How do I become more confident without faking it?

Posture

Back straight, shoulders back, head first, and you already stand out like a winner. Here's a technique I picked up from a very good book

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Why are you insecure? Because you're a virgin or other reasons?

Doom metal.
Not even memeing.

I got bullied in school, withdrew from any social activities as a result and now I’m afraid people will laugh at me in just about every situation.

Whenever I try to have perfect posture I feel like I look tense and uptight, what do?

Pretend you are perfect but don't lie. If you have flaws, keep quiet about them. If someone asks, make a joke and laugh about them.

Onions, lots of ONIONS

this is good advice.

Haven't experienced this issue myself. Maybe you're bringing in your shoulders too much? Relax them bit by bit until it's comforting, then see if you're still in good posture

You're either naturally confident or you get confident at faking it.

>>/swamp/

By faking it long enough that it becomes a part of you

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This is so true, the vigrin walk meme is fucking real. Never slouch or look down, nobody will respect you.

Same here bro but realise it was a good experience. But you were young back then, now you're a man. You can't get bullied anymore.

Also nobody will fucking laugh at you, they're more liking mirin, or thinking of you when they masturbate.

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Be something you're proud to be.

Just stop caring so much what other people think.

Achieve something you'd be willing to bring up in conversation.

Realise everything is subjective and what you might see as lame others may see as incredible, and therefore opinions of others should never bother you because you'll ALWAYS find one who disagrees with you if you're scared, or one that agrees with you if you're proud.

People's opinions and feedback are usually a reflection of how you see yourself, because it's a response to how you present yourself subconsciously.

Fake it till you make it is a legit thing but only if it's "I'm successful and good at what I do" when you haven't pulled it off.
Faking being a world Champion is good if you're training every day for hours at a time.

Faking being rich at a club on a Saturday isn't cool if you're earning 40k a year.

To be confident:

>Do what you love. It's not a cliche saying, it's the best advice. Not just in a work sense but life in general
>Become good at things you'd be proud to talk about
>Become the kind of person you'd be proud to know if you were to meet them at a bar one day. Remember just being on the journey to becoming this person is almost as good as becoming the person. It's simply a journey and people can respect that.
Most importantly
>Understand that you don't ever need the approval, permission or consent from others to be who you are.

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Also remember to eat your onions

I like to pretend that I'm an alien from a civilization where people(aliens) pay money to get disguised as humans then their memory of being an alien is temporarily blocked (presumably it would ruin the effect) and their existence is temporarily stitched into people's memories (parents, old friends). Then when you get back to the alien world you get to enjoy the memory of being a human. It takes a lot of stress off knowing I'm just an alien.
>tfw I'm serious about this but would never say it irl

/fitlit/ unironically

Books just gave me something to talk about / someone to emulate.

Believe in your lies.

Dude, it's gotta be more than that; people don't just get bullied.
What was holding you back, and why does it still have a hold of you?

most fake it until they become it. repeating a behavior makes habit.

>hire hooker because Veeky Forums told me to
>take a long time to get hard and ejaculate after 2 minutes but finally lose v-card
>don't feel anything different
>still can't socialize with women
>"maybe one time isn't enough"
>keep hiring hookers
>get addicted to it
>get depressed because nothing changed
>buy drugs from them because I heard on Veeky Forums they will cure autism
>waste all my money on prostitutes and drugs
>find out I have an STD
>mfw

Not sure what you mean.

why would you ever take advice from a South African Scrabble forum seriously????

eat more onion.
hehe xD am I doing it right?

I could some advice here

How to pretend to be confiendt in this situation?

>Be me
>New guy in the office
>I'm above most people in terms of my role in this dept and sometimes I don't have the knowledge on a specific thing
>I'm still new, and these fucks act as if I'm supposed to know everything by now and there is no way to do that
>There are people who have been here longer than i have and it is just a normal part of life/workplace but there is an issue here
>I'm above them in terms of my dept, should I know everything about this client even though i haven't been here as long as someone else??

>You can't get bullied anymore
lol ok bud

>tfw started trying to keep shoulders back, head up and back (I have the virgin neck forward posture naturally), picturing my ears, shoulders, and hips roughly in line
>my fat fuck normie friends say I look like I "Have a stick up my ass"

Same thing happened to me, I guess it should be pulled off casually

Whenever I try that I think that I lean my head and shoulda too much back.

