When, why, how you dealing with it?
Myself, gave my gf of 18 months a choice, me or her new male 'close friend'. I'm now single and he came with her to drop my hoodies etc off. WTF happened to me there. He's 8 years older than her (she's 18) and has a kid.
You just dodged a thot man. You'll be better in the long term. Just focus on bettering yourself and get back out there.
Did this guy have FACE, HEIGHT AND FRAME?
you got cucked
First off that pic is WAY inaccruate
Women are more likely to either have fucked atleast 2 guys or be in a new commited relationship at one week after a breakup IF she got dumped.
If she did the dumping chances are she did so to be with her new bf
My tips for going through a break up are simple
1.Dont stress about getting laid, there is a shortage of girls putting out and a surplus of men so you are entering a very competitive market. Stressing brings about unhappiness
2.Girls move on quickly, she IS fucking other guys and she is happy with that. Come to terms with it
3. Focus on self improvement and getting your shit together, get a degree, go lift, eat healthy and stay healthy. Life wont get easier if you fuck yourself up over some chick who just does what comes naturally to her
I don't understand how people can be with someone for over a month and break up. People being together for years and breaking up is mind-boggling to me. So much dumb libcuck mentalities, most people have to change themselves to become a relationship type and you should be able to figure out if someone is good for a relationship or not right away. They say "it's better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all," but I say if you "loved and lost" then you didn't actually love at all. If you say I loved but she didn't then you still didn't actually love because she would have loved you back.
This is where I get confused. His face is fairly shit, he's shorter and less ripped than me and he has zero frame. I said to her today when I got my things, "so what you just snap your fingers and he comes running?" and she was like yeah. I didn't and that's why she ended it apparently with me. I lift 3x a week, go to uni 5x a week and work 3 days a week. She came after those things in priority and continually brought it up to me. I said IDGAF, that's your time. This fella comes round any time for her. He left his work and spent his lunch break to pick her up because she forgot her house key while I was in work and it was raining.
She doesn't want a relationship, she wants a slave
You've just made it crystal clear. I couldn't figure out what was wrong.
Her dad is cucked. British army, and cucked. He had to go live on barracks for a couple of days because the obese thing kicked him out. The mum rules the roost and my ex must think that's how it should be.
Sounds like you dogged a bullet man.
It probably won't feel like that at first, but give it some time.
This. Men take breakups a lot harder than women. The difference is that women socialize tragedy while men internalize it and it eats them from the inside out.
The only reason why tragedy makes men stronger like the OP shows is because we internalize it. We may fall off the horse for months but it will motivate you to rise from the ashes like a phoenix.
I'm in the process of breaking up with my girlfriend.
Frankly, in a sense I know it's for the best. She's not the type of person that I want to be in a relationship with, and at least half of the time we've spent together, I spent it considering breaking up with her, but I'm just a bit scared of being alone.
I guess that's kind of why I'm breaking up with her -- she never made me feel content, just sedated. I wasn't panicking because of fear of being alone, but I wasn't happy about the company that I was in, either. I'd much rather go back to the fear of being alone, which motivates me a lot more to lift super fucking heavy and better myself as a person. I started playing the saxophone again, hadn't played it in like a year because she didn't like it; I'm reading more and trying to improve my grades. Also talking to this really cute brazilian chick that seems nice enough, though now I know better than to want to anesthetize by any means the panic that loneliness causes me. I'll take it a lot more slowly, working on myself over everything else.
I'm married happy and muscular. I wouldn't know your feels.
I'm happy and muscular.
YER MOVE, BOI
everybody dies
make sure you die with more than her
ME TOO
This is all dumb. Why do you nerds get upset over breakups! People come and go. The only constant is that you will have you to rely on. Construct from value for yourself so you don't use a relationship to fabricate value. A partner needs to be an asset; a complement to your value. If they are a detriment, remove them. It's a fine process. One should never expect a partner to exist on their lives for any true length of time, and if they somehow do, that's amazing. It's not too dissimilar from Pascal's wager.
In the end, you can only control your reactions to external stimulus. There is no controlling or brute forcing others. There's no sense in getting angry or feeling sad about a partner that leaves. Anything they truly offered you, you should offer yourself.
I had one of girlfriends break it off saying "I can't do this anymore" and I responded with "it was your idea to start this". In turn she replied that she still was making a mistake. I agreed, told her it just wasn't going to work out, that I was far too busy and she wasn't ready. I offered for her to hit me up when she'd grown up and figured it out. A day later she was begging for me.
