How do I work up the courage to actually go to the gym?

You need to be free from your self man. People are going to judge you regardless. At the end of the day, why let their opinion mold you. Why not let Jesus do that?

True.

>tfw my life is essentially an /r9k/ greentext

A-Are you fucking autis... Never mind

It's their job to deal with people like you dumble dipshit, just fucking go

>le religion meme

Go really late at night when it's empty. That's what I do.

Look up a 5x5 program and write it down on a scrap of paper. Everyone is too busy comparing their body unfavorably to someone more attractive to pay attention to those they consider non-threats.

have you ever seen a psychiatrist? the wait times are like 3+ months

you'll work up the courage by the time your appointment actually occurs

how tall are you?

LOL.
OP run now and don't ever turn back they try to pull you into the pit already.

People Will definitely look at you and think how much of a skelly loser you are. Overtime you Will learn to give no shits

You just have to confront it. You can use CBT to help rationalise away your fear. Write out what you're afraid of and why. What do you think will happen? Write reasons why those fears are presumptious and inaccurate. Write what you can do to fix it.

So people might laugh at you. Why? How likely is it? Why does it matter if they laugh at you? What will happen if you just ignore their laughter and keep trying anyway?

Don't even worry about it. You're so small that no one can even see you

You also have to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. What if instead of thinking everyone will laugh at you, think everyone will be happy for you and want to help you.

i used to think nobody cared but that was before i noticed people giving me quick glances, some girls even seem interested too. still dont give a fuck tho

>Initially afraid to go to the gym
>Go with girlfriend, so I feel more comfortable
>Literally everybody except about 3 jacked guys are either over 40's trying to stave off death or skinny guys who I'm bulkier than without even working out
>Suddenly feel less self conscious
Glad I signed up for a normie gym

>Go with girlfriend, so I feel more comfortable

w-why are you even here?

To taunt us? fuck you buddy

will people notice if im lifting light weights? im worried someone may take a photo of me and then i become a meme.

Just go with headphones, and in between sets look at your phone. Dont even have to look up if you are that anxious.

You look like Wojak.

I think its better when busy. when its empty yhe staff are hanging around and i worry they might come and talk to me.

Nobody gives a shit IMO.
If you do the opposite and lift too heavy and fuck up they'll notice though.

nobody is going to notice you, everyone is way too caught up in themselves to care about you unless you are fat as fuck, a woman from London, a trap or you're super jacked. Man up and go lift some weights.

they will be and you should be worried
best advice i can give you is to stay out of the gym and stay dyel

Why am I so beta in the gym? I can usually talk to girls fine irl but in the gym if a buff guy asks how many sets I have left or something I sperg out and my voice sometimes cracks, makes me look like a total beta

Idk why, so what do I do

6'2

home workouts m8

>Cousin has expressed he feels nervous going in the weight section
>Taking him in to show him the ropes on Thursday
>Feels good, I hope he can get in shape
Where do you live op?

No body gives a fuck about you at the gym. Just get in there.

Get over yourself; nobody cares. Unfuck yourself enough, you might earn some respect.

Don't be a cookie cutter, senpai

i have this problem, also i think people are always talking behind my back, talking about the shit i say and do, and probably they are, thats why i dont have friends and dont want them anymore

Go with your boyfriend then?

Only thing I dislike is feeling like I should shower at the gym. I live close, so I always shower at home after a workout, but I always feel anxious going out as a fat fuck outside without showering, still in my gym clothes, to go home. Makes me think they might see me as some fucked up dude who doesn't shower after a workout at all.

literally nobody gives a shit about this. for all they know you’re going to play basketball afterwards (you are wearing basketball shorts, right?)

Even if it IS retarded the worst they’ll do is is text their gym buddies about what they’re witnessing.

Worst case scenario you’ll only hear from them if you’re doing something dangerous, and even then they’ll probably ignore you unless you’re a danger to them.

i know one woman out of something like 15 of my gym bros who actually judges people at the gym or takes video of them doing retardisthenics, and that's more or less just her shitty personality showing. But either way I gotta admit they all deserved some humiliation with the shit they were pulling. Don't worry about that shit.

What's the point of strengthening your body if you maintain a weak soul?

You can go to the gym, or stay home and cuck yourself out of gains some more. If fear of being a disgusting DYEL is not enough, then nothing will be.

No one cares. Only time I give other gym goers more than a passing glance and a nod if I'm coming in is when something I want to use is occupied, that's when I'll keep checking every now and then if the machine or rack is free.

big guy here

we will make fun of you. stay home and stay away from my machines

This

Judging people trying to better themselves, that's not very Chad thing to do.

Don’t listen to this guy. Big guy here. Most big guys are even kinder than skinny ones imo.

>wanting some dyel to steal all the gains

enjoy not breaking anymore PR's

I see people like you at the gym all time. Nobody is judging you for being there, in fact I respect you for being there. This goes whether you're skinny, fat, or anything in between.