Your personality is developed through your behaviours not your attitude/mindset. Therefore you have to act confident in order to be confident, not the other way round. There are studies proving this. Therefore 'fake it til you make it' is true.

I'm sorry man but this post made me laugh really hard, I hope you are joking.

How does one fake being confident when your facial expressions and body language is all wrong? I’m scared of just about anything.

>hooker
>loses v-card
You never seduced a woman, so still a virgin.

Get to the part where you’re doing things the way you want to, get used to these things turning out okay, then stop worrying about them.
Then you look like you’re not afraid because you’re not.

Improve your posture. It's weird but do it. There's a good example from a Superman short that was posted on here at some stage. I'm dumb as fuck, so I don't know why it works. It just does. Makes you feel big or some shit.

NoFap will make you feel more energised, which can lead to confidence, but you might personally not find it worth the small energy boost.

Realise that we live in a society where people can afford to fuck up. In my country, you can never get a job and still live relatively comfortably. Failure will not only show you a path on how to improve, but the consequences will be insignificant.

If you mean confident as in talking to people, then it's all in the head, I hate to tell you. The best, proven method of gaining social confidence is to practice. Your social skills are just like any other muscle. You gotta go out and talk and all that. Also, realise that no one gives a shit if you fuck up except for your enemies, who will capitalise on it if they can. You probably don't have enemies threatening enough for that, but obviously I don't know your situation. If that's the case, know how to defend yourself (whether that be physically, emotionally, socially etc.). Went on a bit fo a tangent there.

As I was saying, no one gives a shit about your fuck-ups. You ever watch those videos where cringey YouTubers do some "le epik random xd" stuff in public to get a reaction out of bystanders? You notice how most people just give them a funny look and then go back to waiting for their bus or whatever? Yeah. When you do some dumb shit in front of people, they care even less than that. If you were eating food in a restaurant and saw some weird cunt in a pink morph suit literally crawl in and rub his nipples while screaming, would you stare and gawk or would you keep eating and try not to think about this intrusion on your thoughts? Exactly.

Above all, don't take life too seriously. It's too short or whatever.

>tfw either have gyno or just genetically store more fat in breasts so “standing up straight” just makes me feel like I’m sticking my tits out
Fuck my life

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so rape doesn't count either?

Fake it.

Have something to be confident about.

No, it doesn’t.

lol tl;dr

well then

Thats pretty dumb. One can think highly of something while someone else who accomplished the same doesn’t think highly about it. Chances are people with low self-esteem aren’t going to take pride in anything.

Phenibut. It won't give you things to talk about so have a personality before you try but if you need that extra boost of confidence to talk to people that will give it to you. I find that 250mg is more than enough for me to go from anxious to talk to people to feeling like there is nothing I want more than to just talk.
Be careful with it and don't take it too much and once you feel confidence in yourself stop taking it and rely on the skills it gave you.

>side effects: balding

if you're suffering from mild anxiety/depression, l theanine and ashwaganda supplements do a good job of taking the edge off

bump

>mfw
So nothing different then before all that.

It doesn't matter. If you are afraid of making changes... well nothing will Change faggot.

I fuck alot of pussy, i have alot of Money, but quess what, i started with a hooker!
Yes i was 15 and i went to a hooker.
I took in my life coople of drugs, but i was a professional athlete too. I had a motocycle accident and im on a wheelchair. Doctors said that im never going to walk again. Now im Walking again and im sitting on a desk of a big Automobile Industrie in Germany.
Life can be good, just dont be afraid, just dont be lazy!
If you want a different life, then guess what, you must start to make changes!

Dubs of true motherfuckers, checkem!!! Uhhng

So if I made out with a girl got a hold of boobies and ass, even got in her bed but she sperged our last moment with only panties on left - am I still a virg?

>I was a natural chad my whole life
>why can't you be?

Obviously.

Is that a bulge?

Becoming extremely competent.

What does qualify as competent?

