Starting Social anxiety

Starting Social anxiety

what is the best program for getting rid of this curse?

is it truly just exposing yourself as much as possible?

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In my experience, yeah. But for me, it's more like learning how to act like a normie despite being anxious on the inside than not being anxious at all.

alcohol & drugs do the trick for me

what helped me is getting some ambition. i didnt even realize it but most of my life i was searching for reasons to suck dick at socializing and focusing on the negative.

once i realized what i really want, and the fact socializing was something to get me there, it really didnt do shit for my social skills but it did make me realize social skills are a muscle and its really not a big deal when i fuck up, its like missing a rep at the gym.

that and self/reflection. You will want to take walks by yourself analyzing what troubles you and make you feel anxious and the reasons why you should not feel that way. It took me a little under a year to really get a grasp. Everything is cool now.

Be less opinionated, make funny, be nice, and be positive, if you feel yourself getting anxious or angry, remove yourself from the situation. Thats what I do and most people love me, not one person outside my family has ever seen me upset or angry, makes them think I'm invincible.

Pretty much yeah, exposure therapy works.

I went travelling last year for about 6 months living only in hostels, at the start I was a socially retarded autist avoiding most people and at the end I could speak to anyone pretty comfortably

Fake it till you make it stands true

I used to be really bad, all my mates knew I struggled. So I started this act in front of my mates as a joke that I was super confident. It was just a joke between me and them at first and I'd basically act like Chad. As time went on I was involving strangers in this sharade. I would start asking girls to settle an argument on whose abs or arms were better between my and my mates etc. I wouldnt even think about what I was doing. It was all just an act, a mask. So it wasn't really me that I was exposing to these strangers so I had no worry about them thinking I was weird or a dick. In fact being thought of as a dick was part of the aim half the time.

Alcohol and being naturally quite funny anyway helped a lot.

cocaine and heroin for the come down

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Social Anxiety is self-inflicted desu. When I was a kid I had alot of friends, decently popular, all was good.

But then when I became a teenager I started playing more and more vidya. Spent all my time sitting in my room playing shit like WoW. This went on for years, and more and more I started feeling uncomfortable in social situations. This just became worse and worse as months passed by. Eventually it turned into full-blown social anxiety, I just wasnt used to social settings anymore and they made me feel very uncomfortable.

Few years back I just started being more social again, playing less vidya, being inside less. I slowly became comfortable with socializing again until ultimately it all dissapeared again.

If you create it you can destroy it

Love yourself, expose yourself to the outside world, try to listen to people if you are not good at talking, idk

>what is the best program for getting rid of this curse?
Stop jerking off. I thought it was a meme, but after about two weeks, your energy level goes way up and you crave action. take a leap of faith.

Doesn't matter. If you don't have the intelligence to take this to /adv/, you'll never learn how to modify your own thinking/behavior patterns.

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your are running away from the problem you need to face it

Just talk to people
Don't act so reserved because of your interest
Say you're in college, after a month you should know the names of some of your classmates

If you're fit enough to be considered attractive by girls then maybe you could try weed. Not a shit ton but like one bowl or something before doing shit can help. It makes me stick my head into conversations I usually wouldn't just because I have something funny to say and the weed actually makes me feel like saying it instead of just thinking it like I usually do.

Pretty much how I've made half of my friends rn lol

Therapy sessions.

B-b-but I get nervous even looking at females how am I supposed to flirt with them

I know people say to do exposure therapy or whatever, but what if I get physical symptoms? I know it's all in my head, but it affects my body with nausea, upset stomach, loss of appetite and more. I can't just ignore it.

Man, pot makes my anxiety in general fucking sky-rocket.

I have no problem flirting, being part of a conversation, leading a group... IF I KNOW THE PEOPLE I TALK TO or AM APPROACHED FIRST.

My only problem is that I can't approach first and that I don't have a group of friends. For example this weekend, I was in the club with a friend and I saw this milf dancing with her friends. I didn't do squat but look at her and then forget. Later that night she comes to me while I was sitting down and says "I like you", I say "I like you too" and then we madeout. Fucked her in the ass and spit in her mouth last night.

See what my problem is?

You from Victoria?

You can start by getting a job.

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it's not an actual condition, you know that right?
it's just something that happens to cunts who don't go out a lot, it's called not being used to something.

You need somebody to help you and bring you gradually into controlled situations with just a small number of people to start with. Don't just show up at a party or event.

Some things that have helped me a bit:
>stop listening to headphones in public, observe normies and how they interact
>work in a customer service job so people will come talk to you and you get some practice responding to questions
>Try nofap/noporn if you have particular difficulty interacting with women
>focus on good posture, look confident, feel confident and you will be more confident

You seem more developed than I am but we're pretty damn similar on that front.
I can HOLD conversations, maybe even be somewhat interesting or at least enjoyable to be around once someone talks to me, or at least I think people find me just fine to talk to but...
I never ever initiate anything myself. And it's odd because normally I think "someone is a bit weird, I wouldn't give a shit, so if I do something a bit odd it's no big deal" normally right? But when it comes to initiating conversations or even flirting, EVEN THOUGH I think "I would like it if someone talked to me, and would enjoy it if someone flirted" I still can't bring myself to actually start talking to others out of the blue like ever. I just think i'd be perceived as a creep or a weirdo, even if I conversed decently.

I also don't go out with people i've gotten to know a bit, even though every time I do something social, I know deep down that it was a good time and that I should do it more.

It's odd, really.

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I took this shit and my whole world view changed. I would start small chat with people no problem and it wasn't something I do before. Thanks for reminding me to get more of this shit

>talk in a group conversation
This is retarded. Unless you know somebody in the group don't do this