Sort yourselves out guys. It's just romance.
Do it bro. Earlier the better. I was stalemated, on and off for ages. I'm OP btw. Logically I didn't want to be with her, shes a bitch, different life plans, just rude and arrogant, different religious beliefs, constantly nagging.
But it became the status quo. I forgot anything else existed. Please do it bro.
>This fella comes round any time for her.
Then it is doomed to failure. Women might enjoy this in the short term because they can't stand to be lonely, but dudes like this are not respected by women... and not loved fundamentally. You did the right thing OP, let her go. Women are stupid, and don't know what they want until they don't have it. Give her plenty of space to miss you and think about you... under no circumdtances do you text her... but don't be autistic and break all ties on social media etc... she'll bore of her beta orbiter soon enough and be looking for a man.
Also, read Coach Corey Wayne's "How to be a 3% Man" because all men need to read it and it will change your life. He has a great youtube channel also.
Will be going no contact once I get all of my stuff back.
Cheers for the recommendation, How do you feel about TRP on reddit?
Should I delete the videos of her sucking my dick?
TRP? I don't use reddit.
No idiot
The Red Pill. Look it up, basically just an alpha male forum.
Okay. Was just wondering with all the just delete any image of her or anything to do with her, why would i keep a video like that
how's grade 10 treating ya?
Upload it to pornhub dumbass
It's just my opinion. I used to have a stockpile of 10+ girls vids and pics, nudes and sex and such. Deleted it all when things got serious with my current because I want her to be able to trust me but I would keep that shit. And if she's ever a huge cunt you have videos of her sucking cock to show her cuck dad or something
I've gotta say you're wrong on your first point, buckaroo
1. There is not a shortage of women putting out. If you're decently attractive and can hold a conversation a woman will gladly gobble your cock. Just because you have been unlucky in these pursuits does not change the fact that women are putting out.
2. Agreed. However from personal experience and from the bitch's mouth herself the quality of her finds have been subpar. More than likely your exes are fucking these other dudes comparing them to you and are slowly becoming consumed with self loathing. Every one night stand deteriorates their worth and they know this.
3. Again agree with you here but you're still a degenerate.
NOT FIT RELATED NOW FUCK OFF
dating while you're young is a meme, its 99% sure you'll break up over something stupid or someone will cheat.
i'm confronting my gf of 3 years today because i discovered that she cheated on me with her female friend couple months ago when she was traveling by herself (she told her best friend and she told her boyfriend, that is a really close friend), even though she is always insecure about me hanging out with friends or traveling without her, always talking about me cheating on her and shit like that.
After my bro told me that i realize how much of my life i was wasting with someone that i know i'm going nowhere with.
Save yourself some time and move on user, invest on yourself, on your career, on your hobbies, on your happiness, trully on YOURSELF.
dating is simply making someone else happy while they do the same, if its not like that, i can guarantee you its doomed
this shit hit me in the heart
A bunch of incels LARPing as alphas, you mean. That place is cancer and no better than the old Mystery PUA horseshit. The only two good things they preach are a) you must lift and b) be a fucking man
TRP and le rebbit are for bainlet manlets.
Hating half of the population because of a few people
Is a stupid and unhealthy way to live.
Always focus on bettering yourself and those around you
Hahaha holy fuck, please tell me this is bait
Oh man hahaha im literally lol'ing at you right now you weak beta faggot
Hahahahaha
We broke up in February. I have fucked about 14 women since then but I want some serious relationship now. I still think about her now and then though.
Agreed with this, do it ASAP.
Me and ex-gf knew we would have to break up due to distance, but dragged it out long-distance for months. One of my biggest regrets is not just cutting the cord sooner and being single with my bros.
Are you me?
The lays were good for awhile but now I'm looking for something more stable.