>getting a boner because your female pt touches you
>chad
fucking kek

>only sex I have ever had was with prostitutes
>feel even worse, because this seems to be the only way to get it
>fantasy of cute loving and intimacy ruined by a single mother whore who smells of cheap shampoo and cigarettes

fucking a prostittute is nothing like you imagine sex to be, it just ruins you

No i dont really see myself as a chad. as a kid i was fat. I worked very hard to become what i am. I know that everyone that is not lazy can do it.

well it is. qts mire alot, till now i have fucked 4 grills from my Gym.

Girls aren’t magical creatures that love you for who you are. They only sleep with you because they want something out of the relationship too. How is that so different from a hooker? Because it’s less about lovely chemicals in your stomach?

>boner

By faking it for so long it becomes real.

post dick

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It means those fat fucks are jealous, and the fact that they knew you before you started doing that makes it look like that too. I started doing this, people that kmew me didn't change much bit people that haven't saw me before mired a lot more. Also walk with a slow stroll. Confident men don't look like they're in a hurry or walk fast but have others make time for them, or so it gets projected when you stroll rather than walk fast.

but yeah this.
thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/10/power.html
>The solution is to not fake it. That doesn't mean not try, that means instead of sitting up straight before the presentation, sit up straight all the time. At least train your body to naturally adopt what your mind is too nervous/self-conscious to do.

im at work, maybe when i go home i start a thread in a red board. Like in 3 hours.
Are you gay?

He posts on Veeky Forums.

The only real advice that seems to be posted in here is faking it but what does that even mean.

Anyone here know what Superman short he's talking about? I'm interested.

this. its a MINDSET

VAG oder Daimler?

n-no i just want to mire bro

OK lads, two questions:

1) How do I act like myself around girls I just met? Sometimes I'll be in my friends group, we'll be shooting the shit, and I'm usually the funny one, throwing out the quips and one liners and stuff. But then, if a girl I don't know joins the group (and if she's good looking) I just retreat into my shell and block out completely.

2)When you approach a girl for the first time should you just let her speak? I have a tendency to take over conversations because I love talking. Also, should you show your "weak" side or some vulnerabilities, or should you be completely Chad?

Be successful in your own definition.

Confidence is knowing life is giving you a good run because you took control.

That doesnt mean you have to get some top ceo job making a million dollars. It just means you're living a life you're proud of and you can be confident in your progress.

>in your own definition
Someone who says this doesn’t know how an insecure guy thinks. Nothing will be good enough for him.

1)you are doing that, bc you are afraid of saying something she wouldn't like and this is why she will lose interest to you. An attractive man doesn't care if other Girls like him and this is why they like him, bc he doesn't care what females think about him. You know in that case it does not matter what you believe or what you say, but only how you act. If you retreat into your Shell it is bc you care what the Girls think about you and what you do.
Start to act conscious and dont give a fuck. Expirience will help with that. Start giving yourself challenges. Go out and start talking to Girls. Say to yourself, this time i would not care what the fuck she thinks, i just will speak to her. like i speak to my boddies. Expirience is what you Need, you must find your balls and go out. You can be honest to the Girl and say,
>Hey im just an autistic fag, im trying to be more social, so i thought i will go out and i strat to talk to a cute Girl. Im user, whats your Name?

2)it does not really matter. If you have the balls to go talk to her, she will like that.
With expirience you will learn whats is funny to tell about your self and what is no good.
But you must try. The more you do it, the better you will get. You can be chad like and dont Show weakness, but you can Show weakness too, if you brint it in a funny way and make her laugh.
It always good to be honest if you are confident and love yourself and who you are.
If you aren't confident, you shouldn't be always honest... you would Sound whiny and thats no good.

Most people fight back when bullied, but you didn't. How come?

>fighting back against 3 people
Maybe because not everyone is stupid enough to do that.

>do goal
>accomplish goal
>hope your goal is in Vincinity of normies

Take it a step further

>do goal
>accomplish goal
>realize you weren't satisfied with that original goal
>push to a different milestone

Happens to me all the time.

get money son
Get money

Confidence is simply knowing what you're doing. So what are you unconfident about? To become confident in that get educated and practice.

A group of school brats and a group pf grown hooligans are not the same. The former has a routine schedule and no bureaucratic/legal standing.
You could've brought a brick or whatnot to even the odds, or involve faculty, their family, or your own to find a nonviolent solution, or set yourself on fire and die infamously, but you didn't.
Why do you think so little of your own abilities?