Git fit

>git fit
>git gf
>she loves me, I love her
>stat being more honest and show her my sensitive side and my insecurities
>she leaves
>rinse and repeat

Okay, what now, Veeky Forums?

Feel the pain of everyone
... and then feel nothing

You need to know a girl at least a year before you be sensitive.

5 years minimum before you get into all the really deep insecurities.

>he tells his gf his feefees
Never ever tell a girl your weaknesses. Loss of attraction instantly
A. Get a therapist
B. Stop being a faggot

Embrace absurdism and start banging club sluts to fill the emotional void you're left with.
Gradually gain the experience to know how to decide what you want and how to obtain what you want.

I have come to the conclusion that I am alone, regardless of me being in a relationship or not. No one will ever be a companion to me. No one will ever comfort me when I feel down. And no one will ever show me a shred of mercy if I show weakness. I have met a fantastic girl whom I plan to marry, and we've been together for quite a long time now, but these things dawn on me more and more.

This is life, user. Your sensitive side and your insecurities are yours, and you have to bear this burden alone. Your job is to find solace in solitude nonetheless, and not succumb to loneliness.

>you became fit to seduce roasties
>tfw you start hating roasties once you can seduce them

exactly, user. I thought she was the one I wanted to marry, thought she was "special" and "different".
Am so fucking naive...

The only way is to conquer our own emotions.

Women are incapable of it so they will be attracted to the ones who can get over their feelies.

keep going

sick reference bro

Women don't like a blubbering vagina or weak man.

They like a strong man with a weak side.

Unfortunately there's probably no woman short of your mother you'd be able to bare your entire soul to. Price of being a man.

>Unfortunately there's probably no woman short of your mother you'd be able to bare your entire soul to. Price of being a man.

For fuck sake I didn't need to hear this that bluntly.

maybe you should stop having such fake and shallow relationships?

You thought a woman would accept you as you are - that is, weak. You fucked up. See, that's why I like that pic I posted.
>You buckle on your armour tight.

You're in for a fight, a battle. You're not in for a fucking holiday. There's female hypergamy, she'll ditch you the moment she thinks she can do better, make no mistake. Most will do it even if they are married, so that's no excuse either (plus you'll get fucked by the court system as a bonus) And that's the point - live your life in a manner that she should KNOW that she couldn't possibly find a better male, because you're THAT good. And you have to understand that for that to be the case, you musn't show weakness, or only in a very controlled, mild form. Essentially, you have to be composed even when you're breaking down. It's not easy to pull off.

Yes, you were naive, and so are 99% of males. But that's why you have to don that armour once again, and fight like there's no tomorrow. Because in a way, there really isn't, and that's yet another reason to keep up the struggle.

Stop being so fucking naive before your gf starts fucking behind your back. has put it, albeit a bit vulgarly, but nonetheless spot on.

Just finished reading the way of the superior man, and this is a point I wanted to work on next. How to keep your insecurities to yourself, instead of constantly outwardly seeking approval. Is there any read that you would recommend.

And the point of having a gf is what then? Having someone to tell you their problems and expect you not to do anything but listen, someone to spend money on and for sex? If that's all that comes from having one, I'll stick to prostitutes.

what kind of insecurities did you tell her about?

Not him but
>I godda say I don't like the fact that you have more and more guys from work in your phone and text them all day and spend more and more weekends with them
Something along the lines. Response is usually
>omg I can't believe you are jealous, you don't trust me, omg how can you do this to me etc.

That's usually the point where I fuck off and things are over, since I see no point.
The whole texting/spending time with the opposite sex a lot while in a relationship just makes no sense to me, since I myself never do it.

Sure, it's a weird thing about me and pretty much my insecurity, but that doesn't make it void. It's there, it always will be and so long it makes no sense to waste time on relationships (for me).

you're in the right imo

I dunno, her intentions might be pure, but i doubt the other guys' intentions are. The fact that she doesn't understand this, is a bit troubling. As such, it might be interesting to try and explain that guys are only friends with women for sex to the next girl that does that to you.

But all things considered, you're probably saving yourself from women who will eventually "accidentally" sleep with other men.

>I dunno, her intentions might be pure

best case scenario she's only using those guys as self-esteem boost, knowing she could fuck them if anything went wrong with her bf, even if she supposedly doesn't have that "intention".