Believe it or not but random sex gets old
What do I do if I know we need to break up, but we live together in a one bedroom apartment? I don't want to be with her, but I can't stand the thought of her bringing other guys over to fuck
>but I want some serious relationship now. I still think about her now and then though.
why? i never understood that, you know deep down that its gonna be the same shit as with your ex, i mean, i'm about to break up with my gf but i'm 100% sure i won't want to date anyone untill i'm good with myself (its gonna take a while)
>What do I do if I know we need to break up, but we live together in a one bedroom apartment? I don't want to be with her, but I can't stand the thought of her bringing other guys over to fuck
move? find a roomate and move, its very likely that you'll find a better place for a fair price, also girls doesn't always take guys home, guys take them home, so you wouldn't have to worry much besides her coming home in the midle of the night smelling like alcohol and latex
I'd move if our names weren't both on the lease, you know? It's tricky. I was stupid to move in with her after being together for only a year. I need to stop being a pussy.
thats rough bro, but you can try talking to the landlord and explain him that you're no longer with her and get out without paying a fine, or you could break the contract, pay the fine and move on like an adult would
>I need to stop being a pussy.
all of us need bro, i'm trying harder everyday to prioritize my shit over my soon to be ex girlfriend
>together for 2 years
>she wants a dog so decided to get a dog
>leaves 3 months later to different country and takes the dog away
I still miss the dog sometimes.
>what is unrequited love?
you got a lot more learnin to do my grade 10 lad
>alpha males
>using reddit
wew lad
Strive to be the best you can be in all things regardless of others.
The woman was in the way of that goal so nothing is lost.
Gf of 4 years and I are fighting half the time now. I'm kind of also realizing we don't have a ton in common other than a few things like going out and watching netflix which is kinda shitty.
I got my first real job out of college, and I want to live by myself and she didn't like that. She wanted me to move in because she's lonely which I thought wasn't a good reason. I'm also not ready to get that deep in a relationship at my age.
I guess i really started really re-evaluation things recently when after she went on a two week trip with her friend, she came back and said I was cheating on her because I was losing weight. I told her usually the person who goes two weeks in a tourist zone is the one getting laid by random and that was another huge fight. Since then we've been arguing a ton with each argument getting uglier and uglier and I'm just getting to the point where I'm fucking over it. She also chastised me constantly for being "immature"which makes me not even want to talk to her.
I'm not afraid of being alone or anything, but we used to get along so great so im hesitant to give up, but i feel like the relationship is more of a job than something either of us enjoy.
Dunno what to do brahs.
bitches come and go brah. focus on yourself like you did before and you'll do well.
You have your shit together. She's 18. She will be back when she's done going through her roastie phase. Be sure not to let her back into your life.
The bullet you dodged mane, you have no idea.
I went through a bad breakup that shook me up for about half a year. My only advice is go out and live and wait, spending your time with your friends doing things you enjoy takes your mind off of it and the time kills the emotion.
It took me a while but I'm done and going after grills again, good luck anons and I promise you all as someone who's had those sleepless nights over it, that it does get better and you will become yourself again.
How long have you been together?
She dumped me more than a year ago, I have a new gf, I lift, job going good.
And fuck me upside the head i still have dreams of her asking me to give it another shot.
I've had "bad" breakups before, but this one wont let up.
Its been over a year, it should have subsided by now.
I paid 75k a year in cash to put my wife through school at a private university. It's what she wanted to do, so I supported her. She was never very smart and went for sociology. I should have known.. She kept me around for 4 years, I was working a factory job out of state to pay for it. (non union, so made over 100k a year with all the overtime) she graduated with a brain poisoned by social justice and feminism. found a job making $11 an hour and left me for a fat slob nu-male at work that affirmed her beliefs instead of shitting on them. (he has since transitioned into a "woman") I saw her a year later to finalize the divorce, she had gained at least 100lbs, covered her arms with shitty tattoos, and guaged her ears. I thank God every day that I didn't give her a child. My wife now is beautiful, perfect, and despises feminism, She's an atheist, but she's also hard working and fit. When people complain about wage gaps and all that she laughs in their face. She's making six figures in the medical field and is sending me to med school as well. and we have a son on the way (first kid for either of us). find a chick that is smarter than you are and build a life together user. perfection exists.
You deserve it user
That's literally the opposite of a cuck.
If he isn't raising the kid, no cucking happened.
>factory cuck
>wife put through 100s of thousands of dollars of liberal college over years
>meets atheist gf who fem doms him and pays for his med school
holy shit you sound like a fucking faggot dude
as for me, I'll probably die alone, and I stay up late a lot of nights thinking how I can get back at a world that births such fucking retards as you
You made the right choice, brev.
FIT is a mindset and way of life not just gravity physics, faggot.
Man this thread came just in time.
Girlfriend of two years long-distance just broke up with me 5 minutes ago. She looked through my phone when I was asleep, and found texts I sent to one of my female friends when I was picking her up to go to my friends party. I've never cheated on her once but she's assumed the worst.