The only thing that earns you contempt is coming in and going straight into meme exercises like curls. Squat, bench, deadlift, and everyone will respect you from day 1.

you need to learn how to slow down your speech when you're nervous. when in doubt, too slow is better than too fast.

I judge people all the time for the most trivial shit but I just keep it to myself and would treat them like I would any other person

>Not doing your reps for Jesus

Are you even trying?

Do a sneaky line before heading out.

5 star post.

Toughen up. It's your life. Nobody really cares if you make it or not but yourself.
>born alone, die alone

Lift.

I used to be socially anxious. I now go to the gym 6 times a week and a guy challenged me to a fight the other day and i made him bitch out. Go. To. The. Gym.

Just buy a membership and go, faggot. I was just like you, scared of going to the gym and a 99kg fatso. Just pay the fees and go so you don't waste your money. You'll realize you're a dumb retard and there's nothing to be afraid of.

OP here's what you should do: go to the gym. Thank me later.

they will judge and make fun of you, if you're DYEL, fat or ugly, especially if you're weird and friendless. If you can't handle that you won't make it, just go. After a while they don't care at all anymore. Especially if you keep to yourself, do intelligent programs and aren't acting like a massive faggot.

How would people at the gym know you're friendless? People who go to the gym in groups are the dregs of the gym. Every time I see a DYEL teenager doing bicep curls, there are two other DYEL teenagers standing next to him watching him and doing nothing.

You just have to go, no amount of psychical preparation won't give you that courage. Resist your beta self and be a man. Rest comes

FUCKING KEKD

Nobody in the gym actually cares what you do. And Iv seen alot of begginers and I myself dont pay any attention to them.

Most people don't give a shit about you or what you're doing. If it bothers you that much though, get up early and go in the morning. There'll be nobody there, and as a bonus, you get to avoid the new year hell

Just ask your dad to buy some weights and do some calesthetics and jogging at home.

>Be me
>Troubled childhood
>Used to be incredibly fit, motivated and the 'controller' of my friend group
>Start to suddenly genuinely hallucinate and get apathetic about everything while still feeling paranoia?
>Become overweight
>Become porn addicted
>It was weird
>Go to therapist
>He says
>"I have never been able to do a pull up in my life"
>"Do you feel a need to murder children?"
>"Follow this program I give everyone else"
>Didn't do anything other than listening to me
so I left and ignored his pleads for me to come back, completely cut off everything in my life and made myself self isolated where I battled my pathetic addiction and spent my free time reading. Ernst Junger, Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, Marcus Aurelius and Ernest Hemingway having the most influence on me. It didn't help with my hallucinations but I had decided when I walked on top of the largest building in my small town to not kill myself and at least try when I was at the edge. If I don't make it I can just kill myself either way so I turned back and walked home.
Very tough first year, the second year got a bit better mostly just because I became stronger mentally and now at the end of my third year an older chad at Uni noticed how much I was trying and has told me that he sees me like a little brother now after we became better friends, I'm incredibly thankful for him and he's told me about his troubled past too. Slowly trying to re-build old friendships and worked my way up to the top ~30% of students in my school. Going to get my drivers license next year, paranoia, visual and audible hallucinations have become much more minor (just visual shadows and audible doors opening or foot steps now instead of statues of myself surrounding me, loud construction builders working beside me or large shadow people in front of me) regular panic attacks about my own mortality almost gone and I became otter mode this year instead of skinny fat.

So what I'm trying to say with my lame blog post is that I just had a very bad experience with my therapist and decided to leave and put my fate into my own hands for once which worked and I'm happy I did it. I guess it was risky but I was able to drag myself out of descending black oil myself and feel like I will be able to somewhat make it in the next two years with help from new and older friends, I've become mentally stable, disciplined and motivated again and I'm proud of that. I know for a fact by embracing the metaphysical and to
>reject liberal values of liberty, security, ease, and comfort, and seek instead the measure of myself in the capacity to withstand pain and sacrifice.
that I'll never fall into a suicidal state again.

bring a buddy honestly

The worst you’ll get is some nosy person correcting your form. If that happens, either say “thank you” or ask them more and get them to help you out. Gyms are constructive environments for people to work on their bodies

Not op, but I just don't know what I'd do at the gym I don't know my strength/limits

Also trying to leave this place, it's so unhealthy to obsess over that which you can't change and be proud over what you were born with (nothing wrong with being proud of who you are, but you know what I mean).
It slows or makes you ignore your own self improvement. This place helped when I was in a horrible place but if I stay here I can never ascend it and fully let go of the past and make my own future.

Look up some programs.
Read up on exercises before u go to the gym or check phone how to while in gym.
Start with low weights and work up till you cant finish your set.
Noone gives a fuck if you use low weights. Using heavy weights with shit form is more noticeable than low weights.

how do I work up the courage to see a friend? asking for myself

When you are at a public swimming pool, are people constantly judging other people's' swimming styles, speed etc?

No, most people just mind their own business. Same goes with the gym.