So the gf has been struggling with anorexia/bulimic tendencies for some time now and after the year or so of trying to convince her to eat right and exercise and getting no where im at a loss of what to do. Even after all that she has been through, the nights in tears, emotional breakdowns over food, nothing seems to get her motivated to stick to a diet or exercise. Now she isnt fat or anything, in fact she lost 30kg or so but not the right way as she did it by being bulimic. Now she is at 1.6m and around 60kg. So what im ultimately asking is would going vegan be an easier, beneficial choice for her. Please give me something cause im out of ideas.
TL;DR my gf has eating disorders, would going vegan help her with her relationship with food?
>inb4 tfw no gf
Elijah Nelson
Dude, your not going to fix that problem. She needs therapy. Even therapists have a hard time fixing that issue. While shes getting the proper help, keep being positive with her. Good Luck
Source: someone who has been in your shoes
Caleb Richardson
I've been anorexic. She needs to see a therapist or go to a recovery clinic, my friend.
Jeremiah Moore
she is, therapist has told her to write a log of her meals but she hasnt started yet and she only told me she hasnt started. Should i be on her ass about it?
Austin Phillips
Why would going vegan make any difference at all? I'm sure you don't have to convince her, she knows that it's bad for her body in the long run but CAN'T stop.
Cameron Martinez
She is seeing a therapist. Im retarded and should have put that in the OP
Nolan Campbell
Yes
Brandon Perry
im not sure if it would make a difference, which is the reason im asking
Angel Taylor
She has a body image issue, food isn't going to fix that. She needs a psychiatrist.
Benjamin Hall
Don't treat her like a kid you're trying to make do their homework she's a big girl, she knows what she's supposed to do and she'll do it when she's ready to help herself. It's frustrating but we can't force people to get better.
Nicholas Adams
ill definitely be on her about it then its her relationship with food that is causing the body image issues i.e feeling guilty and such after eating
Thomas Cox
She thinks she's fat. Her issue with food is a symptom, not the cause.
Michael Jenkins
I'm saying what difference do you imagine it would make? I assumed there was a reason you asked specifically about going vegan and not just "my girlfriend won't eat, help"
Ryder Brown
>anorexic/bulimic >loses 30kg >still fat Dont stop her untill she looks hot, then work on her issues.
Jeremiah Young
yes exactly, so any advice i hope she would feel better about the food she eats as it will mostly be veges and shit. The whole point is to reduce the guilt of eating and make her realise how good she looks. Ive tried a lot of other stuff which is why im asking specifically about this cause im out of ideas
Julian Roberts
I've been in relationships with girls like these >1.60 m >60 kg wait until she's at an acceptable weight like ~50 kg maybe, provided she still has some tits. then she can get some help. call her fat and pudgy in the meantime, and tell her how disgusted you are by her body and how thankful she should be for being with her. then she'll agree to most things just to keep you, including in bed, and then her weight will be easier to control by telling her she's perfect and beautiful at the goal weight. good luck
Kayden Nelson
shes retarded m8, needs help
Connor Morris
she had hit her goal weight of 50kg, it all started due to me saying the smallest thing to her about her weight. You dont know her but once she gets out of the eating disorders she will feel good and i can get her to anywhere i want the right way
Lucas Cox
fuc, she gained it back? sorry mate, that's regrettable. you could probably make her lose it again by "accidentally" let her see that you like slim girls like the one you posted in OP
Dylan Taylor
How is she 160/60 if she's not eating?
Adrian Parker
Get on her the way you'd want her to encourage you to keep at whatever it is you're trying to improve about yourself. Not being pushy, but don't let her ignore it.
Baby steps
Jonathan Moore
Dude. Its a mental disorder. Its a therapists job, not yours.
Never yours.
Jason Anderson
i think you may be misinterpreting the point of the thread. It isnt to highlight her weight or to get her to lose weight, it is to suggest ways to develop a positive relationship with food. Becoming vegan as a possible way.
Charles Morales
>eatin disorder of fries amirite?
Chase Johnson
holy shit, actual good advice, cheers
Lincoln King
no, you're misunderstanding my antisocial point.
ANYWAY: starting a girl with a fucking eating disorder on a vegan diet is absolutely fucking retarded. almost every time someone starts eating a vegan diet they lose weight. a past girlfriend lost about 10 kg ~ 20 lbs during a few months. it's lacking in fundamental nutrients and also has too much of some other shit, as as a former vegan I'd like to call it an eating disorder in its own right. so no
Parker Price
>TL;DR my gf has eating disorders, would going vegan help her with her relationship with food?
No
instead, explain how you can get fucking shredded with intermittent fasting, the eating disorder that works, then get her on OMAD
Grayson Butler
understood, thanks for the actual input
Sebastian Baker
cheers gl
Oliver Scott
get her ass to a therapist. if she won't accept that then either prepare for a rough set of months or dump her ass.
mental disorders aren't easy to deal with especially if the person with them doesn't want to fix it.
Joseph Fisher
please read the thread first
David Perez
read this you faggot
Leo Thomas
Are you trying to imply that 60kg is fat or something?
Jonathan Gonzalez
Does this girl have an eating disorder? Because that's my ideal female body. If guys can love obese girls, I don't see how slightly underweight girls are an issue.
Liam Thomas
veganism is itself an eating disorder
Mason Gray
does this actually work? if i just say something super casual about a chick's figure or weight or another woman's they'll start working out? i thought this was meme
Connor Parker
you need to get her to as many different eating specialists and psycholigists as possible, most will probably fail but she might click with one t. dated a bulimic for 5 years
Zachary Lewis
her name is alexis ren, and yes she has publicly spoken about her eating disorder.
Oliver Brown
i said one fucking thing to her and thats how this all started, so yes it works
Eli Taylor
tfw no gf
Matthew Green
I only eat 2 times a day. After gym and 2 hours before I go to sleep. What eating disorder do I have?
Blake Morgan
I have been that girl before, and going vegetarian then vegan confirmed did not help. It's not a dietary problem; it's a mental health one.
Noah Rivera
>So what im ultimately asking is would going vegan be an easier, beneficial choice for her. Please give me something cause im out of ideas. Kek On the off chance you're not trolling, take her to a psychiatrist.
Juan Peterson
people die of this stuff. it is a serious mental health problem. get her professional help.
Isaac Perry
Don't hassle her about it, just make sure she goes to a therapist and try to help her log her food and all that. Try to live a normal life with her and be supportive. It will be very frustrating at times since she will probably be very stubborn and play "dumb" regarding what and when she has eaten so just keep that in mind and don't vent that frustration on her since it will only make it worse. Don't force her in to some diet or veganism since that could trigger orthorexia (obsession over "clean" food).
>t. GF was anorexic
Kevin Brown
Cook her food dickhead.
Brandon Jenkins
You can tell them to keep logs, but they'll forge them. You can tell them to work out, they'll half ass it or lie about it. At the end of the day you can't make someone change, they have to find the will to do it themselves. The only thing I would really recommend to turn her around would be a brutally honest tearing down. You need to break her. When people break they either fix themselves or resolve to stay broken. But nothing changes if they don't break.