>the only people in this world who know your deepest feelings and problems are random strangers on the internet you're likely to never meet

all that in return for what? after all that why the fuck would I ever even want a woman?
useless

>i can't believe you're jealous
How can i not be babe, you're amazing. Jealousy is just a natural feeling
>you don't trust me (i think she's projecting this because there's a reason to not trust her, but okay)
I have complete faith in you, it's those other guys i absolutely won't trust. After all, i was once just a guy that was your friend. It'd be naive to believe that there aren't wolves in sheep clothes here. That's why i feel uncomfortable with this situation

Don't attack her, help walk her thru your feelings and negotiate

Stop. Just stop.

I want to hope there's some shred of humanity in those fucking cunts.

quickest way to get dropped right here

...

>Be alcoholic NEET
>put on weight
>Basically do nothing but shitpost, play videogames and be miserable
>Still quite social, loves small talk IRL and on the internet
>talking about my problems to randoms all the time online, not that I'll keep contact long with them
>Talk to one girl, among others online, don't give much of a heck talking about my shitty situation when smalltalking
>We hit off
> motivates me to improve instead of lamenting

It's been 3 years. I truly do not deserved her.
Lost 60lbs, stopped drinking, stopped smoking, started competing in KB again.
I was at my lowest, and the shit I told her in my drunken rambling were absolutely miserable. Now I'm at my highest and I've never been more happy.

I hope you find yours as well user.

she will also be your downfall to your former self

good luck

This shit right here is what keeps me up at night. Maybe I'm just a useless ideologist and believing in the whole "soulmate" who you can tell anything is something I should drop as soon as possible.
But then again why live and why lift? And don't give me that "do everything only for yourself" crap... That makes me hate humanity more than anything.

Yes
But the reciprocal should be true. Don’t get a trash tier gf who tells you all her problems (negative, dependent, insecure)

I took the prostitute and therapist pill; life’s never been easier.

Happiness doesn't resign in women dude, that's why you gotta get passionated about things and do them for yourself, because working hard and accomplishing goals is what gives meaning to life, not a woman that expects you to be her dad. Isn't there anything you like to do?
Also if you trully do lift for women just stop, after all the "perfect soulmate" would be so vain to be interested in just your muscles?

Welcome to women psychology 101. Women are instinctively turned off by men when they show emotions.

Of course a bf with problems is a liability and not an asset
>expend energy on his happiness
>weak emotional fortitude

christ thats awful advice

gotta agree with on this one

Unless she's completely inexperienced, if she's frequently hanging out with other dudes on the weekends without asking your approval then she's already made it abundantly obvious that she doesn't want to hear about your feelings.

If she wants to play games, then the only correct way to respond is by playing games. In this case, ignore her completely when she's out with other dudes and go partying yourself. Basic cat and mouse. If she has a lame/boring time, she will naturally seek out your attention. If she has a good time and is silent about it, then clearly her need for attention was sated by something else (a big black cock, for instance). Drop her and find someone else. As an added bonus, all that time you spent partying in the meantime will help with this.

Now, if this type of manipulative behavior strikes you as a shitty way to conduct a relationship, you'd be right. You can avoid this entirely by finding a girl that doesn't play games.

>5 years minimum before you get into all the really deep insecurities.
You might as well keep it to yourself until you die or just share it with friends and family. Your relationship isn't going to survive you going through some gay life crisis 5 years in and revealing weaknesses to her.

Bad advice, user.

This guy gets it.
Girls literally just want to have fun and be protected. Fuck with that in any way, by being sad or pathetic or weak and you might as well break up with her because it's already over.

Your baggage is 100% your own to carry, and if you want to be something more you are expected to handle your baggage, theirs, your potential future kids etc.

Do not unload baggage.

You forgot the part where you get her addicted to your dick like the submissive little cock hungry slut she is.

what if I would like an enjoyed having family?

y-yeah I can do that, just f-forgot

Stop being a sensi

>live your life in a manner that she should KNOW that she couldn't possibly find a better male, because you're THAT good.

my fucking man, A1 advice when it comes to women

welp, time to board up those emotions and never let them out again

let them out on Veeky Forums, user. we understand

My most successful relationships (longest lasting, most sex having, best chemistry, etc.) have all been the ones that I revealed the least about myself in. The less I show a girl I care and the less they know about me, the more they wanna fuck and the longer they stay around. The moment I share something secret / sensitive with them, the relationship starts a slow, yet stead decline. The only woman I ever dated that I let see me cry ended up straight up cucking my shit not even a month later, despite the fact that I actually relied on her at my lowest low (she knew this and requested I let her help and support, and all that bs), so, yeah. Needless to say, we split and I have never shed a tear in front of a woman since (aside from my mother, at dad's funeral).