We've been doing long distance and I'm taking my degree in software engineering and I'm studying half the time so I get why she has her suspicions when I'm not active all the time. Honestly, a part of me knows its for the best, since imagining a life in the future where I can't be trusted to have female friends sounds ridiculous. But fuck will I miss her. After two years you just get so used to doing everything together and become co-dependent. The distance will help, but I'm afraid I'm going to cave and get back with her if she comes back for me, this girl makes me weak as fuck.
Also, can't get over the shitty feeling knowing she's probably gonna tell everybody who knows me that I cheated on her. Any advice?
Let them think what they want. Chances are she will tell them that shit but at the same time they will automatically know there is a chance that she is telling them that to make herself look better. Basically when two people break up they are both equally annoying in everyone's eyes. Everyone.
Thanks man, I know my closest friends will know the truth, but still gets to me that people I hardly know will be thinking I'm some asshole cheating boyfriend when I'm around. Just gotta build that "fuck it" mentality. The thought of her sleeping with other guys soon also fucks with me immensely, how do you ever be okay with that when you still have feelings for her.
For me at least the way I get over the knowledge that my ex is fucking other guys and probably doing all the cutesy "i love you cuddle shit" is I'll think of times where she swore I was her one and only and that she wanted to be with me forever and then take solace in the fact that since she dumped me that makes HER a liar and even if she never thinks about how she's a liar, i can take joy in knowing it. Also... I got my ex to tongue my asshole a few times so whenever I think about her kissing new guys...
Also... Every post on her facebook lately is about Starbucks for lunch and cake for dessert. So while each rep gets me closer to my goals... She'll be getting fat and have to resort to settling for any loser that will have her in the end. That helps me a lot.
I haven't looked at my ex's social media in about 6 months because it caused me to have a mental breakdown last time and have made a pact with myself never to look again. But I fucking hope my ex is getting fat as fuck. My ex never worked out, ate like shit and drank, gained about 15 pounds while we date, and has no willpower or perseverance to do what it takes to lose weight... I hope she is fat as fuck and miserable while I'm in the best shape of my life, have gotten laid more times in the past year since breaking up than the entire rest of my life, and am making a big life change that will lead to lots of life opportunities.
Sorry for the blog post but I'm really hoping to encapsulate the "Success is the best revenge" and hopefully with more success the less I'll care. I certainly care less now than I did months ago, so I think it's progress.
pic not related, but have banged chicks equally as hot somehow during the last year
I'd settle for playing with that girl's feet so good on you for banging one as equally hot as her. And for sure the best revenge is success. Even if you can't stop thinking about the bitch, never let her or anyone you know, know that she's on your mind. Fake it till you make it and all that. I always like to think about how girls can get laid so much easier than men that they misconstrue that as having "moved on" without actually putting in the work it takes to truly move on.
I'll do my best and have been doing my best user, thanks. We're all gunna make it brah.
Man, why is this so hard, fuck. Broken up for less than an hour, and honestly I think I could just fake it til I make it, but a part of me desperately wants her to know that I did care for her the entire relationship. I know I should just move on and forget, but I can't let go of the thought of her believing never cared for her.
being exclusive with a single woman and not just fucking around
>lel
Just try hard. Try your goddamn hardest to not go out of your way to try and let her know that. One day maybe but if you try that too soon it will make you feel so much worse. No matter her reaction, you're gonna feel worse than you already do.
I'm getting pretty close to this girl, we're already fucking too. I am aware that over 90% of relationships fail and end in bad feelings, I am aware that this girl is younger than me and has less life experience and is less 'mature' (I hate using that word most of the time) than me so I know this whole thing isn't going to end in butterflies and rainbows. Just going to try my best to enjoy it for what it is without getting too attached to the whole thing. Anybody got any tips in this kind of situation? I'm practising a tip I heard about have fleeting thoughts about negative situations and just allowing it to be there for a moment, so if it does happen it's not completely new. But I sort of feel like if you expect the worst to happen it's not really healthy. Oh well we live and learn
I made the mistake of e-mailing my ex telling her how I felt. All I got was a "yeah breakups are hard" and that's all you'll get man. Don't give her that satisfaction of knowing you're hurting. If she gave a fuck she'd reach out to you. Don't make the mistake I made, it feels very emasculating afterwards. We're all rooting for you here man, we're all gonna make it, everyday you continue onward is a day of victory. Women will never know the suffering dudes go through after breakups, but they also will never know that absolute victory and great feeling that comes out of overcoming adversity. You got this, I believe in you.
