complimentary parts of your emotional well-being. You will become unbalanced and hurt yourself psychologically.
It isn't easy to train the body and also discipline the mind. But you need to do both if you want to be truly healthy.

Bloody hell I should be swimming in friends and women, what is going on?

that's not how men feel though, you are invalidating their need of solutions to the exclusion of empathy, try to be more open minded

youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg

Guys maybe it depends on the situation.

Can't say, mate. This is just a stepping stone to better understand yourself.
Try making a list of things you do that you consider helpful to meeting your goals of "swimming in friends and women" and a complementary list of things you consider unhelpful. Spend a couple days to a week fleshing this list out as different parts come to light. I think the results may surprise you.

imo that means either:
1. you deluded yourself while taking the test
2. you accurately assessed yourself but just need to tweak how you present yourself

if you're 2 then that wont be too hard, as you are like 99th percentile conscientiousness; just recall times you've successfully socialized and make a habit of repeating what you did right

if you're 1 then you've got a lot of work ahead of you and it probably won't start here with any advice i could offer

I understand what you're saying but perhaps that's just how you feel. Most people are quite capable of finding a solution to a problem on their own. Have you ever had someone listen to you -I mean really listen to your problems- without interjecting their opinion about how you're wrong and they're right? How you can't see the solution but it's so simple for them? Most often when people feel the need to air grievances, that's the only reason they're doing it: to air the grievance. Unless they explicitly ask for an opinion they just want to feel like someone cares about their situation and how they feel. The classic depiction of a shrink is him/her listening to a patient complain. There's a reason for that. Given, that's a little bit different from emotional support but I hope the comparison gets my point across.

>tfw impulsive
>tfw disorganized
>tfw too critical because of Veeky Forums and lookism

i just want a fucking girlfriend.

I care about your situation and how you feel, that's why I want to fix it

This was my test. I am impulsive AF. I'm literally doing an amateur MMA fight and inviting my oneitis is that a good idea

Not that user, but was in 4 year relationship that partially dissolved due my thinking like that.

When people, in my case my gf, come to you to air a grievance, are doing so out of an emotional need to vent, not to actually find some hidden idea they maybe didn't think of. They want to feel like someone is on their side in a time where they feel they need it emotionally.

>impulsive
>disorganized
>lazy

it's the neet triad

i'm not a NEET tho

Haha. Yep, I completely agree with your conclusion. Fortunately most problems that require emotional support either resolve themselves with time or can be solved only by the person with said problem. It's a stroke of good luck on your part to be the one to have to listen and not have the problem. All you have to do is sit there and nod your head and validate their concerns. The challenge is not to stick your calm cool head into their chaotic mindset.

Alright I'll give this a go, thanks.
Na definitely 2., I know it's because of things like presenting myself and that but it is also because the type of people I want to hang round with (other gamers) tend to be social outcasts or whatever while I'm the exact opposite now so they see me differently compared to the rest of them.

It's kinda hard to explain but hopefully you understand.