I Need Help

I don't have the perfect body nor am I autistic kek. I just wish I was a little more confident and charismatic.

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really makes you think

When does it end
Is it any good? I'm always skeptical of thinking a book can genuinely change your mindset permanently.

mcafee lol

>i don't know how to build confidence in myself
Get off this site and go do something productive.

Then do it again and again and again, and stay away from here.

I try to do this. I set goals for my physique, I'm genuinely learning a language, I'm setting financial targets, but I don't know, at the end of the day I just feel like I'm building confidence on fickle/materialistc things. Maybe I'm depressed.
Nice trips btw.

what the hell?

you sound like an alright person.
When was your last relationship

OP i know this is going to sound strange but this helped me alot. Go on a site like omegle or chatroulette. Ignore all the people jerking off and when you land on someone, actually talk to them. Ask them about their life, where they're from. It's 100% anonymous and if you spill spaghetti out of your pockets there are no consequences. Who knows, you may make friends. I know I did.

I've never been in an "official" relationship. A couple of years ago I was pretty much in one, albeit without titles, for about a year. Looking back on it, it was probably the happiest time of my life. After it ended I felt like shit for a year. I've gotten completely over it though and feel almost ashamed that I have absolutely 0 emotional attachment for that girl anymore. Kind of like a robot.

Just text or video? And what if you end up getting advice from some loser.

You realize where you're posting, right?

Start by not calling women roasties you asspie, and stop jerking off so much

Do video chat with voice. Think of it as a simulation for meeting people. If you get shit advice, just be honest and disagree. Nothing lost. This is a good way to develop confidence because you're getting so many social interactions and you'll know how to carry yourself to maintain interesting and fun conversations. Oh and if you're good looking, a girl may give you a show ;)

t. roastie

Jerk off about 3 days a week, watch porn about once or twice a week. Calling women roasties isn't my problem.
Yes, well, at least people are on this board to improve themselves so may have good advice to offer... maybe.

SEEK A FUCKING PSYCHOLOGIST U FUCKING DUMMY

I SAW ONE AND LITERALLY AFTER 2 SESSIONS I ADJUSTED MY SHIT AND FOUND A GF

Oh and always remember that most people love when you ask them questions about their lives. Show them genuine interest and show that you're a good listener by adding things or asking questions when appropriate.

>here's an option that works for people
>waaa I don't even want to try
Kys

I started having sex with a German girl who speaks little to no English. My confidence has severely been lifted and I don't have to put up with her bullshit as we don't speak the same language.

>p-please d-don't talk that w-way about my g-girlfriend guys

Fuck off, no one wants a roastie, calling them such is of no harm; unless they have a cute friend

I don't know I feel seeing a psychologist is sort of a meme unless you have clinical depression, anxiety etc... No offense. I'd see it as a personal defeat if I had to spill my mental problems to someone who only really cares about money.
>Show them genuine interest and show that you're a good listener by adding things or asking questions when appropriate
This is good advice and I used to do it all the time but I'm just stuck in a cycle where my mind says "why bother pretending you're interested when you're really not". Same when someone tries to be funny and I force a fake laugh. I realize I sound like a total dickhead but my reactions are involuntary at this point.

I'm asking if it's good, not "I'm not going to read it". Brush up on basic comprehension skills buddy.

I'm very similar to you, without the hot body tho.
My idea to fix this is going to a dance class, like salsa or some shit.
That'd give you somethinh physical you can be autistic towards + a lot of forced interactions with women + physical contact.

I plan on starting this spring.

>No offense. I'd see it as a personal defeat if I had to spill my mental problems to someone who only really cares about money.
DUDE STOP FUCKING AROUND AND SEEK HELP IF YOU'RE SERIOUS
ALSO IF U HAVE INSURANCE ITS FREE

That's sounds like a safe bet actually. I do feel I'm very insulated from forced interaction daily. Thanks I'll try something similar.

This book is good for starters but it basically teaches you how to become a beta with a lot of friends.

Got recommended this by a therapist I was seeing for generalised anxiety.
>Practical advice
>Helps the author was an ex-NEET sperglord
>Has a podcast and youtube channel with much of the advice in book

Won't turn you into a chad by the end of the book but will definitely get you more comfortable in social settings.

You don't have to over exaggerate reactions user. If you're more mellow then be mellow, but just show some degree of human inquiry into another person. You cant be so isolated from people emotionally and expect to become a non-autist.