Fuck women like they are worthless, never give them the time of day, and never reveal a thing, weakness or not, because once a woman smells blood, or sees a chink / crack in your armor, she knows how to fuck your shit up, and will do just that out of spite if you let your guard down. Just keep working out, keep getting swole, live your life, and dedicate the bare minimum to women and you will be much better off, user.

is that a dinosaur jr ref

let them out on Veeky Forums, to a therapist, to your dad, to close MALE friends

women are inherently weaker creatures who can't help you anyway

OP get a close male friend (that you won't fall for) that you tell your fefees too.

I've been going to a therapist lately, it helps tremendously. I had an ex of 7 years where I was a beta cuck boy and cried in front of her. I told her all of my baggage and shit that happened to me. That bitch of a relationship began to rot to a dried husk then threw me out. Anons reading this I beg you, please take this to heart as to what others have said. DO NOT show a woman your weaknesses, they will leave you, they will use it against you in ways that are manipulative. Don't over invest shit into that dynamic and you'll have the power. I had shit used against me and I'm never telling a woman a single thing about my past unless it's something trivial to satisfy their curiosity and their need for fun.

I have to sort of agree with this user, but to a lesser degree. I'm not mad at women or anything and a lot of them are different, but I know from experience you should never use them as your support foundation. Rely solely on yourself, your guy friends, and your mom. The moment I hit rock bottom (lost job, running out of money, etc...) my fiance started fucking around on me. I bore my soul to her and loved her so much I would've (and did) given up everything for her. She was my best friend and my partner and my feelings and life meant less to her than some random cock. So yeah, never let them in all the way. It's a fucking mistake you will literally pay for.

Having kids moron

Girl here
I don’t think she left you because you’ve opened up op, even you know it’s not why. Try to think of other reasons?

When a bf opens up to me about things that hurt him or people who have hurt him I get very loving emotions towards him, that I want to hold him forever and makes sure he’s ok like motherly I guess, I feel like I must protect hin and make sure nothing and no one ever hurts him because he’s mine, my baby

>like motherly I guess
>my baby

and that's when you start loving attraction to the weak "man" and start to see him as a boy

Reminds me of a leddit thread a few years back.

A guy had told his wife how he had suffered due to his height (he was manlet) and one night she asked if it wouldn’t be best if she got semen from a tall men so their son wouldn’t grow up short, dude pretended he was sleeping and didnt hear it.

Shit it brutal, never tell your insecurities to women.

>>stat being more honest and show her my sensitive side and my insecurities

Found your problem user

*losing

Don't show emotion.
Don't show weakness.
Don't show insecurity.

That shit will be observed, dully noted, and spit right back at you passive aggressively in the form of snotty comments when someone doesn't get their way. Or it will come at you directly and challenge you and your masculinity by someone using your own fears and emotions against you.

>sensitive side and my insecurities
It depends, really. If you are being a bitch, then it is no surprise that she leaves you. If you have some problems, but solve them just fine, she won't leave you. If she leave you over a single minor problem, then she is a cunt and you are better off without her.

>get fit
>feminist girl from highschool likes me way more now
>also complains about me being hyper masculine

i dont get it

ideology can't trump biology and primal instincts

this

I've seldom found a woman with her emotions in check. come to think of it I haven't met many men like that either. I'll never let my feels out to a girl again. not that I get hurt but It just makes me feel weaker afterward. Men understand men a lot better than women understand men. I've found that neither give any good advice.

Theres a right way and a wrong way of showing your emotions to your SO, idiot. She wont care as long as you dont present yourself as a victim of your problems

if I was your boyfriend reading that I'd feel physically sick

any man who actually wants what you just described is a pussy

You can show your emotions to her about real ass shit in your life, like a family member dying or something. Never, ever, ever vent to her though. It feels good to vent sometimes about something that is frustrating you, but never vent to your significant other. She will begin to see you as a bitch that gets upset about everything, even if it's just you letting off steam.

>tfw you dont want women to think your insecure
>tfw you also want a motherly qt gf to big spoon you

what the fuck is wrong with me

Man, you are a faggot.

That pic makes me want to play Skyrim

>love
>implying

...

This is bullshit. Don't ever take advice from women or from a faggot claiming to be one.

wonder why they are now exes despite such motherly love

despite what thinks is right about what most women think. eventually they stop giving a shit

Thats called the seducers paradox. The more you understand them, the less you want to be with them.

>since I myself never do it.
Well then, try to.
And when she inevitably throws a bitch-fit just smile and say:

>omg I can't believe you are jealous, you don't trust me, omg how can you do this to me etc.

