My gf doesn’t know I take viagra

I’m 20 years old, straight and fit and I don’t know why I need it, but I’ve always had pretty weak erections (even when I was like 10). I also need to be EXTREMELY horny for a 100% erection when not on viagra. The anxiety makes this impossible.
It really sucks having to secretly take viagra every time because you have to estimate when you’re going to have sex and take the pill an hour before. Also you can’t eat 2-4 hours in advance because it almost completely diminishes the effectiveness. I have to do this like 3 times a week while having to make the sex seem spotaneous.

I’m considering cialis because it makes the timing easier, but I heard it gives less hard erections.

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i took Cialis a few times its okay but you should just talk to your GF about it. I know you are young and immature but she won't be your GF for long if you can'T even be honest with her about this. She will understand - if she doesn't you were never meant to be in the first place.
You will never escape this problem in your life and oyu have to find a girl thats completely on your side with this. Its not even a big deal at all even though you think it is cause its such a dominant issue in your life.

TL;DR: Stop being a faggot and tell your GF or you will never find happiness in your life

you probably arent a complete retard but, you dont masturbate like 3 times a day do you ?

i can only get a decently hard erection if i havent came for like 24 hours, a day and a half for max strength.

Are you also balding op? i had a similar issue and finasteride fixed me i get boners like a steelpipe now

Get a blood test
Check progesterone levels - progesterone cream solved my problem
Stop watching porn - this is not a meme, look into it yourbrainonporn.com
Check circulation
Check with your doctor about fucked up veins near your groin - several people I know had a vein surgery on their balls

>She will understand

Ignore this idealist bullshit, OP. We would all like to believe that people will be compassionate and understanding when it comes to sexual matters. And in fact, most people WILL be compassionate. But if you tell this to your girlfriend, she will lose her attraction to you, through no fault of her own. That is the result of 500,000 years of evolution.

You know the problem is not caused by your gf (cuz you've had the problem since age 10). Solve it on your own, getting her involved will not help anything.

kill yourself you clown. He is 20 and shes most likely young aswell. Once you are older you will realize that your autistic view on life doesn't hold up. They won't get married anyway since they are young and teens so it doesn't really matter but its a mindset he has to adapt or he'll suffer for the rest of his life. If you are unable to find a partner that understands you there is no happiness. Its as simple as that.

She found the pills after a week or so of dating, she was cool about it but thinks I dont take them anymore because I said I was just nervous for the first few times. She wouldn’t mind if I told her, but I still dont want to tell her because I want her to know she really turns me on. I think she’ll always subconciously think there’s something wrong if she knows

>I think she’ll always subconciously think there’s something wrong if she knows

that is her issue than and should be none of her concern. All you can do is tell her the truth. You aren't the one in charge of her issues just like she isn't in charge of your issues. You are both 2 independent beings. Once you realize that life gets easier.

see some doctors bro. a 20 yr old should not be having issues with getting hard.

It might be your diet as well, whenever I go under by too many calories, my dick essentially goes to bed.

Go to the doctor, perhaps you have a heart condition. Especially if you've always had weak erections and it's not about performance anxiety.

health.harvard.edu/blog/erectile-dysfunction-often-a-warning-sign-of-heart-disease-201110243648

>it's the girl's responsibility to deal with the guy's health problems

Seriously what in the fuck kind of feminist bullshit is this? Is this even feminism? You have to be a troll. You are trying to get OP to fuck up his relationship.

Answer this simple question. What good will it do to tell the girl, before OP has even tried to fix it himself? You are saying "Just give up OP, you will be broken forever." You are saying "Tell the truth because you will never be able to fix it"

Fuck you and promptly blow your brains out, dumb faggot. OP I believe in you, good luck my friend

get on test

i literally said the opposite. They both have to deal with their own issues not the other way around. She can't get into his brain and fix his shit .. he can't go into hers. There is a common misconception these days that 2 people in a relationships are responsible for each others happiness which is the dumbest shit ever. He literally has to tell her cause its affecting her as much as him. He obviously doesn't feel comfortable and she will know something is up. How long do you think this scenario will last? He will develop mental health issues within a few years and she will be long gone by then and he wishes that he would ahve told her.

>Answer this simple question. What good will it do to tell the girl, before OP has even tried to fix it himself?

Retard

There’s no way I’ll tell her. Sex would not enjoyable for me anymore and probably not for her. I want her to think that she’s 100% the one that makes me hard. That’s the most fun for both of us. I don’t see a relationship where I’m like “hey babe, want to have sex in an hour? I’ll take my viagra now”. I’m literally disgusted by the thought lol.

Thanks for the responses everyone, I just needed to vent.

it'll show her that hes fucking honest with her. If it doesn't do any good shes not the right one for him. It is that simple.
What is good about being with a women that doesn't understand a medical condition or fails to interpret it correctly? She should be supportive of him and maybe they'll find a solution together. Unfortunately they are very young and immature so that probably won't happen. Relationships are something you have to learn the hard way and i hope OP finds a girl hes more comfortable with in the future when he himself is more mature than he is now. I dont expect shit from a 20 year old with an erectile dysfunction and i dont care if my advice goes unheard. All i know is that i speak truth since i am in my mid thirties went through a few long term relationships until i got married. It is not easy to learn all of these lessons by reading them. Experience is key.

>eeeh eeh anxiety this anxiety that my dick won't even function because going outside and doing normal things makes me literally can't even, like ugh

I hate you

Do you masturbate? Do.you watch porn? Have any fetish?

Haven’t watched porn or masturbated since we started dating (>2 months ago). And yup I had a femdom fetish, which I hate and hope to get rid of (I don’t ever indulge it anymore)

Femdom fetish fucks you up, start being dominant

I act very dominant when on viagra because I don’t need to be as aroused for an erection. I hope I can rewire my brain like this somehow.

you're currently rewiring your brain by diminishing your own natural response to sex and relying instead on chemical stimulation. start taking less and less viagra - erections are almost entirely about mindset, and as you take less and notice you don't need all of it, you'll realise that the actual amount you're taking is unrelated to the strength of your erection. once you get this, you can get rid of your anxiety and enjoy healthy, normal sex
>t. ex porn addict

Try taking citrulline for about 3 weeks. Not arginine as that hurts he stomach. Often helps older guys even better than viagra, is a good BB supplement, and you won't need to time it like the pills. Also cheaper.

Talk to her for fucks sake.

I had a similar problem with my gf, I was anxious about it and made it so complex in my head that I couldnt see no end nor no beginning to it.

Turned out I was just afraid of losing the love she had for me or losing the love I had for her. And the fearing made it slowly happen. Then after a while I understood that I completly loved her and so did she, and that there was no reason to fear anything. Since then sex's been much more enjoyable and is coming naturally and there's no more funny feeling killing my erections.

That being said, having a strong cardiovascular system is essential to strong erections. Id recommand you check that shit out and focus on cardio. Endurance > strength on that matter


And drop the fucking pills already, you're making it worse.

mate I had the same thing when I was trying to lose my V when I was like 18

After like 5 tries or so with Viagra I didnt need it anymore, I felt confident enough by then and th anxiety had gone

Also if youre not already, Missionary position works best if you're not 100% hard. Anything else requires a strong bonorinio

>straight
20 year olds shouldn't have to take viagra. You have to get yourself checked out for imbalances. Or you could be gay. Something similar happened to me at 17 and when I tried with a guy it was like pic related

Have you tried some test? My dick basically stays diamonds when I'm on cycle.

How can you not realize you're gay until you fuck a guy.

Oh I knew, but I didn't want it to be true. That's what happens when you live in repressed place.