Thanks for the advice fellas

Play some sports and then go out and socialize with the people you play sports with. and then the girls will come to you.

Yeah, me too. My alcoholic parents have always abused me emotionally. I had sex, but I'm emotionally so incredibly crippled, that my teenage therapist couldn't even help me. I never took my life srs. Started a couple years ago and have gone from bus to Benz, but I'm still nowhere near ready for a relationship. I'm an extreme asshole for a nerd and sometimes extremely suicidal. Even tho I'm objectively the best person in the family, my toxic parents still call me the biggest failure of their life and my dad told me after rehab, that I was the reason for his drinking aka the worst thing you can tell your kid.

Tl;dr: fml

ACT confident. Even if you are not confident, you need to act like you are. Eventually, this just turns into genuine confidence. Also realize that no one gives a damn about you and if anybody does you can just use your physique to put them in their place.

Dude just tell your parents to fuck off. You imply that you aren't a teenager anymore, so you are independent. That means you don't need them any more. Maybe the reason they talk shit on you is because you are a beta pussy faggot who can't stand up for himself. Put them in their place and realize that being an "extreme asshole" is alright if it's actually called for.

Do you not even feel angry towards your parents? If i were you I would be motivated out of revenge to fuck them over in any way possible

>I've had girls literally call me hot to my face, say I look like a model, grope me etc...
That makes it worse man.
>They say I'm attractive
>But they never actually make any meaningful gesture backing that up
>I must not actually be attractive then

It fucks with your brain even more.

My dad tried to hit me once and I broke him several ribs with one punch. I'm a 3rd dan at TKD. I hate this person, but not my mother. She's the typical by-the-book co-alcoholic.

Every thought you have no self confidence, hence why you have a better physique than 90% of people?

Lifting weight makes you better at lifting weights.
Socializing makes you better at socializing.

Lucky for me I engaged in the latter before the former.

P H E N I B U T

also how tall are u OP?

is that you
can i suck on your nipples and eventually your penis
i think it'll be fun for the both of us

You're not gonna have an entertaining conversation if you're just trying to pick up some bar chick
It's gonna be boring af, for you at least

>meaniful gesture backing that up
That's because women have 0 confidence and the possibility of you rejecting them really turns them off it, unless they're drunk then it's just a full court press

My mother is mentally extremely unstable. I'm pretty sure she's going to kill herself, if that asshole is the only person in her life. I'm still living in the same part of town, but my brother (who they love) moved away quite a bit. I was the only person calling him out for his drinking, resulting in getting kicked out several times as a teen. I'm the only person with balls in my family und ultimately the reason my dad quit and my mother cut back

Yeah man so you've been genetically blessed and yet you're whining?

Just get over yourself already and reciprocate. As long as you're not actively sexually assaulting someone then just practice making some moves, asking a girl out etc.

I'm old and fecking ugly and get zero attention so fuck you for your first world problem whining ass. You look like a model right? You obviously have a good physique which requires little maintenance, go out there and fuck some 10/10s.

Just remember there people like me who get absolutely nada. Girls won't make moves on you if you're very attractive because they're intimidated. Plus it's a commonly valued male trait to show assertiveness and confidence in their actions I.e. they do think you're hot, but you need to make the first move. Pussy ass motherfucker.

Happens to me as well.
What are you supposed to do in that situation.
Fake being assertive?

>become a Chad
Oh dear.
user, Chads are born, not made.

Sounds like bait, but I'll bite.

If you seriously have a good look, been taking care of yourself, and you have girls literally groping you with attention, then you just need to not worry about it. The biggest part is that if you're looking for more than just a one night stand, then you're just going to have to talk to a girl. It's called trying to get to know someone. And not in a biblical sense. It'd be the same as you are looking to know someone you might be interested in hanging out like any of your friends. Except this might be someone you want to spend more time with and perhaps sleep with.

I'd be rather glad if I had more girls actually approach me, but that's not the case.

Just don't think on it, and just take it as a chance to know a new person. If they're not someone you can tolerate/appreciate or enjoy being with, then just like anyone else you'd filter like a friend, just leave it at that and move on.

False.

This is why I hate when lanklets complain about not being able to gain like wtffff you're doing this fitness shit on easy mode

Find God. Best confidence booster there is.

kek

Can i see another pic from a diff angle. Im lanket to so this is inspiring. How tall btw?

Natty?