>he thinks his gf/ex doesn’t feel this way too
We just don’t say it because we know you too well and don’t want to hurt your manly man ego, we still think you’re a man because (you are)

Nothing

You appear as cold and autistic if you don’t open up and share emotions, opening up is a big part of a relationship imo. A wife/gf is more than just someone you fuck, don’t listen to r9k. Everything in life is about balance, stay balanced don’t be too emotional or too cold and that’s advice for both genders

First one we both moved away for college
Second and third were very controlling and jealous, third wanted me to stop going to the gym coz there are other men there (ive told my story before)

And no I didn’t lose attraction to third “because he opened up” ( I still have feelings for him but I can’t isolate myself from the world to keep him happy)

>he can bare his soul to his mother
Check your normal-family privilege. I'm on Veeky Forums instead of living a normie life because my mommy was a crazy bitch.

Explain to me how you think women can find being motherly attractive

You like strong men but you also want them to be weak???Doesnt addup

> the only correct way to respond is by playing games
>Drop her and find someone else
> You can avoid this entirely by finding a girl that doesn't play games
Life's short, my nickel minus 3 pennies on it is to not play games. Move on, and find a proper woman for a mature relationship that doesn't cause you more stress or unhappiness

DUDES

I'm friends (orbiter?) with a girl who I was fwb for a couple of months (she has since got a bf) but I've shot myself in the foot.

I've been alone since and find it very hard to find non-fatty girls who want to fug, and sadly at this point in my life to go out and "just get more pussy bro", so I've been doing nofap and noporn to try to motivate myself (all it's made me is thirsty and desperate).

Then a few days ago I got a huge pang of self-worthlessness and basically wanted to see if people had any nudes of her, not even to jack it to, just to see if people did/would.

The TL;DR is someone tipped her off and screen shotted my comment, and sent it to her.

She then sent it to me and asked if I knew anything about it.

I denied it.

Carried on with my day. But after going to my monthly counseling/psych session we spoke about how I'm ultimately lying to others because I can't lie to myself about how shit I am at the moment.

Anyway, I ended up telling her that it was me and the reason for doing so (loneliness, I never seem to be able to hold on to good things, etc.).

Obviously the ball is in her court. But I think that I'm going to lose her completely.

I'm turning 31 this year.

I can't keep it up guys. I just want to have success with women, but it's like I'm fighting in my own head between what I was raised to do and what ACTUALLY works. I want to maintain the illusion, but I know it's an illusion. Basically that bald guy from the Matrix.

>A surprise twist! She's bffs with the person I houseshare with so she comes over pretty frequently.

Maybe it’s that we like being needed? Idk user I’m not good at analyzing I’m just telling you how I honestly feel

>wanted to see if people had any nudes of her, not even to jack it to, just to see if people did/would.
lol wut

where did you ask for someone else's nudes, you skipped that part

My girlfriend encourages and helps me to succeed and I do the same for her. I don't spend money on her (beyond the cost of going out myself that I'd spend even if going out with friends) and she lowers my cost of living by paying rent to live with me in my condo.

While I enjoy her support, what I don't do is unload all my problems on her. That would just be exhausting for us both; I want our interactions to be positive. Instead I use some girls who have crushes on me to vent.

you are ugly tho, so nobody gives af about your pure feelings darling.I'd rather fuck a cold hearted 9/10 and get dropped off later than stick around with a sicko 4/10 seeking affection.Its not a coincidence only ugly ass people talk all that emotional bs but only the good looking ones are having the action

Look Niels you need to stop going on r9k, women are only people

i might rather be with a 6/10 mommy gf than a 9/10 cunt

Some gfs are for fucking and others are for loving, never get the two confused.

applies to both men & women.If you're ugly you better cut all that emotional talk, its just cringy, keep it to yourself.Literally nobody cares about an ugly person's love apart from other ugly people, thats the harsh truth like it or not.

>When a bf opens up to me about things that hurt him or people who have hurt him I get very loving emotions towards him, that I want to hold him forever and makes sure he’s ok like motherly I guess, I feel like I must protect hin and make sure nothing and no one ever hurts him because he’s mine, my baby

A beautiful non damaged woman would never say weird shit like that,its only fair.Picture this quote being told to you by a 9/10, you'd hold some value into them despite it being weird already.Now picture an ugly ass woman saying the exact same thing, you'd be like "gtfo nasty ass psycho".If you deny it you're a liar or ugly or both

you ever worry that you might be a serial killer later in life

>Okay, what now, Veeky Forums?

Just sage and repoted for non-fit reIated posts :)