Fuck, thanks man, really needed to hear this. I just have a feeling she'll ask me to get back with me in a few days, but I'm gonna stick to my guns, she's been fucking with my emotions way too often and its honestly been turning me into a mess. I just know that when I don't take her back she'll accuse me of never caring for her, and that this break up is "so easy" for me because I never wanted her in the first place.
Honestly love this board, been lurking here for a year, never really posting, but this thread just came to me at the perfect time.
Any advice about this situation?
Met qt virgin in February and kept her close while I was fucking a (soon to find out) slut. Find out slut is a slut, immediately drop her ass and start to get close to qt. Become bf to qt, her first, etc. We are still together currently. We both graduate in the spring and is presumed that a LDR won't work. Should I enjoy the time with her until spring then end it or what? I mean the world to her.
Same user who replied to you. There's 3.5 billion chicks in the world. The fact that you go to the gym (or at least, I hope you do lel), puts you ahead of 50% of dudes. If you have other things going for you, you're in the top 75%. If you don't, use this time to start working on those things - hobbies, career, self improvement. Audiobooks have been a godsend for me, because I can go for walks/jogs and catch up on Greek philosophy, yukio mishima, fiction, all the shit I've been to busy to get to. Just keep on improving and you'll essentially be able to pick any chick you want dude. I think conditions for men in the world are just going to get worse, so the more you work on yourself now the better position you'll be in. Think of all the shit about your ex you don't like. Think about her physical flaws that will only get uglier with time. Think about how you could find someone better in every way. You deserve that and can do it if you make the tough choices you know you need to make and persevere dude.
I was in a LDR with a girl for 7 years. I was about to move there and be with her in under 4 months. She just broke it off with me and dumped me and said she will never talk to me again. Shit hurts. I have been paying for school by myself and working through an engineering degree with a learning disability in math. This has fucked me up in the head so bad. I dream about her every night and I wake up sweating and the constant anxiety is getting to me. I just keep lifting, working, going to school. At least I got some internship offers today. So that's nice. I hope it will get my mind off things. I've only ever dated one girl my entire life and have only had sex with one girl. I'm 23 now and I just don't know how to use tinder or any of that stuff. I'm going to a therapist Friday because of the anxiety and other shit in my head. Will this get better?
>when
About a month ago
>Why
She is training to join the marines and says she has no time for me
>how are you feeling with it
Poorly at first but it's gotten easier , we are still cool and I've broken lots of prs in the gym
No shit, give it some time and you'll see this is true.
Honestly feel completely shit about my relationship ending, but I'm honestly in a better place right now than I was before I met her. Been lifting consistently for over two years, despite her telling me to stop. Graduating with a masters next year. I honestly feel like she's holding me back, but I just got so used to doing everything with her and being happy with it. Gonna be a hard adjustment, but I'll get through it, thanks man.
>Me and ex-gf knew we would have to break up due to distance, but dragged it out long-distance for months.
This is likely going to be me soon. We've done the long distance thing through college (inb4 "cucked", she's very loyal, as am I) and I'm graduating soon. I'm starting to sweat at the thought of having to do long distance more, which she doesn't want to do. We're going to try and end up in close areas but she's likely going to stay in our hometown with her parents for a year or so to save money, I'm trying to gtfo of there. Not looking forward to that part of my future
...
Nah, OP did the least cucked thing he could have done actually. No more dumb roastie to keep him chained down
It's hard to choose a favorite among so many great posts. But this post is one of the best, most powerful posts ever written about self-preservation and dignity. It's universal message crosses all boundaries and instills one with the hope that it's not too late to better ourselves. Since, user, it's impossible in this world to empathize with others, we can always empathize with ourselves. It's an important message. Crucial, really. And it's beautifully stated on this thread.
My gf of 8 years dumped me and moved in wirh a guy a week after we broke up. The only thing that got me through it was lifting and exercising. The only thing that heals your broken heart is time. It hurts and you'll feel like you're gonna die, just understand eventually enough time passes and you'll be over it. Might as well lift and better yourself with that time. Side chicks do ease the pain but don't let that be your main outlet. School/lifting/work are all great outlets. One year will pass in a heart beat and you'll be way better off
fuck man, thats tough. Im starting to realize that relationships do require a fair bit of work. It's just hard to recognize the threshold where it's too much work. hope it works out for you man.